In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Sara and addresses the question, “How can I find my purpose now that my kids are all in school?” When the kids all enter school, it can cause parents to feel pressured to fill that time with a new job or hobby. Dr. Hanks encourages Sara to enjoy this beautiful time to explore and find things in addition to family that are really meaningful. Make a list of things that are interesting or worth exploring more and see where it leads you. During this episode, ...
Aug 31, 2021•23 min
In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Sarah Coyne, professor of human development in the School of Family Life at Brigham Young University, and addresses the question, “How can I deal with my child's mental health struggles without becoming burned out myself?”” When our children struggle we often feel that we need to “have it all together” and may question the validity of our feelings of overwhelm, sadness, and powerlessness. During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Sarah through identifying tha...
Aug 24, 2021•26 min
In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Sophie and addresses the question, “How can I make more friends as an introvert?” Whether we are introverts or extroverts, we are responsible for getting our social needs met, and we are often the one who has to reach out to others. During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Sophie through identifying why she may feel uncomfortable finding friends in large social gatherings, and how her history of moving frequently as a child may be impacting her today. Even w...
Aug 17, 2021•19 min
In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Alyssa and addresses the question, “How can I teach my kids responsibility without creating a parentified relationship?” When teaching children responsibility, a good place to begin is looking at the age appropriateness of the task you're asking them to complete. During this episode, Dr. Hanks also guides Alyssa through identifying the lack of support and resources she felt as a child with responsibilities, and helps her identify how her children's experi...
Aug 10, 2021•22 min
In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Erica and addresses the question, “How might purity culture be affecting my marriage?” Sometimes in society, sexuality is framed as a male thing, where men are sexual and women aren’t. So we don’t have permission as females to own our own sexuality and sensuality. During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Erica through identifying specific ways she can open up her communication with her husband and asks Erica “what would you say or do if this was just as much...
Aug 03, 2021•25 min
In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Emily and addresses the question, “How can I cope when life doesn’t go the way I planned?” When life doesn’t go the way we plan, it can feel like something is wrong. During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Emily through ways she can set boundaries with those who provide invalidating feedback about her life. They also talk about reframing the idea of being on the wrong track to the idea of being on the track where we need to be. Read Dr. Hanks’ popular Mormo...
Jul 27, 2021•24 min
In this episode, join Dr. Julie Hanks as she answers audience questions at her live event celebrating 100,000 podcast downloads. If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast, my online courses , and through my membership program, Empower Her Circle . Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”?...
Jul 20, 2021•50 min
I n this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Nadia and addresses the question, “How can I be happy while being sensitive to the pain of other people?” Throughout life we will have things we are happy about, while other people in our circle may not have that same thing. That can put us in a situation where we hold two seemingly conflicting emotions at the same time, wanting to celebrate our joy while also empathizing with others. During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Nadia through how to appreciate ...
Jul 13, 2021•21 min
In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Alexis Bradley and Chante Stutznegger, sisters and founders of Let’s Talk Sis , a platform promoting education on race, diversity and creating connection. As new business owners they ask, “How can we balance motherhood and work?” During this episode, Dr. Hanks reframes the idea of seeking to achieve “balance,” and suggests making work life harmony the goal. There’s never going to be a balance, it sounds unattainable, but having things blend together in a ...
Jul 06, 2021•30 min
In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Leo and addresses the question, “How can I minister to those who are questioning and doubting their faith?” One of the best things we can do is to listen more than talk no matter where they are and validate their experience and their feelings, even if you don’t agree. During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Leo through recognizing that someone blaming the church or being angry with the church institution is not personal and has nothing to do with him or mem...
Jun 29, 2021•17 min
In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Coral Ward, founder of Gluten Free with Coral and author of the newly released book, No Matter What: Choose joy whether you stay in or leave a hard marriage . In this episode, Coral asks “How can I keep fear and insecurity from getting in the way of dating after divorce?” During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Coral through how to tolerate loneliness and become comfortable being alone. We can consciously practice this by turning off the phone, avoiding dis...
Jun 22, 2021•18 min
In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Bree and addresses the question, “How can I repair relationships I have neglected while dealing with postpartum anxiety and depression?” With relationships that have become distant, if it is something you really want, you’re going to need to take the lead and initiate the repair. During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Bree on how to reach out to her friends and separate her apology from the explanation of what has been happening in her life. Friendships ca...
Jun 15, 2021•21 min
In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Janet and addresses the question, “Should we force our son to participate in church activities?” There’s no right way to make this decision. As a parent, you need to decide what your non-negotiables are based on your relationship with the child, who the child is, and how to best parent that child. During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Janet through fear that by not letting her son have a say or a choice, her son would make some of the same choices she mad...
Jun 08, 2021•22 min
In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Lisa and addresses the question, “How can help build relationships with my step children in a blended family?” After listening to the second episode of Ask Dr. Julie Hanks, Lisa wondered what she could do to help her blended family while they’re young to create a culture of unity. There is no perfect way to do this, every family is different and unique. The way we can show our family we care is by caring and making an effort. During this episode, Dr. Hank...
Jun 01, 2021•30 min
In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Alicia and addresses the question, “How will I know when I’m ready to have a baby?” Part of Alicia’s family story or mythology is “having kids means giving up your own desires and being unhappy.” With this perspective, it is easy to see how fear may get in the way of being able to make a decision about when to have a child. During this episode, Dr. Hanks shares with Alicia that she doesn’t ever need to step away from her personhood, ever. Having children ...
May 25, 2021•27 min
In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Elizabeth and addresses the question, “How do I create a partnership family after my husband’s death?” Elizabeth’s family had been working towards a partnership model when her husband passed unexpectedly. While moving through grief and trauma, Elizabeth asks how she can implement a partnership model in her home and create a system for taking care of the home. During this episode, Dr. Hanks introduces Elizabeth to the idea of more often than not. “More oft...
May 18, 2021•27 min
In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Krista and addresses the question, “How do I move through pain and anger after years of infertility?” There’s a finality in Krista’s grief now, where there was hope before, and that’s a different phase of grief. Even though the process has been long, this new realization and acceptance that a baby is not going to happen is still new. During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Krista through the phases of grief, embracing self-compassion, and giving voice to he...
May 11, 2021•39 min
In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks Coaches Ashley LeMieux , host of the I Am Podcast and author of I Am Here , and addresses the question, “BLANK.” Being a public personality means you’re in a relationship with thousands of people, and with that comes a lot of feedback and pressure. However, the feedback is not about you, it’s about the post, the image, and the authentic expression of you. During this episode, Dr. Hanks helps Ashley identify that what people are reacting to is the expression, not ...
May 04, 2021•19 min
In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Jenny and addresses the question, “How do I embrace vulnerability and let people help me?” We all grow up with wounds because we have human parents. When we don’t get validation for who we are, what we think, and what we feel growing up, it can show up in adulthood as not feeling good enough. During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Jenny through beginning to identify where feelings of insecurity may be coming from, and how to give “little Jenny” the validat...
Apr 27, 2021•22 min
In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Krista and addresses the question, “How can I create more equal roles in my home?” A common problem among couples is framing responsibility with one spouse working full-time, and the other spouse being in charge of the household tasks. The problem with this perspective is working full-time has set hours and then you’re off, but being in charge of home and family has no time off. During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Krista through ways to reframe family r...
Apr 20, 2021•27 min
In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Kimberly Christenson, Chief Content Officer of Promptly Journals, and addresses the question, “BLANK?” Being selfish is doing what’s in your best interest without regard for others. Doing what’s in your best interest, or your families best interest with regard for others is showing self love. During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Kimberly through identifying how she can do what’s in her best interest at work, while also showing regard for her co-workers. ...
Apr 13, 2021•23 min
In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Courtney Brown, Founder and CEO of Cents of Style, and addresses the question, “How do I help myself and my family thrive while caring for a mentally ill child?” Most people who have someone in their family with mental illness need to realize that we have limitations and we need more support. Your child’s mental illness is not because of you, it’s not something that you can solve, and it’s not your fault. During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Courtney thr...
Apr 06, 2021•24 min
In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Hannah Olson, creator of FreckledHan , and addresses the question, “How do I reconcile my call to help empower women with potentially harmful messaging from the LDS church?” What I believe is that the church is reacting against the devaluation of caregiving and they’re doing it in a less than helpful way. Caregiving is valuable work, but the way the church presents it leads to an either or. During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Hannah through reframing so...
Mar 30, 2021•24 min
In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Amberly Lambertsen, creator of A Prioritized Marriage , and addresses the question, “How do I maintain relationships with friends and family who have different political or religious views?” A good rule of thumb is if you know a conversation is going to escalate and not be about understanding each other’s point of view, don’t engage. During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Amberly through how to set boundaries when talking with family and friends who disagr...
Mar 23, 2021•26 min
In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Cami and addresses the question, “How Do I Express Myself Without Feeling Ungrateful?” Messages we receive as children can impact the way we interact in our relationships as adults, and being labeled “ungrateful” or “rude” when we express ourselves can create a fear of speaking up and setting boundaries. During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Cami through identifying where her “ungrateful” feeling is coming from and how to take care of younger Cami by sett...
Mar 16, 2021•21 min
In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Marie and addresses the question, “How do I not become my mother when parenting my own daughter?” Some parents worry that intera ctions and patterns they experienced from their parents will transfer to their own children. It can also be difficult for parents to set boundaries with grandparents regarding what is and is not appropriate to say or do around their grandchildren. During this episode Dr. Hanks validates and encourages Marie, sharing that simply ...
Mar 09, 2021•17 min
In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Mary and addresses the question “How do I overcome perfectionism in my professional life?” Perfectionism, insecurities, and imposter syndrome can all impact our beliefs about who we are and what we can offer in our careers. During this episode, Mary shares that many of her beliefs about the need for perfection stem from her childhood. Dr. Hanks guides Mary through a discussion about childhood expectations, how to begin working through those beliefs, as we...
Mar 02, 2021•25 min
In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Allyson Reynolds, host of The Sisterhood Podcast , and addresses the question “How do I bring more joy into my life during grief and life transitions?” Many have experienced grief and loss over the past year as a result of the pandemic, adding additional stress to life transitions such as moving and the loss of a parent. During this episode, Dr. Hanks talks about the need for support, connection, and fun, especially during times of grief and pain. She gui...
Feb 23, 2021•31 min
Thank you for joining me to celebrate 10,000 downloads of my new podcast, Ask Dr. Julie Hanks. I’m thrilled with the response and so grateful to all of you who have downloaded, listened, and reviewed the podcast. Thank you so much for your support! Some of the questions answered in this episode include: - What is a triangle or triangulation? - How do I set a good boundary? - How do I manage my own suffering when other people have it worse? - Why is it so easy for me to end a friendship that shak...
Feb 20, 2021•50 min
In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches her cousin, Tyler, and addresses the question “How do I overcome resentment that I didn't explore options other than motherhood?” Tyler shares her experience growing up in a religious and familial culture that idealized motherhood. Painting a romanticized picture of motherhood as the path to bliss, the cure to loneliness and suffering, and the only path to a purposeful life, is doing young women a great disservice. As mothers, we need to include ourselves...
Feb 16, 2021•30 min
