Send us a text We are thrilled to bring you another weekly edition of the Bare Marriage podcast, with a special guest appearance by friend of the show Andrew Bauman for a short segment today. Please remember to read the blog post that accompanies this podcast for more context into the topics we discussed. Links to things mentioned: The Great Sex Rescue Join our email list! Andrew Bauman's website , his article on the pornographic style of relating , and his book The Psychology of Porn Your Sexua...
Sep 16, 2021•49 min•Season 4Ep. 113
Send us a text Thank you to our lovely guest Micah for joining us today! You can find her online here . Links to other things mentioned: On Elisabeth Elliot’s Terrible Courtship–and Dating Men “Sold Out for Jesus” The Most Fun FREE Book Study Ever–The Great Sex Rescue! (with video) To Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation And check out our Merch , or a...
Sep 09, 2021•1 hr•Season 4Ep. 112
Send us a text Join us this week as we discuss the idea of how our expectations of marriage highly affect how we experience it-- and how expectations might not always be the problem! And thank you again to Bruce for joining us today for another deep dive into scripture! Links to things mentioned: Find more from Bruce on his website Camden's article Original study about health effects of churches where women aren't in leadership positions To Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a mont...
Sep 02, 2021•58 min•Season 4Ep. 111
Send us a text We have the guys back for today's 'Men's Edition' of the podcast! And thank you to Michael John Cusick for joining us today for our Reader Question! Links to things mentioned: Michael John Cusick Restoring the Soul Podcast Our Direct Communication Series (check out the links at the bottom for all of the posts) The Research on Cognitive Labor To Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit ...
Aug 26, 2021•56 min•Season 4Ep. 110
Send us a text This week we're bringing you something different. This 'unfiltered podcast' that aired with our Patrons in July was an episode that we ended up feeling was worth being shared on a larger scale. We hope you enjoy this honest, vulnerable look into Rebecca and Joanna's faith thought processes, and that it may spark some discussion for yourself. To Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit ...
Aug 19, 2021•46 min•Season 4Ep. 109
Send us a text This week's episode is ALL about communicating! Both with our spouses, and with our kids! Links to things mentioned: Brett Ullman's website where he collates amazing parenting stuff, plus his book Parenting: Navigating Everything The Great Sex Rescue Our Direct Communication Series: Why it's hard ; what direct communication looks like ; why it's not mean ; why women struggle with it ; why men struggle with it . How to Eliminate Nagging for Good (from our Emotional Labor and Mental...
Aug 12, 2021•55 min•Season 4Ep. 108
Send us a text Aaaaand we're back! Thank you for all being gracious while we took a much needed one-month break in July. Links to things mentioned: Subscribe to the email list! The Great Sex Rescue --and the package you can download to show to your church Our definitive podcast on lust & modesty (because I didn't want to rehash everything when we talked about Modest is Hottest) The Mars Hill podcast episode-- The Things We Do to Women Laura Robinson's Twitter Thread The Jezebel Article about...
Aug 05, 2021•1 hr 14 min•Season 4Ep. 107
Send us a text Keith summarizes yesterday’s post on the slippery slope of believing in men’s hierarchy over women, and we address mental load and more. Links to things mentioned: Keith's post on the slippery slope of male-only leadership The Emotional Labor and Mental Load Series , with a podcast describing the issue The Let's Go to the Beach Revisited post The Great Sex Rescue Pastors: Preach what you practice! About how pastors often say that husbands should make the final decision, though tha...
Jun 24, 2021•42 min•Season 3Ep. 106
Send us a text What fun episode this week! With our wonderful guest Dr Bethany Peterson joining us, we talk all things pelvic floor and how we as women can improve our lives dramatically with more information on this topic! Links to things mentioned: Bethany Peterson and Well-Core Physiotherapy . You can also find Bethany on Instagram. Bethany's post on why we need to explore our pelvic floors The FemFusion Guided Meditation for Pelvic Floor Relaxation video The Great Sex Rescue --and our FREE V...
Jun 17, 2021•55 min•Season 3Ep. 105
Send us a text Jesus and John Wayne-- order it this week! . And follow Kristin on Twitter like I do. She's awesome. Links to things mentioned: The Great Sex Rescue : A great companion to Jesus and John Wayne Katie's awesome video and our awesome romance novels we made up, plus Katie's Instagram where you can see all the covers on her story highlights Our podcast on feeling spiritually homeless To Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work For tax deductible dona...
Jun 10, 2021•57 min•Season 3Ep. 104
Send us a text Let’s talk expectations for childbirth, sex, orgasm, and more! As you’ll hear from the two interviews we did, we were enjoying ourselves immensely talking about how to make different aspects of our lives awesome. Links to things mentioned: Jenn Riedy 'Intimately Us' app! To Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation And check out our Merch , ...
Jun 03, 2021•53 min•Season 3Ep. 103
Send us a text Mark Gungor claims to be the #1 marriage teacher in the U.S. military, and I think it’s important to know what he is teaching. Links to things mentioned: The Great Sex Rescue , our new book that has upset everyone The audio between Mark and Lexi. You can also read a transcript of the audio by Shannon Ashley , or a transcript with abuse tactics analysis by Sarah McDugal. My article about the audio , and how I felt The video we analyzed: The Sex/Love portion of A Tale of Two Brains ...
May 27, 2021•57 min•Season 3Ep. 102
Send us a text We have a fantastic guest joining us today! With real experience on the mission field, Meghan Tschanz is in a great position to share her thoughts and add her voice to this conversation. Thank you for joining us and listening in today, and thank you again to Meghan for being on our podcast! Things Mentioned in This Podcast: Meghan Tschanz's book Woman Rising : Learning to Listen, Reclaiming Our Voice The study about Calvinist/complementarian beliefs and their correlation with dome...
May 20, 2021•53 min•Season 3Ep. 101
Send us a text We made it to 100 episodes! Thank you to all our listeners for sticking with us, whether from day one or last week, we SO appreciate you being here! And thank you to all those who sent in messages for us to listen to in this episode! Links to things mentioned: Great Sex Rescue! Michael John Cusick's Site , his book Surfing for God, and his Restoring the Soul podcast Tim Keller's Twitter Thread Focus on the Family article about consent The Honeymoon Course To Support Us: Join our P...
May 14, 2021•1 hr 5 min
Send us a text Thank you to our WONDERFUL guests this week! We have 3 different people joining in on the discussions today! Links to things mentioned: Timothy Thomas' articles, Part 1 and Part 2 Bruce C.E. Fleming's Eden podcast and Book of Eden book . The podcast walks through many of the Genesis verses regarding gender and shows us a beautiful picture of wholeness and freedom Shannon Ashley's article about our interaction with Mark Gungor The Great Sex Rescue To Support Us: Join our Patreon fo...
May 06, 2021•1 hr 8 min•Season 3Ep. 99
Send us a text Here we are with another 'Start Your Engines' edition of the podcast! Join Keith and Sheila as they discuss some strange things your wife might believe about sex, and Rebecca and Sheila as they break down an interesting perspective on how the men's lust message can mess up women too! Links to things mentioned: The Great Sex Rescue: Our new book, that looks at how harmful some of these messages have been Support our research by joining our Patreon group! Even for as little as $5 or...
Apr 29, 2021•49 min•Season 3Ep. 98
Send us a text We've been going back in time on the blog and looking at how different eras viewed sex, so this week on the podcast we're bringing more of that conversation! Listen in as Sheila, Connor, and Rebecca break down what led to the sexual revolution and how the church responded to it at the time. Links to things mentioned: Come support our peer-reviewed research and getting into more social media channels! Connor's review of the 1970s sex book My review of The Act of Marriage Our sexual...
Apr 22, 2021•49 min•Season 3Ep. 97
Send us a text We've got some AMAZING guests joining us on the podcast today, authors/father-daughter duo Scot McKnight and Laura Barringer! We hope you enjoy this discussion on church cultures, and can find your own church that is 'tov'! Links to things mentioned: Scot & Laura's book! https://amzn.to/2OP4Nb9 (A Church Called Tov) Our rubric and scorecard The Great Sex Rescue To Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work For tax deductible donations in the U...
Apr 15, 2021•51 min•Season 3Ep. 96
Send us a text This week's episode is going out to all the parents of teens out there. We know that sex and puberty can be a tough topic to navigate with your children as they grow up, so we wanted to really delve into that topic and hopefully help further healthy messages for the future generations! The Whole Story: Our puberty & sex course for moms/daughters or dads/sons (or single parents & opposite sex child!) The problem with Shaunti Feldhahn's survey question where she said that 82...
Apr 08, 2021•48 min•Season 3Ep. 95
Send us a text This is a jam-packed episode of the Bare Marriage podcast! We hope you enjoy listening in this week! Links to things mentioned: The Great Sex Rescue ! And remember to rate and review! Last week's long post on Emerson Eggerichs gaslighting abuse victims --and the podcast that went with it The blog post where Emerson Eggerichs uses the stat both correctly & incorrectly at the same time 10 reasons rushing forgiveness ruins intimacy Our Open Letter to Focus on the Family (that our...
Apr 01, 2021•1 hr 6 min•Season 3Ep. 94
Send us a text We simply must change the way we talk about women in the church, because what is happening is dangerous. Links to things mentioned: The post yesterday where we discussed Emerson Eggerichs' sermons in detail Last week's post on the Atlanta shootings and seeing women as dangerous Study showing that non-fatal strangulation increases the odds of a woman being killed by seven-fold The original sermon series by Emerson Eggerichs on YouTube-- Part 1 and Part 2 To Support Us: Join our Pat...
Mar 25, 2021•1 hr 5 min•Season 3Ep. 93
Send us a text Let's discuss orgasms this week, shall we?! We're thrilled to announce our new Patreon ! Links to things mentioned: The Great Sex Rescue The Orgasm Course The Honeymoon Course The Orgasm Series ᐧ To Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation And check out our Merch , or any of our courses ! Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com ! ...
Mar 18, 2021•40 min•Season 3Ep. 92
Send us a text Another week where we're discussing sex and marriage here on the Bare Marriage Podcast! Links to things mentioned: The Great Sex Rescue — it's doing wonderfully and selling wonderfully! Thank you so much--and help us out by leaving a review on Amazon or Goodreads once you've read it! Our survey methodology Books that we liked-- How We Love by the Yerkovichs; Boundaries and Boundaries in Marriage by Henry Cloud and John Townsend 10 Ways to Know if Your Church is Toxic Our Open Lett...
Mar 11, 2021•59 min•Season 3Ep. 91
Send us a text We planned to do a bit of a victory lap, and it did start out that way. We’re just really raw with you about how demoralizing it is to see people just love our book and say what an amazing impact it’s had on them– and then have the powers-that-be still not care about hurting women. Links to things mentioned: The Great Sex Rescue Our survey methods Dr. Camden Morgante: And check out her "which purity culture myth affected you" quiz ! Our Podcast from last week discussing how childr...
Mar 04, 2021•1 hr•Season 3Ep. 90
Send us a text Sometimes the way we talk about sex is just plain, well, icky and weird. We go back to basics and ask for a healthy way to talk about sex that isn’t weird! Links to the things mentioned: The Great Sex Rescue Andrew Bauman To Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation And check out our Merch , or any of our courses ! Support the show Join Shei...
Feb 25, 2021•49 min•Season 3Ep. 89
Send us a text What happens when women are told: “If your husband is typical, he has a need you don’t have?”, as Love & Respect put it. If you hear that your whole life that women need affection while men need sex, and women don’t actually need that much. Well, should it be a surprise if we grow up believing that sex is not for us? Links to things mentioned: The Great Sex Rescue Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin's Imago Marriage Counseling . You can schedule a free consultation now--or check out his retr...
Feb 18, 2021•54 min•Season 3Ep. 88
Send us a text This week were talking all about duty sex and consent! Thank you to our guests that joined us, it's so encouraging to hear other voices out there with a heart to share this hopeful message of what healthy sex looks like in marriage. Links to things mentioned: Andrew Bauman : his book The Sexually Healthy Man Benjamin Young's Twitter Thread Benjamin Young's ministry Guard the Gift The Great Sex Rescue Our Previous Podcast on Marital Rape and Consent To Support Us: Join our Patreon ...
Feb 11, 2021•57 min•Season 3Ep. 87
Send us a text This week Sheila and Rebecca are digging deep into just how bad some of the advice out there is for Christians dealing with porn use in their marriage. We need to talk about this better, everyone! Thank you to Michael John Cusick for stopping by to help give us an even better look at what healing and recovery can look like for the many people struggling with pornography. Links to things mentioned: Our Porn series i n April (read the first; the rest are linked from there) Our Porn ...
Feb 04, 2021•59 min•Season 3Ep. 86
Send us a text And we're back with a new 'Start Your Engines' episode! The whole team is practically here today, as Sheila, Keith, Joanna, AND Rebecca all join in to discuss this all too common teaching that 'ALL men will struggle with lust!' Links to things mentioned: The Great Sex Rescue Twitter thread we read Blog posts: Noticing is Not Lusting 12 Things Churches Can Do to Help Men Overcome Lust Why Bouncing Your Eyes Doesn't Honor Women Keith's epic post on lust To Support Us: Join our Patre...
Jan 28, 2021•57 min•Season 3Ep. 85
Send us a text Joining us on the podcast this week is Ruth Everhart, author of the book 'The #MeToo Reckoning'. We hope you find today's podcast a helpful step in the larger conversation in how we need to handle and address sexual assault situations in the church. Links to things mentioned: Last spring we had a number of posts and podcasts on the problem with the gatekeeping message--namely that it can hinder arousal. Some of them are: Arousal: The missing piece podcast; And the let's bring back...
Jan 21, 2021•50 min•Season 3Ep. 84
