Each year I take a look at my life on my birthday. In this episode, I make a small comparison of this one to last year's. There are some striking similarities. But yet again, life is what you make it.
We all strive for some sort of happiness. We need to get working on being happy because life is short. And after 2020, a lot of us are realizing we need to get going. And I think, yeah, if it taught us anything; It's we need to re-think what makes us happy. What would make me happy is if you listened to 'We, As Citizens' my newest podcast. Go to https://weascitizens.com/podcast
The Other Side Of Fear Is Love
What is new for me in 2021 & What I do everyday to feel good!
Now, just because 2021 has arrived the difficulty of life has not gone away. Because of the year 2020 I've found the good! And if we all look we will find something good from all the chaos.
For... kindness. Yes Kindness. It's turned into a cliche that it's 'Easy' to give kindness. It's been a challenging year, and the kindest amongst us have had a hard time too. Maybe, kindness is easy, but I also say that it is a decision. That is where it gets hard.
In my life, I love a routine. I get up at about the same time every day and have coffee and then maybe walk the dogs and work from home. It makes my life better, comfortable and predictable. We can get comfortable being uncomfortable. It's a kind of Confidence. Confidence is something we build. We are not born with it.
Sometimes in life there comes a time when we decide, 'no more'. Really, we've had enough. We all have our 'line' and once crossed there is no going back. It is enough to be empathetic to others for others. And if you need to pull back somewhere in your life; do it. When/if you re-emerge draw a healthy line.
The bold bet is on yourself. It's not meant to be easy. Nothing makes you successful instantly. Get in the game and stay in the game. I won't know how close I might have been to a goal when I quit because the first or second route did not lead me there. There are somethings that maybe I should have stuck with, mistakes I made. I didn't have the knowledge back then that I now do; to keep going success is not an easy or straight road.
Today I talk about a few reminders to get you putting some Belief in your own Possibilities. You are no different that any of the men or women who've been on the road before you.
There are so many reason's for someone else's mood. When you can take time and be empathetic. Sometimes taking things personally makes us take our 'eye's off the ball.' It's almost always not personal.
I found these phrases on an old social media post from 11 years ago this morning: "Goal setting is the creative part of designing your life and the most important." And this one: "Think of setting goals as an itinerary for a trip you want to take." Creating our lives is more important than ever. Even when it is really difficult. Take care of Yourself!
I talk about this kind of inner conflict lessens our ability to focus.
I ask that because this year of 2020 is one of those difficult years. I hope we do something that makes us happy. That is if we really know what that is.... Because, I think that many times we mistake keeping ourselves busy for being happy. I know that not everyday is going to be all sunshine and roses. I don't expect that. Make time to do, to be, what makes you happy!
When we begin anew it's in a new or different and typically more positive way. Begin anew- once more; again. If you want what you want, get out of your own way and make it happen!
Advice, think of the best piece of advice anyone's ever given you. For me, it was My mother that gave me the best 2 pieces of advice I ever got. It was really a lesson in Valuing Myself!
Hope is not waiting for lightning to strike! HOPE is all about being willing to go for something you want knowing that you could fail, again and again. Getting back up each time and trying again. You’ve got to embrace learning and failure. It is Being committed to your future, that is hope.
How do we feel heard and let others feel that too? Even if you don't see eye to eye; Especially if you don't agree! --By Listening. I mean, really listen to hear the other person. How do we learn to listen? By learning to give/receive genuine Empathy in our conversations.
Talking about 'Being Stopped' by fears and getting to the other side of them. Because is so much better than holding myself back.
Being told 'no' or being rejected in most ways is a bit of self-inflicted kinda pain. But one that we kind of agree to upon the pursuit of something or someone and being an open, friendly person. One that can get easier the more we experience it and if we deal with it effectively.
Talking about self-care today. Because during this difficult global time we are having with the Covid19 & stay at home orders we need self-care. It is an essential part of wellness, but few take the time for it. Also, I discuss a 'kindness' note that I've been sending out to my lovely friends, family and influences.
I hope everyone is doing just a little bit during this time to set yourself up for growth and prosperity when all this is over! I've worked from home for years and I am feeling anxious. So, I can understand how those of you who are now working home with the kids being there are probably ready to pull your hair out. Because this will come to an end. For the resources mentioned go to: https://Harlo.media/while-were-home...
I've seen so many people hate their birthday's when they roll around. ~Maybe it is seeing that your youth is further behind you than you'd like or that you're closer to retirement than college? ~Being child #8 of 8 I've seen much ado about birthdays. ~And Well, ...I am going to decide how I feel about myself and birthday's.
Possibility in Websters dictionary is defined as, a thing that may be chosen or done out of several possible alternatives. I believe in possibilities. I’m talking today about what we say that negates them and how to take them back.
Fear, we all have it. It is necessary for life. A healthy sense fear keeps us alive. I'm not talking about that today. I'm talking about the fear of well, things that are not so rational... like failure or being embarrassed or judged. Or well, you fill in the blank.
It's gonna take a lot to Let Go of what no longer serves me. - Focus on what matters. - Be Grateful for the Now and Enjoy the journey. -Trust the process and just do it. - Draw upon the new belief in your self to know that there is something inside of you that is greater than any obstacle.
People normally quit their resolutions around the 21st of Jan or about 3 weeks after starting something new. Will this be you or will you power on through?
I love a new year. It gives me hope no matter what my circumstances. And we are not not just in a new year, but a new decade! We are Creating our own futures bit by bit as each minute of every day passes, and it is a wonderful opportunity. A fresh start to create a life you love!
Have you gone off the rails with your new years resolutions Yet? Most of us have; myself included. But here is the real question: if we want something different can we keep doing the same thing and expect different results? I think that we all know the answer... but what then. There is no simple answer but a place to start is to start with the acceptance of; We are each our choices.
