After 6 years and nearly 400 episodes, we are bringing 10 Things To Tell You to a close. Thank you. For everything. You can find me writing and hosting community conversations over on Substack at Secret Stuff . Follow me on Instagram @laura.tremaine Stay subscribed to this feed for any future podcast announcements. **** The 10 most important things to tell you: READ SHARE NOTICE MOVE DECORATE DRESS DOCUMENT PRACTICE LISTEN THANK ...and I share one very special 11th thing in the episode. Thank yo...
Jun 26, 2025•40 min•Ep. 275
It's my birthday week! Which means it's my annual birthday episode. This year I'm sharing the phrase that keeps running through my mind and the many ways I'm applying it to my past and my present. (Plus there's a special announcement at the end of this one. Don't miss it.) JOIN SECRET STUFF HERE FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Ep 265: How Have You Changed in the Last 10 Years? (with Meg Tietz) Ep 259: 10 Questions for the Anniversary of a Big Event Ep 253: Regrets and Reflections...
Jun 20, 2025•34 min•Ep. 274
Wondering why all of your favorite creators, journalists, and writers are moving to Substack ? Have you signed up for a few but are basically confused about how to navigate the Substack universe? This episode is for you. I moved my longtime newsletter the Secret Posts and membership community Secret Stuff to Substack back in December, and I have lots of thoughts about this trend and how to make it your Substack user experience better. Click HERE to sign up for the Secret Stuff Substack , where y...
Jun 18, 2025•50 min•Ep. 273
My real life book club members Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith join me to talk about the best books we've read (so far) in 2025! Join SECRET STUFF on Substack for our BONUS conversation and for Stephen King Summer We've created special lists of all the books we talk about on amazon and on Bookshop FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Laura's Best Books of the Year (so far): Witchcraft for Wayward Girls by Grady Hendrix Long Island Compromise by Taffy Brodesser-Akner There’s Always This Year by Hanif Abdu...
Jun 12, 2025•2 hr 2 min•Ep. 272
How to mark your special day with a dedicated Birthday Journal. Whether you're celebrating on your actual birthDAY, or your birthday week, or taking your whole birthday month to look back and look forward on your life, these ideas and prompts will help you make the most of this period of introspection. The 4 sections of the birthday journal: Timeline Who I Was Who I Am Who I Want To Be FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Ep. 249: 4 Ways To Journal (For People Who Don’t Like Journ...
Jun 05, 2025•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 271
In 2016, at age 47, Bethany Winters was diagnosed with Grade 3 Stage IIB Invasive Ductal Carcinoma. What followed was a year of intensive treatment, including chemotherapy, a double mastectomy, and total hysterectomy. In this episode, Bethany shares 10 Things about breast cancer survivorship, and how it's not ever really over even when declared "cancer-free." This is a tender and important conversation. This episode originally aired in 2021. As part of my effort to highlight the best of my past ...
May 29, 2025•1 hr 12 min•Ep. 270
This episode is a conversation with my husband, Jeff, and our two teenagers Lucy and Finch. We're answering listener questions about family dynamics, living in LA, how the kids feel about their parents' careers, and what they picture for their futures. Other Tremaine family episodes: Ep 59: Marry the person you could quarantine with (the Tremaines wave hello from lockdown) Ep 69: 22 Things Out Family Watched in Quarantine BONUS: Tremaines Wave Hello From One Year of the Pandemic Ep 138: 10 Quest...
May 22, 2025•51 min•Ep. 269
The 5th annual STEPHEN KING SUMMER starts June 1! Join us as we deep dive on the world's greatest living story teller. For Stephen King Summer 2025 , we're reading: THE SHINING (1977) Under the Dome (2009) And we're watching: Christine (1983) Episode 1 of The Outsider (2020) Doctor Sleep (2019) Stephen King Summer is a part of my Secret Stuff book club & membership community. Browse Stephen King Summer MERCH Not sure where to start with Stephen King? Jump right into Stephen King Summer OR li...
May 21, 2025•12 min
I had no idea how much I needed this conversation with actor, producer, director, writer, and musician Fiona Rene . In just one hour she taught me the value of believing in yourself above all else, more than anyone else, almost to the point of delusion. You might know Fiona Rene from her roles on Lincoln Lawyer , NCIS: Hawaii , I Know What You Did Last Summer , and her leading role in the #1 CBS show Tracker , but Fiona and I immediately connected over our Oklahoma roots. In this ONE THING conve...
May 15, 2025•52 min•Ep. 268
This episode with my friend Amy Ortloff originally aired in August 2021 with the title Teaching People To Grieve With Me . As part of my effort to highlight the best of my past episodes, I wanted to replay this conversation, which is one of the most important I've ever shared. Content warning: Child loss and suicide In 2017, Amy Ortloff lost her middle child Ryan to suicide. Ryan was just 17 years old. Less than a week after his death, Amy took to her personal Facebook page and starting sharing ...
May 08, 2025•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 267
My favorite topic, any time of year. Join the SECRET STUFF BOOK CLUB where we're about to kick off the 5th annual STEPHEN KING SUMMER ! FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Books I'm Looking Forward To Reading: The Book Club for Troublesome Women by Marie Bostwick Playworld: A Novel by Adam Ross Broken Country by Clare Leslie Hall Run for the Hills by Kevin Wilson Three Biographies: Sister Sinner by Claire Hoffman Mark Twain by Ron Chernow Manson by Jeff Guinn Best Books Lately: There’s Always This Year by Hani...
May 01, 2025•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 266
This episode is the very core of what 10 Things To Tell You is about: reflection, growth, and great conversations. And this conversation happens to be with one of my oldest friends and very favorite person to be on the microphone with: Meg Tietz . We're talking through the many ways we've changed in the last 10 years - since 2015 - in our home & family, career, and spiritually/emotionally. We have so much to say about our mid-30s, mid-2010s selves, and we're encouraging YOU to reflect on you...
Apr 24, 2025•1 hr 30 min•Ep. 265
Have you ever felt underestimated? Of course you have. Maybe YOU'VE underestimated yourself (which can somehow feel worse). My friend and fellow podcaster and author Mary Marantz joins me to talk about her new book Underestimated: The Surprisingly Simple Shift To Quit Playing Small, Name The Fear, and Move Forward Anyway . I just love Mary and love what she has to say about taking our future into our own hands. Click HERE to get Mary's preorder bonuses Learn more about Mary Marantz Follow Mary M...
Apr 22, 2025•49 min
You'll love this conversation if you've ever wrestled with the fact that achieving your dreams can look and feel different than you expected. Annie B Jones is most well known for owning The Bookshelf bookstore and for her book-focused podcast From the Front Porch , but now she's on the other side of publishing industry as she releases her debut book of essays Ordinary Time: Lessons Learned While Staying Put . In this conversation, Annie and I talk about how dreams don't always look the way you p...
Apr 17, 2025•53 min•Ep. 264
I have been waiting for the right moment to feature this conversation with interior designer Michelle Fahmy , founder of Haus of Meeshie , about bringing bold color and unique style to your home and life. For the past two years, Meeshie has helped bring fresh life to our family's home in Los Angeles, bringing a whole new vibe to our living spaces. Since I've long preached the power of our spaces on this show, I knew Meeshie (with her very bold style) would be the perfect person to talk us throug...
Apr 10, 2025•1 hr 12 min•Ep. 263
Over the last few years I’ve watched my friend, Jessica Turner , privately and publicly walk through her husband’s coming out and their subsequent divorce as well as her efforts to find her equilibrium in this new family dynamic. Jessica has done it all with grace and kindness and honesty, sharing her story with incredible strength and vulnerability. Her newest book, I Thought It Would Be Better Than This , chronicles this journey and the lessons she’s learned from it. In this conversation, Jess...
Apr 08, 2025•34 min
This episode is for anyone who has gone through a friendship breakup, or who desires finding a best friend as an adult. Every week on this show I encourage you to take the prompts and topics to a best friend in order to have a deeper conversation and better connection. But what if you don't have a best friend? What if you used to have a best friend but now you don't and that pain still lingers? What if you want a best friend, but have no idea how to find that person? In honor of my book The Life...
Apr 03, 2025•53 min•Ep. 262
I'm sharing my current favorite beauty products, apps, books, charities, and experiences of the last few months. JOIN SECRET STUFF to hear me share a few extra goodies like the current podcasts I'm bingeing, as well as a few not Favorite Things. What are YOUR favorite things in this season? Winter 2025 has been a doozy, so making a list of the things we love right now can give you such a boost of gratitude. I also really like how these lists mark a moment in time. FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE MENTIO...
Mar 20, 2025•1 hr 24 min•Ep. 261
Professional photo organizer Casey von Stein (aka Miss Freddy ) is BACK and this time she's helping us handle all those old, sentimental photos we all have stuffed in boxes in a closet somewhere. Miss Freddy is answering my questions on how to make the physical photos into digital files and then how to organize and back them up online so we never have to worry they'll be lost or damaged in the future. She also says something to me about the 30,000 photos I have stored on my phone that might have...
Mar 13, 2025•53 min•Ep. 260
This month marks 5 years still the Covid-19 pandemic turned our lives upside down. In this episode, I'm sharing 10 questions that can be used as journal prompts or conversation starters on the anniversary of any big event. I'm focusing my answers to these prompts on the five-year mark of the pandemic, but each question is crafted to be universal for any big event in your past. JOIN ME ON SUBSTACK for a JOURNAL PARTY on this topic with the members of Secret Stuff I'll also be posting all of the p...
Mar 06, 2025•50 min•Ep. 259
This is a very special episode of Best Books Lately. Special because it's been awhile since we've had one, special because it's with my longtime internet friend and book twin Liz Hein , and special because we're weaving together some of the most important themes of 10 Things To Tell You: sharing your stuff, connection, and, of course, BOOKS. In this conversation, Liz and I are not only talking about the best books we've read lately (and we've both read some great things!), Liz is also sharing ab...
Feb 27, 2025•1 hr 41 min•Ep. 258
As the headlines get harder, the politics more divisive, and the platforms themselves more corrupt, many of us are rethinking our social media usage in 2025. Yeah, sure, we've all said this before in the past. So we take breaks, or delete the apps off our phones, but we always come crawling back. Social media is just an ingrained part of our lives now. It's where we get our news, it's how we connect with others, it's a source of entertainment and expression. And yet...there is something differen...
Feb 20, 2025•58 min•Ep. 257
Sometimes you read a friend's book and you're jealous they wrote something this good. This is how I felt when I read writer and podcast Melanie Shankle 's latest Here Be Dragons: Treading the Deep Waters of Motherhood, Mean Girls, and Generational Trauma . This book is about Melanie's very complicated relationship with her mom, woven together with her own Big Feelings about the mean girls that took over her daughter's high school experience. As someone who regularly preaches that all of us shoul...
Feb 13, 2025•44 min•Ep. 256
Now THIS is truly a conversation you won't hear anywhere else. My friend, television show runner Stacy Rukeyser , joins me to talk about making R-rated art when you're a mom. Stacy has written on some really great shows over the years, but she was tasked with creating Netflix's first foray into erotica with her show Sex/Life back in 2021 and it brought up some questions about making this type of creative content when you're a mom. Stacy rightly points out that men likely wouldn't be asked (or be...
Feb 06, 2025•1 hr 18 min•Ep. 255
Continuing my look back on 15 years of working on the internet (and the last decade as working as a podcaster), I'm addressing a question that I've gotten fairly often recently: Any advice on starting a podcast? Based on my own mistakes working on three different shows, and observations about the podcast listening community and industry, in this episode I'm sharing what I would do if I started a new podcast today. While I speaking pretty specifically about podcasting in this episode, I also thin...
Jan 30, 2025•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 254
This month marks FIFTEEN years that I have been pursuing a career primarily by sharing myself on the internet. Starting with the Hollywood Housewife blog in January 2010, then building a social media presence, then becoming a podcaster and an author, and I have so many stories and thoughts to share about the last decade and a half. On this episode, I'm talking about the things I did right, the things I definitely got wrong, and how I've evolved right along with the World Wide Web. Join SECRET ST...
Jan 23, 2025•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 253
No matter the question, reading is the answer. And in a year starting off like 2025 is, we certainly need a lot of answers to life's questions. I am thrilled to welcome fellow Angeleno bookworm Traci Thomas (host of The Stacks podcast ) to talk about the most anticipated new book releases of 2025. We talk about novels and nonfiction by debut and beloved authors publishing this year and sorry not sorry about this conversation that will send your book budget soaring. There are so many good books t...
Jan 16, 2025•1 hr 9 min•Ep. 252
It may already be January, but it's time for my annual year-end reflection with 10 of the biggest things I learned that I hope will also resonate with you. 2024 was a weird year in so many ways. My lessons were all over the place, from examining self-confidence vs. self-esteem, finding out who I am in a crisis, being honest about what home renovations can bring up emotionally, facing my addiction to the news cycle, and discovering the big thing that motivates our family decisions. It was a year ...
Jan 02, 2025•1 hr 34 min•Ep. 251
It's the reading episode we look forward to all year! My real life book club members Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith join me for a supersized conversation about the best books we read in 2024. JOIN THE SECRET STUFF BOOK CLUB Since Stephanie, Yasmin, and I did a half-year Best Books episode together during the summer, we only gloss over a few of the books we discussed in depth in June. You can see the show notes from Ep 224: Best Books of the Year (So Far) . Also an EXTENDED CUT of this ep...
Dec 19, 2024•2 hr 5 min•Ep. 250
I know why you don't journal. I also know why you should journal. In this episode, I'm sharing all the benefits you'll gain from the occasional journal session and how to combat the (many) obstacles that keep you from starting. Then I'll share the 4 types of journaling that you can try in order to see growth and clarity in your life. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: My favorite plain notebook The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an...
Dec 12, 2024•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 249
