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Anatomy of Us

Anatomy of Uswww.anatomyofus.com
A podcast dedicated to bringing real help to real couples! Hosts Seth Studley, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, and his wife Melanie Studley, Marriage Expert and Coach, answer listener questions about sex, intimacy, communication, conflict resolution, in-laws issues, healing from infidelity, and so much more! Their authentic and down-to-earth approach to helping couples has transformed thousands of relationships. They have three kids and live outside of Seattle, Wa.
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Your Triggers Might be WRONG! Rethinking what your triggers REALLY mean.

Welcome back to Anatomy of Us! 🎙️ Today, Melanie Studley is flying solo to dive deep into a hot topic: triggers. Ever feel like you're constantly on edge, blaming others for how you react? This episode's insightful discussion is for you! 🙌 Here's what you'll learn: Redefining Triggers: Melanie breaks down why the term "trigger" is overused and often misapplied. Discover what really constitutes a legitimate trigger. Personal Insight: Hear Melanie's powerful story of overcoming trauma from a sev...

Jun 12, 202416 min

Take Life by the Horns!

🎙️ Welcome to Anatomy of Us! 🎙️ In today’s special mini-episode, Melanie takes the reins solo to share some transformative insights that have been floating around in her mind. 💭 She dives deep into the empowering concept of Taking Life by the Horns and how you can direct your path with intention and strength. 🔹 Empowerment through Choice: Learn how to make deliberate choices about your reactions, instead of letting life push you around. 🔹 Proactive Preparedness: Discover the power of decidi...

Jun 06, 202411 min

Is this Anxiety REALLY Mine?! Examining Inherited Anxiety

👋 Welcome to Anatomy of Us! Today Melanie Studley is flying solo to dive into a topic that's been on her mind: Inherited Anxiety. 🌟 In this episode, Melanie explores how we often unknowingly inherit anxieties and fears from our families and claim them as our own. 😲 Join Mel as she breaks down the importance of examining and distinguishing between inherited anxieties and our own true feelings. This concept doesn't just apply to anxiety but to other inherited traits like prejudices and assumpti...

May 29, 202413 min

Building a Non-Anxious Life with Dr. John Delony

Welcome to the latest episode of the Anatomy of Us podcast, where Melanie Studley and Seth Studley are joined by special guest and friend, Dr. John Delony, for an enlightening discussion on his new book "Building a Non-Anxious Life." This episode kicks off with a laid-back conversation featuring personal anecdotes and even some pet stories, setting a relatable tone for what follows. Dr. Delony, drawing from his experience as a therapist, delves into the normalization of anxiety and the challenge...

May 15, 20241 hr 7 min

HELP, my kid is OUT OF CONTROL! W: Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor & Parenting Coach Dan Peterson

In today's episode, we sit down with Dan Peterson, Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor & Parenting Coach, to discuss what to do when your kid is out of control! 😩 😵‍💫 😭 Meet Dan, the Founder of The Compass 4 Life, who brings years of expertise in clinical psychology and the Nurtured Heart Approach™ (NHA) to the table. 🌟 With a Masters degree from Benedictine University and personal training from NHA founder Howard Glasser, Dan is your go-to expert for handling challenging children....

May 01, 202453 min

How to OWN YOUR DAY with Melanie's Prayer Planner + Journal!

Today, we share a behind-the-scenes look at Melanie's all new Prayer Planner + Journal! Melanie created this planner/journal to master her ADHD, Dyslexia, and the chaos of being a business owner and a busy mom of three! Melanie explains the components of the planner, how she uses it each day, and where you can get your own so that you can master YOUR LIFE! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mar 21, 202435 min

My Husband does NOT want to GROW!

In this insightful episode, Melanie and Seth Studley discuss the challenges of navigating personal growth disparities within relationships. Inspired by a listener's question about what to do when your partner isn't interested in personal development or marriage growth, they share their own experiences and offer practical advice on how to handle situations where one partner is less interested in personal development. Melanie (Speaker and Coach) and Seth (Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist) ...

Mar 13, 202432 min

Erectile Dysfunction in a Sexless marriage

Today, we're diving into a super important topic: erectile dysfunction in a sexless marriage. We've got a listener question asking how to bring up this sensitive issue with her husband as well as addressing the issue of a sexless marriage for many years. From spotting the signs to starting the talk, we've got your back with practical advice and a sprinkle of humor. We'll chat about fostering understanding, seeking support, and keeping the love alive in your relationship. So, if you're curious, c...

Mar 06, 202436 min

The Five Dos and Don'ts of Emotional Support in Marriage

🔍 Ever wondered how to navigate emotional support in your marriage like a pro? Look no further! In this episode of the Anatomy Of Us Podcast, hosts Seth and Melanie Studley break down the essential dos and don'ts to master the art of emotional support in your relationship. 🎯 Whether you're a newlywed or a seasoned couple, these insightful tips will help you deepen your connection and foster a stronger bond with your partner. 👂 DO Actively Listen: Learn the importance of giving your full atten...

Feb 28, 202456 min

The 5 Dos and Don’ts of Shared Responsibility in Marriage!

In this episode, we're spilling the tea ☕ on essential strategies for keeping harmony alive in your household. From chore wars to decision-making dilemmas, we've got you covered! 💪 DO: ✅ Communicate openly about who's the laundry pro and who's the dishwashing master. ✅ Fairly divide tasks based on skills, availability, and interests (because, let's face it, nobody likes cleaning toilets). ✅ Keep things flexible by adjusting responsibilities as life throws its curveballs. ✅ Shower your partner w...

Feb 21, 202442 min

The Five Dos and Don'ts of Conflict Resolution in Marriage

Description: 🎙️ Welcome to the latest episode of The Anatomy Of Us Podcast, where we delve into the crucial elements of conflict resolution in marriage. Join us as we discuss 'The 5 Dos and Don'ts of Conflict Resolution in Marriage', a guide to nurturing a stronger, healthier relationship with your significant other. This episode is a part of our DO THIS, NOT THAT series for February! 🔹 About This Episode: Conflict resolution skills are essential in every marriage. In this episode, we break do...

Feb 14, 202452 min

The Six Dos and Don’ts of Effective Communication in Marriage

🎙️ Welcome to the latest episode of The Anatomy Of Us Podcast, where we delve into the crucial elements of effective communication in marriage. Join us as we discuss 'The Six Dos and Don’ts of Effective Communication in Marriage', a guide to nurturing a stronger, healthier relationship with your significant other. This episode is a part of our DO THIS, NOT THAT series for February! 🔹 About This Episode: Effective Communication is the lifeline of any marriage. In this episode, we break down six...

Feb 07, 202442 min

Best of AOU: How to Be an AMAZING Dad with Bryan Ward

Welcome back to the Best of AOU series! Today we call up Bryan Ward of the Dad Up Podcast and talk about what it takes to show up fully for your kiddos! Bryan shares his personal background, reflecting on the impact of his parents' less-involved approach during his childhood and his commitment to being an actively engaged father. This discussion delves into the significance of open-ended questions in effective communication with children and the overarching goal of creating strong family bonds. ...

Jan 31, 20241 hr 11 min

The Best of AOU: HELP! We've Only Had Sex 3 Times in the Last 4 Years!

Welcome back to the Best of AOU series! Today we have another insightful episode of Anatomy of Sex: "HELP! We've Only Had Sex 3 Times in the Last 4 Years!" 🎙️ In this candid discussion, we tackle a pressing listener question: "HELP! We've Only Had Sex 3 Times in the Last 4 Years!" 😱 Join us as we delve into the emotional and practical aspects of a sexless marriage lasting nearly 40 years. 🔍 In this video, we explore: Strategies for addressing intimacy issues, from being attentive to seeking p...

Jan 11, 202440 min

The Best Of AOU: Have You Been Triangulated?

We are giving you the Best of AOU, a short series giving you our most popular episodes to date! Today, we revisit a discussion about the power of Triangulation in families. Triangulation is partially defined as one person (often unconsciously) involving a third person to ease tension, gain support, or manipulate a situation. Triangulation can occur in various relationships, such as among family members, friends, colleagues, marriage, or romantic relationships. Triangulation can lead to increased...

Jan 05, 20241 hr 1 min

Renewed in the Divine Order of Love with The Nook Podcast

Today, we share an excellent episode that Melanie recorded with Steven Murphy of The Nook Podcast, all about her faith journey, her time leading worship at Mars Hill Church, Coaching with her husband, and so much more. LINKS: https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomyofus High-Performance Coaching: https://anatomyofus.com/coaching Power Couple Planner: https://anatomyofus.com/power-couple-planner Back to Basics Bootcamp Course: https://anatomyofus.com/backtobasics Subscribe to Ou...

Dec 20, 20231 hr

Why is my Husband SO ANGRY?!

Today, we answer a listener question about a wife and her ANGRY HUSBAND! What should she do about it? Can she stop it? What does HE need to do about his anger?! We help the wife with communication tools, encourage her to create a community of supportive people around her, and see if she can think of a man her husband admires to help him listen to reason. Send your questions into hello@anatomyofus.com and get them answered on the show! LINKS: https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/ana...

Dec 13, 202329 min

5 Ways to Connect with Your Spouse When You Feel Like Roommates!

Today, we help a listener by sharing 5 ways to connect with his wife after realizing that they live more like roommates rather than a happily married couple! LISTENER QUESTION: My wife and I have drifted apart and are starting to feel more like roommates; what do I do? Here are our top tips! 1. SHAKE IT UP TO BREAK IT UP 2. GET CURIOUS 3. VISION BOARD TOGETHER 4. PRACTICE GRATITUDE 5. BUY THE POWER COUPLE PLANNER!! (It has all of these things in one place for an ENTIRE YEAR) https://anatomyofus....

Dec 06, 202335 min

Holiday Hotline "I'm at a different altitude"

Today, we hear from a listener who shares a common observation experienced by people on a personal development journey: no longer being able to identify with what family and friends think about, talk about, and feel. This completely normal phenomenon can be jarring and confusing when first encountered, so Seth and I share how we have worked through this in our own relationships. Share what you are learning by leaving us a message on The Holiday Hotline (425) 310-2467 LINKS: https://anatomyofus.c...

Nov 29, 202324 min

The Straight and Narrow Path

Today, we are sharing a concept we use with our High-Performance Marriage Coaching Clients called the Straight and Narrow Path. This idea helps couples identify a marriage goal and then (the most critical part) create a straight and narrow path to help them reach their goal! The Straight and Narrow Path reduces decision fatigue and gives couples clarity on how to have relationship success each and every day! This is also a game-changer for parenting, fitness goals, emotional intelligence goals, ...

Nov 23, 202344 min

Transform Your Relationship with Marriage Mode!

Today, we discuss how couples can transform their relationship by engaging in “Marriage Mode”! Similar to Marshawn Lynch’s Beast Mode, Marriage Mode uses six key points to help couples create and maintain a powerful mindset around their relationship. 1. Mental Focus and Determination 2. Increased Intensity 3. Flow State 4. Adrenaline Release 5. Preparation and Training 6. Positive Mindset LINKS: https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomyofus High-Performance Coaching: https://ana...

Nov 15, 202334 min

Announcing the Holiday Hotline & AOU Call-in Show!

Today, we are so excited to share two big announcements! The Holiday Hotline & The AOU Call-in Show! On the Holiday Hotline, we are letting you vent about your crazy in-laws, how your wife turns into a spoiled brat when she visits her parents for Christmas, and the annoying fights you get in over things like opening a present on Christmas Eve or Christmas morning! Bring it on because we can handle it AND give you helpful tips, tools, advice and strategies to make your holidays a little less ...

Nov 08, 202318 min

Adult Children Of Alcoholics, Part 2

Today, we continue the conversation about Janet G. Woititz's book Adult Children of Alcoholics. This book provides wisdom and information for people who grew up in homes affected by addiction. It also addresses the patterns found in dysfunctional families and what folks can do to learn better relational skills. LINKS: https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomyofus High-Performance Coaching: https://anatomyofus.com/coaching Power Couple Planner: https://anatomyofus.com/power-coupl...

Nov 01, 202336 min

Adult Children Of Alcoholics, Part 1

Today, we discuss the profoundly impactful book Adult Children of Alcoholics by Janet G. Woititz. This book has had a significant impact on Seth, and it provides wisdom and information for people who grew up in homes affected by addiction. It also addresses the patterns found in dysfunctional families and how they impact those individuals, especially in relationships and decision making. LINKS: https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomyofus High-Performance Coaching: https://anat...

Oct 25, 202346 min

The Process of Healing

In today's episode, Melanie shares the true process of healing. Whether you are healing from an affair, healing from financial infidelity, trauma, or your own childhood, this episode will give you a deeper understanding of the timeline and nature of true and lasting healing. LINKS: https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomyofus High-Performance Coaching: https://anatomyofus.com/coaching Power Couple Planner: https://anatomyofus.com/power-couple-planner Back to Basics Bootcamp Cou...

Oct 18, 202352 min

How 75 Hard HURTS YOUR MARRIAGE, and How it Can Make it AMAZING!!

Seth and Melanie recently completed 75 hard together, and Seth talks about how it hurt them and also how it can create so much connectedness and freedom--it's amazing! You've heard Melanie and Seth talk about this before and in this episode, Seth talks about what 75 hard is, how it hurt them, and 7 ways that it ignited growth like never before. Doing the program together with a spouse can create a shared goal and common ground for conversation, create camaraderie, achieving shared goals, encoura...

Oct 11, 202344 min

What is SELF VALIDATION?! 5 Practical Tips for Self Validation.

In this episode, Seth talks about the concept of Self Validation vs. Others Validation. Credit to Rachel Wortman and Melanie here. Self Validation is the feeling of having recognized, confirmed, or established one's own worthiness or legitimacy. Do you like or prefer something if others like it too? This concept is fine if you're not in a relationship but can be very overwhelming for your partner if you are too Others Validating. Journal, Set Alarms, Affirmations, Stop Thoughts and Shaking some ...

Oct 04, 202340 min

My Wife is Touched Out, What Should I Do?!

Seth and Melanie answer a listener question about walking through the early phases of parenting with a wife who is touched out. With two young kids, this husband is struggling to feel connected with his wife and is looking for some helpful advice! https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomyofus High-Performance Coaching: https://anatomyofus.com/coaching Power Couple Planner: https://anatomyofus.com/power-couple-planner Back to Basics Bootcamp Course: https://anatomyofus.com/backto...

Sep 27, 202323 min

See Your Future!

In today’s episode, we are talking about using artwork to help you see yourself with new eyes and to truly visualize your future in a new and empowering way. Melanie shares her personal journey of personal growth and wanting to level up in various aspects of life. She describes how she had a transformative experience in a Christian group where people described her as a warrior with armor. To solidify this vision, Melanie created an AI-generated image of a strong, armored woman as a screensaver o...

Aug 30, 202323 min

Focus on What you WANT!

Today we help couples focus on the things that they truly want in marriage, and we share how creating a laser focus (or a "narrow path") can help them succeed in creating a happy marriage! LINKS: https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomyofus High-Performance Coaching: https://anatomyofus.com/coaching Power Couple Planner: https://anatomyofus.com/power-couple-planner Back to Basics Bootcamp Course: https://anatomyofus.com/backtobasics Interested in Women's Group Coaching? Apply N...

Aug 16, 202347 min
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