Here's one way you make your depression worse: should-ing on yourself. A should statement is a cognitive distortion. It’s based on an overly rigid rule inside your head that you aren’t able to live up to. Shoulds generate a lot of shame. This way of talking to ourselves is like having a little shoulder angel constantly finding fault and criticizing you. But shoulds just aren’t that helpful in actually creating change - they mostly just make us miserable and discouraged. Is this what's making you...
Dec 31, 2021•10 min•Ep 2•Transcript available on Metacast Trauma is very common. But despite how common it is, trauma treatment is complicated, and complex trauma, stemming from years of abuse, really impacts the brain in long-lasting ways. So I’m not going to pretend that I can just teach you how to fix it in one short video. But we can break trauma treatment down into practical steps. It’s not that hard to learn how to release trauma in the body. So let’s talk about that. In my previous video I talked about how trauma gets trapped in the body- the FF...
Dec 13, 2021•11 min•Ep 1•Transcript available on Metacast Buy the full, ad-free Emotion Processing course now for only $147 https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/emotion-processing?utm_campaign=Nov%2026,%202021&utm_medium=Description&utm_source=podcast Just “stopping it” often doesn’t work, and it has negative side effects. If “just stop it” worked for every problem, then you wouldn’t be taking this course and no one would ever come to therapy. If we could just willpower our way to change then none of us would feel stuck or need help to grow. Almost e...
Nov 27, 2021•9 min•Ep 30•Transcript available on Metacast Buy the full, ad-free Emotion Processing course now for only $147: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/emotion-processing?utm_campaign=Nov%2024,%202021&utm_medium=Description&utm_source=podcast We often try to change ourselves by beating ourselves up. But you can't hate yourself into a version of yourself that you can love. In this video, I teach how self-compassion can be the greatest source of change and growth. You'll learn three simple ways to stop beating yourself up and what to do inste...
Nov 25, 2021•6 min•Ep 29•Transcript available on Metacast Buy the full, ad-free Emotion Processing course now for only $147: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/emotion-processing?utm_campaign=Nov%2022,%202021&utm_medium=Description&utm_source=podcast Most people don't even realize that they have a fixed mindset in regards to their mental health. A fixed mindset can keep you stuck feeling depressed or anxious. In this video you’re going to learn how to tell if you have a growth or a fixed mindset, how to develop a growth mindset in regards to mental...
Nov 23, 2021•8 min•Ep 28•Transcript available on Metacast Ready to change your life? Buy the full, ad-free Emotion Processing course now for only $147: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/emotion-processing?utm_campaign=Oct%2025,%202021&utm_medium=Description&utm_source=podcast In this video you’re going to learn how to let go of self-limiting beliefs, how to stop labeling yourself, how to stop getting stuck hating yourself, and how to find a healthy sense of self. The labels you give yourself, whether you call yourself broken, stupid, bad, or even ...
Oct 25, 2021•16 min•Ep 27•Transcript available on Metacast Ready to change your life? Buy the full, ad-free Emotion Processing course now for only $147: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/emotion-processing?utm_campaign=Oct%2022,%202021&utm_medium=Description&utm_source=podcast Clarifying your core values is essential to fighting depression and anxiety. You can learn to identify and act on your core values as an antidote to constantly struggling against your emotions. In this episode we’re going to talk about how to create a life where you feel a se...
Oct 22, 2021•13 min•Ep 26•Transcript available on Metacast Ready to change your life? Buy the full, ad-free Emotion Processing course now for only $147: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/emotion-processing?utm_campaign=Oct%2020,%202021&utm_medium=Description&utm_source=podcast We’ve been duped into thinking that happiness is the goal of life. Happiness may be the outcome of a good life, but if you put all your efforts into happiness, you may end up feeling miserable. People who live rich and fulfilling lives focus on their purpose and their directi...
Oct 20, 2021•13 min•Ep 25•Transcript available on Metacast Ready to change your life? Buy the full, ad-free Emotion Processing course now for only $147: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/emotion-processing?utm_campaign=Oct%2018,%202021&utm_medium=Description&utm_source=podcast In this section we’re going to talk about how to create the life you want. But before we do that, let's talk about the big picture of how to create change. The tiny choices we make over and over create our character, influence our mood, and determine our quality of life. When...
Oct 18, 2021•13 min•Ep 24•Transcript available on Metacast Ready to change your life? Buy the full, ad-free Emotion Processing course now for only $147: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/emotion-processing?utm_campaign=Oct%2013,%202021&utm_medium=Description&utm_source=podcast Self-deception is the problem of not knowing that you have a problem. If you don’t know you have a problem, is it possible to change it? Yes, it is. And in this post I’ll show you how. My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional for $65/week. Try it now fo...
Oct 13, 2021•13 min•Ep 23•Transcript available on Metacast Oh my goodness, I got to speak with Bob Schrupp from Bob and Brad (the famous YouTube Physical Therapists), and he asked me a bunch of questions about how to accept and manage anxiety. We talked about willingness, anxiety in the body, acceptance of anxiety, how avoidance makes anxiety worse, and lots more. I hope you enjoy listening as much as I enjoyed talking with Bob! Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional for $65/week. Try it...
Oct 11, 2021•56 min•Ep 58•Transcript available on Metacast Ready to change your life? Buy the full, ad-free Emotion Processing course now for only $147: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/emotion-processing?utm_campaign=Aug%2024,%202021&utm_medium=Description&utm_source=podcast Cognitive dissonance is when we have a gap between what we believe is right and what we are doing. This means that we believe one thing but are acting on something else. You can do all the coping and meditation and self-care you can handle, but if you don’t figure out cogniti...
Aug 24, 2021•13 min•Ep 22•Transcript available on Metacast Ready to change your life? Buy the full, ad-free Emotion Processing course now for only $147: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/emotion-processing?utm_campaign=Jul%2016,%202021&utm_medium=Description&utm_source=podcast Practicing mindfulness can help you shift your perspective on emotions. It’ll help you get better at soothing anxiety, process sad feelings, and quiet negative self-talk. Mindfulness combined with CBT has been shown to work as well as medication at treating depression and anx...
Jul 16, 2021•17 min•Ep 21•Transcript available on Metacast Ready to change your life? Buy the full, ad-free Emotion Processing course now for only $147: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/emotion-processing?utm_campaign=Jul%2002,%202021&utm_medium=Description&utm_source=podcast We swim through our thoughts like a fish swims through water. We don’t even notice that the way we think colors our view of the world. Or sometimes we do notice thoughts that we don’t like, and then we don’t know what to do with them. Sometimes you fight them or struggle agai...
Jul 02, 2021•19 min•Ep 20•Transcript available on Metacast Ready to change your life? Buy the full, ad-free Emotion Processing course now for only $147: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/emotion-processing?utm_campaign=Jun%2024,%202021&utm_medium=Description&utm_source=podcast This episode is part two of our discussion on cognitive distortions. If you haven’t already, go back and watch part one, where I cover the 10 common cognitive distortions. Learning to recognize the 10 common cognitive distortions is the first step to change how you think. In ...
Jun 24, 2021•12 min•Ep 19•Transcript available on Metacast Ready to change your life? Buy the full, ad-free Emotion Processing course now for only $147: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/emotion-processing?utm_campaign=Jun%2018,%202021&utm_medium=Description&utm_source=podcast Cognitive distortions are thoughts that aren't actually true but feel true. Your thoughts twist reality, and you start to feel like you’re bad, broken, or deficient. Or you begin to see the world as dangerous, threatening, or cruel. But here’s the thing with cognitive distort...
Jun 18, 2021•16 min•Ep 18•Transcript available on Metacast Ready to change your life? Buy the full, ad-free Emotion Processing course now for only $147: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/emotion-processing?utm_campaign=Jun%2005,%202021&utm_medium=Description&utm_source=podcast You can change your negative thoughts by learning the skill of reframing. In this video I’m going to teach you a technique that therapists use in almost every session but you probably didn’t know about. And when you learn how to do it yourself, you can change how you think an...
Jun 05, 2021•17 min•Ep 17•Transcript available on Metacast Ready to change your life? Buy the full, ad-free Emotion Processing course now for only $147: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/emotion-processing?utm_campaign=Jun%2004,%202021&utm_medium=Description&utm_source=podcast Neuroplasticity: Change How You Feel You were born with a brain wired for change. Research and imaging technology have demonstrated that when you change how you use your brain, you can actually change the physical structure of your brain, and you can change your brain chemist...
Jun 04, 2021•11 min•Ep 16•Transcript available on Metacast Ready to change your life? Buy the full, ad-free Emotion Processing course now for only $147: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/emotion-processing?utm_campaign=May%2021,%202021&utm_medium=Description&utm_source=podcast We have to examine our patterns that leave us feeling stuck in our emotions. So let’s talk about eight reasons why people get mental or emotional blocks, why they’re unable to process through some emotions or memories. And, of course, we’ll discuss what you can do about it. L...
May 21, 2021•22 min•Ep 15•Transcript available on Metacast Ready to change your life? Buy the full, ad-free Emotion Processing course now for only $147: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/emotion-processing?utm_campaign=May%2013,%202021&utm_medium=Description&utm_source=podcast Grounding Skills to Turn off the Fight/Flight/Freeze Response Grounding is a really important skill to have if you experience dissociation, anxiety, panic attacks, or flashbacks. In the second half of this video I’ll teach you an exercise that you can use to get grounded. But...
May 13, 2021•9 min•Ep 14•Transcript available on Metacast Ready to change your life? Buy the full, ad-free Emotion Processing course now for only $147: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/emotion-processing?utm_campaign=May%2006,%202021&utm_medium=Description&utm_source=podcast Coping skills can be really important for anxiety. They often soothe or comfort us, and they help us calm down and make better choices. However, coping skills do nothing to solve our problems in the long term, and some of them, if used exclusively, can be harmful. Coping skil...
May 06, 2021•8 min•Ep 13•Transcript available on Metacast Ready to change your life? Buy the full, ad-free Emotion Processing course now for only $147: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/emotion-processing?utm_campaign=Apr%2028,%202021&utm_medium=Description&utm_source=podcast Sometimes we feel like we're in danger even when we're actually safe. In this podcast you're going to learn four skills to turn off this fear response, aka the fight/flight/freeze response, and restore a sense of calm in your body and mind. Looking for affordable online couns...
Apr 28, 2021•16 min•Ep 12•Transcript available on Metacast Ready to change your life? Buy the full, ad-free Emotion Processing course now for only $147: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/emotion-processing?utm_campaign=Apr%2022,%202021&utm_medium=Description&utm_source=podcast Your body has a built-in, natural ability to calm anxiety. Learn four simple, body-based ways you can calm anxiety by turning on the parasympathetic nervous system. Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional for $...
Apr 22, 2021•16 min•Ep 11•Transcript available on Metacast Ready to change your life? Buy the full, ad-free Emotion Processing course now for only $147: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/emotion-processing?utm_campaign=Apr%2015,%202021&utm_medium=Description&utm_source=podcast Trauma, anxiety, and other emotions can get trapped in your body. In this video, you'll learn how to release trapped emotions and heal stress, anxiety, and trauma through the body. Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed pr...
Apr 15, 2021•16 min•Ep 10•Transcript available on Metacast Ready to change your life? Buy the full, ad-free Emotion Processing course now for only $147: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/emotion-processing?utm_campaign=Apr%2008,%202021&utm_medium=Description&utm_source=podcast Understanding how anxiety affects your brain can help you learn how to stop reacting to emotions, stop doing stupid stuff that you regret later, and live a happier life where your actions line up with who you want to be. Many people don’t know that the way their brain and bod...
Apr 08, 2021•16 min•Ep 9•Transcript available on Metacast Ready to change your life? Buy the full, ad-free Emotion Processing course now for only $147: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/emotion-processing?utm_campaign=Apr%2001,%202021&utm_medium=Description&utm_source=podcast The mind-body connection is powerful. When we have a strong emotion our body has a physical reaction, and emotions can seem trapped in our body when we have a chronic stress response. In this section, you’re going to learn how to improve your mental health by working with emo...
Apr 01, 2021•13 min•Ep 8•Transcript available on Metacast Primary vs. Secondary Emotions Ready to change your life? Buy the full, ad-free Emotion Processing course now for only $147: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/emotion-processing?utm_campaign=Mar%2025,%202021&utm_medium=Description&utm_source=podcast Sometimes the emotion you're feeling isn't what you're really upset about. Sometimes what you're feeling is actually covering up real emotions. You can gain much better emotional control if you learn to identify the feelings underneath your feel...
Mar 25, 2021•12 min•Ep 7•Transcript available on Metacast How to Feel Your Feelings: Willingness Ready to change your life? Buy the full, ad-free Emotion Processing course now for only $147: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/emotion-processing?utm_campaign=Mar%2018,%202021&utm_medium=Description&utm_source=podcast This is the one skill I wish everyone had: willingness, the ability to experience your emotions without needing to immediately escape or avoid them. Willingness is an essential skill from ACT, or Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. It's a...
Mar 18, 2021•18 min•Ep 6•Transcript available on Metacast Ready to change your life? Buy the full, ad-free Emotion Processing course now for only $147: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/emotion-processing?utm_campaign=Mar%2011,%202021&utm_medium=Description&utm_source=podcast In this podcast, skill #5 from my course “How to Process your Emotions,” you’re going to learn how to tell if you’re making your anxiety worse. And in the next two videos right here on my channel, you’re going to learn how to escape that cycle — how to get better at feeling s...
Mar 11, 2021•16 min•Ep 5•Transcript available on Metacast Ready to change your life? Buy the full, ad-free Emotion Processing course now for only $147: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/emotion-processing?utm_campaign=Mar%2008,%202021&utm_medium=Description&utm_source=podcast The truth is that we create much of our own suffering. Why is this awesome? If we can identify something we are doing to create our own suffering, then we can fix it! We can take action to resolve the problem and come to peace. This is radical responsibility. When we can iden...
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