This episode is for anyone who needs a good, long, catchup with girlfriends. It's been awhile since we've had a huge dose of girlfriend chat on the show, but great conversations are the driving force of 10 Things To Tell You. In our long overdue conversation, Meg and I each share five things we need to catch up on. We talk loneliness, Real Housewives, true crime obsessions, the perfect amazon purchase, shoes, and intuition. Meg Tietz created and hosts the Sorta Awesome podcast (where I'm a forme...
Aug 18, 2020•1 hr 17 min
This episode looks at your life like a movie. What's your BIG story? The main narrative arc to your life? The story that is central to your identity? Anyone who knows you well knows this story. Maybe it happened in childhood. Maybe you're currently in the middle of it. But we all have one, big, main story. In movies and in literature, they call this the Hero's Journey. It's one of the the most common storytelling devices in art. On this episode, I'm sharing my own BIG story. The thing that I arr...
Aug 11, 2020•52 min
This episode is for anyone who could use an honest evaluation in the middle of something. (And maybe a reset.) In the beginning, we make plans. Set goals. Hope for the best. At the end, we evaluate how it went. We make notes for next time. We accept our trophies or don't. But what about in the middle? Don't we need to stop down and ask some hard questions in the MIDDLE? To see if we're on track? To make tweaks? To define what it means to "finish well"? Here are 10 Questions to ask yourself when ...
Aug 04, 2020•50 min
This episode is for anyone who had felt icky, gleeful, guilty, or triumphant after talking about someone else. Look, we all do it sometimes, right? We gossip or vent or judge someone in conversation with friends. But does talking about someone behind their back REALLY say more about us than it does about them? Let’s discuss. This episode is sponsored by SUNBASKET . Go to Sunbasket.com/YOU for $35 off your first order. Full show notes for this episode here. Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow ...
Jul 28, 2020•26 min
This episode is for anyone who can't get enough of the book talk. We didn't have time for me to share ALL the great books I've been reading on the recent reading episode, so this is a little bonus to tell you all about my current book stack, including a new novel that's a contender for favorite of the year, and a nonfiction book that I am forcing myself to read with an open mind. I'm also sharing a few of the books in my immediate To Read pile, plus the three books that I've preordered for fall ...
Jul 25, 2020•36 min
This episode is a midsummer reading check-in. It's time for another episode about BOOKS and this time I'm joined by my good friend Sarah Bessey . Sarah is a writer, speaker, and all around woman of wisdom. She is the author of Jesus Feminist , Out of Sorts , and the spiritual memoir Miracles and Other Reasonable Things . She is also the cofounder of the Evolving Faith conference. On this episode, Sarah and I each share the best books we've read lately, including popular novels, Canadian authors ...
Jul 21, 2020•51 min
This episode is for anyone curious about the process of writing and publishing. I wrote a book! Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First will launch in February 2021, but I'm taking some time this week to talk all about the behind-the-scenes details I've always been curious about with other authors. I'm answering questions from the 10TTTY Connection group about how I got an agent, crafted a book proposal, signed a book deal with a publisher, wrote & edited the book, and chose a cover. There is SO MUC...
Jul 14, 2020•1 hr 1 min
This episode is for anyone who has has been told that there's no use fighting on facebook. Has the internet ever changed your mind on an issue? Is it easier to hear a new perspective from friends and acquaintances or from strangers? The episode is all about the ways that people’s social media posts ARE changing our culture, through snark, humor, memes or thoughtful shared experiences. Let’s be honest about when a post has opened our eyes or when we’ve decided to dig in our heels. I share my own ...
Jun 30, 2020•51 min
This episode is part friendship, part therapy, part work/life balance. I am so excited to share this conversation with my friend Kendra Adachi (aka The Lazy Genius ) because not only do we talk about being “work friends” and how that narrow relationship title offers us freedom in our friendship, but Kendra also applies her Lazy Genius principles to my problem prioritizing work tasks. And I have kind of am embarrassing breakthrough. This episode is sponsored by Care/Of . Get 50% your first order ...
Jun 23, 2020•1 hr
Please indulge me in a little birthday episode. I turn 41 this week and though it’s not the major milestone I celebrated last year, I still have things to say. This episode is half nostalgic nonsense and half preach-y. I guess this is what happens when I go off script. This episode is sponsored by SKILLSHARE . Full show notes here. Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Join the Connection Group on FB Sign up here to get episode emails Learn more about your ad choices. V...
Jun 16, 2020•48 min
This BONUS episode is for anyone looking for something interesting to watch (for families and for grown ups). On roughly week 11 of the Los Angeles lockdown due to the coronavirus, I sat down with my husband Jeff and our two kids - ages 8 & 10 - for a lighthearted chat about all the movies, documentaries, and tv series we watched during quarantine since this season meant a LOT more screen time for our family than usual. Full show notes here. Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsTo...
Jun 15, 2020•41 min
This episode is for anyone trying to understand another person's experience. I’ve wanted to have this conversation with my hometown friends since I made the BIAS series on Smartest Person in the Room in 2018. I preferred to do it in person back then, but when the recent protests started over the murder of George Floyd, I asked if they would be willing to record online instead. LaToyia Brown, Monica Pickens, Danielle Williams and I grew up in Ardmore, Oklahoma, a town that sits on I-35 about half...
Jun 09, 2020•1 hr 9 min
This episode is for anyone who has felt shamed or judgmental over choices made during the global pandemic. Admit it you’ve either hidden your own activity or judged other people’s choices in the last few months. I’m joined by blogger, podcaster, and author Kristen Howerton (who you may know from her blog Rage Against the Minivan or from her weekly self-care podcast Selfie ) to discuss the social shaming that we’re doing and feeling during this unprecedented season of the coronavirus. PRE-ORDER K...
May 26, 2020•1 hr 1 min
This episode is for anyone looking for an anchor to their day. I promise I'm not going to tell you to get up at 5am. I hold the word "morning" pretty loosely in this context, but I do think a time to pause and commit to ritual at some point in your day can bring much needed structure. On this episode, I'm sharing my personal morning routine and giving you a few different ways to think about this topic. SIGN UP HERE to receive the brand spankin' new episode emails! Mentioned in this episode: Ep. ...
May 19, 2020•18 min
This episode is for anyone who is excited for summer reading! I am so excited to welcome Anne Bogel, three-time author, blogger at Modern Mrs. Darcy , podcaster at What Should I Read Next? and someone who reads more books than anyone else I know! Anne recently released her latest book called Don't Overthink It . You can also go to her website to sign up to get her FREE (and much anticipated!) Summer Reading Guide . On this episode, Anne and I talk about what our reading life looks like during th...
May 12, 2020•1 hr 9 min
This episode is for anyone looking for a quick, meaningful exercise to boost spirits. I'm sharing my experiences with Love Floods, from my days as a summer camp counselor to current friendship and colleagues. Mentioned in this episode: Radical Compassion by Tara Brach Ep 51: Masterminds: How To Structure and Maintain a Business Peer Group 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group on FB Full show notes here . This episode is sponsored by SKILLSHARE. Get 2 months of premium membership free at Skillsh...
May 05, 2020•18 min
This episode is for you if you are working from home right now and need some tips or mindset shifts to be less distracted and more productive. My guest is Emily P Freeman , The Next Right Thing author and podcaster. Her work-from-home structure of Theme Days is something I adopted months ago and on this episode we talk about her approach to this schedule and how she's modifying it during the Covid 19 stay-at-home orders. We also talk about the things that we're measuring to feel accomplished, an...
Apr 28, 2020•50 min
This episode if for you if you’re staring at that old shoebox full of memorabilia and aren’t sure what to do with it. A friend messaged me to ask if she should keep or toss a stack of old journals. In a weird coincidence, I was in the middle of a project that required I pull out some of my old journals from decades ago. I’m sharing stories of rereading journal entries, the ritual of throwing old memories away, and what I learned from discovering a long ago letter. This episode is sponsored by SC...
Apr 21, 2020•25 min
This episode is for you if you strive to find meaning in everything. I want you to think about whether everything deserves the energy you're giving it. Full show notes here. Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
Apr 14, 2020•13 min
This episode is for anyone looking for a little cheer and distraction. It's another Favorite Things episode! My current favorites are definitely influenced by the current coronavirus quarantine, but there's a little something for everyone here: books, beauty products, kitchen items, and the few mindsets that are keeping me sane in self-isolation. This episode is sponsored by SKILLSHARE . Go to Skillshare.com/YOU for 2 months free membership! Full show notes here . @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram...
Apr 07, 2020•42 min
This episode is for anyone needing a little light distraction. The Tremaines are waving hello from week 3 of self-isolation to stop the spread of coronavirus. This episode ended up being an accidental model for the type of conversations you could be documenting in your life and family right now during this historic time. My husband Jeff and I start the show by answering questions from the 10TTTY FB Connection group , including: have we learned anything about one another during this time? How do ...
Mar 31, 2020•35 min
This episode is for you if you're looking for ways to document your life during the everyday (or during a historic moment). As the world fights a global pandemic, we are part of a pivotal moment in history. Whether you're hunkering down at home, in an essential job to keep the economy afloat, or on the front lines in the medical profession, this is a time for us to write our OWN stories. Don't simply trust what the history books will say. Document it for yourself. I'm sharing 10 simple ways to w...
Mar 24, 2020•26 min
This episode is for you if you need to understand and better cope with your anxiety. Dr. Becky from Dr. Becky At Home is a clinical psychologist who specializes in helping people cope with anxiety and stress. I found her on Instagram when someone shared one of her posts, and what followed is one of the best and most important conversations I’ve ever had on this show. Dr. Becky encourages us to form a relationship with our anxiety, and our conversation includes all of the things I’ve always wante...
Mar 19, 2020•51 min
This episode is for you if you have a hard time distinguishing between your anxiety and your intuition. As someone who talks openly online about both my lifelong anxiety and following my intuition, this is a question I get a lot. I don't have all the answers, and don't always get this 100% correct, but on this episode I'm talking through how we can conflate these two things, and the #1 question I ask myself to know the difference. This episode is sponsored by AURATE . Click here for 15% off your...
Mar 17, 2020•21 min
This episode is for you if you're in the mood for a little light-heartedness. Today I'm taking a walk through the cultural icons of my youth and what it says about who we were drawn to when we were kids. Whether it's actors, fictional characters, musicians or sports stars, the people we wanted to be when we were young say something about our personalities. This is a fun conversation to have at a party or on a road trip. (Spring break, anyone?) But there are still insights and connections to be m...
Mar 10, 2020•24 min
This episode is for you if you've ever dreamed of living abroad with your family for a year. I've been dying to share this conversation with my dear friend Julie Stillwell. In 2018, Julie and her husband Tom took their two young daughters to live in Amsterdam for one year. All four had lived in Los Angeles their whole lives, so this was a family adventure with a hundred takeaways. We talk about the logistics of moving abroad and the emotions of both leaving and adjusting. We talk living without ...
Mar 03, 2020•1 hr 25 min
This episode is for you if you can never get enough book talk. This Best Books lately episode ran longer than I expected and I didn't have time to tell you about all the awesome books in my MASSIVE To Read pile. I chose 10 of the books waiting on my kindle or on my bedside to share with you, and then listed the rest over on the blog. (You can find my full To Read list here .) I love hearing what YOU'RE reading lately, and so the last few minutes of this bonus episode includes listener recommenda...
Feb 29, 2020•20 min
This episode is for you if you love to read (and follow literary controversies). Book episodes are the best episodes! We spend the first half hour talking about the best books we've read lately with Jessica Turner , and we take a brief detour to talk about #Bookstagram and our current reading habits (including a new hobby Jessica picked up and the #ReadYourBooks challenge she's hosting online). In the second half of this extra long episode, I'm joined by my real-life book club friend Stephanie N...
Feb 25, 2020•1 hr 25 min
This episode is for you if you struggle with negative self-talk. A lot of have a critical voice in our head telling us all sorts of ugly things that lead to second-guessing and self-doubt. But where did that voice originate? Did it come from a parent? An old coach or similar authority figure from your youth? An ex? On this episode, I'm sharing about the critical voices in MY head and why identifying them (instead of struggling to ignore them) is helpful to squash them for good. This episode is s...
Feb 18, 2020•21 min
This episode is for you if you're stuck on a decision. This is simple. This is basic. But next time you're spinning out on making a decision (any decision), ask yourself: What would YOU tell you to do? This little exercise can bring immediate clarity when we're lost in a sea of Pro/Con lists and justifications. On this episode, I'm sharing how this has applied to my own life, especially when I lost myself for a bit in my mid-thirties. This episode is sponsored by SKILLSHARE. Go too Skillshare.co...
Feb 11, 2020•19 min
