Send us a text Attachment research is the science of how we relate to others. We can all have different attachment styles, based on whether we’ve got insecure attachment or secure attachment with our primary caregivers or loved ones (or even God!) Links to things mentioned: Knix in the U.S. Knix in Canada The Great Sex Rescue Attachment Theory in Religion, Current Opinions in Psychology (2021) To Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work For tax deductible dona...
Apr 28, 2022•59 min•Season 4Ep. 143
Send us a text Last month Josh Howerton, lead pastor at Lakepointe Church in Dallas, wrote a Twitter thread sharing research with 5 reasons Christians are doing better than the media gives us credit for. Matt Chandler, head of The Acts29 Network and lead pastor at The Village Church, retweeted it. The problem? The research he uses doesn’t say what he says it says. Links to things mentioned: Josh Howerton's article The Institute for Family Studies report that he references Knix in Canada The Grea...
Apr 21, 2022•1 hr 11 min•Season 4Ep. 142
Send us a text We misunderstand women in the Bible–and we misunderstand gender aspects of research! Links to things mentioned: Mary DeMuth The Most Misunderstood Women of the Bible Our podcast on the problems with the original Love & Respect question: The podcast with the problems with For Young Women Only’s question on 82% of boys going too far, and our post fixing that question The Podcast exploring the problems with misusing neuroscience research The Great Sex Rescue Here is the link with...
Apr 14, 2022•55 min•Season 4Ep. 141
Send us a text Today Emily Elizabeth Anderson from Thriving Forward joins us to tell her story, and to tell what she’s passionate about now. And especially how she found the actual Jesus after she left what she now sees as a cult. Links to things mentioned: Emily's blog Thriving Forward Emily on Facebook Stories about the lawsuit against Bill Gothard: New charges allege religious leader, who has ties to the Duggars, sexually abused women Where’s Justice For Bill Gothard and IBLP’s Victims? Knix....
Apr 07, 2022•59 min•Season 4Ep. 140
Send us a text We talked about the findings from our survey, as described in this post last week on how many Christian guys are sexually safe. Links to things mentioned: Keith's post The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex To Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation And check out our Merch , or any of our courses ! Support the...
Mar 31, 2022•51 min•Season 4Ep. 139
Send us a text Rebecca noticed that in Focus on the Family’s PluggedIn movie review for Turning Red, they had put references to menstruation under “sexual content”, including cramps and pads. And they warned that some people may hear an “echo of menstruation” in the title of the film. Links to things mentioned: Side by side screenshot of original review and edited review Current review of Turning Red The Whole Story Puberty Course Our Period Series Kyle Howard on Twitter To Support Us: Join our ...
Mar 24, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Season 4Ep. 138
Send us a text We saved some of our most important findings from our men’s survey for this special podcast! Andrew Bauman, a licensed counselor and author of the new book How Not to Be an *ss, and Carl Thomas, who runs xxxchurch.com, come on to talk about our new stats. And then Keith and I tackled two reader questions about libido issues! Links to things mentioned: The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex Our patreon ! Support us for as little as $5 a month and get access to our exclusive Facebook Gro...
Mar 17, 2022•57 min•Season 4Ep. 137
Send us a text Does waiting for marriage really guarantee a great sex life? Sheila, Rebecca, and Keith weigh in on this week's podcast! Links to things mentioned: Our patreon! Suport us for as little as $5 a month and get access to our exclusive Facebook Group The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex and the all new Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex The podcast on the Sexual Response Cycle This week's post on vaginismus and wedding night sex Here is the link with Knix.com To Support Us: Join our Patreon f...
Mar 10, 2022•1 hr 2 min•Season 4Ep. 136
Send us a text It’s the one year anniversary since The Great Sex Rescue was published! Rebecca and I want to talk about what we’ve rescued and how it’s been rescued–plus Elizabeth Fisher Good joins us to talk about fighting sex trafficking. Links to things mentioned: Please use these affiliate links if you're interested in trying Knix! Knix.com Elizabeth Fisher Good The Great Sex Rescue Articles this week about men and how the teachings affected them: How Can Men Fix Their Sex Lives if They've G...
Mar 03, 2022•57 min•Season 4Ep. 135
Send us a text Because our church culture teaches guys that they need sex the way newborn babies need to be fed in the middle of the night or the way an invalid needs water brought to them, men often don’t realize that they are being the selfish ones. They’re taught this is an absolute need they have, a life and death need, and so if she doesn’t want sex, that must mean she’s being selfish. Links to things mentioned: When Shame Gets Real by Carl Thomas XXX Church To Support Us: Join our Patreon ...
Feb 24, 2022•1 hr 4 min•Season 4Ep. 134
Send us a text Special thank you to our guest Patrick Weaver for joining us today! We look forward to having him on the podcast again in the future! Links to things mentioned: Our Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month and help us get our research into peer reviewed journals. Plus you can join our rocking Facebook group and get unfiltered podcasts! The Good Guy’s Guide to Great Sex and The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex Our original birth control series plus the book Taking Charge of Yo...
Feb 17, 2022•57 min•Season 4Ep. 133
Send us a text Too many people don’t understand the sexual response cycle–so let’s spell it out and figure out why this lack of info has become so prevalent in evangelicalism! Links to things mentioned: The Intimately Us app! The podcast where we dissected Emerson Eggerichs’ reply to the woman crying in the shower; and the podcast where the woman crying in the shower responds The Dunning Kruger Effect: Article 1 and Article 2 The Good Guy ’ s and The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex The 990 Tax Fo...
Feb 10, 2022•1 hr 3 min•Season 4Ep. 132
Send us a text We are so honoured to have on the podcast today the woman who wrote that letter we discussed back in episode 129. She joins us to share her story, give some updates, and shed some light on what toxic teachings in practice actually resulted in. Links to things mentioned: The Intimately Us App ! Download the free version right now–and there are special sexy challenges for Valentine’s Day! CT Article about Domestic Violence in Brazil Podcast about Emerson Eggerichs To Support Us: Joi...
Feb 03, 2022•59 min•Season 4Ep. 131
Send us a text At what point do we realize that something is terribly off with the way the evangelical church sees women? Keith talks about his manifesto from yesterday and encourages men to see what is happening and jump out of the boiling water. Links to things mentioned: Research study about remarriage after divorce Great Sex Rescue Keith's article on the boiling water Owen Strachan's tweet To Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work For tax deductible dona...
Jan 27, 2022•46 min•Season 4Ep. 130
Send us a text Our wonderful sponsor the Intimately Us app! A-so-much-more-than-foreplay app. Helps you communicate about sex, have awesome bedroom games, discover what you like (and communicate about it), and more! Clean and totally non-creepy too. Our Patreon --support us for as little as $5 a month and get access to unfiltered podcasts and help support our research! Connor's post detailing all our problems with Emerson Eggerichs' podcast episode Our Open Letter to Focus on the Family about Em...
Jan 20, 2022•1 hr 3 min•Season 4Ep. 129
Send us a text Should you stay in such a church? Some people should, because the church is changing, and you feel called to be a “missionary” of sorts there. But maybe more should leave. I know I stayed too long, and Rebecca shares some passionate thoughts about her opinion on going to a church “because it has a good kids’ program” or “because it has a good youth program.” Links to things mentioned: Open Letter to Focus on the Family about Love & Respect Download our scorecard and rubric for...
Jan 13, 2022•57 min•Season 4Ep. 128
Send us a text Welcome to a new year with the Bare Marriage podcast! We're glad you're joining us again after our break for the holidays! Links to things mentioned: Scott Coley Tweet The Great Sex Rescue To Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation And check out our Merch , or any of our courses ! Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com ! Check o...
Jan 06, 2022•1 hr 15 min•Season 4Ep. 127
Send us a text Today on the podcast we hear Rachel Perry’s story of vaginismus, and then I get cozy in my yellow chair where I work and just tell you how I see the Christmas story interacting with our own (and yours!). Links to things mentioned: The Emotional Journey with Vaginismus To Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation And check out our Merch , or ...
Dec 16, 2021•53 min•Season 4Ep. 126
Send us a text Ever noticed that most marriage books center the majority of their advice on women? And most instructions for how to get marriages to change focus on what women can do differently. Links to things mentioned: Our sponsor Femallay ! Become a patreon and support us for as little as $5 a month! Our New Merch! Check out all of our merch , and our Be a Biblical Woman collection Nicole Parker's Tales of Exodus book series The Great Sex Rescue Our Mental Load and Emotional Labor series Ho...
Dec 10, 2021•1 hr 6 min•Season 4Ep. 125
Send us a text How do we live our feelings through our bodies? How do we learn to inhabit our bodies more? Join us as Rebecca and I jumpstart this series, and then Keith and I get all scientific about arousal non-concordance and mindfulness! Links to things mentioned: Our wonderful sponsor Femallay . Check out their vaginal melts , and their innovative menstrual cups that allow you to empty them while they're still inserted. The Great Sex Rescue! The Orgasm Course Post on Arousal Non-Accordance ...
Dec 02, 2021•56 min•Season 4Ep. 124
Send us a text Rebecca’s postpartum! So we thought it was the perfect time to look at the postpartum advice given in evangelical circles to women. Links to things mentioned: Our wonderful sponsor Femallay . Check out their vaginal melts , and their innovative menstrual cups that allow you to empty them while they're still inserted. The Great Sex Rescue! Especially chapter 11 where we talk about postpartum sex and the advice given to women The Italian study Keith and I referenced The Facebook pos...
Nov 25, 2021•1 hr 5 min•Season 4Ep. 123
Send us a text The amazing Beth Allison Barr is joining me today to talk about women and the history of the church. It seems like people who buy The Great Sex Rescue really like Beth’s book–and they really like Kristin Kobes Du Mez’s book too (and she was on the podcast earlier this year !). Links to things mentioned: Link to the Webinar with Sheila, Kristin, and Beth! The Making of Biblical Womanhood L. M. M. story mentioned Check out our sponsor, Femallay ! To Support Us: Join our Patreon for ...
Nov 18, 2021•59 min•Season 4Ep. 122
Send us a text We’ve got two different segments on today’s podcast, both regarding what it means to make your own way as a couple: Another look at how to read science–and what it SHOULDN’T be used for and a visit with Stephanie and Dan Holmes, the hosts of the Neurodivergent Christian Marriages podcast! Links to things mentioned here: Dan and Stephanie's podcast To Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good ...
Nov 11, 2021•1 hr 2 min•Season 4Ep. 121
Send us a text What if the reason authors can’t give up the obligation sex message is that they fear women won’t have sex otherwise? Links to things mentioned: Femallay! We love what they're doing to help women experience more pleasure and more comfort in our own bodies. Please check them out. The Great Sex Rescue! The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex ! Amie Latta's counseling and coaching practice Our podcast where we talked about neuroscience research To Support Us:...
Nov 04, 2021•1 hr•Season 4Ep. 120
Send us a text We try to show how men and women may approach sex information differently. And how there’s a serious creepy factor for many women that we all need to understand a little bit better! Thanks to our sponsor Femallay ! Check out their vaginal melts , and my post on how your vagina changes as you age The Great Sex Rescue –Chapters 5 and 6 cover the lust issue and porn issue, and try to do so in a non-shaming way, focused on actual research Our Sexy Dares The Intimately Us App Our Orgas...
Oct 28, 2021•58 min•Season 4Ep. 119
Send us a text We are thrilled to have a wonderful guest joining us this week! We hope you enjoy Sheila's conversation with author Gretchen Baskerville, as they discuss some extremely important points we need to include in our conversations around divorce in the Christian church. Links to things mentioned: The blog post that goes along with this podcast Gretchen Baskerville's Site Gretchen's book The Lifesaving Divorce Gretchen's article on the 12 Half Truths in Focus on the Family's Article abo...
Oct 21, 2021•1 hr•Season 4Ep. 118
Send us a text We have a VERY special guest joining later today! For the first time ever we have Sheila's mother, Elizabeth, here to share all her wisdom! We hope you enjoy today's episode all about boobs, and breast cancer awareness! Links to things mentioned: Link for breast self-exam Married Sex on Amazon--many of the reviews refer to the breast problem Femallay Our puberty course The Whole Story Post on Developing Bust Early To Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to supp...
Oct 14, 2021•55 min•Season 4Ep. 117
Send us a text For this special edition of the Bare Marriage Podcast we created an episode that you can listen to WITH your teenagers! Rebecca and Connor walk through their own 'Sex-Ed' experiences, and discuss how they plan to talk to their own children about sex and sexual health one day. We hope this episode can be a great jumping off point for important parent/teenager conversations that may happen throughout these teen years, to help you equip your children in making wise decisions as they ...
Oct 07, 2021•43 min•Season 4Ep. 116
Send us a text Today it's Rebecca and Connor coming to you, to discuss some neuropsychology! We know, it's a lot, but bare with us! We hope you enjoy this ramble through some statistical and psychological studies that can give us all a clearer picture on how we should be talking about the differences between men and women's brains. Links to things mentioned: Check out Femallay's products 2021 Meta-analysis of gender differences in the brain 2019 Meta-analysis of gender differences in neural resp...
Sep 30, 2021•49 min•Season 4Ep. 115
Send us a text Many of you have asked for a step by step guide to clarify how to gauge whether a book is harmful or helpful. So today, we thought we'd do just that, and help walk everyone through the process we use when critiquing Christian resources we see being used today. We'd also like to thank our guest Neil Schori for joining us today with such a wonderful discussion on how to talk to pastors about the harm found in resources. We can't wait to have him back on the podcast again soon! Links...
Sep 23, 2021•1 hr•Season 4Ep. 114
