It hits. The big 4-0, and then something even worse happens and no one can quite believe how that happened to you, and when it happened to you on your 40th birthday. (You'll have to listen to the podcast and read the book to discover what). From that moment on you realize, you are on your own, that pole dancing and rock climbing aren't for you, and that you don't need the love of another to love yourself. Wiser words were never said than by today's guest, author Jonathan Lee. Explore his new boo...
Aug 11, 2023•39 min•Ep. 237
Finding yourself, reaching deep into the essence of who you are as a gay man, is a lifelong journey. Yet, with the right tools and guidance, your journey can be enhanced, and discoveries of clarity and consciousness can be achieved, sooner rather than later. Rob Grover and Gary Logan, founders of The Journeymen Collective share how they as a couple have found a new path to living life to its fullest while guiding others in their quest using guided magic mushroom and other psilocybin experiences ...
Aug 04, 2023•40 min•Ep. 236
You reach a point in life where you realize that you gotta be how you want to be, and do what ya gotta do. For over 30 years Bob Bolyard, a.k.a. as Amber LeMay has been providing entertainment, support, and raising money, not just for the LGBTQ+ community but in the world at large, and nothing is going to stop him/her. Join us for a fun conversation about letting yourself be yourself in the world, even as a gay guy over 40. About Amber LeMay Bob Bolyard, 67 years old, identifies as a cis gay man...
Jul 28, 2023•36 min•Ep. 235
If you are tired of not living your dreams as a gay man, maybe you aren't activating them on a regular basis. Producer, songwriter, Founder of The Gray Rainbow Foundation, and soon to be bar owner, Michael Crawford shares his journey to living his best life as a gay man following his passion, purpose, and dreams. About Michael Producer and Songwriter Michael Coleman has been in the creative arts practically his entire life. As the Artistic Director of See Your Shadow Songwriting, Michael has bee...
Jul 21, 2023•34 min•Ep. 234
Nothing says guilt, shame, and anxiety than being a gay man who had to hide who you are for years - regardless of how many years you've hid your truth. And, it doesn't matter what that truth is - lack of confidence, fear of coming out, trusting you can get that promotion, or even wanting to be in a monogamous relationship. Our socialized DNA can play havoc in our gay/bi/trans lives as men. Today Dr. Nick Santo - Psychotherapist - and I share our journeys to overcoming guilt, shame, anxiety, and ...
Jul 14, 2023•44 min•Ep. 233
If you find yourself often hiding yourself, then now's the time to stop doing that. Writer, screenwriter, film producer Bill Robertson shares his journey as a gay man, and how he learned the value of never stopping being yourself. He also shares about his new book, Uncle Bill's Animal Tales: Life Lessons For Adults . About Bill Have you ever wondered why your dog or cat seems to know when you’re having a bad day? Is it something that is innately part of their DNA? Are we not seeing the signs? We...
Jul 07, 2023•41 min•Ep. 232
From an early age he knew he was different, and that never stopped him from being who he is as a gay man. He continues to let his gay light come out of the closet while also staying very true to how he lives his life on his terms as a gay man in everything from his work to his relationship with his man. He never gave up hope. Dr. Roger Leslie shares a candid side of doing life on your terms as a gay guy over 40. About Dr. Roger Leslie Dr. Roger Leslie is an author, editor, publisher, and inspira...
Jun 30, 2023•41 min•Ep. 231
Many gay men, navigate the inevitable question of "How do I show up at work, and as a leader, while still being true to myself as a gay man?" The answer, "Your way, on your terms!" Jim Fielding, author of ALL PRIDE, NO EGO: A Queer Executive’s Journey to Living and Leading Authentically, shares his dynamic career journey that has spanned senior leadership roles at top global brands including Disney, DreamWorks, and Twentieth Century Fox. He recounts his journey from conservative Midwestern roots...
Jun 23, 2023•51 min•Ep. 230
Moving right along in PRIDE Month, we take the letter "D" in PRIDE and explore the Dignity, Dedication, and Daring it takes today and every day to stay the course as gay men in a straight man's world. Hold the course gents. We've got this as long as we are willing to stay the course and show up in the world daring all the naysayers to say we don't belong. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re ...
Jun 16, 2023•8 min•Ep. 229
We continue the PRIDE Celebration focusing on the Letter "I" in pride by exploring how to illuminate, inspire, and ignite ourselves into the world to live fully as gay men - no fears, no excuses, and no apologies. Happy pride! Make sure you show your pride by illuminating your brilliance, inspiring others to do the same, and igniting powerful change in the world. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The third Monday of each month at 5:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat t...
Jun 09, 2023•9 min•Ep. 228
Continuing our PRIDE Month Celebration, we take the Letter "R" in pride and unravel the significance of being resilient, remarkable, and reconnecting the the heart and soul of who we are as gay men. Happy Pride gents! Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The third Monday of each month at 5:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat to talk about the stuff us gay gays aren't talking about but should - careers, finances, sex, love, health, coming out - all that stuff that we think...
Jun 02, 2023•14 min•Ep. 227
It's pride month and all this month we are waving our flags and celebrating you - gay men and the PRIDE it takes to be a gay man in our society. Today we kick off the month by look at the Letter "P" in PRIDE and the Purpose, Passion, and Path coming out and being gay has set us on to be a beautiful light and force in the world. Happy Pride gentlemen. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The third Monday of each month at 5:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat to talk about ...
May 26, 2023•14 min•Ep. 226
So many gay men struggle to find their passion, purpose, and to be happy. But, why? It's actually quite simple. They do nothing. They try a little, don't get the quick fix, and then give up. Harker Jones has never given up, but that's not the only reason he has constantly lived in his passion. Today he reveals the other stuff he has done to stay in his creative passions, even as a gay guy over 40. About Harker Harker Jones grew up on a dirt road in Michigan in a town so small it doesn’t to this ...
May 19, 2023•47 min•Ep. 225
Our gay culture has labels for everything - Twink, Side, Daddy, Top, Otter and even Bears - Oh My. Yet, we often allow these labels to hold us back from believing we don't fit in, and even worse that we shouldn't love ourselves - just as we are. This candid conversation with Jon Fischer (Coach Cub) explores the Bear Culture and how we can be more accepting of ourselves and others in our community - regardless of the age or labels. About Jon Jon Fischer (Coach Cub) is a Board-Certified Health &am...
May 12, 2023•41 min•Ep. 224
If the polarization in America, and across the globe has taught us anything, it is empathy and understanding goes along way. Yet, we don't seem to practice this very well in our gay culture. It's time guys to give each other a break and quit being so judgemental. Accept each other as we are and move forward. Here's some lessons of acceptance, empathy, and compassion. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The third Monday of each month at 5:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom ch...
May 05, 2023•15 min•Ep. 223
The battle of the bulge. It confronts you everytime you sit down to eat, sneak that snack, look in the mirror - if you even look in the mirror, and all you can think is "What's the point?" The point is YOU. You are worthing of being your best self in a way that aligns with you - if you Dare. Joining me today is Jarrod Bruce Lee, founder and CEO of The Daring Academy (for gay men) - helping gay men 35+ overcome body-shame, and build incredible, fit and strong bodies - no matter their age, genes o...
Apr 28, 2023•54 min•Ep. 222
Instead of embracing our deeper selves as gay men, we often allow our "rejectionist mentality" to show up and turn that dimmer switch down on our life. But what would happen if you put on your drag face and became fierce to willfully live out loud as a gay man over 40. Guiding us with a open-hearted conversation about being vulnerable and allowing your shame and rejection die so that you can step into you - whether through 1:1 work or group retreats. Are you ready to dive into to your deepest se...
Apr 21, 2023•40 min•Ep. 220
If you are tired of shoving your sexual curiosity into the closet, then today's podcast is for you. No more need for shame around being a sexualy, erotic, intimate being. Those are all elements of who we are as human beings and those beautiful characteristics show up for all of us in different ways. Guiding us to step out of our boxes of sex, intimacy and the erotic, Certified Sex and Intimacy Coach Court Vox invites all parts of our sexual selves to the table for a delicious buffet of being sex...
Apr 14, 2023•49 min•Ep. 220
If you don't bank on yourself, nobody else will. That's just a life truth. We put so much effort getting others to love, trust, like, and support us, but if you ignore the beautiful bank account of you you are destined to fail and be miserable. Let's course correct that starting today. BANK ON YOU! Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The third Monday of each month at 5:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat to talk about the stuff us gay gays aren't talking about but should...
Apr 07, 2023•14 min•Ep. 219
Sex, queer, and Christian. For some people those three just don't go together. However, if we are made in the image of God, does that mean...??? Unraveling this interesting construct of Christianity, Sexuality, and Sex, is Jon Carl Lewis, founder of Sex & The Queer Christian community. In this candid conversation we discuss this interesting triad and how as humans we simply need to allow ourselves to be our sexy, sexual, God made selves. About Jon Carl Jon Carl Lewis is the host of Sex &...
Mar 31, 2023•49 min•Ep. 218
For most gay guys, especially once you hit your 40's, you're looking to date and hopefully mate. Yet, it can be so exhausting and discouraging unless you learn to date with dignity and not from a place of drudgery. Here's some tips for getting there and loving yourself along the way. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The third Monday of each month at 5:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat to talk about the stuff us gay gays aren't talking about but should - careers, fin...
Mar 24, 2023•18 min•Ep. 217
One of the hardest things to do as a gay guy over 40 is to accept that you are a gay guy over 40. Then add the battle of the bulge, the changing "what you can eat without putting on the pounds," and suddenly life SUCKS! Here' to guide us through some Over 40 Fitness hacks, is fellow podcaster Brad Williams, host of the Over 40 Fitness Hacks Podcast About Brad Over the last decade, Brad owned and operated three gym locations in Orange County, and oversaw 40+ independent personal trainers each wit...
Mar 17, 2023•39 min•Ep. 216
Imagine that you have waiting all these years to finally be yourself. Over 50+ years to truthful. Finally the day comes and you feel alive and finally on your way. But wait, the universe had another road for you to tow. But does that stop you? Maybe, but as today's guest shares, avid listener John MacDonald, you're never too old to go for being your most authentic self, regardless of what roadblocks get thrown your way. About John John was never married but he has a 24 year old daughter, and has...
Mar 10, 2023•40 min•Ep. 215
Making your way through life as a gay man can be challenging. Then finding the right support whether that be for your mental, physical, or spiritual health can be even more challenging. Realizing this was a common issue for so many gay men, Peter DeWitt, founded Gay Wellness - a one-stop hub for finding therapists, coaches, yoga, masseurs, and much, much, more, all geared towards gay men and their unique needs. Today Peter shares his story of helping you get your gay wellness on. About Peter Pet...
Mar 03, 2023•40 min•Ep. 214
Imagine, activating your life force by being 100% comfortable in your erotic self. Genuinely connecting your heart and your genitals in a way that makes you feel aligned, and alive in a way that is a work of love. Helping us embrace our sexual energy is Craig Cullinane, embodiment coach and former Director of the Body Electric School. Craig invites us on a journey to have a healthy relationship with pleasure without guilt and shame that so many gay men struggle with as they find their erotic sou...
Feb 24, 2023•35 min•Ep. 213
He looks normal, acts normal, and just wants to be loved like any other gay guy. But, he has a disability and as soon as he shares that with a guy he's interested in dating, the pull a Houdini and disappear. Why? Because they feel he's damaged goods. Today we explore the trials and tribulations of dating with one of my listeners Stephen Fratello, who shares the wild and wacky world of dating in the gay community when you have a disability. Connect With Stephen Website Facebook Instagram Hey Guys...
Feb 17, 2023•43 min•Ep. 212
There are many things that can get in the way of gay men finding their man. Not knowing where to look, settling for hook-ups, and confidence to name a few. But these two things are the most common reasons that gay men can't find the right love with the right guy. But you're going to have to listen to learn what they are. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’...
Feb 10, 2023•15 min•Ep. 211
It's really easy to get bitchy with each other in our gay male community. Whether it is on the apps, in relationships, or when we are trying to come out. But what would happen if we worked on the big "E" and I'm not talking about erections. Instead, imagine using EMPATHY to better understand each other as gay men. Empathy Activist Rob Volpe, and author of the book Tell Me More About That: Solving the Empathy Crisis One Conversation at a Time , shares insights on how to be more empathetic and sti...
Feb 03, 2023•44 min•Ep. 210
Great sex. Fun Sex. Sex on your terms, your way. Why is that so hard for so many gay guys to achieve? Because of shame, shame, shame about sex and asking for what you want, not only in sex, but in life. We're breaking the shame game today and inviting you to let your sexual freak flag fly, not matter what your sexual desires might be. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but neve...
Jan 27, 2023•15 min•Ep. 209
Debt. Most Americans, and many, many, many gay men have it. Why? Because we want to live a fabulous life and then we end up fabulously in debt. No fun at all. I know. Been there done that a couple of times. So how do you manage all this and do it with fabulous gay style? Call on the Debt Free Guys - David and John - hosts of the Queer Money Podcast. So let's talk money guys and see what we can do to get you on track and having a powerful relationship with money. About David & John With their...
Jan 20, 2023•40 min•Ep. 208
