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I just don't know how rules are followed. Okay, so we're calling you Taylor. That's very promising. And why did you pick Taylor as a code name? There's two reasons. One, my eight-year-old daughter loves Taylor Swift. Sure.
You could have just said eight-year-old daughter and we would have known the rest. Or 37-year-old daughter. Yeah, also true. And then my best friend growing up and I, that would be our code name. We went to a restaurant and we didn't want to say our name or if we met somebody who we didn't want to tell the truth. to, we would use Taylor. It goes way back. So you do break the rules. No, you admit no rules. Okay, so Taylor, you have a wild card story.
okay i'm gonna try and do this as best as possible and stick with the timeline can i tell you you will not be in trouble if you don't stick to the timeline Okay. Just so you know, there's no threat of trouble. Speak for yourself. Okay. Yes, that's true. One Saturday in 2012, I was cleaning my stove. I cut my thumb on the metal piece of the burner. I'm trying to push through like it's fine, but...
It just kept really hurting me. By Monday morning, my thumb was barely swollen. I had to go to the doctor. I was administered two shots. One is a Tdap shot and the other one was a flu vaccine. After I saw the doctor, I went to another room. I was in there with a nurse. And she got the Tdap shot all fixed up, but she didn't know that I needed this other vaccine. So I saw her look at the paper, then realize, oh, she's getting another one. She came back in with the other syringe.
administered both shots into my arm and I went about my day. By that night, I was feeling really off. So the next morning I wake up. And I have no energy whatsoever. I push through my day at work and I'm just not feeling good at all. So I call my mom because she's my best friend. And I say, I think I need to go to the emergency room. So she meets me at my house.
She's helping me change out of my work clothes. And we noticed that my arm, where I received the shots, was just so swollen and getting like little red spots. So my mom's like, I wonder if it has to do with shots that you got. So we go to the... emergency room they take me in
fairly fast because I had such a bad fever. They give me all the good drugs and I'm still uncomfortable. And they try to say, you know, I think you'll be OK. I think it might just be allergic reaction. You should probably just go home. And I was like, no, I'm not going to go home. I stay the night. And so that was Tuesday night. The next morning, the nurse comes in.
to check my temperature and do my vitals. And she puts the thermometer in my ear and she looks at it and she has this face. She took the cap off and put a new one in, put it in her ear to look, to make sure she was reading it properly. So then she drops the thermometer and just walks out the door in a really big hurry. My mom's a nurse. She went over and grabbed the thermometer and she looked at it and showed me it was 105.8. This is why I'm not feeling.
good i'm glad my symptoms are showing the pain i'm in they get three or four doctors in the room so they're like there has to be a pus pocket in your arm because my arm had grown so much bigger since just the day before. I know. I'm not sure how far I should go with it. So they pull out this needle and it is huge. They put that in my arm three to five.
times and it was excruciating. And were they pulling out pus? No, there was no pus. They were looking for it. They were trying. They didn't find anything. So they're all kind of like scratching their heads. And we knew one of the doctors. He was like, we're going to do all the tests for you. So I went into the MRI. As soon as I get out of the MRI, there is already somebody waiting to bring me up to my room. My mom, my dad.
my best friend were waiting right by the door. I couldn't even hardly say hi because the pre-op. guy came to get me. So it's my mom, my dad, and I in pre-op, the doctor that we know. came in and he was like, we read your MRI and it is glowing. You have necrotizing fasciitis. Well, hold on. Necrotizing fasciitis? That means necrotic flesh. Is it dying necrotic flesh? It's flesh-eating bacteria. Oh, my God!
I've heard of this on the news. I didn't think I'd ever meet anyone in real life. It's a streptus bacteria, isn't it? I think it is because they thought it was like an airborne disease. Luckily, it's not. So I got like a really good room. All the nurses that were coming in, you know, it looked like E.T. They were completely covered. I thought you got that from going in the pond.
Every time people see my arm and ask me the story, because I'll tell anybody, and they're like, oh my gosh, it's from the lake, isn't it? And I'm like, no, it's not. But now you're scaring me. I don't want to go in the lake now. In Georgia, you can't go in the pond or the lake. my mom being the nurse knew exactly what it was. And I'm looking at him and he's like, well, it's flesh eating bacteria. It was the scariest thing because just a few months before that.
There was a report in the news where a lady in Florida had lost all of her limbs with it. And I read so many stories of this poor woman and I just could not believe it. And then here I am. in pre-op ready to go in because I have The same thing that this woman had. Okay, and can I ask, is the source of it your finger you cut or the shot? It was the shot. I sent Emma pictures. I'm not sure if you want to jump ahead. Oh, I do. It's that time. It's that whole pile. The whole pile!
Oh, my Lord. Oh, my God. Holy fuck, America. Oh, this is. Guys, you have to imagine. This is one of the worst things I've ever seen in my life. Oh my Oh, but you have a smile on your face guys. You need to know It is virtually a football taken out of her upper arm. So they went in there and they cut that area out to get to all the bacteria? Yeah. When the doctor came in to talk to us about it, he was like, we are so lucky we caught it. Because it was only in your flesh. It did not...
get to your muscle yet. Thank God. The next day, the pain was still so bad. As you saw, there's black foam in there. It's called a wound back and it helps heal. I won't go into detail. It's a very cool machine, but it's. really gross if you see the whole contraption working. I couldn't handle the wound back because my arm was still really painful. You feel under-medicated throughout this whole story. I want to be there advocating. You need a massive Dilaudid. You need some fentanyl.
I was on Dilaudid, but my fever wasn't going down and the pain medicine was probably helping. But it felt like I was burning from the inside out. Jesus! This is horrifying. I bet you felt like I did in Mexico City, but for days. I think necrotic.
flesh is worse than what I felt. I know. I'm sorry to tell you that. I don't think you can feel worse than I felt for those eight hours. Well, let's hope you don't get this. Don't go in any ponds. I'm going to live on a pond. Oh, my God. Those southern ponds. So how long was the recovery? I was in the hospital for 10 days because of my symptoms and my fever. They were afraid that I was still going to either one, lose my arm or two, it was going to go to my heart because it was on my left side.
I laugh now, but my boyfriend at the time looks at me and he's like, I can't come to the hospital room every day and see you. I have jobs lined up and then I have a workout routine. Oh, sure. He's got to stay fit. At the time is... Oh, wow. That guy sucks. Well, hold on. No, don't. No, no. Don't. I'm only going to ask, were you 20 at the time? Was he like a 20-year-old dum-dum? No, we were 30. Oh, jeez. Okay. Really bad. That's rough.
I was in the hospital for 10 days and then I had that wound back in. for another three months. Wow. And it just slowly closes up and it has to heal from the inside out. Because if you have an infection, you can't just do stitches to cover it back up. So the needle. Yeah. The poor nurse, because I'm sure she.
didn't mean to do this. But in my heart, I feel like she got the Tdap ready, looked at the paperwork and thought, oh, I got to go get that other vaccine and then put the Tdap syringe on the tray. and then went to go get the other syringe with the vaccine in it and then came back and administered it in my arm when my arm got swollen.
you could actually see where the needle had gone in. So it was like opening up, I guess you could say. It was starting to eat right there. Exactly. So we think it just wasn't clean. That may be on the tray. That's my guess because they did go through and do all the tests to make sure it wasn't the actual lot of those Tdaps. Nobody else in my area had contracted this. I was the lucky one in a million.
Joey, wow. Oh, Taylor. Sometimes life is just insanely unfair. You didn't even like do anything wrong while you cut your finger. Well, you picked a bad boyfriend. That's the good thing about this. It just showed me who was there for me.
who I really should be spending my time with. It really makes you change your perspective on life. You're very positive. I like that. A lot of silver linings here. Boy, that fucking sucks. I'm going to put that in the top five worst injuries I've ever seen. And I've seen like a guy's leg.
come completely off in a snowmobile accident. Yeah, I think this is like the shark, the wolf bear, whatever. Oh, the bear attack. And this. Yeah. These are the worst. Yeah. And the best. Should we have a banquet for like the most injured arm cherries? Oh, how fun. I'll be there. Well, thank you so much for sharing that. Yeah, thanks, Taylor. That's incredible. Thank you. You guys have a good day. All right, you too. Bye. Bye, Taylor.
Oh man, I'm sad that happened to her. You can't even post that picture. No. You'd get kicked off Instagram. They could have done an episode of Magic School Bus where they go into the wound in the bus. Oh, explore it with like spelunking tools. You could definitely rappel down into this gash. Wow. Oh. That sucks.
I am never going in a lake. I think when people get sick at the hospital, it's so fucking common. They say it's like the most dangerous, but there's so many. Bacterias, viruses. I mean, yeah. Superbugs. Hey guys, how are you? Is this Brennan? It is. That's a great name. I don't think I've ever met a Brennan. I'm the first, I guess. Sometimes it's spelled with an A-N and not an E. Okay, so you've met other Brennans. Yes, but not in the same spelling. Are you at a school? I am.
I'm actually at school. Are you a teacher? I'm a student advocate at a high school. Oh, cool. I work at an alternate high school. I help kids who are in rehab, teen parents. The Aaron Winkley's of the world. He went to an alternative high school. You could smoke cigarettes in class. stuff. It was real loosey goosey. Sometimes with the teachers. Okay, so Brennan, you have a wild card story. I do. So it was June of 2014. We had just gotten married and our honeymoon was to Paradise Valley.
in Montana. We're going to go whitewater rafting on the Yellowstone. It was the second day we got there. It was kind of overcast, raining on and off. It's June in Montana, so it's not super warm yet. There was a lot of runoff still, so the water levels were pretty high and it was cold. We showed up the outfitter thinking that we were going to have like this big group of people.
to go river rafting with. And there was two other people and the guy. So it was my wife, Nicole, myself, a guy named Billy, I'm going to say, and a guy named Jeff. Billy was probably in his late teens. I don't know if he was. quite an adult yet. And then Jeff was in his mid-50s. He was Billy's dad? He was Billy's uncle. Oh. Which I...
Kind of thought it was weird at the time, but I mean, whatever. Yeah, you never know. So we showed up with this outfitter. The guide's like, hey, all you need is a life jacket and a wetsuit. leave your keys leave your phone he's like oh if you want the real experience you need to leave your shoes i'm just barefoot i think everybody else was like now i'm wearing my shoes like i want the real experience i'm a river man he was challenging your masculinity he definitely was on the way
to the river drop, he starts explaining to us, there's only really two spots that you have to be concerned about. The first spot is a class four rapid at the very beginning. The second one is about a mile down that same river. It's called a hydraulic hole or what people call a washing machine rapid. And what can happen with that is if you get sucked in.
it's hard to get out. It just kind of recycles you. So we get to the drop-off area, get in a boat, and on both sides of this river are basically just cliffs. So one side of the river is the road we drove in on. The other side is like a service road. We're 20 miles from really anything. So there's...
Nicole and I are up front and behind Nicole is Jeff and then behind me is Billy. The guide says, hey, when we get up to this rapid, this class four, you have to paddle super hard or there's a chance that, you know, the boat could flip. At this point is when he's like, oh, by the way, if you fall in, make sure you hold on to the wrath. So we can kind of see this rapid coming up.
He's like, all right, everybody needs to paddle as hard as they can. So we just dig in, dig in, dig in. I remember looking back and seeing Billy and he's frozen. He wasn't paddling. He wasn't doing anything. Sure, sure. Jesus. And it was scary. I remember the last thing. I saw was my feet in the sky. Oh, your bare feet. My bare, hairy, hot-ass feet. Then I just remember darkness and cold. The water was so... So the boat did a wheelie. It went straight up. Basically just flipped on it. Oh, boy.
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He says, hey, I got to hop on top of this because on the top of the raft, there's a rope that they can pull in case of a flip. So he's like, hey, I got to pull this raft back over. You guys need to let go for a second. So he counts one, two, three. And on three. Billy lost his shit. He lets go and he jumps on top of me.
Like on my head, pushes me under the water. Why? What? He's panicked like he's going to drown. So he's like trying to grab onto something. This is why you don't rescue a drowning swimmer, by the way. Have you guys seen that scene in The Guardian where he elbows him? Yeah, that's the move is you got to knock the person out. I should have elbowed it, but he jumps on top of my ass and sends me and him.
down river. It was enough for us to push us away from the raft. We are moving at a much faster pace than the raft. Did he get it over? Because that's its own challenge. Yeah. He actually was able to pull Jeff and Nicole back in.
it's a crazy river and i'm in and out in and out trying to catch my breath and all the while i like go under i come back up and i can hear like and i finally hear the guy get to the left side get to the left side washing machine yeah oh my god and in my head i'm like oh god nicole's there they're paddling the guys paddling all jeff is doing at this point is just scream crying for billy Oh, yeah. He's like, how am I going to tell my brother I lost his son out on this river?
This is a mess. So I start swimming as hard as I can. I could just hear Billy screaming behind me, and I'm like, he's not even moving. He's sitting there with his hands on his life jacket, just screaming bloody murder. Oh, fuck Billy. Oh, Billy. Part of me was like, do I do the selfish thing and just keep swimming and just let him go? Let's relieve you of some guilt. You're doing a quick analysis whether...
One of you can live or none of you can live. I think that's the right math to be doing. I didn't even think about Billy. Oh, okay. Yeah. Billy's on his own. Billy is the reason you're in this situation. You kind of want Billy to be punished a little bit. That's diabolical. So I'm sitting in the river and I'm like, okay, I got it.
I go back and get Billy. Wow, you're nice. On the river, the right side as you go around is where the washing machine rapid is. The reason he was telling us to get to the left is because if you got far enough to the left of the river, you would miss it. I go back and I grab him with my right arm.
by the life jacket. And he's just like flailing. He's not doing anything. I'm trying to one arm myself and him to the left side of the river. I was exhausted at this point, but my adrenaline was going. So I had enough strength to get to where I knew he was going to be okay.
And I knew that if I didn't let him go, we were both going over. At that point, I was like, okay, I'm going to get to the shore. I think I pulled him enough. I got to the side of the shore, got out and just like laid on a rock and then barely went over. And I didn't see him.
go into the rapids like i couldn't see him at all the way the river was and so i had no idea if i had helped him but i do remember one specific moment of terror when i'm laying on this rock just exhausted i remember looking back and seeing my newly wedded wife And the guide and the screaming middle-aged man fly past me. Yeah. How are they going to come get me? I'm in the wild by myself. What the hell am I going to do?
I am now laying on this rock in the middle of the Yellowstone Wilds, basically, with no shoes, no cell phone. All I have is my life jacket and my wetsuit. And you're in buyer country. Oh, no. So we were driving through Yellowstone the day before and had seen some black bears. That's all that's in my mind like, oh, no. Yeah, what's next is the bears. You feel so validated, right, to just avoid the nature. Don't go there.
Don't go to nature. Well, I don't anymore. There's the two cliffs on each side. I have to make a decision. I'm like, all right, I'm going to climb up this cliff.
and go to the service road and maybe that's where the company van can come get me and i'll just kind of wait there because you're like there's no way i'm getting back in the water no hell no float down to meet them okay that did cross my mind maybe i could walk along the river and they maybe have stopped but i didn't know if they just kept
going. I don't know. Billy had just kept going. So I'm like, they could be miles down the river. Who knows how long it would take. So I start climbing this cliff, basically barefoot. My feet are bleeding. I get to the top and I kid you not. Do you know what goat heads are? No. They're like a thorn. They get like hard when they fall off and they're like really pokey and they get in bike tires and bike tires go fly all the time. There's a whole freaking field of them.
So I take off my life jacket and I try to strap it to my feet thinking like maybe I could like scooch across this field of go heads. No, it didn't work. So I basically just had to like walk across this nasty field. All the while. They had caught up to Billy. He had gotten out of the river, pulled the boat off.
The guy was like, hey, I'm going to go up and take Billy back to the van. He's not going to want to keep going. All of them were like, we don't want to go. Nicole's like, I don't want to keep going. Like, where's my husband? Yeah. What the hell is going on? And he goes, well, I'm going to go up and drop Billy off and look for Brennan.
He's gone for 30 minutes, comes back without Billy and tells Nicole, oh, I found Brennan. He's going to go back in the van. He doesn't want to keep going. So he lied? He lied. told Nicole that I was okay and safe. Oh my God. Okay, hold on. Everyone's going to hate this and make an argument for them. No, Dax, no. Look, everyone's fucked at this point. Let's just say no one's day is going as planned. So he's like, okay.
I have this woman on board. Is it going to be easier for her to continue thinking her husband's safe? Why do they need to continue? Why can't they do what he did with Billy? I don't know that part. They can only pull the raft out at a certain point in the river because it's so heavy. And they remember the cliffs. So there was like a side path that they walked up.
but it wasn't wide enough for the raft so they had to finish the boat leave the fucking boat oh my god expensive boat the boat who gives a you get the people out I mean, I agree. He comes back, tells Nicole that I'm safe, that I didn't want to finish. I'm like, come on, man. I literally just got married to this woman. Please don't make me sound like some sort of weenie. He's like, hey, you got to finish the tour with us at that point. And it was probably like only enough.
two hours or so. So they get back in and the rest of the river is pretty calm for them. But all the while, I finally get to the road. But for some reason, I don't know if I got disoriented. I started walking in the wrong direction. And now when I think back, I'm like, I was so stupid because I could have just looked at the river. So I take off the top of my wetsuit because now I'm just cold. So I'm half naked, basically.
with just my life jacket in my hand and I'm walking down the road for probably like 40 minutes or so and this Prius starts coming down the road and I'm like I'm saved sweet they can like call somebody it's all good right there's a lot of tourists in Yellowstone
And I could not communicate with them. They spoke an entirely different language. Sure, sure, sure. They were on vacation. And all they said was Yellowstone with a question mark. Yellowstone? Where's Yellowstone? They were looking for you to help them. Fine.
old faithful also i'm bleeding so they turn around and leave and i'm like okay at least there's traffic on this road right so i keep walking and i finally get to this like ranger shack i put my life jacket on the ground and just kind of lay down And it starts to rain. All of a sudden, I just see the headlights and the van. So they had finally found me. And it was...
four hours or so later. Oh my God. Billy had run up to Nicole after all this and was like, oh my gosh, your husband saved my life. Thank you so much. She's like, get away from me. Yeah. After all of this, we're back in the van and the guy was like, hey.
how would you like to come work with us next summer? You can get certified and come work on the river with us. And I'm like, yeah, that sounds awesome. Let's do it. My wife was like, absolutely. That guy is up and down. He's like saying you're not qualified.
You get your quitter, and then he's offering you a job. I mean, he's really got to get his narrative straight. I wouldn't be surprised if their river rafting business is no longer around. Yeah. Whoa, whoa, whoa. Oh, Brennan, have you ever gone rafting again? No. i would but the very next day we actually went hiking and ran into some brown bears and my wife
Took off running, left me for dead again. Oh, wow. This is a horrible honeymoon. It was great. You're still together, though. Yep, we're still together. She's actually here. Get her in here. Bye. Hi. Can you hear us? Yes. That sounds like a terrible honeymoon. Yeah. Yeah. I was like, I'm going to be a widow. And the guide was like, Brennan's not finishing. And I'm like. I married a horrible person. I'm not following all the logistics of why he couldn't just bring you back up.
I don't know either. Maybe he wanted to spend extra time with me or something. Yeah, maybe that was. He flipped it. He drove it straight into the jump.
Flipped it. He's like, I'll be alone with her in no time. Exactly. He's got to get rid of his uncle and nephew. And I'm going to say your husband is a wimp. He went back to Utah, he told me. He's getting this annulled. Well, it's nice meeting both of you. I'm sorry that was... your honeymoon no it's all good we're happily married so thanks for letting us tell our story guys all right take care see ya wow honeymoon honeymoon in hell my honeymoon is gonna be in a spa yeah
Yeah. Fuck you. Keep it nice and safe. But you might fall in love with your masseur. Well, you want a little risk. That's the kind of risk I'm willing to take. Yeah, that's the kind of risk you'll take on. You mean masseuse. I said masseur. I know. Mon Monsoor. Mon Monsoor. Hello. How are you all? Wonderful. Is this Elizabeth? This is. Where are you at, Elizabeth? in south carolina oh wonderful okay so you have a wild card story so this could be anything
Could be a ghost story. We don't know. Not a ghost story. When I was graduating college, I wanted to do something fun summer after. And my professor reached out and was like, I'm going to climb Mount Kilimanjaro over the summer. And I was like, oh. like a great opportunity, something I would never do. Honestly, I love a shower at night, love to sleep in my bed, like not a camping girl. But for some reason, I was like, this is great. This is exactly what I need.
Taken some classes with her. She was great. And she was like, I'm taking students from my last institution. We get there and she was like, oh, one more thing. After we hike the next day, I really like to go and get a massage.
I was like, oh, that's awesome. I can get on board with a massage. Now she's speaking your language. We were just talking about spas. Monsoors. We climbed the mountain. Honestly, the climb itself wasn't awful. How long did it take? Seven days up, two days down. So nine in total. Yuck.
No wonder you get a massage after. Are you camping? Are there lodges along the way? No, you're in a tent. I don't know why I wanted to do this. I would never do it again. I mean, I had a great experience. And you're going pooty in the woods and stuff? Mm-hmm. The whole nine yards. When we were at camp, they would set up these little tent porta potties.
But if you had to go on the hikes during the day, you just had to find like a rock. And hope a lion didn't leap out from behind you. And how do you wipe? You wipe with the rock? I brought toilet paper. Oh, good for you. There's no way. But...
A lot of people really struggled with altitude. And so their stomachs were super messed up and they were just having to find rocks and stuff. And the higher you get, the less rocks there are. So less things to really hide behind. And it was really more of just like a distance.
thing whenever you had to go i'm not doing this so that was interesting but the hike itself was great but the whole time i was really looking forward to the massage like at night when i was cold in my tent i was like this is gonna be worth it i'm gonna get this massage at the end or like when my shoulders or my feet were
I was like, massage at the end. So we finish and the next day I wake up and I was like, today is the day. They didn't have one big place for everyone to go. So they dropped us off. around Tanzania to get these massages in pairs of two. And so I get dropped off in the strip mall.
with the girl that I shared a tent with. It looks spa-like on the inside. They did tell me not to expect a massage like I would get here, which I was like, that's fair. I am here for the experience. I do enjoy traveling. Whatever is going on there, I'm good for. So I get... into the room and I wait for the lady to leave and she doesn't. And I was like, OK, cool. And she just starts addressing me. Oh, wow. She's addressing you. Oh, wow. This is interesting. But again.
going with it. And I turn around and she's like, get on the table face down. And it's just a table. And have you gotten down? Okay, but hold on. Have you gotten fully nude? I was wearing leggings. So I wasn't wearing anything under the leggings. I was expecting some coverage. So there was just nothing there. Just on a table. Also, yeah, not comfy. So cold. Oh my God. I'm laying face down and I'm kind of taking in the room as she's getting things ready.
And I'm looking at the walls because the lights didn't turn off either. It's like bright lights. There was no relaxing, no like music playing. Surgery room. And I'm noticing oil. all over the walls okay as i'm thinking this is so weird i hear like splurt and then all over my back there's oil whatever you're thinking triple it and that's probably how much and so i'm laying on my stomach and she's massaging
my back and I'm trying to like really enjoy it I'm kind of relaxing by the time we're done with being on my stomach and she's like flip over I flip over and I'm alarmed at how naked i am the lights are all on and we make eye contact and she looks at my boobs and she goes how old are you
I was like 22 and she was like, little girl, I don't have big boobs. Wait, you made a pinching sign. Did she pinch your breasts? Yeah, she grabbed them. She said very flat chested. Oh my, I'm trying to recover from that. And she's like massaging my shoulders. She finds her way back to my boobs and just continues.
there for like 10 or 15 minutes. She likes that part. Maybe she thinks she'll make them bigger. Elizabeth, what's your comfort level? Because again, we've talked about this in previous massage episodes. I can see myself succumbing to whatever. I could lock in.
Like, I'm going with this. You know, where were you at mentally when she was on minute eight of your breast massage? I was just kind of going with it. I was like, this is going to be funny when I meet up with my friend that I share this tent with. And I was like, we're going to laugh about this.
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so i mean she's like playing with my nipples the whole nine yards she kept making eye contact with me every time i opened my eyes wow this is a nightmare it became a lot and so she continues to move down my body and i realize
And she's going down there. Finally said something. I was like, we're good here. And she was pretty offended. I felt bad. She said, well, where would you like to spend this extra time? I was like, I guess my feet really hurt. I was like, I'm going to get anything out of this. My feet were hurting.
nine days on that mountain. So I'm going to need a little extra love there. I don't want to dwell on your assault, but I am curious. Was she going to try to finger you? I think she was going for happy ending. Yeah, right. At the time, that was where my mind was. I was just so confused. Yeah. I'm just going to let this slide on my boobs. So, like, this is a really weird situation. It went from this is cultural to now it's not. Yeah, this is an erotic massage. Fuck.
He finishes up on my feet. She did a great job down there. We're wrapping things up. And she's like, would you like to go to the shower with me? And I was like. Although my body is covered in all of this oil, I'm good. We're done. So I go to try to dress and she again wants to dress me. The leggings and the oil, it was...
The longest. This is worse than the hike. Yeah, it is. It really was. And at any point, were you going, oh, wow, my professor's a pervert. She likes an erotic massage. No, but she didn't know about this place. Let's find out. I thought the boo part was.
what honestly i was just like this is so weird we're gonna laugh about this i was just really trying to make this a funny situation i guess i don't know i didn't want to think about it too hard she finally dresses me i used to wear like all these friendship bracelets she's trying to get those back on and i finally said let me just put
them in my pocket so we get done and I'm in the lobby and I pay I meet up with my friend and I was like wow that was like a really weird massage and she's like what are you talking about I was like did they touch you And she was like, touch me. Yeah, it was a massage. I was like, did they play with your boobs? She was like.
No. Oh, no. Oh, wow. Wait, she's like, I think that lady was trying to give you a happy ending massage. And I was like, oh, that was the first time that it clicked. Oh, my Lord. She might have just been a fucking perv. Did you talk to your professor? about it yeah she was like you have the worst luck so no one else had this wow just me oh i would be so freaked out with the hand starting to crawl down what would you have done on the breast part
I would have done the same thing. I would have thought the breast part was cultural. Especially because they gave me the warning. I was just like, oh, this is just what they do. Because everything else besides not having like a blanket or anything was a very regular massage. A lot of extra oil.
Just a regular massage. Right. An excessive amount of oil. Wow, so weird. Oh, that was great, Elizabeth. That was great, thank you. Real twisty and turny. Massage Stories was our first Armchair Anonymous. I know, and I missed the prompt. Yeah. That's what birth... the idea I was getting a massage at a hotel and I'd seen all these older men there on lovers weekends with their wives and I thought all these guys are on Viagra and Cialis
Are they becoming erect in these massages? That's what it started as. Are you sure? Yes, that's 100% what I started thinking. What are all these guys who are all bumped up on C. Ellis and Viagra for the weekend doing in these massages? Are they getting boners? I don't remember. You don't remember that part? I remember that. I think it's everyone but Monica remembers it. You just scrubbed it from your memory. Yeah, that's probably right. Oh, man.
Well, thank you so much. So nice meeting you. All right. Bye-bye. I wanted to tell her that she could go by a little bit. Help me through. Help me with the math of that. The Queen of England. Her name was Elizabeth. Yeah, Queen Elizabeth. And her husband and family called her Lilibet. Lilibet. We learned that on The Crown? Yep. Why'd I forget that part? Because I'm bad with names. Cassandra?
Yes. Beautiful earring. Very eye-catchy. Thank you. They are by an indigenous artist named Joe Big Mountain. He did the quill work for Lily Gladstone's Oscar dress. No way. Amazing. Where do you live? So I am currently located in Salt Lake City. Okay. And are you from Utah? No, born and raised in Montana. We just talked to an armed cherry that's from Salt Lake and their story took place in Montana.
That's true. Okay, so you have a wild card story. This takes place August 29th, 2001. I am 19 at the time, and I am supposed to be starting my freshman year of college in a week. I grew up in a rural town called Phillipsburg, Montana, and outside of town, there was a sapphire mine.
summer job i worked at the sapphire night two parts to it you could as a tourist go pay for a five gallon bucket of dirt and sift it down or you could go up and dig your own dirt if you were more intense and that's where i worked Happened to be my last day on the job before I was done for this season. And at the beginning of the season for this particular feed dig site, a backhoe had gone in, created a pretty big trench.
20, 25 feet wide, sort of these two walls that people could then dig into. Fast forward, end of the season here, one of the walls got to be pretty tall. We're talking about 8 to 10 feet. And a large overhang started to develop. I'm sitting out away from this wall and I hear a crack. Everything goes black. I am completely buried. Buried alive. In thick, heavy dirt. We're talking.
Two to three tons just on me. No. Oh, my gosh. Are you by yourself? So there's customers up there. Sad part of this story is there was another customer. rock hound from idaho loved to spend his vacation time at their digging stones and he was further underneath and he died on impact oh my god so this is a severe crushing amount of weight huge imagine 10 feet tall 15 feet long just falling down it crashes down on me
I think, oh, this is going to be like an avalanche. Let me try and get my hands up to my face, create an air pocket. I try and turn away and everything goes black. I am not in my body. I am immediately just in the universe having a conversation. There is no sense of time. My body does not exist. I have all the time in the world to decide whether I want to live or die.
It was just this really comforting place to be. There was no panic. There was just, oh, here's a decision I get to make. Wow. And so I'm having this conversation with the universe. Other people talk about... white lights and life reviews and their near-death experiences. I didn't get any of that. It was just me saying, yeah, I don't think I'm quite done yet. I've got some things I'd like to do. There was one particular sentence that I said, which was, I haven't been a judge yet.
At the time, I was political science, pre-law. And the minute I said that sentence, I was back in my body. And it was just like instantaneous. It felt like I was in that space for like... 10-15 minutes In actuality, I was maybe a minute to a minute and a half. I can hear them saying my name. I'm aware of what's happening. I'm aware I'm completely buried. And really quick, when you tried to move your hands up to your mouth to create that air pocket, could you move your body? at all or
You cemented in. Completely cemented in. This is the nightmare of all nightmares. This is someone who's claustrophobic. I mean, you're having a hard time breathing, right? Yeah, I can't breathe. Wow. I'm trying to spit some dirt out of my mouth. And one of the guys who'd been up there a lot that summer, so I'd gotten to know him really well, he sees this little bit of dirt move and he starts to uncover my face. My eyes are just caked with dirt, so I actually can't see anything.
And I wear contacts. I really can't see anything. They start to get my body uncovered. In the meantime, this is 2001, rural Montana. There's no cell phone service.
Our radios were not working. So one of the other customers jumped in their private vehicle and drove like the 15 minutes down the mountain back to the base to call 911 and say, we need help. There's been a... cave in at the sapphire mine and people are buried oh my god as they're starting to get me uncovered and they get my torso uncovered first and free up my arms they
get this pretty big boulder off my chest and when they removed that weight blood started moving everywhere and i could tell that i was bleeding inside I'm like spitting into my hand asking one of the other customers up there, hey, what color is this? I need to know. And he's like, well, why do you need to know? And I'm like, well, I need to know if I'm spitting up blood yet.
And that kind of cued them into like, oh, she might know other things that's wrong with her. So it's like, yeah, my neck feels funny. My back feels funny. My pelvis feels funny. These are the areas that I can tell are probably broken. They continue getting me.
unburied, and there was a boulder that fell next to my head so close that it pinned my hair down. It was so big they couldn't move it, so they had to just cut my hair to get my head away from it. It took about an hour to dig me out. The volunteer ambulance shows up. because that's what we have. The closest hospital that I need to get to is over 90 minutes away.
Are you optimistic during this or are you starting to get concerned you're going to run out of time? This very comforting conversation that I just had with the universe was, nope, here's my new contract. I'm going to live.
and so pretty calm about the whole thing i get loaded up on volunteer ambulance backboard neck brace we're going down the mountain i'm really starting to go into shock emergency life support from missoula had gotten the call they rushed out to meet up with me we do a transfer on the side of the road they are working on me they realize i got pretty much no blood in me. They tried IVs in my feet, my neck, nothing was sticking. They put a big stint into my left lung to get me some air.
Finally, they load me up into that ambulance. We take off again. About 15 minutes later, a helicopter finally makes it to us, transferred again on the side of the road. They're working on me again on the side of the road before they get me up in the air. the whole time, haven't lost consciousness. Still there, still talking. Finally, we land at the hospital on top of the roof and they get me out of the helicopter. I just see white coats everywhere and get me into the elevator.
Those doors close and it was this very conscious, all right, I'm out. I pass out. I wake up in the emergency room to... my mom and one of the nurses stitching up my hand. So they did emergency chest tubes and gave me a little over four units of blood. They stabilized me. And then the next day they flew me out to Seattle Harborview.
because I was a trauma one and I needed massive teams of doctors. My pelvis was broken in four different spots and my left SI joint was totally hinged open towards the back and then rolled back forward. So they thought they were going to have to put a rod like in and out of my pelvis area to stabilize it. They told my parents I'd be out in Harborview for four to six weeks. So I flew out there August 30th, 2001.
Spent three days in the ICU, then got moved to my own room. About September 8th, they removed the chest tubes. And we said, okay, we're going to discharge on September 10th. Not even two weeks. Yeah. The only way for me to get home comfortably was by air. I was not going to do a 10-hour ambulance ride in my condition. So we chartered a flight to come to Seattle, pick me up and fly me back to Montana.
It's pretty late in the afternoon on September 10th. My pulmonologist is like, eh, what's one more day? And my mom was like... We're getting home tonight. The flight is here. The plane's here. We're leaving. I don't care what time. So we land in Montana. It's still a little light out, but the sun's starting to set. And then I get to a rehab facility.
And then the next day, September 11th, and air traffic shuts down. Oh, my gosh. Wow, wow, wow, wow, wow. Sim, sim, sim, sim, sim. Mom's intuition. That's why you can't say what's one more day. So I started. my freshman year of college in a neck brace, my left arm in a sling, a leg brace, and a wheelchair. I broke C7 and T1 at the spinous process, my third and fourth left rib, my left clavicle.
Both my lungs burst. My kidney and spleen bled out. Major trauma to my left thigh. It's still numb to this day. Major trauma to my right knee. Lots of broken teeth. Fractures in my feet. I was told I would never ski again. I walked at six weeks. I skied at Christmas. Wow. That's amazing. And are you a judge? It's like you got hit by a train. Just about. I'm not a judge. Random life events led me into social work, and I am a therapist. I specialize in religious trauma.
Oh, wow. My goodness. Buried alive. Worst. I'm going to have a nightmare tonight. Yeah. You can count on it. Has the rest of the life been a joke? Like, well, I've already been through the worst thing. I got that out of the way. Honestly, it's interesting. I've never had any nightmares. There's been no PTSD about that. My story? I wouldn't change it. What a story. What a story. Oh, man. Well, that delivered. Thank you so much. You're very welcome.
Side note, as a therapist, both of you, thank you for all the work you guys do with mental health and Dax for being a vulnerable white man. That's really important to everyone. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you so much. Great meeting you. Take care. Bye. I'm starting to agree with you. I was against you, and now I don't ever want to leave the safety of my bedroom. Yep. These were scaly. Yeah, they should have been called Scaly Cod. Twobble, twobble, twobble.
Well, you know, life is... Life is a box of chocolates, as F. Gump said. I'm glad you're safe. I have a lot of gratitude for our safety. Me too. Lungs burst? How do your lungs burst when you carry on? Anyone listening, just knock on wood right about now. Give it a good knock knock. And we'll see you next week. All right. Love you. Love you. Do you want to sing a tune or something with a theme song? Oh. Okay, great. We don't have a theme song.
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