He's in his late 50's. He's a trailblazer. He's done porn, and he's a man. A transman, and he's got something to say about being a man of a certain age in the LGBTQ community. Never one to walk away from a fight or a belief system, Buck Angel is coming out swinging as a man in his 50's letting everyone know that TRANPA is in the house. But what is TRANPA? An elder TRANSMAN who is not going to be told, " Go sit down TRANPA and let us younger TRANSMEN take the lead now!" All Buck is asking for is ...
Apr 30, 2021•38 min•Ep. 118
Who doesn't like an awesome circle jerk? Ok, maybe not everyone, but most gay men do, but sometimes they love a circle jerk so much the end up jerking themselves into oblivion. Is that you? Are you jerking yourself off for all the wrong reasons? If so, this podcast is for you and how you can stroke yourself into the right place in your life. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, b...
Apr 23, 2021•7 min•Ep. 117
Are you out? Really out? Let's rephrase that question. Are you out in your work life, and really out in a way that represents you, the whole you that you want to bring to work? If not, why not? As a guy in your 40+ life you have lot to bring to the table, and we're not just talking about your work experience. You bring your life experience of coming out of the closet - resilience, determination, getting past your imposter syndrome and so much more. In this candid interview with my friend Jeff Na...
Apr 16, 2021•41 min•Ep. 116
Break ups are inevitable. Don't believe it ? Watch any episode or Queer as Folk, The "L"Word, or Pose and the truth will show you it's real. Of course, what would be a smashing break up without the almighty "pining and swooning after your Ex?" Right? Well stop that crap and get over them already. Here's a handful of magic, and I'm not talking about what's in some man's crotch, to help you get over your ex. Well maybe a man's crotch is part of the solution, but there's better ways to move beyond ...
Apr 09, 2021•12 min•Ep. 115
About Steve Mike mi-KAL-o-wits is the author of Profit First, Clockwork, Surge, The Pumpkin Plan, and his newest release Fix This Next. By his 35th birthday, Mike had founded and sold two companies - one to private equity and another to a Fortune 500. Today he is running his third multi-million dollar venture, Profit First Professionals. Mike is a former small business columnist for The Wall Street Journal and the former business makeover specialist on MSNBC. Over the years, Mike has traveled th...
Mar 26, 2021•12 min•Ep. 113
"Don't you be looking at my man!" Sigh. Guys we don't own the market on men looking at our men. Unless you reign that jealousy and insecurity in, you are going to be one messed up gay guy. Today we explore ways to manage your jealousy and insecurity in every aspect of your life. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join...
Mar 19, 2021•12 min•Ep. 112
Gay men can't commit. Really? Maybe some can't but most can and will if given the chance. The truth is most have to give themselves the chance to commit and they don't. In this episode we take a deep look at the commitment struggle gay men have in their relationships and in life. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Joi...
Mar 12, 2021•11 min•Ep. 111
Whether you're 40+ or 2o something, or sliding into your golden years, someone is going to throw you some shade by telling you, "This is how you do gay!" To that I say, "Sashay away and tell them to stuff it!" If you are stuck in a closet of doing gay because someone told you this is the way to do it, then grow some balls and own your truth and be gay your way. Here's some tips on just how to do that! Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thi...
Mar 05, 2021•11 min•Ep. 110
Open relationships. They seem to be the hot button trigger in gay men's circles. You're either all for them, completely against them, or not being honest...with yourself and your partner about how you truly feel about them. Rather than become all Judge Judy about an open relationship, why don't you at least open up your mind and conside what's right about an open relationship, even if it's not for your. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the t...
Feb 26, 2021•10 min•Ep. 109
One of the things gay men struggle with the most is CONFIDENCE, with a capital "C." Whether it's our looks, career, finances, or the size of our penis, everything comes (no pun intended) under the confidence gun. Here's some simple tips for having the confidence of a porn star to go make your life orgasmic! Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get ...
Feb 19, 2021•8 min•Ep. 108
This guy said "Fatherhood is for me, no matter what, even if I am gay!" He was so determined to be a Dad, her wrote a book by the same name. Speaking candidly with passion about fatherhood and being Gay, Steve Disselhorst takes on a journey of love and Fatherhood in his 40 Plus life. About Steve Steve Disselhorst specializes in personal & professional leadership development and consulting for diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI) and is the author of the memoir Determined To Be Dad: A Journ...
Feb 12, 2021•39 min•Ep. 107
Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus Men's Circle. Learn about about - Click Here! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on… ...
Feb 05, 2021•10 min•Ep. 106
Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus Men's Circle. Learn about about - Click Here! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on…  ...
Jan 15, 2021•2 min
It's inevitable. Wait that's not true. It likely - that sounds better - that at some point in your gay relationships the bedroom will die. No not the bed, but the SEX. It happens, and rather than avoid it like a nasty STD, step into the mess before it gets messy and out of control. Here's some straight-forward, knock some sense into you advice for what to do when grim reaper of your sex life enters into you bedroom. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? Y...
Jan 08, 2021•9 min•Ep. 105
Happy New Year Guys! So excited to launch the new version of 40 Plus: Real Men. Real Talk, with the slight, fabulous twist to 40Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk. With a quick costume change here we are, stepping into 2021 with more than just a few tips (because the tip is never enough) to make sure you drive a little deeper into happiness and success in 2021 and beyond. Enjoy, be safe, and go start hooking up with your life! Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? Y...
Jan 01, 2021•10 min•Ep. 104
Merry Christmas guys. As you celebrate, however you celebrate this year, I want to invite you to consider this one gift. One that is important, and just might make next holiday season even more merry. Happy holidays. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus Men's Chat's. Learn about about - Click Here! Brea...
Dec 25, 2020•8 min•Ep. 103
We all get in ruts in our lives. 2020 has only made that worse in so many ways. And ruts, suck. Here's a few simple steps for getting unstuck and out of your rut so you can kick ass in life. And the last one just might have something to do with your Daddy issues. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus Men...
Dec 18, 2020•13 min•Ep. 102
At the heart of every guy there is a man who want's to be his own man, his way. A guy who wants to be seen, heard, and understood...on his terms. And, almost every man struggles with finding his masculine identity that fits him and his soul. So just how do you find that inner man, that strength, and that energy to be who you are, regardless of what others think of you. Chris Failla joins me for a candid conversation about manhood, father son relationships, and find your own masculine vibe in a w...
Dec 11, 2020•55 min•Ep. 101
We're celebrating the 100th Episode with the 10 things I've learned to make me a better man as a guy over 40. What could those 10 things be? Listen and learn and thanks for being my listeners and helping me achieve this milestone event. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus Men's Chat's. Learn about abou...
Nov 20, 2020•17 min•Ep. 100
Regardless of the fact that some men can't accept defeat and loss (Donald Trump for example) the truth is most of us as men hate to admit we've lost and accept defeat. Why is that? Mostly because we haven't learned the art of humility. Today we explore that art and how to be more humble and less ego driven. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get ...
Nov 13, 2020•8 min•Ep. 99
"I'm to old for that!" Really, then you must not have any adventure left in your life and your soul. How about instead, you said, "I'm never to old for that!" That attitude and outlook will make you stay as young as you choose to be, because it is all your mental outlook as to what you can and can't do, regardless of what age you are. Just ask musician and former adult film star, Colton Ford. “Figuring our way through challenges, hardships and difficult times is an integral part of life for most...
Nov 06, 2020•31 min•Ep. 98
You'd have to be hiding with your head in the sand to not hear all the crappy politics going on right now. And this podcast isn't about politics, until today. When a photo surfaced about Joe Biden affectionately sharing an intimate Father/Son moment surfaced on the internet causing some to cry "Creepy, Gross, Incest," I felt it was necessary to say, "Get over it and man up!" Men can show other men intimacy and affection and it doesn't mean there's something gross going on. It means there is love...
Oct 30, 2020•9 min•Ep. 97
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Oct 16, 2020•6 min•Ep. 95
How often do you find yourself wishing you were better? Better at your job, better at your relationships, better at taking care of yourself, just simply better, better, better. It's a daily occurrence for me. Yet, I've also learned that the pursuit of better doesn't have to be drudgery, especially when it comes to taking better care of myself. My friend Michelle Zellner, founder of Better Beings, is joining me today to dish out some better being advice for us guys. Yes, we've got a woman in the ...
Oct 09, 2020•29 min•Ep. 94
Not all divorces, job layoffs, or health scares require walking away in disgust from something that we love. In fact, really healthy situations lead us towards honoring the love for something or someone and graciously letting to go to make space for the thing that we love more. Today we explore how to do that without being assholes in our lives. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going...
Oct 02, 2020•8 min•Ep. 93
Life sucks right now in so many ways, but are you really going to let it keep you stuck? In a rut? Causing you to give up? Maybe what you should do is ask your younger self to take the lead for awhile. Today we explore the possibilities that exist, even in pandemics, political strife, global warming, that can be changed just by inviting our younger self into the arena to help us do battle. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep ...
Sep 25, 2020•11 min•Ep. 92
"NO!" We started learning that word form a very young age. Before we knew it, our life was filled with no, no, no's! So are we surprised that we have a hard time getting to "YES" in our lives? Then add to the fact that when we seek partners, jobs, the perfect place to live, the ultimate vacation, we are suddenly using a list of "Hard No's" and wondering why it is so hard to get what we want in life. Cut the bullshit guys and look at your "hard no's" and ask yourself, "Is this the reason I'm so d...
Sep 18, 2020•9 min•Ep. 91
We're living in a chaotic world. Possibly in some ways more chaotic than at any other point in the history of the world. So how does a guy find peace when he is surrounded by chaos? Is that even possible? Steve Strother joins the podcast today to help explore the roots of men finding peace in their lives. He shares his own journey, that continues, in his quest for peace, and how he is helping other men find it too. About Steve Steve Strother is a lifelong learner who lives to support the mantra ...
Sep 11, 2020•38 min•Ep. 90
It's time to take a stand against ageism. No more saying, "You're to old!" You're only as old as you buy into the voice in your head. But, you have to believe that too. Breaking the barriers as an artist, Michael Fairman is as a 'Boomer' signer, songwriter, giving the young pop singer crowd a run for their money. His 40 Plus Real Men. Real Talk. story is not only about being a 40+ man, but also about being a 'Boomer' gay man who is going to use his voice to entertain, even when people say, "That...
Sep 04, 2020•34 min•Ep. 89
