Talking with returning champion KJ Dell'Antonia is always a pleasure, and this episode is maybe my favorite conversation with her yet! KJ has got a book coming out later this month, and if you're feeling the pressures of parenting, you are going to LOVE her book, How to be a Happier Parent . Like so many of my favorite conversations, this one zooms around and goes in directions that I didn't envision when we sat down to talk. And every direction offers something valuable for you to take into you...
Aug 07, 2018•1 hr 8 min
What's toughest for you about this time of year? Maybe it's your worries about how your child will handle the upcoming school year … Or maybe it's just that you can't stand the thought of the crazy schedule changes that are coming your way… Or maybe you're worrying about how to work with teachers or administrators? I'm creating a Back to School Bootcamp to directly address your toughest struggles! We'll have new Bootcamp podcast episodes all throughout August to get you the help you need, here a...
Aug 02, 2018•17 min
Welcome to Part 5 of our series on how to have good weeknights with your kids! Click here for our FREE Tame the Weeknight Chaos Guide Today we are talking about what to do when things go wrong with even the best-planned weeknight.. I've got 3 easy steps that you can use to overcome the frustrations, troubleshoot the problems that come up, and truly enjoy weeknights with your children! Watch this video for more on these steps to solve weeknight issues: Want my concise roadmap to good weeknights w...
Jul 31, 2018•37 min
Welcome to Part 4 of our series on how to have good weeknights with your kids! Click here for the FREE Tame the Weeknight Chaos Guide Today we are talking about how to say positive, weeknight after weeknight, even when you are burned out on family time.. I've got 3 easy steps that you can use to overcome the feeling of being fed up and instead truly enjoy weeknights with your children! Watch this video for more on these steps to overcome weeknight burnout: Want my concise roadmap to good weeknig...
Jul 24, 2018•42 min
Welcome to Part 3 of our Taming the Weeknight Chaos series! Click here for the FREE Tame the Weeknight Chaos Guide, including Video & Checklist Today we are talking about how to start weeknights off right. I've got 3 easy steps that you can use to get a peaceful and enjoyable start to this very evening! Want my complete, free Guide to Taming Weeknight chaos , which includes a 6-point checklist and a video? Get the guide – and also watch the video module I made to accompany this episode – at:...
Jul 17, 2018•37 min
Welcome to Part 2 of our Taming the Weeknight Chaos series! Today we address a huge challenge in every parent's efforts to create enjoyable, smooth family weeknights: there's just not enough time to get everything done. In fact today is a troubleshooting episode, because we tackle that problem – and also the "I'm always the bad cop" problem that comes up for tons of parents! You'll find this episode really helpful if weeknight chaos is a problem for you. Go to weturnedoutokay.com/233 for: A vide...
Jul 10, 2018•47 min
Today is the start of a new series here at We Turned Out okay! It's all about taming the chaotic and crazy weeknights that so many of us experience in raising kids. We start by investigating: WHY are weeknights so tough? For us parents, evenings – especially weeknights – are a constant slog. I want to make this series tailored exactly to your needs, and in order to do that I need you to respond to the poll I've got going on this very topic! Go to the We Turned Out Okay Facebook page to take the ...
Jul 03, 2018•30 min
Today we're talking about safety – just simple safety. I've got three unconventional ways to help you ensure that your child is safe, in a variety of situations and from the time that they are very small… For notes on the three ways I share this episode to keep your child safe, and also for every podcast back episode, Go to weturnedoutokay.com/231 And for podcast extras you will LOVE go to patreon.com/weturnedoutokay ... Thank you so much for listening! How to share about today's show As always,...
Jun 26, 2018•43 min
I'm so happy to share this wonderful conversation with Charlie Hoehn, dad, podcaster, person who helps people publish books, and (most important for our conversation today) author. Charlie's book, Play It Away , shares his experience with soul-sucking anxiety, and the simple cure he found. The thing about this cure is, it's something humans all do naturally, and it's as important to us as sleep. But yet we often grow up and forget how important it is; the lack of this crucial element in Charlie'...
Jun 19, 2018•1 hr 8 min
I'm so excited to bring you this week's show, all about timeouts! Also: I announce the name of the parenting book I'm working on right now! And I share some exciting news: the introduction to this book is available for you to read, for free, at Patreon.com/weturnedoutokay ! This week's Magic Words for Parents video shares a quick phrase you can use to stop your child's begging and whining in stores like Target or food shopping. Watch by clicking here to join the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group...
Jun 12, 2018•43 min
Special thanks to: Nancy, Diane, Ben, and Max, each of whom became patrons of the show in Patreon this week! They're getting helpful stuff like access to my Patron-only feed, Extra Magic Words for Parents videos, and early access to chapters of parenting books I'm working on right now - plus I'm saying thanks to them in today's episode! Get GREAT extras and a shout-out in next week's We Turned Out Okay episode ! Go to: Patreon.com/weturnedoutokay Speaking of books! This week I'm sharing about fo...
Jun 05, 2018•44 min
For a long time, the podcast was the tool. Then I wrote Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics – and we had 2 tools. And now, a little more than three years in, we've got a multitude of tools for parenting and happy family time ... Today's episode is a discussion of some of the best tools, a description of how parents are changing their families' lives by utilizing these tools , and a roadmap so that you know where to find the exact We Turned Out Okay tools you need! This episode came up because, at ...
Jun 02, 2018•32 min
Picture this: you're in the car, in a parking lot, with your screaming three-year-old and six-month-old. You're on a call with work, and you've got the call muted so that you can hear what's going on – but your coworkers can't hear the car chaos. Until one of your coworkers says "Shannon, what do you think?" – and you know that as soon as you unmute the call everyone on it will hear the screaming. What do you do? If you are today's guest, you learn from this situation… and you take that learning...
May 29, 2018•1 hr 4 min
This episode, we focus on a serious issue. It's one you may have been wondering about, but not known what to do about – or even if it was a big deal at all: Does tablet or smartphone use contribute to a child's behavior problems? We live in this world, which is absolutely filled with tech. The tech doesn't appear to be going anywhere fast… So what's the answer? Does tablet use contribute to behavior problems? Listen to today's episode to find out! For notes on this episode including: - Three way...
May 22, 2018•33 min
Maybe you have said to yourself, when you're watching a parent fail miserably to bring a recalcitrant child under control, "that will NEVER be me. I pride myself on order and discipline in my house!" Or, maybe you've heard snide comments from teachers or relatives about your child "ruling the roost," and it's frustrating because you don't want to be a disciplinarian. That's not why you had kids, to order them around! So, which is it? Do you need to be firm? Or do you need to be flexible? Listen ...
May 15, 2018•28 min
To us grown-ups, summer can mean headaches caused by heat and humidity, too much time spent in air-conditioning, and unwelcome changes in routine. Also, the endless application of sunscreen on our littles. But to kids, just being outside can be a revelation . There's birdsong, and water, and dirt… Summer is a great time for reconnecting with your child, for truly listening to him or her - for deep, true bonding with this little person you are bringing up. Does that seem daunting? If you're not s...
May 08, 2018•47 min
As you probably did, I got spanked as a kid. But, probably unlike you, I became an early childhood educator and lesson one was "we never, EVER spank a child." Still, it's tempting, especially if it means stopping a behavior that you cannot stand for one more minute. So, is it ever okay to spank your child? Do you ever do it? Today – on We Turned Out Okay's THIRD birthday! – we dig into why parents spank kids, the lessons a child learns from being spanked, and what other options we parents have. ...
May 01, 2018•16 min
Lots of us parents are pretty freaked out by the thought of money, finances, and all the stuff we don't understand about it. Ben (my husband and the producer of our show) and I have spent the last year or so confronting our concerns about money, really looking our finances squarely in the face and conquering our fears… Through this process, we have become more of a team than we were before! Our goals are aligned, each understands the other's priorities better than ever, and we work closely toget...
Apr 22, 2018•41 min
Today's conversation is super special, because it's with our personal financial planner, Steven Taylor – the man who has helped Ben and I align our goals and begin truly working together to achieve our dreams. Like many of the best conversations, ours doesn't stick strictly to the subject at hand. It starts off with sports and quickly develops into a meaningful conversation about parenting (Steven is Dad to 3-and 2-year-old boys).… And soon, it's a full-blown exploration of the best money mindse...
Apr 17, 2018•1 hr 2 min
If we're being honest, who among us has NOT bribed a kid? (Listen to this episode to hear about how we potty trained our youngest… using entire donuts as bribes.) But is there a better way? Something we could do to change our child's behavior from bad to good? Something that would stop us feeling like we're being emotionally blackmailed by our kids? Listen to today's episode to understand exactly WHY we parents resort to bribery – when it's most likely to happen – and for 3 things we can do inst...
Apr 10, 2018•29 min
Working with parents of young children, one phrase comes up again and again – one really dangerous phrase. It's dangerous because it perpetuates bad behavior from our kids , which none of us want… Yet, it is really hard not to use it. You probably use this phrase yourself; I know I have. Today I share: – Exactly what the two most dangerous words in a parent's vocabulary are – Why these words get used so often – What you can say instead for good behavior from your child Today's episode helps you ...
Apr 03, 2018•27 min
Did you ever wish that you could find just the right book to help your child understand some large issue that you're just not sure how to talk about? Then today's episode is for you – my guest Ashia Ray runs booksforlittles.com , a website dedicated to helping parents find great books, on every subject. Listen to find out: – How to use books to make your parenting life easier and better – When a book is "age-appropriate" – Why boring books are dangerous Read about Ashia's two most important take...
Mar 27, 2018•1 hr 12 min
We live in a complicated world, financially speaking, which can seem completely shrouded in mystery to us parents – never mind the kids! What with credit cards, bitcoin, Apple pay, swiping, tapping, and sliding, the value of an actual dollar can get com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe...
Mar 20, 2018•27 min
I'm sure you've heard that it costs tons of money to raise a child to the age of eighteen – $233,610 in 2015, according to the Money/CNN report I read in preparing for this episode. If that number has you freaked out, you are not alone! But is it really accurate? That's the question we are looking into today. Go to weturnedoutokay.com/216 for key links and the most adorable picture of one of my children; the outfit he's wearing in the photo comes up today. Thanks for listening! This is a public ...
Mar 13, 2018•1 hr
BOOK GIVEAWAY: today's guest, Raeshal Solomon of mylittlebanker.com , has graciously offered to give one lucky listener a set of her books that teach financial literacy to little kids! Listen to today's episode to find out how to enter the giveaway : ) Raeshal Solomon comes by her knowledge of how to get out of debt honestly – she's worked hard to rid herself of nearly all her $400,000 debt, while raising two young boys AND living with sickle-cell anemia. She tells us exactly how she accomplishe...
Mar 06, 2018•56 min
"I HATE to yell at you… But you make me do it. It's your fault." Recently, I spoke with a mom who said that she tells her kids this all the time. Do you ever feel like this, when your child is giving you crazy attitude ? Or when your child is whining, or picks a fight with a sibling over absolutely nothing at all? In short, do you ever feel like you cannot take your child's bad, embarrassing behavior for one more second ? If so, today's episode gives you a ninja tactic that will completely chang...
Feb 27, 2018•35 min
Are the frightening and persistent questions of life weighing on you right now? Today I share the story of my own frightening and persistent question, a real biggie which brought with it a lot of parental guilt – but yet this question simply wouldn't leave me alone… Today I share how I successfully addressed it, and I introduce a minicourse that can help you address it, too. This minicourse is all ready for you over at weturnedoutokay.com ! It's called The Three Secrets of Happy Parenting, and t...
Feb 20, 2018•30 min
So, I got totally sick with bronchitis! I am thankfully on the mend, but I haven't had a voice suitable for radio at all… Which means I'm extra-happy to bring you this great conversation, a listener favorite from 2017. Early childhood education professors Lisa Daly and Miriam Beloglovsky are in the midst of writing a series of books called Loose Parts , extremely practical books about structuring a kid's environment to eliminate lots of problems, including temper tantrums! But, I bet that's not ...
Feb 13, 2018•58 min
"I am terrified to stop doing mostly everything and accept help for fear that if I do, my family will resent me." – 2017 Free Friendly Mirror Challenge Participant Hello my friend, how are you today? If you're feeling at all like this long-time listener, today's quickie bonus episode shares all about something that will help! It's my FREE, 5-Day Friendly Mirror Challenge, in which we are working to smile (instead of cringe) when we look in the mirror. There's a quick little win for you each day ...
Feb 08, 2018•12 min
Today we've got help for you, if you're feeling extremely cooped up in these dark months of the year (for the northern hemisphere, anyway)! I went to the members of the Ninja Parenting Community and the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group to find out how they beat the winter blahs… This episode is a compendium of their best ideas! Thank you everyone who contributed, there were some new ones in here that even I didn't know about : ) Key links – including the sign-up for the upcoming FREE Friendly M...
Feb 06, 2018•30 min
