Send us a text This week we are joined by author Rachel Joy Welcher, as we discuss all things purity culture - and where it went wrong! We so appreciate Rachel joining us and giving her insight! Links to things mentioned: Follow Sheila on Instagram: @sheilagregoire The Great Sex Rescue Rachel's book: Talking Back to Purity Culture Rachel's Twitter Why arousal can be difficult for women if they don't understand the sexual progression More information on women and porn Rebecca's book: Why I Didn't...
Jan 14, 2021•53 min•Season 3Ep. 83
Send us a text Welcome back! We are excited as we begin our rebranding process from To Love, Honor, and Vacuum to… *drumroll* Bare Marriage! Listen in as we discuss what led to this new name choice and our thoughts on how we see 2021 going, as we focus on a Jesus-centered marriage! Links to things mentioned: Follow Sheila on Instagram: @sheilagregoire The Great Sex Rescue Sheila's post on the Harvard Study More info on the Harvard Grand Survey The article on 'Mediocre Leaders' Our response to Em...
Jan 07, 2021•44 min•Season 3Ep. 82
Send us a text 2020 has been a wild year for everyone. As we close off this year, we want to reiterate how much we appreciate everyone who has taken the time to read the blog, listen to the podcast, buy the books, buy the courses and just be a part of our TLHV family. We hope you've enjoyed learning lots along with us this year, and we can't wait for the release of our book in March as we enter a new era on To Love, Honor, and Vacuum, (and hopefully a more joyful era at that!) Links to things me...
Dec 17, 2020•56 min•Season 2Ep. 81
Send us a text Another week, another episode of the TLHV podcast! A special thank-you to our guest Dr. Westfall for helping shed more light and give new perspectives on a passage in scripture that we read so often! We hope you enjoyed today's episode, and while we know we got pretty technical with some context and vocabulary, we believe it is very important that we look at these topics as clearly as possible to gain the best understanding. Links to things mentioned: Follow Sheila on Instagram: @...
Dec 10, 2020•55 min•Season 2Ep. 80
Send us a text We always love tackling tough subjects on the To Love, Honor, and Vacuum Podcast and we hope you enjoyed our passionate discussion today. Links to things mentioned: 4 Stages of Porn Recovery The Bell-curve Modesty Rule The Whole Story The Great Sex Rescue Andrew Bauman's website To Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation And check out our ...
Dec 03, 2020•55 min•Season 2Ep. 79
Send us a text Alright, gentlemen, we're here again for another Start Your Engines episode! Thank you to Andrew Bauman for joining us today for this important conversation and being a great voice advocating for emotional health. We apologize for the slightly muffled audio, we did our best to clean it up, and we appreciate your grace with us as we begin to invite guests onto the show and work out new technical challenges. Links to things mentioned: Andrew J Bauman's Surveys Andrew J Bauman's Webs...
Nov 25, 2020•44 min•Season 1Ep. 14
Send us a text We want to give a special welcome this week to our first non-family-member guest, Marc Alan Schelske! We hope you enjoy our discussions today all about emotional intelligence and emotional maturity. Links to things mentioned: Marc Alan Schelske's book Marc Alan Schelske's website Marc Alana Schelske's Podcast Workbook mentioned To Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiati...
Nov 19, 2020•47 min•Season 2Ep. 78
Send us a text Sheila and Rebecca decided to take the time this week to further flesh out a podcast topic addressed a few weeks ago, that was perhaps not portrayed in the best way. Thank you for making the 'To Love, Honor, and Vacuum' podcast part of your week! Links to things mentioned: The Blog: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/ "Rushing Forgiveness Ruins Intimacy": https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2019/08/10-reasons-why-rushing-forgiveness-ruins-intimacy/ Pre-Order 'The Great Sex Rescue': htt...
Nov 12, 2020•39 min•Season 2Ep. 77
Send us a text It's time for our monthly 'Start Your Engines' podcast, with special guest Keith! We hope you enjoyed this conversation all about the sexy sex! Links to things mentioned: 10 Things Husbands Who Are Great Lovers Do: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/10/10-things-husbands-who-are-great-lovers-do/ The Orgasm Course: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/the-orgasm-course/ Some articles from the blog talking about dealing with Pornography addiction: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/202...
Oct 29, 2020•35 min•Season 1Ep. 13
Send us a text Join us for another week of the To Love, Honor, and Vacuum Podcast, where Sheila explores some of your comments on how the beliefs we internalize affect a couple's sex life. Link to the blog: http://www.tolovehonorandvacuum.com Link to Pre-Order The Great Sex Rescue: https://www.amazon.com/Great-Sex-Rescue-Recover-Intended/dp/1540900827 Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com ! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great S...
Oct 15, 2020•39 min•Season 2Ep. 75
Send us a text This month on the blog we're going to be talking lots about orgasms! Do you struggle with having orgasms? Do you see your body as something working against you, not for you? We're here to help talk about these things! And today we have Sheila, Rebecca AND Connor all hopping on the podcast to give some great thoughts about how we talk about women's sexuality, how we view our sexual needs, and how we can increase the likelihood of orgasming! Blog post mentioned from Monday: https://...
Oct 08, 2020•39 min•Season 2Ep. 74
Send us a text Join us this week as Sheila Wray Gregoire and Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach discuss some important topics -- sexual abuse and when to seek professional help. Links to things mentioned in the podcast: The need for licensed counselling : https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2019/03/question-your-biblical-counsellor/ Dan Allender's book: https://www.amazon.com/The-Wounded-Heart-Dan-B-Allender-audiobook/dp/B01ATOK6H8 "98 Ways You Could Be Sinning Against Your Husband": https://tolovehonoran...
Oct 01, 2020•40 min•Season 2Ep. 73
Send us a text Thank you for tuning in to the September edition of the 'Start Your Engines Podcast'! Links mentioned in the episode: Blog Post on Frequency: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/09/how-much-sex-should-you-have-every-week/ Email List Sign-up: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.us7.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=7dab5e96bfaeb6aaa1503b481&id=5b44e4e8aa Link for the Blog: http://tolovehonorandvacuum.com Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com ! Check out her books: The Great Se...
Sep 24, 2020•35 min•Season 1Ep. 12
Send us a text This month on the blog we’re discussing all things ‘Libido’! Listen in to hear Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach and Sheila Wray Gregoire talk about what could possibly be the key to unlocking your spouses’ low libido, and perhaps make you rethink how you see 'frequency' in relation to healthy sex! Blog Posts Mentioned in this Podcast: How frequently should a healthy couple have sex?: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/09/how-much-sex-should-you-have-every-week/ How to see Every Man’...
Sep 17, 2020•45 min•Season 2Ep. 72
Send us a text This week Sheila is flying solo on the podcast, and getting a bit more controversial! Listen in to hear her discuss the concept of how being content with your sex life can perhaps cause it to flourish even more, how sex and talking are NOT equivalent, and how Christians should better handle speaking about divorce. Links for Things Mentioned: Free Sex Pep-Talk Course! https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/sex-pep-talk-course/ This week's mentioned post: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/...
Sep 10, 2020•36 min•Season 2Ep. 71
Send us a text How do you handle it when tough conversations come up and loved ones are making decisions you don't agree with? Especially when marriage and engagements are the starting point for those hard conversations? Today Sheila Wray Gregoire and Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach from To Love, Honor and Vacuum talk through different Reader Questions and come up with some tips on communicating and how to discuss issues such as pornography and past trauma with your fiance! Some links mentioned in t...
Sep 03, 2020•39 min•Season 2Ep. 70
Send us a text What if, when flirting, your signals keep getting crossed and for some reason your wife doesn't respond well to your advances? In today's episode, Sheila and Keith, (plus Rebecca and Connor!), sit down to break down why flirting and groping are different things, as well as how to optimize your timing and context when flirting! Check out the blog for so much more on this topic, and fun challenges to do with your spouse! http://tolovehonorandvacuum.com Support the show Join Sheila a...
Aug 27, 2020•37 min•Season 2Ep. 71
Send us a text What do you do if you can't/don't want to have intercourse, but other forms of sex are actually uncomfortable? Some Christian books tell women they should give sexual favors, because they're "simple" and take a "minimum of effort." Today Sheila Wray Gregoire and Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach from To Love, Honor and Vacuum look at the complete picture--what this should look like in a healthy relationship, and how to think about it if one of you actually is physically uncomfortable. B...
Aug 20, 2020•36 min•Season 2Ep. 69
Send us a text Another Thursday, another episode of our podcast! It's Sheila Wray Gregoire and Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach from the To Love, Honor and Vacuum blog, discussing expectations of the effort we put into sex and making one another feel good! And yes, we're still filming from Sheila's closet because the sound is best there! :) Check out the posts mentioned in the podcast: The Honeymoon course: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/the-honeymoon-course-start-your-marriage-and-your-sex-life-of...
Aug 13, 2020•30 min•Season 2Ep. 68
Send us a text Why do we feel such shame? How can we help men be more sensitive to women--without being creepy? And how can we as women be empathetic towards each other? These are questions Rebecca and I tackle in this week's podcast. Plus we'll discuss why using tampons does not impact your virginity (why do we even think that's a thing? Sheesh!). Check out the posts mentioned in the podcast: Our Whole Story puberty course! https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/the-whole-story/ And our period series...
Aug 06, 2020•36 min•Season 2Ep. 67
Send us a text Today Keith joins me for yet another episode of our ‘Start Your Engines’ edition of the podcast to discuss how husbands and wives approach to sex can vary greatly, but how neither one is wrong! Blog posts mentioned in this episode: “Should I Tell My Husband if I Fake Orgasm or Fantasize During Sex?” https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/07/should-i-tell-my-husband-if-i-fake-orgasm-or-fantasize-during-sex/ “Understanding Sex from a Woman’s Perspective” https://tolovehonorandvacuum....
Jul 30, 2020•35 min•Season 1Ep. 10
Send us a text This week--how do you untangle sex problems, especially because there's usually not just one problem? And how to tell if there are red flags that something's really wrong! Thanks to our sponsor Ann Mainse, whose wonderful devotional Coffee with Him helps any woman walking through rough times--whether cancer or betrayal or heartache or disillusionment--find peace. Raw and real, Ann shows how we can be honest with God in the darkness. https://amzn.to/30CfBLA Posts mentioned in this ...
Jul 23, 2020•43 min•Season 2Ep. 66
Send us a text Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com ! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree....
Jul 16, 2020•44 min•Season 2Ep. 65
Send us a text Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com ! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree....
Jul 09, 2020•45 min•Season 2Ep. 64
Send us a text We often go to our pastors for marital advice and answers to tough questions. But what about the questions you can't ask them? In preparation for my Sex Questions You Can't Ask Your Pastor tomorrow at 9:00 PM Eastern Time. If you want to sign up, just follow the link to buy your ticket, which comes with a FREE copy of my book 31 Days to Great Sex, and a FREE copy of Spicy Dares Sign Up for the Webinar Here Blog Post Extras Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com ! Check ...
Jul 02, 2020•38 min•Season 2Ep. 63
Send us a text We have been talking about the concept of mental load and the emotional burden of taking care of kids and the household. And when your wife is feeling overburdened bu all the things she needs to track, it's hard for her to get invested in the bedroom. It's so important, then, for husbands to get invested in the household, but is asking her to make a list really going to help the problem? Let's discuss! Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com ! Check out her books: The Gr...
Jun 25, 2020•45 min•Season 1Ep. 9
Send us a text I've been talking on the blog about the mental load of housework and how it often falls on the wives, even when they are the one who works outside the house. I have also been saying that men can step up more because being a man doesn't make them less capable. Curiously, that sentiment has earned me the title of man-basher from some of my male commenters. So Let's talk about that. Podcast Extras 9 Thoughts That Can Change Your Marriage Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage....
Jun 18, 2020•37 min•Season 2Ep. 62
Send us a text Let's talk about minimum community standards and how they can be used to reduce your mental load and get you and your spouse on the same page in terms of housework! Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com ! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much mor...
Jun 11, 2020•56 min•Season 2Ep. 61
Send us a text This month we are doing our series on emotional labour. In keeping with that trend, today's podcast is all about how much of a mental load it is to be solely in charge of housework, and how to find a healthier balance with your spouse. Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com ! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check ou...
Jun 04, 2020•48 min•Season 2Ep. 60
Send us a text What are the differences between men and women, and how important are they actually? Have we been focusing on the wrong thing? Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com ! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree....
May 28, 2020•40 min•Season 2Ep. 8
