Coming out to a partner can be difficult. But there are ways that you can make it way more difficult for yourself. In this episode Faith and Kath discuss some really, really bad ways to come out to an SO. Be sure and check out Dara Hoffman-Fox's page for some great NB content. Support us on Patreon to help us keep making great content, and to get some cool rewards—like drinks with us at Stonewall Inn! Check out our website for our latest episodes! And watch the brand new Gender Rebels TV Youtube...
Nov 08, 2018•35 min•Ep 87•Transcript available on Metacast Presenting as female is no small feat, even for cis women. Transwomen sometimes have a lot of catching up to do in the "living as a female" department. And cis women have had their entire lives to figure it out! Does that intimidate Faith? Support us on Patreon to help us keep making great content, and to get some cool rewards—like drinks with us at Stonewall Inn! Check out our website for our latest episodes! And watch the brand new Gender Rebels TV Youtube Channel ! Like us on FaceBook so we c...
Nov 01, 2018•31 min•Ep 86•Transcript available on Metacast (Note: skip to 16:29 for the BEST costume for closeted/ questioning MtFs seeking last-minute ideas.) Listener Jaylah is still male-presenting, and she asks if she can use a Halloween party as an opportunity to girl up for the first time. Her important colleagues and awesome new friends will be at the party. Or will it raise too many eyebrows? The tricky theme for the party just increases the challenge level. We say go for it, but of course you need an awesome costume, so we give lots of good sug...
Oct 25, 2018•27 min•Ep 85•Transcript available on Metacast Listener Vanessa is asking the hard questions! What if you used to be Gryffindor but now come up Ravenclaw? Are all transpeople automatically Gryffindor? What is the Sorting Hat's actual methodology of personality assessment? Is the Sorting Hat clairvoyant? And the name "Hogwarts School of Witchcraft and Wizardry" is so binary. What do enbies do? Be sure to also check out Faith's piece Being Transgender at Hogwarts . Get sorted at Pottermore . (They make you login first, but it's quick.) Support...
Oct 18, 2018•28 min•Ep 84•Transcript available on Metacast Just listen, silly!
Oct 18, 2018•3 min•Ep 83•Transcript available on Metacast Not everyone who CAN be stealth WANTS to be stealth. Thanks to a great listener question from Devin, Faith and Kath discuss the pros and cons of being stealth, including the effect of social media. What's the best way to make this decison? What do you think? Are you stealth, or loud & proud? Support us on Patreon to help us keep making great content, and to get some cool rewards—like drinks with us at Stonewall Inn! Check out our website for our latest episodes! And watch the brand new Gender Re...
Sep 27, 2018•28 min•Ep 82•Transcript available on Metacast Should you come out during the interview? On the first day? In the first month? Never? Changing jobs is extra tricky outside the gender binary. Whether your work is blue-collar, white-collar, pink-collar, or other, Faith and Kath discuss all the factors to consider when making big changes in your professional life. Support us on Patreon to help us keep making great content, and to get some cool rewards—like drinks with us at Stonewall Inn! Check out our website for our latest episodes! And watch...
Sep 13, 2018•32 min•Ep 81•Transcript available on Metacast You know that complex emotion, when you have to change out of your real presentation and go back to your assigned presentation? It feels worse than just changing clothes. It's so unspeakably bad/ sad/ wrong/ unfair. Kath and Faith try to come up with a name that encompasses all these nasty painful facets. Big thanks to listener Xan for the question. She recommends Tomorrow Will Be Different: Love, Loss, and the Fight for Trans Equality by Sarah McBride. Baby Faith looking super-cute back in the ...
Sep 04, 2018•25 min•Ep 80•Transcript available on Metacast Lots of gruesome details in this one. But we wanted to be really sure we convinced you that silicone injections from an unlicensed practitioner in, like, a hotel room?? Bad idea. Faith already knew this thanks to TS Roadmap . We hope you did too.
Aug 24, 2018•29 min•Ep 79•Transcript available on Metacast The amazing people at the Mazzoni Center in Philadelphia have done it again. They organize the Philadelphia Trans Wellness Conference every year. This is a gathering of trans and cis doctors, lawyers, therapists, scientists, professors, vendors, social workers, health insurance insiders, artists, activists, poets, writers, YouTubers, podcasters, clergy, parents, nurses, comedians, entrepeneurs, and even a witch. All these fine people come together to work towards a world with greater access to r...
Aug 10, 2018•48 min•Ep 78•Transcript available on Metacast Our perceptions are limited by our own lived experience, but it's still good to know how other people experience the world. At least, as close as is possible. In this episode, listener Lee asks Kath "What's it like to be cis?" Another thought puzzle: what does one do whenvthey know they're different somehow, but none of the labels apply? What then? Support us on Patreon to help us keep making great content, and to get some cool rewards—like drinks with us at Stonewall Inn! Check out our website ...
Aug 03, 2018•24 min•Ep 77•Transcript available on Metacast When your family won't accept your true gender identity, but you don't want to cut them out of your life, what can you do? Listener Melanie asks if she can be on HRT but switch to boy mode as needed. She loves her family, but knows they won't support her transistion. She asks "Is it possible to be on HRT, but revert back to boy mode passably enough for the purposes of semiannual family meetings?" Support us on Patreon to help us keep making great content, and to get some cool rewards—like drinks...
Jul 18, 2018•24 min•Ep 76•Transcript available on Metacast Being the partner of a transgender person can be complex. All relationships involve work, but how does having a transgender partner ? In this episode we'll answer a listener question from Catherine whose partner is dealing with some issues unique to trans people. What do you do when your partner is stressed because everyone sees them as only their transition and either stares or offers constant, unwanted niceness? Support us on Patreon to help us keep making great content, and to get some cool r...
Jul 12, 2018•24 min•Ep 75•Transcript available on Metacast Why are some people so out of touch? It's 2018 right? In this episode we'll give a point by point response to a letter one listener's Aunt Nina sent her. We'll give a point-by-point response to every homophobic, transphobic, outdated, bigoted, or just jerky comment in the letter. Support us on Patreon to help us keep making great content, and to get some cool rewards—like drinks with us at Stonewall Inn! Check out our website for our latest episodes! And watch the brand new Gender Rebels TV Yout...
Jul 05, 2018•34 min•Ep 74•Transcript available on Metacast We ARE on vacation, but Kath had to make this microepisode for the cis and straight people who may be attending Pride celebrations this month. Here's what to do to be a great ally-- and what to avoid! Play it for your cool ally friends. Happy Pride! Invictus Animus' amazing article Why "Ally" Is A Verb Not A Noun
Jun 15, 2018•7 min•Ep 73•Transcript available on Metacast Author, activist, and super wonderful fantastic person Katie Rain Hill sits down with the Gender Rebels for the second part of our 100th episode. We'll talk about growing up transgender in a religious, military family, transitioning at a young age, coming out, why listening to oposition matters, and the importance recycling bins at conferences. Be sure to check out Katie's memoir Rethinking Normal on Amazon (we can't recommend this book enough! You should buy it and read it). Also be wowed by th...
Jun 01, 2018•50 min•Ep 71•Transcript available on Metacast Actress, star of Boy Meets Girl, and all around aweseome person Michelle Hendley sits down with the Gender Rebels for the first part of our 100th episode. We'll talk dating after transition, navigating the gaming world as a trans woman, the best pizza in NYC, and potential proof that CERN has led us into an alternate dimension. We discuss a lot in this episode, so here are all the links: Michelle Hendley's YouTube Boy Meets Girl trailer Everybody loved Boy Meets Girl No joke, everyone. Seriously...
May 31, 2018•37 min•Ep 68•Transcript available on Metacast With almost a hundred episodes, we've covered a lot of topics. But, there are some ideas and topics that aren't quite up to snuff when it comes to putting out a new Gender Rebels episode. So, as we begin celebrating the major milestone of 100th episodes, we thought it would be fun to share some of our rejected episode ideas. Support us on Patreon to help us keep making great content, and to get some cool rewards—like drinks with us at Stonewall Inn! Check out our website for our latest episodes!...
May 24, 2018•36 min•Ep 70•Transcript available on Metacast What does it mean to be intersex? How common is being intersex? How does being intersex relate to being transgender? And should intersex people be included in the rainbow flag community? In this episode we explore some the many issues faced by intersex people today. Be sure and check out Delaney King's amazing Twitter thread that started it all . Also here is an easy, straightforward Intersex 101 article . Faith mentioned Olympic controversies, including doping among East German athletes and the...
May 17, 2018•30 min•Ep 69•Transcript available on Metacast What is clocking? This week we discuss clocking; from accidental passing fails to horrible jerk people. We'll talk ways to deal with being clocked, how to react, and how to cope with this awful hurtful thing that transgender people sometimes have to deal with. Check out Faith's transition video on the Gender Rebels YouTube chanel. Be sure and subscribe! We mention our episode on being part time -- checkit out! Support us on Patreon to help us keep making great content, and to get some cool rewar...
May 10, 2018•27 min•Ep 67•Transcript available on Metacast How do you date someone who doesn't know if they're trans? This week we answer a listener question from Beth who writes "What advice would you or Kath have for a partner trying to cope with a transperson living in the closet and living in uncertainty about whether HRT or transition will ever happen?" Check out Faith's transition video on the Gender Rebels YouTube chanel. Be sure and subscribe! We mention our episode on being part time -- checkit out! Support us on Patreon to help us keep making ...
May 04, 2018•32 min•Ep 66•Transcript available on Metacast Does being attracted to a transgender woman make you a chaser? In this episode we read a listener question from Stephen who asks "I met this girl online and we started dating. A couple dates in, she tells me that she's trans. I was totally okay with it, and so we continued dating. We shortly thereafter ended up in the bedroom, and at the danger of being crass, dare I say that it was probably one of the best experiences I'd had in that department. As time went on, our relationship devolved for re...
Apr 27, 2018•26 min•Ep 65•Transcript available on Metacast Do you watch movies and TV shows with trasngender characters and themes? In this episode we'll discuss how representation of transgender people has changed and evolved over the last few decades. Check out the YA novel Dreadnought about a transgender superhero. And be sure to check out Eddie Izzard's hilarious comedy special "Dress to Kill." Support us on Patreon to help us keep making great content, and to get some cool rewards—like drinks with us at Stonewall Inn! Check out our website for our ...
Apr 19, 2018•33 min•Ep 64•Transcript available on Metacast Everyone loves to look great in pictures, but how do you make that happen? In this episode we'll discuss some great tips and tricks for making you look your best in photos. For the best in pictures of Faith and New York scenery, be sure to follow Faith on Instagram here . Also here's Faith's infographic on how to take great photos . Check out Vertiasium's video about how the functioning of our lazy brains makes us like certain photos more than others. For reference here is actress Reese Withersp...
Apr 12, 2018•29 min•Ep 63•Transcript available on Metacast Coming out transgender is already difficult. Having kids can make it even harder. In this episode we discuss some of the difficulties inherent in come out as a parent and provide some how-to recommendations for helping to make the coming out process a little easier. Check out Cassie Brighter's "Coming Out Trans to Your Children: A Step-by-Step Guide." Here is a resource for finding a family therapist . Be sure and check out the children's book Red: A Crayon's Story and the YA superhero novel Dre...
Apr 06, 2018•33 min•Ep 62•Transcript available on Metacast Coming out transgender is already difficult. Having kids can make it even harder. In this episode we discuss some of the difficulties inherent in come out as a parent. We'll also discuss some stories of parents coming out to younger and older kids and how attitudes can change over time. Here are the stories we reference in the episode if you want to explore them further: My Father is Now a Woman by Katheryn Leehane When My Father Came Out as Transgender by Johua Hewitt It Happened to Me: My Fath...
Mar 30, 2018•34 min•Ep 61•Transcript available on Metacast Taking hormones can be a huge part of starting transition, but how does one get HRT? In this episode we answer a listener question from Mia who asks "I want to get on hormones, but am having trouble figuring out how to get access to hormones? Who can I talk to about this?" If you are in the greater NYC area, check out Callen-Lorde Community Health Center . Planned Parenthood also provides HRT services among other important health care work. You can also search for transgender health care provide...
Mar 23, 2018•23 min•Ep 60•Transcript available on Metacast It's amazing to transition, but is everything always perfect afterward? This week we answer a listener question from Nora. She asks "Is there anything about being a cis male that you miss? Please don’t misconstrue this as 'do you regret transitioning?' That question would be rude, inconsiderate, and non of my business. And it’s not a sociological question such as 'Don’t you wish women earned as much as men?' I’m just wondering about day-to-day stuff where there’s a (generalized) difference betwe...
Mar 15, 2018•27 min•Ep 59•Transcript available on Metacast What would you hate to hear when you come out transgender? In this episode we talk about all the wrong things that cis people sometimes say be they ignorant, condescending, or just misguided. Also be sure and check out our What Are Cis People Thinking episode. And if you're looking for resources for the cis folk in your life, direct them to PFLAG as a way to start their search. Support us on Patreon to help us keep making great content, and to get some cool rewards—like drinks with us at Stonewa...
Mar 08, 2018•31 min•Ep 58•Transcript available on Metacast Finding the will to get in shape can be tough, doubly so for transgender people who may be nervous about going to a gym with binary changing rooms. In this episode we answer a listener question from Bree who asks "Do you have any tips for going to the gym? Despite having been full-time for almost a year, I am terrified of going to they gym. My problem is I just don't know how to approach the gym and I am dragging my heels getting back in there because of it. Any advice?” Support us on Patreon to...
Mar 01, 2018•26 min•Ep 57•Transcript available on Metacast 
