Jennie Garth

Welcome, welcome, welcome to Armchair Expert. I'm Dak Shepherd, I'm joined by Monica Padman. Today we have, boy, we were just saying in the fact check, if you'd have told me in ninety five this day was gonna happen, I just wouldn't have believed you. For a bleak. Jenny Garth. Martin graduates. She's not Donna Martin, of course, but yes. We love Donna and Donna Martin graduates. Yeah. Um Jenny Garth is an actor, a cultural icon, and an advocate. Uh Beverly Hills nine oh two one oh. Oh.

And and we'll get into it in the episode, but you if you're if you're listening and you're you're under thirty, you don't know how big this show is. You can't there is no show as big as this show is currently to compare it to. Wild. Also 90210, uh What I Like About You, A Kind Hearted Christmas. And she has a memoir that we are going to talk about. Extensively called I Choose Me. She's got a life, man.

That's a line from an episode of Beverly Hills. Remember there's a love triangle between her and Dylan and she chose her. Please enjoy Jenny Garth. Thank you to our presenting sponsor, HP, for supporting this episode. Their HP Smart Tank printer is the last printer you'll ever need. Oh. Here we go, Monica. With a refillable ink tank and up to three years of ink included, so you get thousands of pages of cartridge-free printing. Hallelujah. To learn more, search for HP Smart Tank.

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Well but my husband really wants to go there, so I think maybe It's okay, they have great salads. So she's... You wouldn't think it, but the sushi's outrageous. So good. At Houston's? Yeah. You'll be Right, you're giggling. It's counterintuitive. Yeah, don't need sushi either, but I'm sure I can't. You're gonna find something, you're gonna love it. How strict are you on your vegetarianism? Because I go with

two of my friends and one of them's a vegetarian, we would always get the spinach artichoke dip. She could have that. And it's the best thing on the planet. And then one day she came and she said, I think there's chicken stock in this. And then she asked and there was and now she can't eat it. Exactly. It really stinks when you find foods that you love so much and you're like, wait, this has some hidden dairy in it. So stock we don't mess with. We draw the line.

I don't eat hardly anything, you guys. You're done you're post eating. I'm done with it. Yeah. Like, I'm over. From it. Yeah, that's too much fun. A lot of energy. I've never been a foodie, so that's helpful. Are you vegetarian or vegan? Vegan. Oh my god, all the way. Definitely. If you're gonna do something, do it. How long have you been doing it? On and off for years and years, but I went off of it when I had kids. So I was eating for them, eating chicken and stuff.

That was Kristen's first meat. She was pregnant and she s called me, I was at the restaurant and she said, Order me the bison meatloaf sandwich. I was like, You haven't eaten meat in thirty two years She goes, Delta wants a bison meatloaf sandwich. You gotta give them what they want. I wanted chicken McNuggets. Out of health or concern for animals?

I grew up on a farm in Illinois where my dad would kill our pigs for the dinner table. I just never loved that, but I ate pork chops because I was told to. And then I just got to the place where I'm like, nobody's telling me what to eat anymore. So when I was away from the home, I would eat Lucky Charms and Taco Bell constantly. Cause then I was just like, woo-hoo, freedom from my mom who

Only let us eat healthy things. Now just as an adult, I feel like at this phase in my life, I just want to take the best possible care I can of myself. I'm so scared of dying. So when you have sudden loss around you, unexpected out of nowhere loss. It just happened again this last week. You really go, Whoa, okay. Priorities, I wanna take the best care of myself. I can. And I love it. I love feeling clean and healthy and waking up clear.

Yeah, yeah. Okay, back to Illinois. Yeah, you're on like a twenty five acre farm. You're the youngest of seven. Yeah. But you're the only child of your dad and your mom. was very Brady Bunch. And then I was like Oliver. He wasn't even theirs. But yeah, I was the only one by both my parents. So I was the baby. What was the relationship with the siblings? They love their new dad so much, my father, and they were very happy. They were excited to have a little baby. Okay, good.

I was everybody's little baby. The oldest one was what, twenty some years older than you or something? Yeah. And dad didn't have custody of those six kids, or did he? He had his own children. He had two sons and a daughter. And he ended up adopting my mom's kids. I got it. So your mom had kids as well. It was a true Brady Bond. She had three girls and he had two sons and a girl. So you had a mix of step. No, they're all half, but two different sets. Well, this is some permutation. Bye.

You guys move when you're thirteen or something to Arizona to Glendale. What prompted that move? The weather in Illinois is really harsh, very hard winters. And my father had developed heart disease, cardiovascular disease. So they determined that that was too hard on his heart, the cold weather, and he liked to work outside and it was just too much for him. What do you do for a living?

He was an educator. Both my parents were teachers. He taught adult education. He actually started adult education in the state of Illinois in the 70s. And he loved what he did. He loved teaching adults who had never had the opportunity or the privilege of learning how to read. People like getting their G D, is that what that is? There are people that just want to learn how to read. Well, not even any necessary goal in mind. No, I just think to have a better life.

So when you guys moved to Arizona, did they both get jobs as teachers in Arizona? No. My mom had done Shackly. Have you ever heard of that? It's very long. Um vitamins. Yes, yeah. Yeah, yeah. It's a multi level marketing. She got so good at it that she ended up getting a pink Cadillac from the company. Well they also do a Isn't that weird? They were like, It works at Mary Kay. Don't fuck with it.

Don't need to reinvent that. Oh my god. But she left that and then she started another MLM in Arizona. I don't remember what that one was. So is your garage just filled with items? That's what we learn about people in MLMs. Their garage is just like filled with the vitamins or the drinks. My mom had a whole stock room. I love to organize things from a very young age. So I would go in there and organize all the vitamins and the packets and the soup packets and the shake packets.

Yeah. Those vitamins have a distinct smell. Yeah, someone of course got my parents in their target. We own Shac I don't think anyone ever took'em. But when I would just open the cabinet where the Shackles were, it's like I was hit with this mineral smell. Distinct. Fragrant. Especially the soup. Oh, so is it Shackly making the soup as well? Powdered soup. I actually liked it. That was good. What flavor? It was like cream of chicken or something. Oh wow, powder.

I don't think that's an intuitive extension of products. Like to make vitamins and go to soup. Maybe a shampoo and conditioner that had vitamins in it. Well maybe the soup had the vitamins crushed up. Maybe. Had to have been good for you. I'd had to. And was she making money?'Cause we've had an MLM expert on and the percentage of people who actually make money is very, very, very small. But was she crushing? Was she making a lot of money?

Yeah, she was making enough money. I don't think a lot of money was ever made, but she loved doing it. It made her feel alive and she's really great with people. So she loved it. When you move to Arizona, he's not taking a teaching job there.

At that point, yes, because he had had a massive heart attack, which prompted us to leave Illinois. So for a while she was taking care of supporting him and me. The other girls were already out of the house. She's a hustler, so she did what she had to do for sure. When do you start dancing and entering pageants?

That must have been my eighth grade or my freshman year. There was like a little dance studio on our corner. Well, we forgot about this. Okay. My mom and dad got separated. I never really understood it because I was so mad about it. But he moved up to Prescott, Arizona. I don't like how they pronounce that. Prescott. They say Prescott, but it's spelled Prescott. But they say Prescott. Presque it like it's a biscuit now. I didn't never like it either.

He went up to Prescott, had his little farm up there, and was living a quiet life. He didn't like the city. You don't wouldn't have any sense of what prompted that. I really stayed out of their relationship and I had a room upstairs. I try to stay away from it. I don't like to get into other people's business unnecessarily. Okay. Were they fighting? I never really saw them fight. No.

I'm so curious. Something can't be going on, and I don't know what it is. Like, I have to know what's going on. And if dad left, I'd say to mom, like, what just happened? I think I was a teenager. Like I was pretty self absorbed in my own world, in my own head a lot. Maybe it's a self-protective mechanism too, because if you find out, maybe the answer is something you really don't want to know. And maybe you knew that on some level, like I don't really wanna know.

I think so. And I was upset at my mom. But then I would go spend time with my dad up in Prescott and I'd be so bored. Yeah. So this makes a little more sense because when I learned that you and mom moved to LA at 16. Something precedes that. You're at a pageant and you meet a manager and this again, and you say it in the book. By most accounts, this is a dicey scenario, right? So explain what happens at the pageant. I was like fifteen.

And I was in a pageant, like a one time deal. I thought it was for a dance scholarship so I could go to college and become a dance teacher or dancer. Turns out it wasn't that good. But I did dance as my talent in that show. And it was in like Laughlin, Nevada or something. He was one of the judges. Somebody had called in a favor to him and said, Can you come be a judge for me? I ha can't do it. He lived in New York City. He was the head of casting. So he said to his wife, Yeah, let's go do it.

for my friend and we'll have a trip out of it. So he had brought his wife, which made it a little less weird. Yeah. But he did come up to us. His name's Randy. Oh, Randy. Randy James, and we call him Mr. Showbiz, but he's a legend. I've been with him ever since, since I was 15 years old. It's crazy. And he says, I think you could be in show biz. But there's a middle-aged man. A fifteen year old girl in a pageant, I think you'd be in showbiz like alarm bells are normally going on.

Sure, sure. My mom was right there with me and his wife was right there with it. It was actually her, Kelly's idea for him to approach me. Because he was in casting. Like he was always looking for the next thing. I have a question. If you're the baby of the family and you're blonde and cute, and then you go into pageant. Do you start sensing your value is your cuteness? And what does that do? If you've explored that, to be the object of such affection.

in that way and to be kinda getting told your values this cuteness. How does that set your own An identity. It does affect it for sure. Once I moved to Hollywood and started becoming a success so young, that's when I really started to recognize it and have a lot of thoughts in my head about it. I think every kid should get adored. And I also think you can be too adored. I think it can be dangerous to get too adored. It is. I don't like being adored.

And also I can imagine like once the family adoration stops, it's like there's this big hole that you've only been formatted for that. You now need that. Right. I needed to go seek it from boys. I wanted to get it from girls that never really worked out in junior high and high school. So I was just isolated and would really just Right out of the gates. Freshman year. He was a senior. No, no, middle school, junior high. No, well I did kiss Ray Padilla. Congratulations. Yeah, yeah. Good forever.

Was he your age or was he older? He was older, much older, and he was 28. Yeah, that's fun. But then yeah, you're in a loop of getting validation. You know that's where you can get a quick hit. Yeah. Seek that, I guess. Of course. As much as you hate it, it's this weird dichotomy because that's what you think you're worth is. Like you go to that like a heat seeking missile, but at the same time it repulses you.

You want to be appreciated and adored for other qualities, but that's not what's being offered. We all want what we don't know. We don't have. Gas is always green. But I will say the thing that was rewarded to me, I'm a little bit more in control of it, right? Like I can generate.

Comedy. Funny. Yeah. And comedy doesn't have a shelf, although it does a little bit. In general, I can pursue that. So it's interesting. The thing I wanted, I guess I'm probably more grateful that the only thing I got really applauded for was being clever. Yeah, I would have rather be applauded for being clever. I wish I was just hot. Same.

I didn't know what I was other than that. I did okay in school, so I wasn't like the smart one, but I was just the baby and the cute one and the one that everybody wanted to like take care of. Right. You know, when you're trying to figure out who you are as a young teen, that starts to really happen, I think. I didn't get a sense of who I was outside of that.

But then this career path presents itself, which is perfect. You've kind of been hand built for you to be good at this thing. So he says this, you could have a future to your credit, you take it serious, you start taking acting classes.

I don't know why. I had never wanted to be an actress. I never thought, oh, I want to be famous. I didn't play in theater at all. I didn't know anything about it. But I guess I just saw it as an opportunity. And anytime I've ever seen an opportunity in my life, I go for it.

And do my best. I have a very strong work ethic from my parents and growing up on a farm like that. So I just really throw myself into something. And my mom was supportive and said, thought, well, that could be interesting and fun. Let's do it. And she moved out here with me. That explained the separation's not in the book and I'm like, how did dad handle that mom's moving to LA?

They did a lot of back and forth. They were separated, but then he was unwell again, so she moved back to be with him and take care of him. Okay, so you get to LA. Is it exciting or terrifying? I didn't know enough to be terrified, honestly. I'm from a farm in Illinois and I lived in Phoenix for a couple of years, but I didn't know what I was getting into on any level. I had posters of Madonna in my bedroom when I was little and Michael Jackson and Mary Lou Retton.

She was the queen. Yeah. Remember her McDonald's commercial? She was in a corvette. Yeah. I am. I didn't really know about fame or acting or the whole world of an actress or an actor. I just jumped in. And pretty quickly you were on growing pains before you were eighteen, right? I think that was my first or second child? Did you interface with Kurt Cameron?

I did in a very odd way. I was a girl in a car next to him in his car and with his buddies. I had one line in the whole show. Well, it was actually three words. Sticky, sticky, sticky. No idea why. That was my line. Mm. Also what a blessing as far as the first line you gotta memorize. One word you gotta memorize. But if you Times or two times? Three gold.

Uh yeah. So that was my first and then I did a Barbara Eden show where I played her daughter, which I was beside myself with excitement because she was genie, you know? I grew up watching her on I Dream of Jeannie. So I would imagine you're drawn to like matriarchs. Your mom's a breadwinner, then you meet this woman, she's a star of her own shows, she's had this other success. I'd imagine it's appealing to see women being self-sufficient.

Yeah, I was so inspired by my mom and her. They made life happen. Back to Kirk Cameron. There wasn't a girl in America that didn't think he was cute, am I right? I don't think so. I wasn't even a fan of the show. They were rule dad the ones that It's been bad. Give it out. I wasn't like a big Kirk Cameron fan or anything. No, I watched the Brady Bunch, Idrew McGee, Gilligan's Island. Green anchors. Green Acres, Beverly Hillbillies. Yeah, great program. My god.

Also have no clue when those originally aired'cause when we were watching them they were reruns in the daytime when you stayed home from school. I didn't know if they came from the thirties or the sixties or the forties. No idea. We probably should look that way. Hillbillies. It was in black and white. Uh huh. When the fuck was that show made?'Cause I was watching it in eighty two. In the seventies. I think the Brady Bunch was probably seventies. At least stylistically it's a Turn the colour.

Full seventies, orange everything, shag carpet, the haircuts, the fucking bell bottoms. But these other like a farm show, I you can't set it with the style, the Beverly Hillbillies, everyone's dressed in tuxedos or silly hillbilly clothes. Yeah. Grapes of wrath clothes. Bewitched. That was probably the fifties, right? sixties Darren looked very sixties mod. Right. Very ma uh, what's that show nowadays? Oh madman. Bad men. Thank you.

Also, weirdly, you did a show that Jason Priestley was on before nine oh two and oh. What was that? We met on a set called Teen Angel Returned. Oh. Say it again. Teen angel returns. He was a teen angel. Yeah he was. would come down and help people. Usually girls. Oh. Shh, shh, shh. There was barely a teen angel one. Right with key returns. Okay. Yeah. So I met him on that and we instantly fell into this great rhythm of brother sister energy. He's older than you or the similar age?

He was a little more seasoned, yeah. Yeah, I mean star of the movie. But he was just cool. He was just so nice. He's the nicest guy on earth. Well now here's where I want to back up. The book weirdly is an outgrowth of a podcast, which is weirdly outgrowth of rewatching 90210. Yeah. Explain why you didn't watch it originally.

Well, first of all, we were always working. Sixteen, eighteen hour days. You go home, you sleep, you get up at five and you come right back. Everyone was pretty much there every day. Yeah, I imagine they weren't being helpful. Like if they bring in all day. And we had no say in anything. So we would just sit around and wait in uh our little dressing rooms or our little honeywagons. And I think they wanted us together all the time. Which probably really helped the energy between us.

Help Dan Hurt, I think as we'll find out. So I never watched ご視聴ありがとうございました I would see dailies sometimes. That would be plenty for me. Like I've never been one to love sitting down until Recently, but I would just get too in my head, feel too insecure. Roger. Yes, feel like who, I don't know her, what is that? What am I doing? Am I making any choices?

So you sat down to watch it because you were gonna do a podcast, a rewatch podcast. My first curiosity is like we all have this reel in our head of what things look like and felt like from our past. And it's very, very unique to be able to like if I could go back and watch myself at eighteen, I guarantee it wouldn't match that well with what my memory has corrupted it to be now. Were you having any kind of disjointed like, oh my God, what this is not

It's weird because I yeah, I was going back and looking at my younger self, but that wasn't me. That was a character in a world that was produced, you know. It's weird to watch yes, that's me playing that character as a young girl. But also that girl had no idea who she was. It's hard for me to really identify. But when I did go back to watch the very first episode, it was really moving.

Because I had so much sympathy for that young girl. Cause I could see past the character, past the scenes, to the core of the person. You were seeing the nervousness. The nervousness, the insecurity, the fear, just all the things. How about even physically? Were you like, oh, I look different than I thought I looked at that time? I don't think so. I've had definitely a better appreciation for those years, right? So I was like, wow, look at her go. Yeah, yes.

Here's my example. I was always like, I gotta get in better shape. Right. This is constantly and then I'll see pictures of myself at like 19. I'm like, you already You always worry about oh is my butt too big or what's it my body's not Right. You can look back and say like what a waste of energy that was, but I don't think you can escape it. You have to feel all that. Like even worse you're like, Fuck I should have been enjoying What a waste of strategy. Absolutely. Opportunity.

Similarly, I watched Parenthood with my kids. I hadn't seen it in probably eight years or something or nine years. And when I watched it and they laughed the entire way through, I just cried the whole time. Oh. I just remember how much I loved Peter and May and all these people and Craig T. Nelson. I was just like, Oh my God, I got to spend like the most precious time with these people and I just was overwhelmed with what a

Sweet thing that was. And I just was so emotional for like the first three episodes. I couldn't get over. Were you having any of those swelly feelings? Definitely, because what a great group of people and we all took for granted that we got to live that life together. And also there's just this invisible string that connects us all. And two of the cast members have passed. At that point one of them had passed, I believe. No. Luke had seeing him is it heartbreaking?

Yeah, it was definitely very hard to watch. I couldn't really watch. But then I started to get really sucked in to the storyline. Oh, the plot was too... All I wanted to see was Dylan. I wanna see woo more girls. So good at it. I remember they wouldn't see me for it. I didn't have that much resume, you know. Angel. Returns out. Apparently the growing pains didn't get me in there. What was your three words? Sing, sing, sing, sing. What have you said that to? He forgot.

You would not have booked it. and they put it in. Sticky, sticky, sticky. I don't care. She's on the other side of the planet. Let's get her. No, but Mr. Shoviz, Randy, my manager, was friends with Tony. I can't remember his last name, but he was the head of spelling casting. So they were friends, you know, in business. And he called Tony and said, I heard you. You don't want to see her, but please, he was like, do this for me as a friend.

So I went in to see him in his office and then from his office we went into Mr. Spelling's office. Wow. Where there were like, I don't know, it felt like fifty men, but it was probably ten, maybe, eight probably. And did you audition in front of him? All those people. Yeah. How nerve wracking was that? Extremely Yeah. Yeah, how do you suppose you did well enough? That seems overwhelming at that stage. I don't know. I was just so distracted. There was like bowls of cigarettes out.

This is so old school. Yes, and then him and his pipe and them all just like Staring. And I don't know, I just went into some sort of beast mode and did my scene. I wonder if you disassociated a bit. Yeah, that's something I like to do a lot. It can be helpful. Yes. But I remember leaving that building with Randy. We were walking back to our car and I heard someone say, Hey Jenny and I turned around and it was Aaron hanging out the window. He went like I think I didn't fall out the window.

No, it was like a big opening too. And he's a tiny man. This is back in the day, obviously you went and did a pilot and then you gotta wait to see if it gets picked up. It sounds like you're very naive. Did you have a sense of what was coming? Did you even consider like what were the goals at the time? Like, oh I hope they order 13 so I get paycheck. I had no understanding of the workings of the business. we'll wait and seeokay cool

Was it fun making the pilot? Like what are your memories of that? fun because I just stepped into a whole new world of people my age. We were all there creating something together, which I had never really experienced, and all doing our part No, individually and it's just really cool, really inspiring. Like I thought this is a nice world to be a part of. And there were varying levels of experience between all of you. You say in the book, Jason Priestley was pretty immediately like the patriarch.

He came from Sister Kate, which was a big show back then. And Shannon had worked on Heathers. She was on Little House on the Prairie, for God's sake. So she had a lot of experience. But had you seen Heathers? I was obsessed with Heathers. I have not seen Heathers. You were on Brady Bunch still. Well I didn't I wasn't exposed to much.

But that's probably helpful because I think that would allow for more fraudulent feelings. If you've been like keeping up and you've seen Heathers and you like know what's going on, I think you could show up and be like, I don't belong here. Yeah. Yeah. But it's also a lot to ask a lot of seventeen, eight year old, nineteen year old, twenty year olds. To wield their experience ethically. So, like if I were Shannon, I might think I'm too good for this. Do people come with attitudes?

The people that had experience definitely felt as if they knew what they were doing a lot more. I did feel green. I felt lucky to be there. I f did feel probably less than or inferior to some of the people on the cast. Just innately. But you were good at learning how to be the baby of a scenario. Like were you able to own that and let them take care of you? Um, I don't feel like there was a lot of taken care of. It was kind of like man for himself.

That's what I was curious about. Like the dynamics between all the people It's a lot of attention to share when you're that age. So many eyes on that show and people's favorites and so much going on. It got really difficult as the show went on after the first season. They started really sort of

taking my character and Shannon's character and pitting them against one another in storyline. And then that would in turn turn the media and in turn turn the audience. And so that's when the whole girl against girl really became apparent that that's what we're doing here. They honed the sword on that, and then when Desperate Housewives came along, they were like, We know how to do this. Make them all fight all the time.

Sometimes though, even though it's not based in anything, once it takes on a life of its own, it can start impacting the real dynamic between you two, no? Yeah, unfortunately. We were young. I didn't know how to deal with that. And I thought it was real. And I'm emoting. And then the camera cuts and it's a little odd because we just had a fight or some sort of really ugly words to one another. There was no internet then. It would have been a lot worse. Oh, can you imagine?

But it was so supported by the continued writing and then the fans because they used to send us out a lot. They used to send me out. I don't know if Shannon did a lot, but I would go out, the guys would go out a lot and do signings. Car shows. Remember the days when they would send you to a car show to sign autographs? Sure, sure. I was stoked because I got a free car out of one of those. I did. What did you get? Oh my god. It was a gorgeous sparkly emerald green Corvette. You didn't. Oh my god.

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I wanna attempt to explain the size of Beverly Hills nine oh two and oh. I was saying to my kids, they often ask me who I'm interviewing, or maybe they heard me say to my wife I was interviewing you. My wife goes like, Oh, nine oh two one oh you guys was So big you can't imagine. K pop then plus some. So I looked up all the numbers and to put it in reference.

You guys maintained an 11 share for most of the 10 years, right? So currently the NFL, which is the biggest show on television by a factor of five, gets like a two, eight to a three, two. Gray's anatomy gets a 0.4. Yes, you guys were got an 11. You had 20 million viewers a week for like five of the 10 years. Right. There's no real comp in modern television. No, it doesn't work that way.

So it's like when you're listening, you kinda gotta imagine you know, it's in the Taylor Swift era. It's like a cultural phenomenon. That also lasted way beyond it. So like I watched it. You watched it? How old were you? Were you not supposed to be watching? But I mean I must. Yeah. Watch reruns. Okay. So that's what I mean. Like it still held its value th my generation water. Maybe. Maybe and then I hear that all the time. Yeah. That is my mom's favorite show.

I was obsessed with it. I loved it. Why were you so obsessed? Okay. Oh my God, I was in Detroit, right? It came out when I would have been fifteen. It was such a glitzy world. The poor kids driving a sixty-five Mustang convertible, Jason Priestley. in the 50s. The mansions, everyone's hot, the dudes are cool. Like it was such wish fulfillment. Bathing. Yes, if you're like in any place other than California, it's so exciting. You didn't have access to knowing what any of that world looked like.

Exactly. There's no Instagram. You're not seeing other people live this life. If you don't see it on T V and or you don't take a vacation there, you don't see it. So your options were Baywatch and then this show to understand maybe what California, this dream place was like. And I was so captivated. I remember on a trip to LA when I was twenty years old, Erin and I wanted to like see what the Viper room was. And all of a sudden coming out of the Viper Room was Amber Thesin.

at peak nine oh two one oh things and then she booted in the parking lot. Some guy from the show's screaming at us to give him some privacy, but we don't care. Like I now like I you have compassion for people who treat me terribly. I'm like, these people they're on TV. Yeah what's going on in this parking lot. I couldn't believe how exciting it was. So I was part of the problem for sure.

People tell me I moved to America because of your show because they saw what they wanted to live and they were like, I'm going there. Yeah, they thought all of America was Yeah, so I didn't look up the international numbers, but I bet they're absolutely shocking because I went on a URL pass when I was nineteen and I was at hostels and they played Baywatch in nine oh two and oh. So it was a hugely international show too, right? It was. We had so many different languages dubbed into our mouths.

Okay so After the first year, how are you adjusting? You're clearly getting recognized everywhere you go. How is that experience? They sent me out on a couple events. Talk about the zoo one with you and and Lou. There were just thousands of people. We definitely were animals in a zoo. That's what we felt like. And they had us in, I think it was the bird enclosure to get to the signing area where they had set it up.

And we went and it was impossible because it was dangerous. The kids were pushing and shoving and screaming and fainting. Oh my god. There were lots of melees at these signings that had to get canceled. So many of them got canceled. Yeah. But 10,000 people showed up at one mall.

Terrifying because you're on those little riser things they put you up on and like a folding table and it's just shaking and rocking. People are sweating and crying and passing out. And like literally the medics are carrying people. Oh my God. Yeah, remember when people would faint because of hotness? Oh, because of looking at someone hot? That's like done. No, I see people at concerts dropping out stuff. Rock stars can still garnish.

Like when fans of the original show meet us, they don't know how to handle it. Well yeah, from your point of view, if you didn't know the context and you're just looking out at the sea of people, you could only conclude there is a natural disaster happening outside, right? You'd have to think there was like a eight or Or something. It was pandemonium. And after that started happening, I started to develop agoraphobia. Like I never left my house. Right.

I wanted to go to the mall. I wanted to do things that Hit the food court time. people were doing yeah. But I just didn't. I got scared. And then also, which could help or hurt you, so your father's heart condition gets worse and you get a place in Santa's Valley, a ranch. Yeah, after a few years on the show I got a ranch there. And you move them to the ring. They came from Arizona, they moved to the So now do they get back together for this?

Yeah, they were back together. Since my mom had gone back and she was taking care of him, they had found this new empty nester rhythm and it was working for them and they seemed very happy. And then I uprooted them and said, I need you. I need something to keep me grounded and feeling like I know anything. And so they moved two hours north and then I would go there all the time. Instead of going out partying, I would go be with my parents. Wow.

Yeah, so you said you kinda missed all the weekend debauchery that would happen with the other cast members. The upside of that is like you didn't get in any trouble really. But would you get to work on Monday? Did you not have FOMO? Or would you be trying to find out like, oh, who did what? Yeah, I think there was internal FOMO that I really didn't even know what that was, but I felt left out. But inside rationalizing it, like I don't want that, so it's okay.

And that sounds like too much for me. I didn't know how to handle more. That's wise at that age. Yeah, it was just like instinctual I think from where I came from. But even though it's a contradiction, I can see it being very natural, which is like you've removed yourself from that, and then also you could feel like they're not including you. They're not including you or you're not cool. Did you have those feelings like oh they're cool and I'm not?

for this. It was hard because I would hear about what happened on the weekends and I would even see it in the press. Yeah. And I would think, wow, I mean I wonder what that's like. But also I don't want that. That seems scary. I don't want to lose myself into that world. Yeah, reading between the lines a bit from your book, you don't explicitly

say, but it sounds like you are in desperate need of some mooring to anchor to something. It's obvious from your actions that you felt like you were sucked up into a tornado. Yeah. Because you get married really young. Yeah. Is he on the show? How do you meet the drummer? It was through a friend that invited me to see his band and I went and he was the drummer and we just sort of hit it off. And yeah, we got married. I don't even know how that happened. Like how quickly after meeting.

I think I was twenty one. If my daughter came to me and said, I'm twenty one, I'm getting married, I'd be like, No, you're not. a different time a little bit. People got married younger I think a little bit then. The whole world was still going, Why would this twenty one year old on this show be getting married at In retrospect, he was a big guy. He had the presence of my father who I thought was gonna die any minute. I was trying to replace that sort of tethering, that sort of thing.

Looking for stability. He embodies physical stability. Right. Now here's the part you don't dig super deep into, but I'm curious. So he moves into your house, you build a recording studio for him, you buy him Harley's. There's something in there. Yeah. Yeah, what do we think is in there? I am very Giving. I like to make people happy. I like to make money so that I can make other people happy. Or my family. I like to give things. My dad a truck and bought the ranch for them to live on. Like I

help other family members. I feel like I am given this position to make money for other people's benefit a lot of the time. Yeah, but it's almost impossible, and especially when you're young, to proceed that way and not be resentful at the people that you're doing all this for. Cause you're like, I'm doing all this for you. And you're drunk and don't give a shit. Like was there not also some resentment?

No, it wasn't resentment, it was sadness. Even that wasn't enough for you to not go and drink all night with your friends, or why would you wanna do that when I'm here? I battle some of that too. Like if I'm being very generous, I have to think, am I doing this? So that They can't leave me. Uh-huh. That's what I'm circling. Look at what I've done. I've invested in you or I've given you so much. You can't leave me. And then they do, or they go do their own thing, and then you feel like really

Hurt. In my mind, it never felt like I'm investing in you. I'm doing this so that you won't leave me. But that was probably the under. Like at the end of that relationship when it was falling apart and then I was never like, Look at all I've given you and you still I never thought that way. But I think now as a woman who really understands how hard it is. to make a living to support your family and how hard you have to work.

I do have more of a connection with I work really hard. And I feel like if you want to be in my family, it has to be a team effort. We have to all work together to make this work in whatever capacity we're able to. But back then I didn't know anything about that. Yeah. Well, at the risk of really opening up a wound. Because you have the cute appeal.

That also wears off for all people. Because you wanted more of a substitutive attraction to you, do you think also there was some reality of like, yeah, he thought you were the cutest thing in the world and then six months later that wasn't as exciting and there's no second gear for this relationship.

Yes. My life maintained its ridiculous schedule and having no real life of my own outside of work because I had to get up so early every day and be there so long. I think I wasn't as fun as uh he thought I would be. As advertised. Right. Or as one would assume. If you're watching the show, you have an idea about all of you guys. And I bet you're like, I'm a person. Yeah. I'm not that girl.

And by nature, I'm not a person that's walking around with rainbows flowing out of my ass. I was born blue. I don't know if a lot of people know what that means, but just not rainbowy. Felt more thoughtful, introverted. Tiny bit melancholy.

Yeah, tiny bit blue. You know, my dad would always say, Are you feeling blue? And I would say, Yeah. I don't know why I was a kid and then he would take me for ice cream. So then I figured out, oh, that's a reward for feeling blue. So I must have reinforced it. But yeah. I'm not like a Yippity skippity person all the time. If you're

Searching for stability, even this shitty version of stability is gonna be more stable than when you pull the plug and you're back to the drawing board. I can imagine you measuring those two things and feeling like, well, it's better than zero stability, which will be the outcome.

I think I was just blindly brave at that point. Like I didn't know what that would feel like. So I just was able to do it. So we separated and then of course I met somebody during that separation and that made it a lot easier. It always makes it easier when there's someone else. yes yes yes So then I finalized the divorce and started a relationship with my second husband.

Okay, let's talk about Luke for a second, because he's in the book. You describe basically him shining his light on you and how powerful that was. Yeah, that light. I thought I was the only one that felt it. I really did. I was such a sucker. No, that's part of that. That's part of that personality. Right. But I came to soon realize

that he shined that same light on everyone. And that was just the nature of Luke, why people gravitated towards him and loved him and they felt so seen and appreciated by him. But you admit in the book, you were pretty in love with him. Yeah, he was definitely my first. Real love. What do you think kept it from escalating? Probably he kept it from escalating because

had a real strong moral compass at the same time. He loved me, but he didn't want to ruin me. And I think that he knew if we got involved It would r ruin me. He knew he wasn't gonna be able to commit to you. I don't think under those circumstances, no. Yeah, when I was reading it, I gotta be honest, I felt a little maybe defensive of him. He's just this person moving through life. And the way he is, people are falling in love with.

It's not disingenuous of him that he interacted with you, the just the way he interacts. yeah but it was a little more than that yeah because Sure in order to maintain that chemistry for the show, for the cameras, and he liked to have chemistry with whoever he worked with, so he would put a lot of effort into it. As naive as I was, I thought that that was him loving me. I felt like he really valued me. And I didn't see him doing that with everyone else until later.

Yeah, this sounds terribly painful. You had to watch then over the next few years. Different co stars come in and out and him create that with everyone. Right. Whether I was mistaken and just stupid, I felt that we had something really special and I have every belief that we did have something special because we were friends all our lives after that. I think anybody that was around us probably could tell.

That's a blessing he didn't go all the way,'cause that allowed you to stay friends, I'd imagine, yeah. Yeah, I was very conflicted with my friendship after that point because I guess I was heartbroken, honestly. Yeah. And you felt betrayed, I assume, to some degree. Yes, yeah. It really instilled in me even more of a feeling of you can't trust people. And you can't trust yourself. You can't trust yourself because look what you've fallen for. I don't know. I mean, if he had.

We would have probably definitely dated. We never really dated. We were always at work together, but it was always a very strong flirtation all over. You got to kiss in scenes. Right. We're constantly making it. Oh my god, was that nice? It was so layered. Yeah. I wasn't experienced at that point with making out with guys on camera and knowing that that didn't

translate into real life at all. And then also being like, Of course stupid. That's not real. You're acting. But it felt real. And now I'm very clear because of those learnings of getting it blurry, it's very easy for me to Have chemistry w in one second with somebody and then just the next second be normal. What was your name? It's easy for me to define now. I guess that's what they're called. Yeah, you learn those.

Now, people left the show and I'm curious what that did to the little microcosm of the world. Like Shannon left after the fourth season. Right. I did get to read a little bit about things that were going on, which is she was Perpetually late. didn't care when she was late. They kinda wanted to get rid of her. She wanted to leave, but then she had second thoughts. She cut her hair in the middle of an episode. Oh wow. That was the final straw.

I think there was some decisions just to be like, Fuck you, I can do what I want. And I was watching from the sidelines, going, Wow. She really can do whatever she wants. Like that's Yeah, was it cooler? Were you trying to figure out like what's her problem with all this? Yeah, yeah.

There's that part of me, the with the horns, that understands it. Because we don't like to be told what to do or what we can and can't do. And sometimes in the face of being told what we can't do, we're like, oh really? Watch me. Watch me. Uh-huh. And being both incredibly independent women from such a very young age.

She also had a dad with heart problems and she supported her family and took care of her family. They were her first priority at all times. And there was a lot going on for her that no one knew about. There were all the struggles of trying to figure out how to have healthy relationships and be in her position. Not easy. Very difficult to navigate. That confusion I think caused some defiance or anger naturally, trying to control some things. Anything you can.

So I think yeah, when she was late it was annoying for everyone. We were all there on time, ready when we were supposed to be ready and the crew was waiting. That was hard to work with. And I didn't know then. a lot of what she was going through until we became women and discussed it more openly. I heard her saying like people didn't really understand what I was going through at the time.

And I never really considered that at that young age. But I did have this sort of respect for her, like an unknown, non understood respect for her. So, I mean, you guys are young and you're the stars. I can imagine being young and a star and like you're not telling me I'm the reason this show works. We're the reason this show works, not you telling me what to do. Like I could see that getting very out of hand. with these stars of the biggest show ever.

And it sounds like they were like, Oh, these are young'cause we can kinda have'em here nonstop. That's what's crazy that you're on ensemble and you worked as much as you did. That's That's generally the gift of an ensemble. The other thing I that blew my mind is I didn't realize you guys did thirty two episodes a year. I don't think any like now we marvel at shows that did twenty four. But you guys did thirty two. How many months a year were you shooting the show?

Two and a half months off in the summer and then maybe a monthish off at Christmas. So it was a lot. We were there a lot. Yeah. I always joke and say it was like we were kept in jail. Because it was this isolated sound studio in Van Nuys, California, which was just industry. It's not nice. Commercial park. Yeah, there's like car crushing on one side and a porn studio on the other side.

of our stages, people didn't go there. Yeah. That's what they wanted. And we were inside this building that they had transformed into a sound studio, even though you could hear every airplane going into Van Nuys Airport all day long. Never held for planes more in my life. I felt so sequestered, so confined. You meet your second husband, and then you guys have your first daughter pretty quick. Ninety seven? Yeah. Yep, she was born in ninety seven. That was a surprise.

That makes sense'cause you get married in oh one. Yes, we were not ready. We I say we. We were not ready to get married yet. I think the analogy was our boat wasn't strong enough to survive the ocean. So I waited for the boat to get stronger, but I had a baby. I was a brand new mom. I was so focused on keeping the baby alive. Yeah. You're twenty five? Twenty four, I think. Everyone else is like out at the Viper room throwing.

Parking lot, Dak Shepherd and Aaron Weekly are gawking at them, but you're raising a baby. There's challenges, but I would also imagine this is finally the tether you're probably looking for in life, right? Where you have an identity that's outside of this other quite confusing identity. Yeah. And I felt like this was my purpose. I didn't know my purpose within that world of acting, the show, all of that, fame. But I knew my purpose immediately when I had a baby.

And what do you think that inoculated you against that other cast members were dealing with that you were relieved of? Just the tabloids. I was exhausted in a different way, but not from partyings, which is a very different kind of exhaustion. Yeah. I think mostly I was not focused on myself any longer. I always think that having kids saved my life. Having Luca, my first daughter, saved my life because I could have seen me going into this self important

swirl of, you know, a spiral where all you think about is yourself and your business and your worth and all that stuff. And I didn't think about that anymore. I do think that's the huge gift if you're in this business that kids give you is they don't give a shit about whether or not your movie opens. Gotta yeah, you gotta get up and do whatever. You gotta go to travel town and take them to see the trains, whether the movie opened or not. Right. Which is good for you.

As an actor, people assume that we're very self absorbed and we are very self absorbed to a certain degree. Well, it requires you to concentrate on getting it and maintaining it. It becomes your entire it's all you see. I always said I'm the CEO of me. I have to run my business. This is my business, I guess. Okay. Therefore you have to think about you.

think about you a lot. I get so fucking bored with myself and irritated that I'm having to like think about me. I'm doing it a lot more now in my life than I ever have because my kids are out of the house. So I'm able to focus on things that I need to focus on a little bit more or want to focus on. But it it was a interesting time. I remember doing one scene.

I felt very different. And Gabrielle had had a baby, I think, a year or two before me on the show, but then she ended up leaving. And she was older than all of us. She was like thirty six or something. I don't think she has thirty six. Everyone always sa they're like I don't think she was quite sure. She's still a babe. I thought she was a smoke. I didn't care too. Yeah, was was smart, hawk. Do you remember going like when you find that out, it's very exciting gossip.

Right. Because you don't think it when you're watching it. But we knew it on set. Like she had, you know, an older different priorities. But then I had a baby and I was like, I'm still in the group. I gotta go milk my boobs in the trailer. How did they shoot around that? You were clearly pregnant. Yeah, I was pregnant in season nine. I don't remember. It would have been seven. I just watched it and I can't remember. Yeah, yeah.

Season seven. Yeah. And we hid it. We called it Bob. I can remember when Jason he was doing some directing at that phase of the show. And he would be like, How are we gonna hide Bob in this? And they'd just give me like something to carry. Giant clothes. Now, when the show ended, did you feel relief or did you have a moment of well I just had security for a decade. At that point a third of your life you had had majors financial security. Were you at all panicked after that first year?

You know, when you get that kind of financial security so young, you don't really think about money. Okay. Well that's great to hear. I mean, you don't really think about it coming and going. You just have it and then you spend it and then you get it and then you spend it. It seems so normal. But then when you're like, wait. You're watching it just go down.

Yeah, the money's not coming in anymore, but I'm still spending it. It was really scary. I didn't think I would have such an adjustment, but we all went through it. I didn't know when to go to the bathroom. You're led around by a leash basically when you're an actor. They like say, go to the bathroom and then come out. We'll go to the thing and then here's your lunch. And in 10 minutes, I'll come back to get you. Here's what you wear. Here's what you say. Here's your makeup look.

They talk about the depression that follows most professional athletes and people think wrongly it's about the fame and money, but it's always about they lost their community. They were on a team. And then they lost their routine. Everything's scheduled for an athlete. And all of a sudden they're in the world with no schedule and no communication. It's like willy nilly. You're like, what what do I do? I don't even know. Yeah. When are they putting out lunch?

Why is there no craft service in my kitchen? So when you got what I like about you, that was a show you then did for four years? Yeah, four seasons. I was very lucky. I was so happy to get that show because there's a huge stigma that followed all of us as actors. People weren't really willing to see us do other things.

I really wanted to do a comedy. I had no idea how to do a comedy because I was always doing so much drama on 90210. But I got called in by Will Calhoun, who was one of the head executives of Friends, and he was doing a new show with Amanda Bynes. And uh another guy was also executive producing it. I've selectively forgotten his name at the moment. It was part of that big scandal. Oh okay. Dan Schneider.

Yes, Dan Schneider. He was the other producer. He was kind of the Amanda side of it because it was starring myself and Amanda Byn. She was had worked with him a lot on her the Amanda show and all the things. So he had hooked his swag into her. Were you getting bad vibes? Yeah. I was to the point where I said to Will, like, I would rather just communicate solely with you. I trust you. I think that you have my best interests in mind. And I don't feel that way with your partner. So I'd rather

Just be with you. And he was like, no problem. And did you see Amanda getting like kind of destroyed by him? Not specifically him. There were a lot of Uh problems in the s ecosystem of her How old was she and how old were you at that time? When we did the pilot, I had just turned thirty and she had just turned sixteen. We have the same birthday. Oh that's sweet. So did you feel like you were perfectly equipped to help her navigate this since you did it so young? You did not.

No, no, no. And also I didn't know how to be around a teenage girl. She taught me so much. I was kind of afraid of teenagers because everyone's like, oh, you've got a kid and wait till they're a teenager. They're gonna be a nightmare. Right. They love to say that. I just So not true. Yeah, people go Do you have kids? I go, Yeah, I have two girls. No, wait till they're teenagers and I go, Go fuck yourself.

Right, you don't know. I've just told that to someone recently. They were asking like advice for teenage girls, and I said, don't accept that narrative. Yeah. Except this is how I want it to be with my Really going on that I have compassion for because when I've gotten little bouts of it, it's like they're dealing with heartbreak. You have this little person who thinks you're the greatest and then they must go through a phase where they don't think you're that

Cool. And you're like, wait, but what happened? We're best friends. I understand they're dealing with heartbreak. It is sad. It's just not the thing to tell new parents commonly. No. You're setting them up for failure. Yeah,'cause also what are you gonna do about there's no solution in that. Like what's the point? You're fucked. Yeah, exactly. You're right. It becomes a little bit of a self-fulfilling process because when there's a blip of it, you're like, well, here we go. Exactly.

What everyone's saying. Like, I think I even had that. And I was like, oh no, that passed. That was like a month. Yeah. And now everything's honky dory. You got lucky. I was very lucky. Well I'm like I never went through that with my mom. I was always delightful. I wasn't either. I was bad. But I was always kinda bad. I was bad. I could lie like nobody's Yeah, well you're acting. Yes, I was meant to be a matter. Exactly.

Okay, so you guys proceed to have three daughters from 97 till I don't know when your last baby was born. She was born in two thousand six. Okay, so nine years of getting pregnant every few years and then having a baby. The relationship's not in a great state. Was it something that had precipitously fallen or Yeah. Was it doomed and you were getting through it for a long period of it or when did it start to feel untenable?

Early. My view of it was that he wasn't ready to become a father at twenty one, obviously. Not a ton of dudes are. Nope. And he didn't. He's trying to create a career. He's an actor. He's wants to be an actor and he's doing the work. It's hard to even imagine, but I feel now as if and this is no shade, no blame, nothing. I'm kind of a realist. Like I don't think He was ever truly in love with me, the kind of love that it takes to be married to sustain a long-term relationship.

Yeah, to have to roll up your sleeves and do all the terrible work that's required. Yeah, he was focused on other things. his career and I was focused on the kids and my career trying to do both. And now if I could go back, the writing was kind of on the wall. For some reason, my now husband, Dave, doesn't understand, well, why did you keep having kids with him? Because you kept having sex. Well, yeah. You're married and you have sex. Yeah.

Well also it sounds like nothing was that bad. Like nothing was so bad that you had to be like, We really can't keep going. Is that right? It wasn't. We functioned and we loved being a family. We loved our daughter so much and we would do a lot of fun things and it just felt normal, but I didn't try to make it this way. It just showed up as that white picket fence story. All of a sudden you're like, wow, okay, this is what I'm doing. And then it didn't have what it needed to sustain.

That's hard to leave. Also, there's an illusion of the equation of A equals B and B equals C, A equals C. Like you both love these girls so much. And you can talk about that love. And it's a creation of you two. And that can feel maybe like that's compensating for the love that's actually not going in that direction. It's confusing, I'd imagine. Love has created this thing that we love so much. Right. So we must love each other. But we don't. I guess we didn't.

Like it's interesting'cause you focused, I think, in the book that yeah, he wasn't in love with you, but are you sure you were in love with him? I don't know. In the beginning we were mad about each other for I think it was six months, then we got pregnant. And then it just got real complicated. Yeah. It's pretty easy to be super into someone for six months. Most beginnings of relationships. Yeah. Maybe even longer than six months. But things got real, real fast.

I've talked about before, like I feel like my life has just swept me. You know, it's been a constant like flow, flow, things happening, coming to me, dealing with it, surviving it. Then the next thing comes. I never had any point where I was like, this is what I want. This is what I'm gonna work hard on getting. Things just happened and I was constantly just trying to tread water to figure it out. It sounds like from nineteen ninety to two thousand twelve.

You're reacting to whatever new scenario arose. So here's this show. I'm gonna react and try to figure out how to respond. I'm pregnant. I'm a new mom. Oh my god, there's two more. Oh, this marriage isn't what I had hoped. You think at some point the way to salvage all this is all of us to move up to Santa's to the ranch and then let's do a reality show for CMT was called Little Bit Country.

Well, I had wanted to move up to the ranch A to be closer to my family, my mom and dad. When my second daughter was five. My dad died. I'm not a good griever. I just go hard, go deep, go full in and I have to get through it slowly. I have to go really feel the feelings. I remember on his deathbed, we were going through separation.

And my dad was losing oxygen to his brain. So he was saying things that weren't his nature. One of the last things he said to me was, I don't think this is a good idea. You're old and they got two kids. Who's gonna want you now? That just stuck with me so profoundly. What a lovely. But that wasn't you. He was never mean to anyone. He was afraid for you because he loved you and it came out terribly. Yeah. Like I guess maybe he thought I shouldn't get a divorce.

I'm a presuming he just wanted to make sure you were okay. And then in his mind you were better off in a shitty marriage than you would be trying to find someone else. That generation tend to think that way. I know you have a lot of anxiety. When do you start? I'm presuming you're on some benzo. You were on Xanax or something. When does that trajectory start?

That started when we separated. I just didn't know how to cope with all the feelings and all the responsibility that I suddenly felt. I've always supported myself even in my marriage and we split everything. was never like, oh, how am I gonna survive kind of thing. It just was I was broken. I didn't know how to be alone and deal with it all. And yeah, we moved to the ranch because the paparazzi were just nuts. We lived in Toluca Lake and they just were really bad.

Yeah. And so I just wanted to get them out of there and have like a normal life with them. So they went to like the local school and we walked to school and it was just Mayberry, USA. It was perfect. And then the show presented itself as something that he and I would produce together about us moving to the ranch and kind of having both worlds. Fish out of water, you guys are leaving Hollywood to live in the country. But really I was back to my roots. I wasn't out of water at all. I was happy.

But when the show was bought and originally conceived, you guys were gonna go there as a couple. By the time production starts Everything had changed. Yeah. No, I'm drinking wine at night and taking medication. I would be embarrassed my marriage fell. It was very embarrassing. Yes. And then I felt like such an asshole for being embarrassed. Like that's ego.

Yeah, but we're not there yet. You're not the healthy Jenny yet. So at the time If my marriage is falling apart and my first step is going to be to be in a reality show where I acknowledge that, no way. I don't even know That's gotta be out of body.

Who that was. I have no idea that era of my life. I just remember being prodded out of bed. I would take the girls to school. I would go back to bed and then the crew would show up and I would be like, I can't get up. I don't know. And they would talk me up and get me out and I would end up doing it just because that's what you do. Were you just like completely disassociated throughout the whole process? I would have just gone to a place in my mind and watched this unfold, like, holy shit.

It was very surreal. It was very out of body. And but then there were moments of levity which helped me feel better about the girls' experience because They were getting distracted by the crew and the fun people. And then they would be doing fun things that they created for the show. And I was like, this feels good. Everybody's laughing and feels normal for this moment. And then they would leave. And then the reality would be like, Oh, this is what's normal.

Yeah, he came to visit at one point and said, let's go talk in the RV while the show's being shot. I don't know if the show was being shot at that time. I don't think the crew was there. I think it was over. Okay. You know, y'all, this is my story. This is my recollection of it. I have literally no idea what his story is. I'm curious. We've never really sat down and gone through the beat by beat of it all. I don't think I really need to do that. But

My remembrance is that we went into the RV and the kids were outside playing on the farm because it was safe and they were running free like kids should be. And that's where he told me that he wanted us to get a divorce. And then he said a very fateful sentence though. Yes, he said, Jen, someday you'll thank me for this. And that infuriated me. That Ist mir. So then we go to for me, what would be a bottom? Which is you decide you should try marriage counseling. In Phoenix.

I had heard about this expert and she happened to be in Phoenix. So he was on a shoot, and I said, Let's fly there and meet there. So we both flew from different places. I have to say, having never met him, that part feels very stand-up that he was willing to come do that.

feel like he needed backup or he wanted someone to really make me understand. Because I'm a fighter. I will try and I was in denial and I was unwilling. I didn't want it. Maybe that was just for the girls, but I didn't want that to happen. Yeah. Again, you're gonna be completely untethered again. Yeah. So we went there and and that's where everything sort of Hit the fan. Even more than the RV. Yeah, you get to the therapy session and he's already there.

He's already there, which I found was weird. He was already inside the office with the therapist. So I felt like, oh, she knows stuff already that she should have found out from both of us in that situation. Like the jury's been compromised. Yeah, yeah, exactly. We sat down and honestly two minutes into it, she said, Jenny, why would you love someone when they don't love you?

Why would you love someone who doesn't love you? Like it's echoing. Like I'll never forget it. Those few things in my life, I've already told you three of them now that I'll never forget. That just gutted me. And I was like, yeah, no shit. Give up like it's time. It broke through. And then you got up and split. No idea where I was going. It was hot as hell. They roll up in a Toyota corona. Yeah. Looking for you. The sand colored one. They come looking for you.

He's in the passenger seat, he said. This is very movie esque. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Mrs. Allen. And I'm walking, angry, crying, all the things, just like out of my mind. And they are just like kind of keeping up with me in the car and saying, Get in the car, let us take you to a hotel. Jen, come on, get in the car like a friend.

And I was like, why would I get in your car? No. But somehow they got me in the car. And then they took me to a hotel took us to a hotel. He checked in separately and I was like, Well, I guess I'll check in. And that was the parting Moment. And then that night you drank a lot. Well as much as you can drink of the mini bottles. Uh uh. But like you know, s chug. Yeah chug. Stop this pain. And then mix with benzos. Mm-hmm. Yeah, like people really like to give people medication. Mm-hmm.

So you wake up in the hospital. After that night, Yeah. I blacked out. I passed out on the floor and I had my best friend on the phone with me, I think, while that was happening. So she knew I was in danger. Thank God. She called your assistant in LA. The assistant flew to Arizona and she got you to the hospital. And when you woke up, you're looking at your assistant.

I'm looking at my assistant and whiteness and doctors and everything's very fuzzy. It all came back to me and all I wanted to do was kill the pain some more. And I'll get personal with you. This is the part of the book,'cause you write it still shames me to write this. And it feels like it still shames you a little bit to talk about it. I think the shame really came from letting the girls down. From being a bad mom by letting myself go to that place. I could have died in that hotel room.

But again, this is the beginning of a journey that you are destined to take, whether you did it in two thousand twelve or twenty, or you died miserable. But this is like the time you jump off the fucking diving board. Like this is when life starts in a bizarre way. So As much shame as you might feel like your transformation doesn't exist without waking up in that hospital. Right. You go to LA and you go into treatment, and I'm mad at you. You leave in six days.

I wasn't good with the group environment. And you go on a yoga retreat with a woman to Bali and you don't stay with all the other people, you stay with her. And so I think if you're one of those group members, you might think like, Oh, she thinks she's hot shit because she was on TV. Were you not nervous? I honestly didn't care. That wasn't my motive. It wasn't the reason I was isolating. And I think most of them, if not all of them, were really understanding and respectful of that and kind.

What do you think prevented you from participating? I just wasn't ready to open up to strangers. And just like in group therapy at the rehab, I spent so much time being private and carrying it all in silence and hiding it from the world. I wasn't ready. Were you also worried people were gonna find out like I was Very worried people were gonna find out that I was in rehab. Yeah. Cause I didn't want my kids to have to deal with that publicly.

That prevents a lot of people from going, which is very unfair. Yeah, and it's funny too because so yeah, I know what you're talking about. You have all these secrets and you're carrying all this shame. And that's precisely why group things work is that you go into this group, you put out on a platter these things that you think make you unlovable and unworthy.

And they go, Oh yeah, I did all those two. It's all right. That's actually the magic is this thing that you're holding that you're certain will make you unlovable. Once exposed in the light, it turns out that's not the case. 'Cause you're looking at these other people who've done the same thing and you're like, Oh no, you're so lovable. You're so likable. You have so much value. I know that's true for you. It might be true for me.

I probably missed out on a lot of that growth. And it it took me longer because of that to get where I needed to get. Yeah. So you start taking some steps. So you get an apartment, you leave San Inez, you do dedicate a month that had been etched out for treatment and you start doing an outpatient program. You meet this woman, you go to Bali on the yoga thing. The outpatient program felt like it was full time though. It was like nine hours a day or something.

And sitting in a room by yourself and people come in, every different kind of therapist. I was curious, yeah, because you just do therapy session, therapy session. Did you leave with diagnoses? Like did they start telling you you're this or that? I'd already had a diagnosis of

of depression from a very young age that I was always using medication to balance and then going off of it because I didn't think I needed it, being embarrassed because I had to take it. And then not taking it when I was pregnant and just dealing with all the ups and downs of that.

And so I was already there. They didn't really give me any kind of diagnosis. They were just really helping me hear the words that I needed to be hearing constantly and hearing the messages of value and worth and listening to your instinct and just trying to get me back in my own body.

Yeah, yeah. So in order of the things that were very effective, I'm fascinated by this and funny enough, you talk about joining this Buddhist group and going every Monday night, and I wrote down the name of This is right down the street. So I wrote down the name of it'cause I'm like, Oh, I want to start taking classes there on Mondays and then I'm taking a family walk with my kids. Yeah, you can walk there.

Two days ago and we like I look at a sign and I go, oh my god, this is impossible. You guys I just wrote down the name of this from reading. Literally. And then my eleven year old's like, I want to go with you. It's so fun. Oh they do. Yeah. Yeah. I just drove by it on the way here and thought, oh, I miss going there when I need to get back.

Yeah, what things were you picking up that were helping you tether yourself to yourself and what were the building blocks that helped you most come out of this? Gen Rigpa, the leader of the class, he was so relatable. Like he translated the teachings of Buddha into like present day, usable stuff that we're all dealing with. Road rage and heartbreak and d hesitation for reaching for your goals, all the things.

So I was hearing it in just a different language. It just came in differently and it just resonated so much. And I had seen a friend of mine that had gone through the stages of the Buddhist teachings. Someone on a set, right? It was another actor.

Another actor, I was like, wow, you are so cool and level headed and just like a piece all the time. I want what you have. What's wrong with you? Like, where'd you get that? He's the one that told me about it. But I was just sitting there listening to the teachings. And I took copious notes because I tend to have to write things down in order to remember them. And I just have those books with me. I go back to them all the time. Also the just human connection.

that you said I was perhaps missing by not going to the group therapy and realizing that all these people were there for the same reason. And one of the main teachings of Buddhism is that we all want to be free from suffering. And that was just revolutionary for me. It started me thinking outside of my own pain and realizing that we're all carrying our own pain. And it's through connecting and then recognizing that in each other that the healing really happens.

Yeah. Talk about the scarcity mindset a little bit. I thought this was a great section. Think I've always had it just growing up very modestly and having been independent my whole life and having to pay all of my bills. And other bills, you worry about things like what if it's not there? Like I would keep clothes that I didn't need because I thought maybe someday I'll need that and maybe I won't have enough money to buy it. In your mind, when you are so self sufficient, it's scary.

I love that you say in that mindset too, you're scanning for short term wins'cause you have so much anxiety and they're not long term wins. I can relate to this so much. Like as an actor, it's like, Oh, that movie failed. Shit, I don't think I'm gonna get hired again. I guess I'm gonna consider these other things that I never wanted to do, but they're on the table, so I should take them'cause those will go away too. If I don't do it, somebody else will. And I had to make money. I had to

support myself and my girls and I was accustomed to a certain kind of lifestyle. Sure, yes, we could have moved into an apartment. But I really wanted probably for myself too,'cause I'm really at home, at my home, like that's my place. I wanted to have that sort of security for my girls and always be able to provide it. But the scarcity just keeps you living in fear.

of not having. And I think especially with money,'cause I spent all those years not worrying about money. It'll come, it'll happen, it's magically appears. I don't know who does what with it, but it's all good. Then all of a sudden I was forced to really think about how am I gonna do this? I don't have that backup, even if we were sharing things equally.

the feeling of having that kind of backup support was gone. And my dad had died and I felt a lot more responsibility. And I just never worried about money. And then all of a sudden I started worrying about money. I started worrying about when am I gonna get enough to pay? And my business manager was really scaring the shit out of me all the time, said, You need to sell your house and actually you need to sell the ranch too. So I just built a home for my daughters.

And he said you need to sell it now while the real estate is at its height because it's gonna change. I was like, Okay. And I didn't have a sounding board on the other side of that. And then he said, You need to sell your ranch and I did that too. And I regret both of those decisions because The minute you start worrying and holding on and attaching to the outcome of the money coming and going, that is when for me it stopped coming. I like clenched my fists around it and strangled it.

Yeah, yeah. With worry and that was a real life lesson. Gotta kinda take a leap of fa And even like going back to my relationship with the girl's dad. Young, insecure me was worried that he would leave me or he would cheat on me. He's an actor. He's going to make out with beautiful women. And that was very difficult. And I got really concerned about it and I made it happen. Yeah.

And I remember him too saying at some point, You're gonna make this happen. I didn't understand that and I also kind of thought that's a little bit manipulative because you're saying I'm gonna make you do something. There is some element of that. Yeah. But I get it from the other perspective too.

Yeah, it's like if I'm always in trouble for cheating or I'm always under scrutiny, then I might as well be having fun because I'm dealing with this and I'm not having that. I'm paying the price as if I'm not. There was a lot of that in our relationship because I was just Insecure and unstable and not connected with myself. Most of us.

Yeah. I felt like it took a long time for me. Like I didn't get there until like fifty, late forties, where I really started to understand myself more and love myself to the point where I could comfort my own self and be my own anchor. Well, I admire how much you tried and fought. Yeah, yeah. Like you did landmark. Did you ever do landmark? No, but our friend did the whole thing. He loves it. He still talks about it all the time. It's like a Kool-Aid. Yeah.

He doesn't participate anymore, but I think he was great at extracting. Of course there's really great principles in there or it wouldn't be so successful. still live by one of them today. You have a choice in the world every day. You are a person that either loves Chocolate ice cream or vanilla ice cream, which is it? And you're like vanilla. So to really get in touch with your internal answering a question without doubt. So I've always go back to that one too.

Yeah. My understanding of it that I like a lot is it's a lot about personal responsibility. Like the world's not happening to you. No, you're not a victim. You're not a victim. It's not happening to you. It's happening for you. And how do you want to navigate? And while you're at it, go clean up all the shit that you've already destroyed. Yeah.

Which was really beneficial. I think that helps a lot of people so much because so much happens when we we know we've messed up something or made a mistake or didn't do something well regarding the other person's perspective or feelings. So it really does pinpoint those moments for you and then you go back and meet with that person, hopefully, or write them a letter or whatever.

the ninth step in the program, which is like clean up your records again so you don't have to walk around with shame because you can't afford to walk around with shame. It's like a bucket if you have a bucket full of water and the water being all those moments where you messed up and you are beating yourself up over it and it's full and you just have to put your foot right in it and let the water overflow. Because you will never get past it if you don't.

Let's talk about David,'cause you also found a way to find love again as you titled the chapter in the book. How did this one differ from previous ones? It was weird. I was trying dating. I'd never done that. I didn't know what kind of guy I liked. I tried all different sizes and shapes and locations. Usually they were out of town, which was nice because I could come home and be a mommy. And then when I didn't have my kids, I would go try to date someone.

And if you have a hard time establishing boundaries, a geographical boundary helps. I had really come through a lot of intense therapy at that point with my therapist Wade. And I was feeling this freedom and this positive feeling of like I I can handle everything now. And right when that happened, I met Dave. I built my house.

And I was doing a photo shoot for the like unveiling of the house because it was on HG TV. And I was thinking like this is the best. I'm here with my dogs and my home the way I want it. And that night had a blind date. with somebody. My friends at school had set me up. It was like a blind double date. That's when I met Dave. I love you.

I remember walking in because I didn't know who he was, so I did look him up on the internet. I was busy all day, so I was like help me look this guy up and uh Chippendell's dancer came up with the same name. So I texted my friend, I was like, He's not a Chip and Dell's dancer, right? She's like, No. He didn't have a big footprint at all on the line. Uh-huh. So I just kind of went into it blindly and I walked in. He was this tall, handsome actor looking guy. And I was like, oh.

No thank you. Bye bye. So so completely detached the whole dinner, just thinking this is such a waste of my time, but trying to, you know, get through it. And then He made me laugh a few times, and women are a sucker for laughter. Thank God. Thank God, right? Because I didn't have laughter in my life and I was like, oh, this feels so really good. And I thought I want this for my girls too. Well you didn't have joy in your life. Yeah, nobody. No, I was just

Plugging along. And he brought that to our household. I just fell in love with it and him. It's lovely. We've been married for ten years. Wow. I call it nine because we did spend a year of separation when the sparkles faded again in the relationship after like that first year when it's not what you thought it would be. Yeah. Well when the work is now required. Yes. And neither of you have experience or the confidence. Can I challenge this without being unlovable?

He had never been in a relationship like that. He all of a sudden had three stepchildren. Yeah. Four dogs. So he stepped into a big world and we took a year off. We were getting divorced actually. And we had the paperwork signed on my end. He hadn't signed it yet. And it was in a yellow envelope in the back of his truck. This truck that he bought. after we broke up as like a side of defy like this giant tundra.

And he lived on the itty bitty streets in Silver Lake. And it was all scraped up and dented. He loved that truck. But he had he had the paperwork in the back of his car. I noticed it there months after we had gotten back together. And I was like, this has been in your car this whole time. He's like, yeah, I'm gonna keep it around. Cause it reminds him, like, I have free will. Like I cannot be in this relationship if I don't want to. Я choose to be in it.

Right. I think it helped him kind of come to terms with that. But he had a lot of growing to do. I had to go back to the drawing board because It was just like ripping a band aid off a real fresh wound. Yeah, were you like, oh my God, again. More attacking my own self. Internally for what is wrong with you? And then the narrative in my mind had become and was really concreted was you are not able to have a healthy relationship. There's just something about you that you can't do it.

You're permanently flawed. Okay, I guess that's me and I'll just live that way. I'm defective. Yeah, some people just can't do certain things and maybe that's mine. How'd you get out of that therapy? Yeah. It was after that divorce or separation slash divorce that I went to Bali and started doing a lot more work right back into it. Like I cannot let this derail me. Yeah, you can't wake up in the hospital again.

No. And so I just started working right away and learned even more about myself during that time. and really came to peace with what is and stopped trying to fight everything. And that combined with the Buddha classes that I was going to. really just brought me peace in whatever situation I ended up in. Like it will all work out. You will be fine. Also that opportunity to really connect with sounds so woo-woo, but like that little girl inside of me, that little person that

is so afraid and so like something's wrong with me and nobody can really love me. Nobody knows me. This person. I started to become her best friend again. Like I started to mother her, like I did my own daughters. And once I started to do that, I just felt at peace and capable of taking care of her, me, us.

Well, and in in Buddhism, right, the suffering's coming from you trying to force a different reality than the one you're in. The reality's not actually that painful. It's the desire to have a different reality around you that is so uncomfortable. Afraid of the unknown. Yeah. That's attachment. That's one of the core beliefs is not having attachment and you know, if you are full on Buddhist, you don't have attachment to any things.

But in this modern world, they taught it in a way that there's certain things that it's okay to have and love and be so grateful that you have them. But then there are certain things that you're attaching to that are not benefiting you and sort of really deciphering what those are. and learning how to unattach.

Yeah. Well, I choose me as the book, and I think it's a very brave book. And I think a lot of people like even as you're saying right now, you felt like how is this happening again? It must not be for me. When I interviewed my mom. I was like, it's so inconsistent with who you are to have been with a guy that was beating you up. How were you this gangster of a woman with a guy that was beating you up repeatedly? And she said the thought of failing again was more painful.

I couldn't accept failing again at this. And I think a lot of people relate to that. For whatever reason, the shame or the the the inevitable pain that you know you're gonna go through. Yeah. So for you to publicly put out your whole roadmap, I think is awesome and admirable. And I think it's great. Thank you.

Yeah. Yeah. I think that learning how to connect with other people, especially as an older woman, learning how to connect with other women has just brought me such a desire to keep doing that in hopes that someone sees themselves somewhere in my journey. Yes, if someone comes up to you and they offer adoration to you'cause they wanted to be you on nine oh two one oh.

Versus something that comes up to you and is like, I have experienced the same thing as you and I feel so seen and connected are two dramatically different things. They're the thing you wanted. They're substitutive. They're not you're a cute baby. They're uh Yeah. story has made me feel less alone. Right. It made me feel seen less alone. Because we just internalize everything as humans. We think we're so uniquely terrible. It's like all of us are

That's what we Right. Yeah, that's an illusion if you think you know someone who's done it perfectly. Well, Jenny, great meeting you. Thanks for coming. Good luck with the book. Everyone get I choose me. I have a story. Great. So this is like right after you left. So this was like two months ago. Okay. Um I was gone for week just to be Yeah, but it feels like it was a really long time. Anna and A Anna parked her car at my house.

Okay, we were gonna walk to Cara. But before we walk to Cara, we were gonna drop something off at your house. Okay. So we stopped by your house for chit chatting, Kristen Delta. I oh, I dropp dropped off a um vintage shirt for Lincoln for her birthday. Which one was it? Willie Nelson. Oh yeah yeah yeah. Great great tea. Yeah. And so then we asked if anyone wanted anything from Cara. Delta wanted a salad. Yeah, yeah. The gems house.

Yeah. So then we walk to Cara. Have a great time. Yeah. Get the salad. Walk back to your house to drop off the salad. Everything's looking. Well, so far. And it's like 835, I would say. Okay. We'll drop off the Saladeltas. Um, and we s so we then we start walking to my house. Now, for the listener who doesn't know or remember, my house is Yeah, I was gonna say fifteen, but that's cause I don't know measurements.

It's you know, there's two options. Yeah. You can try you can go down your driveway or you can go up the hill to where your front door is. Exactly. Probably equidistance. Yeah, but it within a couple hundred feet. Yeah, I mean it's so close. Yeah, yeah. Okay. So we're walking oh, and we have Mona. This is a big part of it. Mona is Anna's dog and a pretty large dog. She looks like almost like a wolf. Yeah, but like not as scary. Not a wolf like in the forest, like a wolfhound.

Right. Just but like so like She's so nice. Nice and kinda dumb looking. I love her and I'm I'm not drawn to dogs so much but I'm like in love. Same, I like she's she's a good dog. Yeah, I'm not gonna say I'm not gonna say love. Anyway, okay, so we're we have Mona, we're walking back to my house and we see my nemesis. Coyote. coyote in the straight On the corner, just looking, just looking at us. Yeah, they loved it luck.

And I was like, Okay, uh I know I think you're suppos you're supposed to just keep walking and look and be not direct. Even just them hearing what's up. I don't wanna talk to them. It scares them. Okay. So I was like, You're supposed to be non phased and just be like you own the streets. Yeah, yeah. Продолжение следует... Six times the size. Uh no No it no, they're big and Six, but I mean, they're like my size. If I got down on all fours, they're my size. Anyway. Um

You're a hundred pounds. They're they're probably forty, forty pounds. But they're all muscle. They're all hair. I'm mostly boot. So I don't know what my chances are. Anyway. He was looking at us and I was like, Okay We're supposed to keep going. But and and normally I'm scared and Anna's not scared of things, but she was scared. So this wasn't a good combo. And she was really worried about Mona because coyotes eat dogs. Even though Mona's much bigger than

Small dogs. Yeah, but still we were like getting we were starting to get a little panicky. Exactly. Like, yeah. Frank would've gone after he would have lost, but he would have gone after The coyote. Yeah. Yeah. And it's like, what do you prefer? You know, I don't know. I can tell you right now what I prefer. Well so and I was like, Oh no, I don't know what to do and I was like, Me either and we just were standing. Still. Like deer. They free freeze.

You really look like Pray,'cause now you're frozen. Yep. Yep. Did the opposite thing of what you're supposed to do. And then I was like, okay. And I knew that. I was like, I don't we're not supposed to be like standing here like this. We gotta I uh like I don't uh then I was like, let's go back. So we d turned our back And kind of walked quickly back to your house, okay? And and then we just stood in that little well. Uh huh, yeah, yeah.

Yeah, we're the packages. We just stood there and I Googled what do you do when you come across a coyote? Basically first thing it says is don't stop, don't turn around, don't run, you know, everything we had just done. And I was like, fuck and then it said, you know, be loud. Um throw rock. Absolutely. Yeah. Yeah, but there were no wars. Stand throwing. So it's like you're a thing and all of a sudden you have projectiles. Okay. Interesting.

I think you just yell at it. We have him on our street all the time and that's all Natalie does. Yeah. It was dark. You don't understand. Natalie's not white. Oh yeah. Forgot about that. Okay. So okay. So it's like throw rocks at we didn't see any rocks, but it was like be loud. Um, I was like, okay, so we'll just and we're starting to like get unhinged. Like our ideas were bad. You know, I was like, okay, I'll just put on this podcast and it'll be loud. Uh-huh. Okay.

And I'll turn on my flashlight on my phone. So turn on my flashlight, turn on the podcast listening, which is Aaron and Sarah's podcast. Aaron Foster and Sarah Foster's podcast that I've become kind of weirdly obsessed with. Uh-huh. She was just like turned it on and it's just their voices like, you know, talking normal. It wasn't that loud. I don't want to be critical, but when choosing a podcast, maybe like go rogue and I mean now's the time for the manosphere.

I agree. I agree. Aggression, but it's just he's like two ladies, you know? And Yeah. These like attractive women. And so I'm just like walking holding it and I reel you know, we're three steps in and we look up. Three coyotes max. They've gremlined on you. He got his friends, he said, Oh, I have the per these these girls will not stand a chance. But I'm gonna need help'cause it's just too much for me to eat. Yeah. Yeah.

And they just stood there staring at us. It was so scary. So then we really we turned and we ran back. Sprinted. Mona, run! You should have hung baloney on your back while you were running. I mean we were from cars, like we probably smelled like food. Yummy. Uh, so we run back to the house and um This time we run into the house and I say, Mom, we don't we don't know what to do and she said, I'll d I'll go with you guys and then Lincoln popped up from the couch and said, I wanna go.

Yeah yeah yeah. She get her numb check? It's very you in that way. She really wanted to be part of the uh bravery. Yes, exactly. And I was like, No, no, no. And you know too, because then you have to walk back by yourself. I don't want that. Uhhuh. And um and so the solution I came up with uh was to take Kristen's car. Mm. Drive it to my house. The problem is I don't like driving other people's cars. So then we drove Kristen's car to my house. I got in my car, followed

Kristen's car back. Anna drove Kristen's car back to your house and I followed to drop off her car. And then Anna got in. And a reminder to the listener. A hundred feet. Yeah. And then Anna got in my car. We drove back to my house and she got in her car. This became the fairy um riddle. Yeah, it's a riddle! You got some chickens, you got a fox. Exactly. In a bag of grain. I know. Yeah.

So it all worked out. And then and then I got home and I um I panic, bought so much stuff. So I bought Wolf P That's a deterrent. That you're gonna put where? Around your doorstep? I think around my front. But I don't want it to smell that. As opposed to going like, Hey, what's up? Like, your options Your options are scatter urine all over the place or go, Hey, what's up? I just don't think they're gonna do to me what they I haven't tried. Can't conclude that

If I try it and I get eaten, what are you gonna how are you gonna feel? You can You cannot find me a story of an adult. Rob? Look it up! and adults getting A female five feet brown at night. Okay? Yeah Coyote specifically. Go ahead, Indian. A college educator. Don't put Indian, don't put college educated. Don't you put that. Small high voice. High voice.'Cause maybe it won't care if I say, What's up?

There was a two thousand nine case, but that was the last Of what what happened in two thousand nine. Uh Taylor was hiking in the national park. She was attacked by two coyotes and died from injuries and blood loss. Oh my God. Oh my God. Having you look this up. Oh my god. Thousand nine I graduated college, so that's sim It does say it is extremely rare. Yeah, but I don't care. I don't wanna be the one. My life is very rare. I've had really rare good fortune.

Yeah. This is the that's the only confirmed case of an adult human being killed by coyotes. The only. Is this woman? I don't rule I'm very special. She's not taking that. Don't you say that about her snacks? Anywho, I'm sorry you got spooked like that. Oh my god. So then I bought the Wolf P, I bought um some air horns. Turned out I bought too many. I bought like nine. I don't know how that happened. Yeah. Um and then I bought um um a little flashlight. You're bad at Amazon.

I don't know what happened. I got flashlight. a little one that goes on my keychain. I got um and I got this really mean wolf mask thing that I think you put on your fence and it has lights and it like looks really scary. Okay. Did you think of getting one for yourself to wear for when you're gonna get it? That's what I thought she was saying. It's like gonna be in her purse and she was gonna So I was thinking, like, why would you have the gumption with a mask on to be aggressive?

Well I would if it's like a scary wolf with eye it's like scary red eyes at a flash. Okay. But I think what's scary is that you are three feet above them. I'm like one foot up but they're tall. Monica, I think we're seeing different um things out of our eyes. Think of how tall they are average coyote. Um Okay, then I am three feet taller. Yeah. But they know they have instinct. Well they do know you're scared of them. Yeah. You made that clear. I am scared. I'm freezing now. I am scared.

But m um I don't know if this is one of these situations where you don't really you're not you're not looking for any advice or anything. Well Because here's what I'll say is you can't not be scared of them by just thinking about it. Right? That'll never happen. You're gonna be Exactly. You can't think your way out of being scared of it. Yes, correct.

But I promise you, and I know for sure, if you can one time run at them and scream, they will run and then you will know permanently, oh yeah, that's how I can do that. so it's either We gotta try that. Or we gotta be afraid. They're in the neighborhood. There's a ton of coyotes in our neighborhood. Oh I know. Have you heard him go berserk yet? Yeah, they go it sounds like they're having a seance. Like. Like uh yeah, devil worshiping orgy. It'll be like I wouldn't be scared of that.

It seems like fifteen or twenty of them and they're the noises they're making, it makes laughing hyenas sound inviting. It's really bad. I wonder, are they eating an old lady? That's what you wonder when you're in your room. It's only happened once ever. Yeah. Record. You wonder, was it two thousand nine when you hear that? I don't like them at all. Your hair looks like it's getting longer. It is. I'm growing it out. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. What do we think? It's in the crazy phase.

Yeah. So your thing's working. What's that? Your you're Topical? Yeah. Does it look fat? Well... I mean long doesn't equal fair. Oh well, kinda. I guess I think it yeah. I'll tell you every guy I know has seen this. This probably hasn't reached your algorithm. No, that's that's hair transplant. Right. There's a UCLA. I keep seeing this goddamn meme on Instagram and apparently UCLA has a full on topical cure for baldness that What? completely wakes up all dormant follicles. Really?

Yes. I was talking to another person with they they had long hair and I was saying, I'm growing my hair out, it's gonna be hard. Right. You know, w were you wearing hats, blah, blah. And I wouldn't have even thought this about him because his hair looks very robust. Somehow this UCLA thing, I go, have you heard about and he goes, the UCLA thing? I go, yeah. I go, yeah. How do I get in the trial? He goes, I looked into it. Can you?

There were like five hundred thousand applicants for a trial of like two hundred people or something crazy. Every single guy was like, I need in and on this trial. But apparently it's it's like it works and now I'm just waiting. Do you think that you should be able to jump the line because you went there? I think there's a lot of reasons I should jump the line. Okay. Okay. I'm a tall white male and I'm totally disenfranchised and it's time that I get elected.

Recognized. Yeah. But really you went there, I kind of think alumni Should kinda get a leg up. I mean I'm obsessed with this. Not only do I want the product, but I gotta figure out how to be an investor in it before it goes Interesting. So you've never seen that, right? Um Yeah. Exactly. And every single guy I've brought it up to has seen it. Right. Algorithms are so good. Yeah. They really know.

I mean it probably works for women too. Women Yeah, it's not like you guys have unique follicles that can't be woken up from dormancy. So I'm having the opposite situation. Yeah. I think I'm having new hair growth. Like Like a coyote? No, the other day I was like looking in the mirror and I was like, what is this poof of hair that's just like it's just like sticking out

And I asked a hairstylist, and she was like, I think it might be new hair growth. And I was like, New hair growth? That makes no sense. That makes no sense. But 'Cause the only thing different in your life is that you're on triz. Do you think one of Wouldn't it be Yeah, but you've been on creative for like four minutes, right? Like

But uh but I wouldn't even be surprised if you had another off-label observation of uh trisepatite. Oh by the way, it makes your hair grow back. Cause every single thing you read is like positive. Yeah, maybe. I don't know, but I don't really love You're not looking for more hair. Yeah. Yeah. I know and I don't want it to have a little puff like this that looks Weird. Yeah. It's hard to style. It's like when people

are pregnant, often this happens. Like they lose a lot of hair and then when it grows it's like grows back and it's like in little patches, it looks kinda weird. Uhhuh. Um I mean it looks great. But, you know Kut Six. Really good say. It's as if he didn't say even say weird. So yeah, so I um yeah, hair. Okay, well would you ever consider going to Turkey and getting new hair? Well you don't need it. I I don't think I need to do that. Yeah, but if you went if you were like oh It's going.

You know, this is a great topic. I I I mean, I write there's a there's a lot of battles happening in my head. Uh and I think they're age related. And so and I think I spoke on it a little bit with when when Zach Braff was here, which is like eighty five percent of the time, I'm like, Yeah, we're getting older and I mean you look fine. Yeah and maybe your hair's thinner. Bye, bye, bye. blah, blah, blah. Maybe you have more wrinkles. Eighty-five percent of the time I feel that way. Yeah.

And then fifteen percent of the time I can make a very solid argument. And here's how the argument goes. I use whiteny toothpaste. I want my teeth to be white. Um, I use moisturizer on my skin. Uh I put drops in my eyes so they're white before I I'm on camera. Um I do all this stuff. So why am I drawing this arbitrary line between I wouldn't do this? I mean I'm I am vain. It's not like I'm not vain. Right. Um, and then I go, and I have the means to. So what do we do? Like what's the hang up?

Right. And then I go back to like, I don't give a fuck and I think it's cool. Who did not give a fuck? Yeah, and I think I think even specifically for men probably. It's a Probably a better look in general. I mean, I want everyone to do what they want. But also it's not weird. It's great. Um But I agree that there's something like cool, attractive about not about someone not caring that much. I mean, caring, like putting yourself like having or something.

Together. Yeah. Oh ding ding ding, I wanna bring up something. And and so yeah, I'm kinda w I'm with you on that. Would you rather this is back to the poop? Oh I mean the smelling like shit. Okay. Okay. Do you think it's grosser? to not well, I think I know how you're gonna feel, but To be objective, I guess. Do you think it's grosser to be with someone who never gets their teeth cleaned? Never or has skin marks? Well we need some f I need some follow up. Okay, okay, okay, okay.

Is their mouth like a rat's nest? Or does it look complete? Is it mine? Because I don't go to the dentist. I know this is why this That's the wrong. I know but I wanted to But two times in twenty years. I know. That that is wild, but also I too don't get my teeth cleaned enough. You look great. So it's like there's nothing about your mouth that I'm going yuck. Right. But if you had shit marks all the time in your unders. Right. Gross, man. Wipe your high knees.

Exactly. Okay. So I'm with Jess, obviously. And he I don't know why oh, he spilled chocolate ice cream everywhere, right? And it looked disgusting. And he said it looked like skid marks. And I said, Do you get skid marks? Yeah. And he said a lot less. I just said, no. No. No. The answer should be no, I don't. Yeah. And he said, well, no. Like I s let I said less. I was like, I know, but you shouldn't ha you shouldn't have any.

Okay, I'm gonna I'm gonna try my hardest. Um I'm not gonna say who this is, but you'll know. Um but I have a friend who Has he'll he'll say, dude, I put the bar of soap up my asshole. Like I cleaned my asshole so thoroughly in the shower. Yeah. And then I get out and I dry off. And then I can wipe my butt. And they'll be and so I don't know about like if that's not my scenario. Right. I don't have like I guess a leaky keystone. I know.

Thank God. I mean, there's so many things to be grateful for that we're not. Oh being. Long. It's true. Not leaking sewage. Thank God. I know. It's not weird. It's slowier, it's great. Very attractive. Then he's came back, his retort was like, Well, you don't get your teeth cleaned. Okay. Yeah, he felt a little defensive.

Under understandably, sure. Yeah, yeah. But he oh,'cause I guess Anna and I recently had said like, Yeah, we like barely get our teeth go to the dentist. Yeah. And he goes to the dentist regularly and for a real cleaning. And you should go. Like, look, you should go to the dentist. But everyone will put in the comments uh brain infection. We know. We know. No. And a heart disease. Like, Infections. We know. Uh eighty percent of diseases emanate from the mouth. That's right.

Got it. That's what they do. We should be getting our teeth cleaned every six months. And we're not doing it. And um so for him, he was like, That's worse. And he said he said that's worse, that's more disgusting. So I didn't know where everyone landed. I mean, I did feel like you probably were on my side about this. Yeah, yeah. 'Cause you also don't get your teeth cleaned. And you don't even Nothing really bums me out, as you know. Yeah, you're down with anything.

I'm pretty much down with everything. But if you saw a big s skin mark Yeah. As you were taking someone's garments off. Before you were perhaps going to be a little bit more than a little bit. Be down there. Down there. Yeah. You know, I don't know. It's not is that the what you want to see immediately before. You might go, let's reschedule this portion of it.

Oh, okay. Okay. That well, one one question I had that I was excited to hear about was so we were gone for I guess five days. Uh huh. They were. I was gone for a long time. I was in Austin. You're marked that. You and Anna were neighbors. Yeah. So Anna was staying here at the house. Yes. What was that like to be neighbors? Yeah. Oh my god. And I didn't go over. Oh what? I know. No. No, she had family in town. Oh she did? Yeah. Oh my god.

I'm not I she's gonna be like angry at me then um I'm sure I think I'm sure she asked Kristen. Anyway. the cu she had two cousins in town. And so she had like plans with them. And so she didn't and like one day I was outside in my on my beautiful deck. And Jess was there and we FaceTimed her and I was like, Come over, like bring your c just come over. Bring your whole the family reunion. Oh we're like gonna get in the p I'm like, what?

And then Jess was like, well, we could go over there. And I and then I said, I don't I don't want to go over there when when Dax and Kristen aren't there. I feel kind of weird about it for some reason. And so then we just never saw each other. He he Well I did it's funny you'd say that because I remembered I wanted to ask you about this on the this program. Oh okay. Was it fun? Right. Oh. And then I when I I was I knew I wanted to ask that. It sounds fun. Yeah. Um,'cause you guys hang so much.

Yeah. And then I thought, What if she came over and went in the sauna? You'd be mad. Then I was like, Yeah, I think I've invited you like five times to come in the sauna and you haven't, and then I go out of town and then Anna invites you and then you go. That crossed my mind. Oh my god. I feel like a little hurt. Like, You're not gonna come over when I invite you, but when Anna invites you, you go over. Yeah. Well I didn't know.

Like, what if you had invited me uh over for breakfast like five times at your house? I don't um I I can't go for all these reasons. And then Aaron's staying at your house and he invites me over for breakfast. I'm like, Yeah, I'll be there in five. Yeah. Right? No. I don't actually know if I would because

It'd be one thing if I never came over here. I come over here. I'm here every day. Yeah, yeah. So, you know I think that's a little different maybe because if you came over to my house all the time, but you just weren't coming over for breakfast. Mm-hmm. And then Aaron was I think I'd be like, Oh well it just worked out timing wise. So you have somehow breakfast has to include like I got a brand new sp very special breakfast Like I got a very cool. Yeah. And I love how social it can be. Oh okay.

And then you don't come and then and then I leave and then you're like, Hey, you call on and you're like, Dude, I'm dying to go I've been dying in that sauna. No, y like, okay, let's pull back the curtain. I feel like you guys can invite me over m way more. Maybe just not the sauna. Yeah, you know. You just don't want to so. You never invite me you only invite me over to sauna and it's That's right,'cause that's all I do. Right, but it's like that's so sweaty.

I can tell you my evening's exact just like my breakfast and my mor you know, my my evening is the exact same every single night. Mm-hmm. I sauna at five o'clock. I cold plunge. I get in the hot tub with the girls. I hear about their day. Then we have dinner. We watch TV and go to bed. So the only time to be social in that scenario is the big sauna block. I guess you can invite me over for dinner.

You could come over for dinner, that makes a lot of sense. That's mo that's very traditional actually. I mean like I guess T V T Ved which we're already at capacity. That's fine. Yeah, there's four of us in the one bed. It's already uh a little tight. So you guys never hung up, that's the point. No, and I definitely didn't go in the sauna. Do not worry. Uh do not worry about that. And I'll come over to sauna. I just, you know I just don't like the sauna. Well, I do like it.

There's a couple of hurdles. One, you have to be in a bathing suit in the sauna. You could wear full out you could wear this outfit. You don't sweat. You could act you actually have the freedom to wear anything. I know, but like Swap. Well, I do sweat in the sauna. It's actually the only place I sweat. It's why I do enjoy it. I do feel good after cause I've sweat. Um but you have to wear a bathing suit and that means you have to be um well Camped. Okay.

And you won't kept. Is the you don't want to count. Well, okay. Kempting is tricky because I don't like to shave. It's like all that's like not really Can I make a pitch? Yeah. Bathing suit, boxers. Shorts. Oh, that's like so ugly. But oh I mean it's great. It looks great. And then if that's how you like to sauna, you're even hotter for it. All right, can I tell you the other tension in my head?

So that's one battle's waging the my aging. Okay. Eighty five percent of the time, who cares? Let's go. Bring on the wrinkles. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. on the thinning here. 15% of the time, let's throw everything we can at this. Let's get a facelift. Let's do it all. Okay. I know. That's like fifteen percent of the time. I know. Anyways, the other tension, and this is I don't really I don't know or this is so confusing to me. When I'm in Nashville, I'm so happy. Yeah.

I can't tell you, it will make no sense to you, but I cannot tell you the amount of joy I get from doing stupid tasks around the yard. That's great. In the garage and with the cars and the boat. Like I'm just so and but I'm not like it's all useless, right? It's just like I mean it's not important. It's just like it's just me staying busy. Yeah. And um Gardening is good for like Yeah, it's good for me for sure.'Cause like just to be moving and doing and then I

I accomplish little things and I feel good about it. And then um I stroll over like I really am Becoming friends with my neighbor, Nate, who I really like a lot. And so like I'll stroll over to his house or he'll stroll over or this was my favorite part of the whole trip. His boat was stuck.

His boat is on a lift that comes so you can take it out of the water at night. Uhhuh. And he lowered it and our lake is a little low right now. So when he lowered it on the lift, it wasn't floating. He couldn't get it off of his lift and he wanted to take it in for service. Okay. And I said, uh How about I hook up my pontoon and see if I can fucking jerk you out of that? Well, that sounded weird. Jerk. And um he was like I wonder you like him.

I don't yeah, you think it'll break the button like it wouldn't be fun if there wasn't some plausible threat of me ruining something. So sure enough, hooked up some ropes. Fucking punched it on the pontoon and pulled the boat right off a thing. Glorious. What I mean again, what n nothing. That's not productive. And I felt like a champion. Yeah.

Yeah, but I'm just saying like it's not productive in the traditional sense. Okay. It's just like I got someone's boat off a thing. But it was like I d we didn't know if it would work. I had to improvise. It was all very rewarding. Yeah. I loved it. So yeah, I stroll over there. I chat with him. I'm like, oh, I'm gonna drive my dirt bike around the yard. Drive my dirt bike for y'all. I am so happy. And then I go. What am I supposed to do?

In life. Okay. Am I supposed to work till seventy? Mm-hmm. Or am I supposed to hang out and do that? And I don't know. Yeah. It's a w I mean it's a blessing. What a fucking enormous blessing that I could get to even Yeah. But it's an interesting thing where it's like, well, and I also love I come back here and I love what we're doing right now and I love interviewing people and that's really fun. Yeah. And being productive is fun and being engaged is fun. Yeah. But man, that's really fun.

I know. And y like at some point in your life you gotta decide. Yeah, you gotta decide. I you'll know. I guess I'll... I think you'll just know. Oh no. I think you just have to commit to one thing. I don't know about that. I don't know. Okay. I'll tell you I had the complete opposite situation. Oh tell me. You were gone and then Also, before you were gone, we had a light week. Very light week. Uh-huh. And then you were gone. So we've had like two oh two weeks of like kind of not doing a lot.

Yeah. And yeah, I still have to edit. There's media, whatever, there's things. But the actual like us doing this wasn't really happening. And You know, I've been just like listening to this other podcast nonstop. But at one point I was like, oh my God, like we have to get back to work. I cannot do this. Like and I was also in meetings, like we were pit we're I'm in

pitches and we had a ton of those. And at first I was like so annoyed. I was like, Oh, I was supposed to have the week off. Like I shouldn't be I shouldn't have scheduled any of this stuff. And then like thank God I did'cause I I don't I need to be working. Like I just am not good without that. Yeah. What if you had gotten a part time job while I was gone? Ha ha ha. I don't know if this is a I can't I don't know if this is well, you could tell me. You lived in Atlanta. Mm-hmm. In suburbs though.

Yeah, that's true. What I'll say is in thirty years in LA, it might be a I don't know. I was very friendly with my neighbors in the one bedroom apartment for ten years. Mm-hmm. We were very close together and we saw each other in the stairwell all the time. Yeah. I went to the birthday parties, every But since I've owned a home, so since 2006, 20 years of living in LA in a home, neighbors here, everyone has a fence. Everyone has a fence in here, yeah.

Which I'll be I can defend. Like we I was talking about fences with people in Nashville and they're like just in general there it's rude, which I get. It's like it just seems rude. Yeah, it's also different. Well, yes. My argument in defense of it is like we're so packed in. You'd have to take all of Nashville and smash it into like you know four.

Square mile thing. Yeah. So when you don't have any space, yeah, you want a little compartment where you feel anonymous or not where you don't see people. Right. I think so this stress of the city kinda brings Right. It's good. Different. Yeah. Yes. Um it's just so different. It's like Completely different. Yeah, and and and I love I like I already love some of my neighbors in Nashville. And I think it's so interesting.

But I do think what's interesting is like you can have that here, especially especially here. This neighborhood is an is as close as you can get to that. LA's not very neighborly. I'll just say that. Like e it's not like it's not like I'm sitting it out and everyone else is uh in the streets chatting. That's not the truth. I'd say I'm even maybe the high watermark in the neighborhood. Like I am chatting with Pari and I you know. Right.

starting a fucking ha uh hayride thing, you know, but it's not a neighborly city. It's not a neighborly city, but I actually think this neighborhood is fairly neighborly, so much so this it doesn't sound good for me. But I w went on a long walk yesterday up Lowsfield. You know, I went like around, not in the neighborhood. I went out. And when I was coming back, I was like Which entrance do I go in so that I don't see anyone? Oh wow.

I like didn't wanna see anyone that moment. And I knew I knew I was going to and I did. You know, like I actually think this neighborhood I've like I've seen Casey, friend of the pod, um, my new friends, uh I saw Pari the other day. And then he he was it was really cute. I was walking, I saw him, we chatted, and then when I was continuing my walk, I saw him he was inside somebody else's house. Like he was hanging out with Heaves very narrowly.

Yeah. And um my neighbor, my actual neighbor, talked to them yesterday. Like, it's I feel like people are So here's my like my question, but I I guess I already have an answer because Aaron lives in a pretty liberal neighborhood and his neighbors are s uh very commingling and no one has fences and everyone's in everyone's backyard. Yeah.

Um, but there's only two things I can observe that I know m specifically. One is it's conservative there and it's liberal here. That's like one thing I know about the differences from where I'm at in Nashville and where um And then it's more rural versus city. I think it's more that. And it's funny'cause those two things are related in general. Like Thank you. Yeah. Cities are more liberal than rural. Um and I just don't know which thing is which and I'm curious.

I think that's why the suburbs are a good thing to look at because they're not rural and they're not city. They're like so specific. And normally you do know like a couple neighbors. And they're nice they're a nice middle ground too, I think, of super conservative and super liberal. Right. It's like more yeah, I would say that. in the country in the far you're very Republican. Yes. When you're in downtown New York City, you're very democrat.

Yeah, you're very yeah, probably. And and then yeah, you kind of maybe don't know as much when you're in the suburbs. It depends on where you are, obviously. But yeah, like my county where I grew up is a blue count went blue. Right. So yeah. Anyway, um And you know like some of your neighbors kind of, but not

No, I know the Padmins weren't dialed in. Yeah. But were you seeing as you drove through your neighborhood, like a bunch of other neighbors in someone else's garage or did you see them congregating together? Yeah. Yeah. Not really. Like my very, very first house, um, when I was a baby. Yeah. My dad I feel like m people would do that a little And like my dad would hang out with the neighbor a little bit, but

Not it it's also if you have kids, it's different. Yeah. Kids definitely go hang out with friends in the neighborhood. And then that starts that thing, you know. So like Like my one of my best friends who lives in Georgia lives in a suburb and like her kids go next door and they come so like yes, if there's kids involved, yeah, yeah, yeah I think that But that doesn't happen at all in LA. I mean virtually at all. I don't know anyone in our pot whose kids hang out at a neighbor's house.

Well no, Erica's Erica's kids go down the street to the neighbor's house. Do they? Yeah. And then like they sometimes all come over to her The Richardsons don't and the Hansons don't and we don't. Cal Calvin's got a friend down the street. Yeah. And he walks over there? Yeah. Yeah. Oh that's great. I think it just depends. Yeah. I think it depends. But also, you know what's a big part of it? I'm just putting two and two together. Schools.

A lot in the suburbs, you're on the school bus to get like everyone's going to public school. So the kids in the neighborhood go to the same school. Yes. Yeah. And then they come and they hang out with each other. And then take a bike ride. Yeah, like you hang out. I mean, I used to in my neighborhood, my best friend Ashley lived in the neighborhood and we hung out every day. And I walked to her house every day and like we went to this other girl can You think that's great?

I loved it. Yeah. It's great. But it's a result of the school bus and school. Like it's the problem is not problem, but some people go to all different schools. oh yeah yeah yeah It's so scattered. I don't have any judgment over either side or think but I will say I do think it's nicer to be neighborly. As I've experienced it, I think that's preferred. And just the little ways we're looking out for each other. Like there was a a dog death.

Of a of a very good friend's dog. I get a text, hey, is it cool if we bury the dog on your property? Of course. We're gonna dig a hole. And now I'm going, that's not gonna happen. Yeah. We it's all granite. Like we had to blast you have to blast anything. Like if you're gonna put a pool in, you gotta blast granite. It's just all granite. So I'm like Yeah. Go ahead. Go ahead. And in my mind, I'm like, they're not gonna be able to dig a hole.

Out there. But I'm not going to get in the way of this in their morning. Okay. And then sure enough they went over to to to to bury the dog and they had some pics and stuff and they were working for quite a while. And then my buddy Nate, whose bol boat I pulled off, he saw what was going on. Oh. And he went to hell. He's in construction. And he had a little front end loader. That's very nice.

And then he said, Can you guys want me to bring the machine over? And and then he did. He spent a bunch of time digging a hole. Yeah. That's very sweet. It's like it's so lovely. And then you know, he can't get his boat off and I'm there and I say hey you want me to get like I I just it's very beautiful. I it's very nice. Yeah, I think it's really nice. I do. I like it. Yeah. I I don't think it can't be that way here. I just think it's not as It's not as setup.

Yeah, like I'm not trying to say oh People in LA are bad, or liberals are bad. I I'm I'm just curious on what forces create these different outcomes that that interests. And I like this outcome. Yeah. Yeah. Well, you can also have a bad neighbor. Oh. And that really sucks. Yeah. And it really sucks if you don't have a fence. Like if you just have neighbors all over the place that aren't If you're if you're at war with your neighbor and you have to see them all the time. Yes. Didn't go bad.

It can go bad. Yeah. It can go bad. But I think that's the thing I like about it. It's kinda like relationships a little bit. It's like You enter a neighborhood going like, these aren't people I picked to be friends with. I got assigned this. But I know we all live together. So I'm gonna have to be a little extra patient and a little extra kind and a little all these things. Yeah. And I think those are good virtues to just be practicing and have on design.

Yeah, for sure. Just not everyone does it and then it it's tricky. Okay, wanna do some facts? Um Oh yeah, let's do facts. I forgot. Okay, these these are for Jenny Garth. So did the Shacklely soup have I looked up Shackley soup because I was like, why would they Going to the soup game. Right. But then they had like seven day healthy cleanse. Like I think they're including the soups as like this overall health thing. Okay, that makes sense. Is the soups are part of a cleanse? Yeah. Okay.

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Sticky sticky hello. They probably with a surgical. Sticky sticky sticky. Yep. Oh wow. For people who don't know there's categories. You have to pay you a certain amount if you say over Five. Yeah, under five. Under five. Maybe it's changed, but the um um okay, you know what's funny though? So this was, you know, a Family show. I loved it. Yeah. This is how things have changed. Like when he says they showed the girls, there's a pop-up that says two available girls. Babus Americanus.

Yeah. And then and they're like doing like boing sounds. Yeah. You had to. Back then. You didn't know it was comedy. Okay, then they show him and it says dudas hornius. Ben Siever, dude is horniest. That's pretty good. It's funny. But it's that like that. On today. It wouldn't. No. It wouldn't. They could bring that back. That's that's pretty good. Yeah, it's funny. Okay. When was Beverly Hillbillies made? Nineteen sixty two is when it premiered. Wow, that's an old show, yeah.

Mm-hmm. Brady Bunch nineteen sixty nine. Choice. Green Acres, nineteen sixty five. and Bewitched nineteen sixty four. Okay, so all sixties. Yeah. That's pretty wild. Now. And I was watching uh I was home from school sick uh in eighty two. Yeah. So twenty years after b the hillbillies were And it held up. Also there was no other option. Right, exactly. Okay. How old was Gabriel Carters in 90210? Uh. She's was twenty nine.

And then when it was over, she was thirty-four. Or when she left, she was thirty-four. Okay. So she was She was older. Продолжение следует... Also it's not weird. It's great. It's great. It's great. Okay. We talk about shame and you said like the beauty of of group therapy is that you say something like that you think is horrible that you've done and then, you know, people are like, No, that that's fine. Like I've done that too. Have you seen the movie The Drama? Yeah, what's that?

Zendaya and Robert Pattinson. It's out now. Okay. I can't say anything about this movie, like at all. Everything would be a spoiler. Yes. But I recommend it. Okay. And it um It's called the drama. flies right in the face of that concept. Oh really? Yes. It's really interesting. Ooh, I want to see it. Did you see it at the Vista? No, I saw it at the Americana. It's only an hour and forty five minutes. God bless. Oh really?'Cause it's too intense.

No, I just hate movies that are too long now. I like can't do it. Oh wow. I was supposed to see Project Hail Mary. I really wanted to see it and we're driving there and I was like, I don't know if I can sit for that long. How long was that? I saw it, I didn't feel long enough. feel like it at all. I know. Great movie. I want to see it, but I'm not. Yeah, I think I will try to watch it at home. It's being in a theater for two hours now. I don't know.

what I'm just like mad. I'm like, guys, can we please just get movies back to two hours? It's funny you say that. I think that's a very common opinion. But when I think of my if I did my top ten movies They're generally longer. Really? Yeah, Pulp Fiction's Long. That's the number one movie. Uh, you know, most Tarantino movies are long. F Once Upon a Time is long. And I want more. I mean Goodwill hunting is like Ninety. Perfect. How long? How long do you think it is before you

Okay, good question. I think it is I think it's a hundred minutes. Okay. እእእእእእእእእእእእእን Two hours and six minutes. Oh okay. Two hours. A hundred and twenty six minutes. Okay. Two hours is fine. Well this is two hours and six minutes. It's your favorite movie of all time. Twenty five. That sounds like a twenty minutes sh shorter than Hail Mary. Yeah, I just can't. It's different. Also now when you go to the theater It's a full 30 minutes. Yeah, when you're from your call time.

As certain theaters, yeah. at the Americana it's thirty minutes. I I've been testing it. I've been looking and testing it and I'm annoyed. That's nuts. Let's just start at the time. Start at the time. That works at the Vista. Yeah. Play. I mean, yeah. I guess I need to be sympathetic. It's hard to keep these fucking exhibition halls open. No one goes to movies, they gotta figure out how to keep'em awake. I understand It's annoying. It's a bad cycle though because it prevents people from going.

The experience isn't as good. Yeah. You're right. So it's tough. Short game for a long term loss. That's right. Name. Yeah. So anyway, I would s I recommend that movie. I wanna I would love to know your thoughts on it when you see it. Yeah, I can't wait. Um and Anything was in there. I know she's great. Picks well. She's great, Robert Pattinson's great in it. Yeah, he's something else, isn't he? He is. I was like As a reward. Yeah. Okay. and that's it that's it yeah

All right, well I enjoyed Jenny Garth. Uh Kelly. Yeah. Really at the height of my consumption of Beverly Hills nine oh two one oh Could you ever have imagined? No, I just truly it wouldn't you could even if you try to explain all the the little steps that would lead to that, I would be like From Kelly. Yeah. Asking her questions. Yes. Never inappropriate, so well behaved. The universe waited till I could be trusted with the opportunity to talk to Kelly. Kelly's been through a lot. She has yeah.

That's a weir when you said eleven share. No, it's not. Again, I don't no one today can really comprehend that a young person. They can't comprehend certain television shows in the eighties and nineties when there was nothing There were CDs and there were four networks to watch shows on. Would nine oh two and oh have been like Emmy nominated? I don't think So what shows were like considered West Wing.

I thought it was uh I thought Westwing was like more I feel like I know that Tommy Shalami won the most amount of directing Emmys of any director. But that's definitely like prestige television. I feel like that was like the b kind of beginning of prestige television. But like 902 and no feels before that. Thirty something was winning. Um you know, all the dramas still. Oh, interesting. Interesting. I wanna look it up real quick. Who emmy nominations what year?

Again, that's what's that's what's happened in this this upside down world, which is before win winning an Emmy was less impressive because there was only seven comedies to choose from. There were twenty four dramas. Right. Now there's one one hundred and fifty. Exactly.

And conversely in movies, it's not quite as impressive to win something there because there's a third of his amount of movies to pull from. It's all upended. Now if you win an Emmy, like that's a shootout. Only surprised by if you win a golden gold for podcasts. First, I shouldn't. Of course I should have known. Um in ninety five. So that was in ninety nine and two and no, but you know, whatever I picked up. It was over ten years. Yeah. Um NYPD blue. Of course. Fraser.

Um they w were the winners. Seinfeld won a lot for the comp. Right. But I guess yeah, okay, it was X Files Law and Order. Never before. No, it wouldn't be. And same with NYPD blue. Although that one's a bit groundbreaking. Right. The X Files Law and Order, NYPD Blue, Chicago Hope, ER. No, I didn't consume both like you have. Yeah. The pit's better than ER, right? Are they the same? I don't wanna get in trouble. I think ER is better. Okay. Simpl maybe simply because Bigger casts, more years.

Yes. Huge cast. The way they're shooting that show is like a movie and there's so many episodes and it's so high. It's so intense. They're like, you know, coming in in one room and moving into the it's like it's a it's So well done. Yeah, oh yeah. And all the characters and like the drama and the no comedy and so much age. Yeah, it's funny. Like the pit doesn't leave the ER. Right. And they did leave the ER an ER. And I love it. Sometimes I went after the pit, it immediately goes to ER.

And you love it. Yeah. All right, that's it. Love you.