This episode is the first in my Dangerous In Love Series, where I discuss manipulation tactics that narcissists use to maintain control in abusive relationships. In this episode, I give a broad over view of common abusive tactics used by narcissists. The episode is also unique in that it was featured first on Facebook and Instagram live! Email questions/comments to adatewithdarkness@gmail.com Visit the website for more information: https://www.adatewithdarkness.com Let's keep the conversation go...
Feb 18, 2019•42 min•Season 2Ep. 22
Dr. Laurie Mintz, LP who is in private practice, a professor for the University of Florida, author of Becoming Cliterate & A Tired Woman's Guide To Passionate Sex joins us on the couch today to discuss the importance and the stigma around a women's sexual pleasure. Dr. Laurie breaks down why a woman's sexual satisfaction is often overlooked, and what we as women can do to address misogynistic views around female sexuality. Lastly, Dr. Laurie discusses the red flags in a relationship when a p...
Feb 03, 2019•52 min•Season 2Ep. 21
A Date With Darkness Podcast is hosted by Dr. Natalie Jones, Psyd., LPCC, a licensed psychotherapist in Oakland and Sacramento CA. Join Dr. Jones for an intimate discussion about the effects of abuse dynamics and healing from relationship trauma. Shayla Tumbling, MS, LPC-A and I discuss how non-platonic touch can help with regulating your emotions and mood. She discusses her experience as a professional cuddler and how she teach people how to touch her and themselves in a non-sexual manner. We e...
Jan 22, 2019•58 min•Season 2Ep. 20
A Date With Darkness Podcast is hosted by Dr. Natalie Jones, Psyd., LPCC, a licensed psychotherapist in Oakland and Sacramento CA. Join Dr. Jones for an intimate discussion about the effects of abuse dynamics and healing from relationship trauma. I am joined by Dr. Carmen Roman, PhD., who is the host of Emotions In Harmony Podcast, and who also specializes in working with Latino families who have experienced trauma. Dr. Carmen discusses how a narcissistic parent influences the family dynamics. A...
Jan 15, 2019•57 min•Season 2Ep. 19
A Date With Darkness Podcast is hosted by Dr. Natalie Jones, Psyd., LPCC, a licensed psychotherapist in Oakland and Sacramento CA. Join Dr. Jones for an intimate discussion about the effects of abuse dynamics and healing from relationship trauma. Shena Tubbs, LPC, CSAT-C, trauma recovery coach, host of the Love Junkie podcast, and owner of Black Girls Heal in Houston, TX joins us today to discuss love addiction, problems with intimacy, and sexual anorexia. Shena Tubbs specializes in working with...
Jan 07, 2019•1 hr 8 min•Season 2Ep. 18
A Date With Darkness Podcast is hosted by Dr. Natalie Jones, Psyd., LPCC, a licensed psychotherapist in Oakland and Sacramento CA. Join Dr. Jones for an intimate discussion about the effects of abuse dynamics and healing from relationship trauma. In this discussion, I invited guest Babita Spinelli, a licensed psychoanalyst in NY/NJ who specializes in treating women of color who have suffered childhood sexual assault. Babita and I discuss the importance of addressing the cultural differences in w...
Oct 24, 2018•53 min•Season 2Ep. 17
A Date With Darkness Podcast is hosted by Dr. Natalie Jones, Psyd., LPCC, a licensed psychotherapist in Oakland and Sacramento CA. Join Dr. Jones for an intimate discussion about the effects of abuse dynamics and healing from relationship trauma. Social Media Week, Episode 2. I am joined by Audrey Townsel, LP and owner of Calyx Psychological Services in Tennessee. We continue discussing reasons why folks can't let go and continue to spy on their ex's social media accounts after a breakup. Dr. To...
Oct 14, 2018•58 min•Season 2Ep. 16
A Date With Darkness Podcast is hosted by Dr. Natalie Jones, Psyd., LPCC, a licensed psychotherapist in Oakland and Sacramento CA. Join Dr. Jones for an intimate discussion about the effects of abuse dynamics and healing from relationship trauma. Social Media Week, Episode #1. In this solocast, I discuss some of the reasons that one will spy on their ex on social media after a break-up. After a break-up, we are compelled to see how our ex is doing and if they have moved on, and who they have mov...
Oct 07, 2018•41 min•Season 2Ep. 15
A Date With Darkness Podcast is hosted by Dr. Natalie Jones, Psyd., LPCC, a licensed psychotherapist in Oakland and Sacramento CA. Join Dr. Jones for an intimate discussion about the effects of abuse dynamics and healing from relationship trauma. Avalaura, LGSW; owner of Avalaura's Healing Center discussed her personal experience with a painful breakup. She provided insight about signs and feelings that we should pay attention to within ourselves when our relationships are unhealthy, dysfunction...
May 27, 2018•50 min•Season 2Ep. 12
A Date With Darkness Podcast is hosted by Dr. Natalie Jones, PsyD, LPCC; a psychotherapist in Oakland and Sacramento CA. Join Dr. Jones for an intimate discussion about the effects of abuse dynamics and healing from relationship trauma. Dr. Joy Harden Bradford PhD, the creator of Therapy For Black Girls podcast and private practice joins us today to discuss the Pain associated with breakups and why it can be difficult to move on. Dr. Harden Bradford offers tips on how to cope with a loss of a lo...
May 18, 2018•56 min•Season 2Ep. 11
A Date With Darkness Podcast is hosted by Dr. Natalie Jones PsyD, a psychotherapist in Oakland, CA. Join Dr. Jones for an intimate discussion about the effects of being in abused and how to heal from relationship trauma. Psychological abuse is a component of all abusive relationships, especially relationships with a narcissist. Julie Clockston, LCSW is the owner of Julie Clockston Counseling in Aurora, CO and specializes in working with women who are healing from psychological abuse. Julie discu...
Mar 25, 2018•56 min•Season 2Ep. 8
A Date With Darkness Podcast is hosted by Dr. Natalie Jones PsyD, a psychotherapist in Oakland, CA. Join Dr. Jones for an intimate discussion about the effects of being in abused and how to heal from relationship trauma. This is confession #2, with Joshua Shea, a writer, who was a publisher of a lifestyle magazine, creator of a film festival in Maine, and was a politician got himself into hot water when he convinced a teenager to commit a sex act via webcam. Mr. Shea described himself as a narci...
Mar 11, 2018•1 hr 7 min•Season 2Ep. 7
A Date With Darkness Podcast is hosted by Dr. Natalie Jones PsyD, a psychotherapist in Oakland, CA. Join Dr. Jones for an intimate discussion about the effects of being in abusive and hurtful relationships and how to heal from the trauma. Dr. Alicia Hodge, PsyD who is in private practice in VA, and specializes in treating obsessive compulsive disorders, anxiety, trauma, relationship issues, self-esteem, and rigid thinking using cognitive behavior therapy joins us today to discuss how our anxiety...
Mar 07, 2018•58 min•Season 2Ep. 6
A Date With Darkness Podcast is hosted by Dr. Natalie Jones PsyD, a psychotherapist in Oakland, CA. Join Dr. Jones for an intimate discussion about the effects of being in abusive and hurtful relationships and how to heal from them. This is the first episode in which a guest shares their personal story about struggling and healing from abandonment and substance abuse in her family. Charnessa Pleasant, LCSW explores how her ups and downs have shaped her journey as a therapist. To connect with Cha...
Feb 19, 2018•1 hr•Season 2Ep. 5
A Date With Darkness Podcast is hosted by Dr. Natalie Jones PsyD, a psychotherapist in Oakland, CA. Join Dr. Jones for an intimate discussion about the effects of being in abusive and hurtful relationships and how to heal from them. Patrice N. Douglas, MFTI, Certified Anger Management Specialist and I sit down to have a chat about the function of anger and how it can help or hurt us. Patrice and I discuss cultural hot topics such as the angry black woman and the angry family. She also shares tip...
Feb 10, 2018•1 hr 6 min•Season 2Ep. 4
A Date With Darkness Podcast is hosted by Dr. Natalie Jones PsyD, a psychotherapist in Oakland, CA. Join Dr. Jones for an intimate discussion about the effects of being in abusive and hurtful relationships and how to heal from them. Chasity Chandler, LMHC, ICADC, CST, CDWF, MCAP discusses the importance of understanding and having discussions about how sexual health. Her candid conversation explains why not having conversations about sexual health can lead to feelings of shame and guilt. To conn...
Feb 04, 2018•1 hr 7 min•Season 2Ep. 3
A Date With Darkness Podcast is hosted by Dr. Natalie Jones PsyD, a psychotherapist in Oakland, CA. Join Dr. Jones for an intimate discussion about the effects of being in abusive and hurtful relationships and how to heal from them. In this episode, Latasha Matthews, LPC and I have a candid discussion about boundaries. Latasha is the owner of Illumination Counseling and Coaching and she explains what boundaries are, why they are needed for self-preservation, and ways to protect ourselves without...
Jan 21, 2018•55 min•Season 2Ep. 2
A Date With Darkness Podcast is hosted by Dr. Natalie Jones PsyD, a licensed psychotherapist in Oakland, CA. Join Dr. Jones for an intimate discussion about the effects of being in abusive and hurtful relationships. The 1st episode of season 2! In this episode we discuss divorce and the impact that it has on the family. My guest Ms. Chaute Thompson, LMHC, wears many hats as a RESET and Divorce Mindfulness Coach, Florida Supreme Court Certified Family Mediator, and Parenting Coordinator. Chaute d...
Jan 21, 2018•1 hr 8 min•Season 2Ep. 1
In this solo episode, I review the case of Mitchelle Blair, which is where a mother murdered and tortured her children. How did this happen? I discuss how we as a community can come together and intervene when families are experiencing abuse. Resources Mentioned: Casefile Podcast Episode 20: Stoni Blair and Stephen Berry If you have questions for Dr. Jones, or if you are interested in sponsoring the podcast please email: adatewithdarkness@gmail.com . Be sure to stay connected with Dr. Jones and ...
Jan 18, 2018•49 min•Season 1Ep. 21
Robert Cox, LMHC at Life Recovery Consulting discusses codependency and boundaries with narcissistic partners who struggle with addiction. Addiction in narcissistic partners, if it's possible to help a narcissistic partner with an addiction, and how to know when it's time to walk away from a unhealthy relationship are highlights of the discussion. Resources Mentioned: Should I Stay or Should I Go? A Guide to Knowing If Your Relationship Can or Should Be Saved, by Lundy Bancroft Al-Anon Alateen N...
Jan 17, 2018•37 min•Season 1Ep. 20
Jocelyn St. Cyr, LICSW, a therapist in private practice in Arlington, MA talks with us about her work with trauma survivors, and how trauma impacts people over time. Jocelyn defines trauma/PTSD, and also provides educates us on the symptoms of PTSD. In addition to the lively discussion on trauma, Jocelyn provides unique insight on her personal experience of growing up as dark-skinned in a narcissistic society. To connect with Jocelyn St. Cyr, LICSW or to purchase her grounding cards, please go t...
Dec 30, 2017•33 min•Season 1Ep. 19
Mari Lee, LMFT, CSAT-S, owner of Growth Counseling Services joins us for an enlightening chat on narcissism and sex addictions. Mari educates us on what a sex addiction is, and why it is vital to our health to get support when battling these issues. To get in touch with Mari Lee, LMFT, CSAT-S please check out: Growth Counseling Services Resources mentioned: https://www.IITAP.com https://www.sexhealth.com https://www.sanon.org https://www.sexhelp.com https://www.sexaa.org Facing The Shadows, by P...
Dec 28, 2017•43 min•Season 1Ep. 18
Dr. Vanessa Abernathy, a licensed clinical psychologist explains what emotional abuse is, and how we can reset and reboot our lives after enduring the rollercoaster of emotions associated with emotional abuse. Resources Mentioned: Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder, by Randi Krieger and Bill Eddy Boundaries When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life; By Henry Cloud Women's Resource Center Stop Walking on Eg...
Nov 20, 2017•48 min•Season 1Ep. 14
Dr. Janae Taylor, PhD, LPC of Taylor Counseling and Consulting offers a candid conversation on toxic relationships. She educates us on the elements of destructive relationships, how we can manage them, and began to heal from these painful relationships. Resources Mentioned: Therapy For Black Girls Therapist Directory Psychology Today Toxic Parents, By Dr. Susan Forward Narcissists: Break Free, By Pamela Kole The Emotionally Abusive Relationship, By Beverly Engel To find out more about Dr. Janae ...
Nov 19, 2017•43 min•Season 1Ep. 13
I discuss the common sexual signs and languages of sleeping with a narcissist. References Mentioned: Signs that you are sleeping with a narcissist More Signs That You Are Sleeping With a Narcissist If you have questions for Dr. Jones, or if you are interested in sponsoring the podcast please email: adatewithdarkness@gmail.com . Be sure to stay connected with Dr. Jones and A Date With Darkness Podcast. Visit the website: A Date With Darkness Let's keep in touch via social media! Facebook: @adatew...
Nov 05, 2017•53 min•Season 1Ep. 12
In honor of National Domestic Violence month, we explore psychological abuse. Dr. Jones defines and provides real-life examples of psychological abuse, based off of conversations with the participants of her published dissertation study of African American women who were psychologically abused by their parents while growing up. In this episode, Dr. Jones speaks about the women's experiences of being abused, and how it has affected them well into their adult life. If you have questions for Dr. Jo...
Oct 16, 2017•50 min•Season 1Ep. 11
In honor of National Domestic Violence Month, I am joined today by Camille McDaniel, LPCC for a passionate discussion about spiritual abuse. Camille is a Christian counselor in Georgia who specializes in helping those who have been spiritually traumatized. She educates us about spiritual abuse, which includes being hurt and manipulated under the guise of being accepted or faithful to your religious or spiritual beliefs. She and I have a candid discussion on the types of spiritual abuse, the effe...
Oct 06, 2017•51 min•Season 1Ep. 10
Have you desperately wanted to help a loved one or a friend leave an abusive or toxic relationship? It is very difficult to observe your loved one get hurt or taken advantage of. You give advice and try to help that person in every way possible so that they can get out of the relationship safely; only you are crushed by them staying in the abusive relationship! This episode offers tips and suggestions on how to best support your loved one who is struggling with their abusive relationship without...
Sep 28, 2017•18 min•Season 1Ep. 9
When we are in a relationship where we are being abused, we often feel alone, powerless, embarrassed, and we may feel as though no one will understand. Thus we try to cover up what's going on, which thrusts us even further into a dysfunctional and violent relationship. Dr. Jones discusses the steps that we can take to bring awareness to the situation, protect ourselves, and leave an abusive relationship. Resources for this episode: National Domestic Violence Hotline Be sure to stay connected wit...
Sep 20, 2017•27 min•Season 1Ep. 8
Jihan Madyun, LCSW; owner of the The Fulfillment Project in Washington DC and I discuss how one's own lack of fulfillment within themselves can be caused by past traumas and cause them to try and seek out acceptance in others. Jihan describes ways in which we can learn to fulfill our own needs and desires by engaging in regular self-care activities including being mindful and still. To connect with Jihan: Website: The Fulfillment Project Instagram: @thefulfillmentproject Facebook: @ The Fulfillm...
Sep 12, 2017•26 min•Season 1Ep. 7
