I am struggling with something, and it would mean so much to me to hear from you about it… I hope you'll answer me just one question, which I ask in this episode. You can answer my question in 2 ways: Click weturnedoutokay.com/contact and respond right on my contact page; or Email me directly– I share my email address in this episode Thank you SO much! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/su...
Feb 15, 2019•8 min
What difference, you might be wondering, can it possibly make to my kids if I have good relationships with other grown-ups? Actually, it matters quite a bit. In this installment of the Raising Successful Kids series we talk about the impact of our relationships, including with our spouses and life-partners, on the eventual fulfillment and happiness of our children. Join us! Go to weturnedoutokay.com/265 for: A cheat sheet on the ideas in this episode Key links from our conversation, including th...
Feb 12, 2019•53 min
I know it's difficult to imagine your child as a teen or young adult. But it will happen, and sooner than you think. If you just can't imagine it – if it even makes you a little frightened to think of – today's guest will inspire hope and excitement in you (he did for me : ) Today I'm excited to share a conversation with a guy who works with teenagers to help them achieve their goals, Blake Boles of the Off Trail Learning Podcast, UnschoolAdventures.com , and author of three excellent books for ...
Feb 05, 2019•1 hr 19 min
Welcome to another episode on how to make it so our kids grow up into successful, fulfilled, happy adults! In today's installment, we consider whether it's important that we parents work outside the home. And we end up considering an even bigger, more mind-blowing question: how do we even define success and fulfillment? Go to weturnedoutokay.com/262 for: A cheat sheet on the 3 practicalities of raising successful kids Key links that come up in this episode, including to a show that Ben and I are...
Jan 29, 2019•58 min
How can I stop my child from being so impulsive? How can I stop her from hurting others with her bad behavior? How can I stop him from alienating people because he's hitting, or spitting, or worse? Sometimes it is scary how much anger and frustration our little kids have inside. And when it erupts, we can feel so powerless. This week's We Turned Out Okay podcast episode guest, Maureen Healy, has written a book called The Emotionally Healthy Child , to help us deal with these aspects of our young...
Jan 22, 2019•1 hr 6 min
So, I never actually use the word toxic in the whole episode… instead of that, I talk about balloon-poppers. A much more fun name, I'm sure you'll agree! In this episode I share four ways that you can protect yourself against toxic people, a.k.a. balloon-poppers. Which is really important, not just for your health, but for your child's as well. In this early part of the year, where we have more of a chance to think on introspective things, I hope this episode helps you feel happier inside! Bonus...
Jan 15, 2019•57 min
This episode starts off as a review of my 2018 goals, and how I did with them. But then it takes a dramatic turn: I actually had to record the second half of the show more than once. Why? Because when I recorded the first time, I didn't have clarity. So I renamed the episode, and re-recorded the second half, and now I hope it is much more helpful than the first version would've been! Go to weturnedoutokay.com/259 for: A breakdown of the goals I had for 2018, and how I did with them A look ahead ...
Jan 08, 2019•1 hr 10 min
Happy new year!! As you climb out from underneath tinsel, and excess, and cranky kiddos, I wanted to share some success stories. I hope to inspire you, right at the beginning of the year, by giving you some stories where things, well, turned out okay, to use the pun that I always swore I would never use (and have indeed not used until this very moment : ) So, today's is a re-broadcasted conversation, originally recorded way back in 2016, in which I spoke to dad and educator Erik Wagter. Erik's s...
Jan 01, 2019•1 hr 19 min
Let's just say it: at this time of year, we don't always get the best behavior from our kids. They're overstimulated. They're out of routine. In many end-of-year traditions they are being showered with gifts. This can make them forget that life is about so much more than receiving presents from everybody who walks through the door (or whose door they walk through.) So, today I wanted to help you deal with the gimmes! Listen for three ways to gently help your child step away from the gifts. Go to...
Dec 25, 2018•36 min
When a coaching client of mine recently posted an article by today's guest in our Ninja Parenting Community forums, I was introduced to one of the great positive parenting forces of our time: Dr. Laura Markham. As soon as I visited her Aha Parenting website, and read some of the advice Dr. Laura shares, I knew you needed to be introduced to her too! Today our conversation gets into vulnerability, trust, and resiliency. Dr. Laura helps us really enjoy our lives, and our kids. I hope our conversat...
Dec 19, 2018•59 min
I feel your pain about getting kids to do chores. They whine, and complain, and with enough of that, we begin to ask ourselves "is this really necessary? I could have already had this done myself, and saved us all this trouble." But if kids don't do chores, what happens? Are they any more or less likely to have a successful, fulfilled, happy life? Today we dive into this topic. We explore the right chore mindset, and three practical steps you can take, regarding chores and your child. Go to wetu...
Dec 18, 2018•42 min
HEADS UP: At the top of the show, we say we're going to tell you if we go into PG-13 territory. In the second half of this episode, I share about being sexually abused at age 7. You may want to listen away from your littles, or with headphones. "Is it shyness or bad manners?" When a member of our private coaching community asked this question during a live members-only call recently, I knew I needed to get you a show about handling stranger anxiety. We've got 12 ways for you to handle your child...
Dec 04, 2018•54 min
Today I share how the stress I was under 7 1/2 years ago resulted in a lifelong tendon disorder. I was so busy running our household and putting everyone else first, I did not pay attention to my health. I really want you to learn from my mistake. Today's show focuses on how our stress isn't just bad for us. It's bad for our kids, too. We also dig into the stresses of "intensive" parenting (a.k.a. helicopter or lawnmower parenting). And as you'll see, that form of parenting stresses everybody ou...
Nov 27, 2018•52 min
Thanksgiving is supposed to be fun, right? It's time with family, one last deep breath before December's insanity. But when our kids were small I used to worry. It's such a big meal. It takes such preparations. And it goes on for such a long time… How could I keep my boys quiet and happy on this day? Then, there were the issues of stranger anxiety, and of small kids in a crowded space, with lots of treasured knickknacks and plants for them to hurt or break "on accident"… How could I give them a ...
Nov 21, 2018•42 min
I did a happy dance a few weeks ago when I read that American Academy of Pediatrics has revised its guidelines on spanking and corporal punishment. This 67,000-doctor organization is coming out strongly against spanking, humiliating, and frightening children as discipline. Today I'm rebroadcasting my conversation with former AAP president, Dr. Benard Dreyer. Dr. Dreyer gave such wonderful advice for parents as we raise our kids, and to my surprise it's been more than 2 years since this interview...
Nov 20, 2018•1 hr 13 min
"What's a reasonable consequence for when I ask my young child to stop running away, and he doesn't stop, at the park?" This is the gist of a recent question from one mom in our We Turned Out Okay Facebook group. I shared what I think is a pretty good answer… and then other parents in the group shared their ideas. These ideas were so great – and so different from mine – that I knew I needed to talk about this issue on the podcast. So, hope you enjoy this episode, dedicated to helping you set lim...
Nov 13, 2018•43 min
The term "parenting style" feels so nebulous. But what if your parenting style – what you do in day-to-day interactions with your young child – makes it harder for you to connect, to be happy as you raise your family? What if it affected, not just your young one's childhood, but their whole life? Framed like that, the parenting style we bring isn't so much nebulous, as important. Key, even. Today's episode digs into the 3 different parenting styles, how they affect your child's life, and yours. ...
Nov 06, 2018•1 hr 5 min
Do you sometimes feel like you are raising your family in mighty frightening times? So do I. That's why, when I learned about the thing of beauty this week's guest created to combat fear, I knew I had to bring her on the show! Mom, quilter, poet, and personal friend Cathleen Dinsmore recently created an amazing quilt-and-poem combination. The quilt is breathtaking – and, combined with the poem, fosters conversation around fear, and hope, and justice. At weturnedoutokay.com you can view Cathleen'...
Oct 30, 2018•1 hr 26 min
I am SO excited to bring you today's show! I have good friend and colleague, Tricia Tomaso, a veteran preschool teacher and holder of a master's degree in special education. Recently, Tricia helped me figure out the right mindset and steps parents can take while potty training – her amazing ideas come up in my Successful Potty Training Under Pressure course , in fact – and she has graciously agreed to come on the show and answer YOUR questions. So! Today we take questions on: – What to do if you...
Oct 23, 2018•1 hr 48 min
Today's show dives into something difficult to imagine, when your kids are so young and your focus is on stuff like temper tantrums, sibling fights, and picky eaters. We can wonder, what miracle will occur, just in the next decade or so, to change my kid from being so young and helpless, to someone who can lead a successful, fulfilled, and happy life? Today, I'm beginning a deep dive into the idea of raising successful and fulfilled kids. The idea was born years ago, when friends would lament th...
Oct 16, 2018•53 min
Diane Hessan always knew she wanted to work full-time, while raising her daughters. Today she shares what that was really like, and how her life's work prepared her to fulfill a super important role in today's frightening and demoralizing political climate. Nowadays, Diane speaks daily with 500 American voters. These are people from every area of the country, every walk of life, every creed, every color. And as she connects with them Diane is learning important lessons that she takes into her ow...
Oct 09, 2018•1 hr 16 min
When should you start potty training your child? [caption id="attachment_1787" align="alignleft" width="150"] Don't you wish your kid looked this happy sitting on a potty?[/caption] How should you potty train your child? I've done some research on these two questions, and let me tell you, they are asked really often in Google. Is this on your mind? Or, are you already trying to potty train, but hitting serious roadblocks? Then, today's episode is for you! In it I share 3 ways to know if your chi...
Oct 02, 2018•46 min
Recently one of the moms in my parent coaching community wrote in to share that her 4-year-old sons were about to start school… in a preschool-through-12th-grade school where corporal punishment is used. "I can't imagine [my boys] doing anything that would warrant a paddling, but I could not make myself check that box saying it was okay," she wrote in our forums. She then shared that, if parents check the "no, don't spank my kid" box, children are exposed to other punishments such as a 3-day sus...
Sep 25, 2018•1 hr 5 min
You'll love today's conversation if you look at your little kids and can't imagine how they could possibly become functioning – never mind happy or successful – adults. Dad and author Jonathan Greene shares wisdom, and great stories, with us today! Our conversation is all about how Jonathan went from being a latchkey kid – who was routinely mugged, and didn't let it bother him – to a hovering father of young children. Today he's a dad of teens who's formed really great bonds with his son and dau...
Sep 18, 2018•1 hr 17 min
"Today my 2.5-year-old and his Dad were in a car accident… This happened around 1 PM today and my son has been talking about it and asking questions all evening. I'm trying to answer in simple clear terms but I feel over my head. It feels like a punch in the gut every time it comes up again ." So wrote one of our Ninja Parenting Community members over the summer. Scary stuff! Helping her process her young child's trauma, and helping her through her own, has been a real focus of mine ever since. ...
Sep 11, 2018•41 min
"[My husband and I, and our little daughter] are rushing out the door and late to work most mornings. I'm looking forward to participating in the challenge to figure out how to get to work on time!" "With kindergarten I feel like I'm about to toss [my daughter] to the wolves. I'm worried I will have to practically push her through the door. How can I help her overcome her fear and her habitual morning anxiety?" Do you, like these listeners, struggle with chaotic mornings? If so sign up here for ...
Sep 06, 2018•7 min
To wrap up our Back-to-School Bootcamp series we take a look today at milestones, guidelines, and goals in our kids' education. How important is it to have a 20,000-foot view of a young child's life? What kind of goals should you set, and what kind of milestones should you look for? That's what today's episode is all about. Go to weturnedoutokay.com/241 for notes to this episode... Sign up for the upcoming Streamline Your Mornings challenge by clicking here: weturnedoutokay.com/streamline ! And ...
Sep 04, 2018•51 min
Glad you are here for Module 3 of our Back-to-School Bootcamp! Today we follow up on last week's discussion of what to do about school or childcare problems, so listen back to that one if you're wondering "how do I handle THIS?" Many of us wonder "what is my role in my child's education, how can I best help?" I've got three crucial actions you must take so your child can thrive! Go to weturnedoutokay.com/240 for more on these 3 steps, help getting your child to love reading , and links to back e...
Aug 28, 2018•41 min
Glad you are here for Module 2 of our Back-to-School Boot camp! Today we follow up on last week's determination of readiness, so listen back to that one if you're wondering "is my child ready for this?" Problems can crop up whether your child is "ready" for this step or not, so I've got three crucial steps you need to take to handle challenges! Go to weturnedoutokay.com/239 for more on these 3 steps, help getting your child to love reading , and links to back episodes of everything… And thank yo...
Aug 21, 2018•43 min
We've got a great August coming up for you, a whole series of new episodes on overcoming the perils of back-to-school! Starting with today's episode, in which I share three ways to know if your child is ready – for preschool, for kindergarten, for first or second grade, for relocating to a new school… You name it and we cover it in this episode. If, after you listen, you're thinking "maybe my kid ISN'T ready for this…" Hang onto your hats for next week. That is when we will discuss what to do if...
Aug 14, 2018•45 min
