in this episode, a deep dive into what this means on both sides of the spectrum is shared. Looking into the cost versus the payoff of being a victim or victimizing. Identifying some of the patterns in which it exists and also exploring some of the solutions available to us now. This topic is a very serious one, and many of us who have experienced it or are currently experiencing it does not have the necessary tools readily available sometimes because of whatever limitation we might have. This ep...
Jan 21, 2022•13 min•Transcript available on Metacast In our final episode with Segev, we begin with a mantra he follows. "I am man and I serve love." He shares how this helped him, how it shaped him and how he just more of that now. As we begin to realize that we are completing our conversation, we get a side of Segev that shares insight into what it was like to be divorced with children and how expectations are a building block to what you want to make happen. We hear how a man takes responsibility for the good, the bad, and the ugly. M...
Jan 19, 2022•10 min•Ep 157•Transcript available on Metacast In this episode, Segev shares how uncomfortable it is to go against the grain, to risk self-expression. How within his life he has maneuvered to gain acceptance and love out of others expectations. He speaks about how much he cried during his first six months and how he grew to love the process.
Jan 17, 2022•11 min•Ep 156•Transcript available on Metacast How to manage fear is not exactly what the title means. I say this because each of us is different and fear is a much larger thing to manage than a 10-minute podcast. But, do not be discouraged, I do offer up some insight into the world and you will have some solutions presented to you. The important thing to know going into this episode is that we are going to look into how managing fear can be managed.
Jan 14, 2022•13 min•Transcript available on Metacast In this episode, we look at the elements that made his life liveable. How finding himself again began with a choice and how the actions of that choice led him here. We learn the importance of reconnecting with one's self and how Segev discovered that. We also learn the perspective he nurtured to achieve the freedom around remembering who he is and what that looked like for him back when. Segev has done a lot of work on himself to get to where he is today, and most of it began with looking a...
Jan 12, 2022•12 min•Ep 155•Transcript available on Metacast In this episode, we look into expectations and the many things that showed up around it with Segev. From being obese with skin issues and diagnosed with an autoimmune deficiency disease to the start of his healing, which began when he stopped giving a shit. Learn how he began to honor himself and stopped being guided by expectations. Find out how he began trusting himself and most importantly owning who he was. The road is never easy, but when you hear people like Segev share their experiences, ...
Jan 10, 2022•10 min•Ep 154•Transcript available on Metacast In this Weekend Nugget I reflect on all the things 2021 and make a request of you, the listeners. Something new is brewing in the horizon and I am eager and hungry to share it with you real soon. In the meantime, enjoy another Nugget for the weekend and thank you for keeping me in your ears while we create another year of insights into divorce. Happy New Year!
Jan 07, 2022•14 min•Transcript available on Metacast In this episode, we listen to Segev speak about how important it is for him that his kids know that they are loved. He shares how he used to think that being in their lives all the time meant being a good father, especially during the first six months. He shares how being present for them, Chaperoning field trips, picking up, dropping off. Parent-teacher conferences. How this made him feel like a good father. Listen to the episode and learn what version of himself was needed at different times t...
Jan 05, 2022•11 min•Ep 153•Transcript available on Metacast Segev is the first person we have a conversation with within DTF6M that is technically not divorced, but has gone through or is going through what a divorced person goes through. He has two boys, the youngest with special needs and he is a Masculine Embodiment Relationship Coach. What I learned from Segev in this episode and the ones to come which I hope you will listen to was the acceptance of what life places on his doorstep. He navigates his conversations and obstacles with deep reflection an...
Jan 03, 2022•12 min•Ep 152•Transcript available on Metacast In our final episode with Daniel, we close this series by looking back at the beginning and saying out loud what most don’t admit. We don’t know how to navigate a divorce. No one goes into it a marriage thinking about this ending as an option. We don’t prep for the process, or the life that comes after divorce, it’s new territory. He also talks about dating after divorce and how that was for him. Giving some suggestions on what he would do differently, which is not date immediately after his div...
Nov 24, 2021•9 min•Transcript available on Metacast In this episode, Daniel talks about the importance of finding your tribe. Describe what that looks like, what qualities they should have to understand your situation, and how important it is for them to have been divorced. How having that common ground makes a difference. He talks about dating right after the divorce and how that is not the best idea, considering the healing process and what dating entails. This episode is about the pitfalls he himself fell into immediately after the divorce tha...
Nov 22, 2021•10 min•Transcript available on Metacast In this episode of the Nugget, we explore what the Unicorn Divorce is, how to create it, and I also share some tools that you can apply today. From the moment you decide this is something you want to consider, all the way through to the day-to-day management. Please understand that the Unicorn divorce begins and ends with you. Having this kind of divorce does not happen without effort from one of the parties involved. It takes clear communication, compassion, and consistency to make it happen. I...
Nov 19, 2021•14 min•Transcript available on Metacast In this episode, Daniel shares how he discovered himself and what that process looked like for him. From living in a 600 sq. ft. apartment to driving a beat-up car with 180k miles on it. He speaks about the different phases one goes through in the beginning and how taking actions plays an important role. He shares how he invested more time with the people he loves and less time with those he didn't. After the divorce, he began to think of all the things he hadn’t done that he wished he had....
Nov 17, 2021•11 min•Transcript available on Metacast In this episode, Daniel shares about his relationship with the ex during the divorce. How they agreed on things and how they communicated instead of lunging towards representation and pettiness. He reveals how they kept the same parenting styles, shared time with the kids together, and did it all against the advice of legally inclined relatives and advising friends. This episode is filled with hope and kindness, and it has their kid’s best interest guiding it, not the race to win against the ex....
Nov 15, 2021•11 min•Transcript available on Metacast In this nugget, we travel to the reasons for the topic. Where did it begin, how has it evolved, and why it is so important that we understand it. Marriage is a beautiful union of two souls into a commitment that ends in death do you part. Pretty heavy stuff. This conversation, I believe, brings some clarity to the bigger picture, which is why did we choose to begin this journey that ultimately brought you to my doorstep, podstep in this instance. My hope is that after you listen to this episode ...
Nov 12, 2021•16 min•Transcript available on Metacast In this episode, Daniel speaks about what it was like living alone. The moment when the eerily quiet arrived and the feelings started to come in as he settled into his new apartment. He shares how he watched a lot of Netflix and did anything he could to not embrace the loneliness. He also shares what it was like when he realized all the responsibilities he would assume as a single dad, that he didn’t have before. From doing the accounting to making the meals, he had to learn 22 years of stuff he...
Nov 10, 2021•11 min•Transcript available on Metacast Meet Daniel Herrold, father of 3 young women, and a divorce conversation active participant. Daniel is a successful man, both on and off the divorce platform, and in this series of episodes, you are going to see what it was like for him to embrace the challenges that he faced during his divorce. From learning to cook for himself, the kids, to dating again. He walks us through the process of starting over from day one. In this specific episode, he speaks about what the first six months were like....
Nov 08, 2021•11 min•Transcript available on Metacast In this episode, we look at fear from a different perspective. Distinguishing what it is by definition, what it could look like inside of a divorce, and what can be done to not have it be so consuming. Anything that stops you from moving in the direction you want to move towards, or inhibits you from being the person you want to be, usually carries some sort of fear around it. The beauty about fear is that once you distinguish it, slowly but surely it begins to not have such an overwhelming grip...
Nov 05, 2021•13 min•Transcript available on Metacast In our final episode with Amy, we begin with the conversation with what the common link between domestic survivors often is, and then complete our episode with happiness is possible. An arc worthy of a rainbows path is how I would share this episode. Amy shares how when you go through one aspect of abuse, it often has more to it, that is hidden deeper. She advises to not try to heal from one isolated incident, but as a whole. Her experience with the amount of pain she has endured is her credibil...
Nov 03, 2021•13 min•Transcript available on Metacast In this episode, we start with what’s important, which is the values you live by. Amy shares how being guided by those values gave her something far greater than the reality of the situation. For example, in her story, she has spoken of what it was like to be abused. How it looked like and what she did in the process of when it was her reality. Back then it was important to try to make it work. Whereas today, it is important that she not tolerate any abuse whatsoever. She talks about what she lo...
Nov 01, 2021•13 min•Transcript available on Metacast In this episode, I look back at when this started, what happened, and where am I today. Taking in the many conversations that have occurred and how things have grown and developed as a result of this podcast. In looking back, one begins to ask themself where is the finish line, did it serve its purpose, and is it time to pass on the torch. The process of podcasting has been filled with lots of space to understand, forgive, and create new ways of being that allow a more fulfilled and self-express...
Oct 29, 2021•13 min•Transcript available on Metacast In this episode, Amy raises an important question. The importance of knowing what a healthy relationship looks like. What are the green flags? She explains how she is grateful for her journey and how it has left her humbled in the process. How she holds no resentment towards her ex. She talks about how she learned that it was her who needed help for herself and how that was never in sightline. Because it was always about him, she never stopped to work on herself. Then she tells on herself, sayin...
Oct 27, 2021•11 min•Transcript available on Metacast In this episode, Amy explains a bit more about what it looks like to be gaslighted. She shares how you simply don’t know, especially if the other person provides positive reinforcement that has you believe it will be okay. She gives us personal examples that explain what it looked like for her, what she went through, and how she persevered. At the time she was not aware of the psychological abuse or what gaslighting was. She also shares how her ex was masterful at it, which was why she remained ...
Oct 25, 2021•11 min•Transcript available on Metacast In this episode, l take a moment to look at shaming from a different perspective. I look at it from all the conversations that have taken place since the divorce. The commonalities we all share and the resemblances, of which, shaming is one of them. I shared how it affected me once my divorce was known. The price I had to pay emotionally when I found out, and how I managed it after I was aware of it. The thing about shaming is that more often than not, we don't know it exists. Then when we ...
Oct 22, 2021•13 min•Transcript available on Metacast In this episode Amy speaks about what it was like to be pregnant, and how the toxicity of the relationship affected her breast feeding, as well as overall health. How things didn’t change with him as a result of her pregnancy, they actually became worse. His sense of entitlement grew. Creating more fear on her part, which began for her daily upon waking up. She goes on to explain what she did to try to make it work by visiting a psychologist, but after the third session, he stormed out after try...
Oct 20, 2021•10 min•Transcript available on Metacast Say hello to Amy Hill, a native Australian. A mother of two, an author, a speaker, a wife, and an empowerment coach. I learned about Amy through her instagram @TheFreedomMentor where she was speaking about gas lighting. Shining an important light on the the darkness that gas lighting is. She was exposing what it looks like, and how we can do something about it. Supplying tools for the masses based on her experience, and asking for nothing in return but your attention. I must admit that I was cur...
Oct 18, 2021•10 min•Transcript available on Metacast In this episode I share about how I felt I was not good enough, and what I did to acknowledge it. I even go on a bit of a rant towards the end, not a big one, but enough to notice that the topic had an affect on me. Like so many of us when we are lost, not feeling good enough played with me. For a short while it made me believe things that only existed in my head, created by me, but felt as if it was real and others were able to see it. When listening to this episode my hope is that you learn wh...
Sep 17, 2021•14 min•Transcript available on Metacast We have reached our last episode with Tracy, and in doing so she leaves us with an important message. Nothing is impossible. It may seem like it is, but there is no worse case scenario you can’t overcome. She even goes on to give you insight into self worth, from her perspective of course, and then supplies you with supporting evidence of how it worked. I could write so much more about what you could get from this last episode, but I believe it should be heard, rather than written. So, I invite ...
Sep 15, 2021•7 min•Transcript available on Metacast In this episode you will hear Tracy speak about how she is an optimistic person. How she tends to see the funny side of every situation, and how she made excuses for him. How she overlooked things, and adapted to what she didn’t want from her life. It is there that she will begin to talk about her new life, the new her. She will share how her weakness is what kept him there, then once she knew who she was, it didn’t matter to her whether he stayed or went. This episode will provide you an unders...
Sep 13, 2021•12 min•Transcript available on Metacast In this episode I speak about dating, and dating apps. What it is like to participate when you are not a stud muffin, just an ordinary guy, a strong six in my mind. I only say that because I hear stories from my lady friends, and it seems the nice guys finish last statement rings true when you are too nice and not good looking. Dating in today's age requires good looks for good responses, for the most part. The amount of thinking that goes into building a profile, the results, and the consi...
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