I've typically had an on again, off again relationship with my Father. It's not easy and sometimes I feel like a real asshole because I don't' have a great relationship with him. Then I realized, it takes two to show up in the arena to play the Father/Son game and I can only be responsible for how I show up and face my Daddy issues. I've chosen at this stage of life not to show up - for many reasons - but I'm also keenly aware that I am letting my Daddy issues go without guilt or shame. As the H...
Dec 20, 2019•10 min•Ep 50•Transcript available on Metacast Guys just don't want to admit our changing bodies. We continue to try to do the stuff we did in our 20's, 30's and wonder why our changing bodies won't follow us into those places any longer. We become stubborn, ignore stuff, and before we know it, our changing bodies are saying screw you. What we most need to do is invite our bodies into the current decades where we play so that we can continue to play the game of life. Elliott Kronenfeld, licensed social worker and certified sex therapist, lay...
Dec 17, 2019•26 min•Ep 49•Transcript available on Metacast What happens when you wake up and realize that your marriage isn't working, but you don't hate each other - and there is clarity. Then you realize you need to feel security, so you move back to family - and there is clarity. And finally, you begin to realize you need to spread your wings and fly to find yourself again - and there is clarity. Mike Kim - the copywriting king - is a guy I met at a conference and over a cocktail, not only did we realize we bonded, but we saw the opportunity to share...
Dec 13, 2019•29 min•Ep 48•Transcript available on Metacast You done a lot of things in your life. Military, been a DJ, worked in corporate America, husband, father, and then that tickle begins. You're being called to step out of the comfort zone and do what you are called to do - be an entrepreneur in your own right. But you have to much invested - security, health insurance, knowing what to expect. It's really tempting to go do your own thing - live as an entrepreneur, but man the risk, the fears, the uncertainty are holding you hostage, but the grip i...
Dec 10, 2019•12 min•Ep 47•Transcript available on Metacast You done a lot of things in your life. Military, been a DJ, worked in corporate America, husband, father, and then that tickle begins. You're being called to step out of the comfort zone and do what you are called to do - be an entrepreneur in your own right. But you have to much invested - security, health insurance, knowing what to expect. It's really tempting to go do your own thing - live as an entrepreneur, but man the risk, the fears, the uncertainty are holding you hostage, but the grip i...
Dec 06, 2019•28 min•Ep 46•Transcript available on Metacast The holidays can be a really grind or a real blast. Either way, you're going to probably find yourself feeling overwhelmed, tired, exhausted, and wondering how the year can already be coming to an end. This is a great time to invited your toddler self out to play. Will maybe not all play, but to start to look at your life, your challenges, your desires through the eyes of your toddler. When you take the time to wake him back up, you might just be surprised what begins to happen. Here's some tips...
Dec 03, 2019•7 min•Ep 45•Transcript available on Metacast Men have been innately raised from childhood to be self-reliant. Do it yourself. Man up. Don't ask for help. Yet, one of the biggest downfalls of men is that we often are too self-reliant and we don't let others in and end up becoming isolated. My friend, and a man I consider a mentor, John Jantsch recently published book #6 - The Self-Reliant Entrepreneur - a why to book not a how to book. This book is chock full of daily doses of meditations, inspirations, and challenge questions to get you to...
Nov 29, 2019•22 min•Ep 44•Transcript available on Metacast The holiday season is upon us. If you're in the good old USA, Thanksgiving is just two days away, and poof then it will be Black Friday. Of course, if you really want to be obnoxious you will be out shopping on Thanksgiving Day, but that's a whole other podcast, so to speak. So what can you do to avoid the holiday shit show. To keep yourself sane. To avoid the stress and flared emotions. You take care of you and let the rest of that stuff take care of itself this holiday season. Own your self-ca...
Nov 26, 2019•7 min•Ep 43•Transcript available on Metacast He went from introvert to being his own version of a badass. So what caused the change? He realized that being fully expressed was more important than hiding behind a shadow of pleasing everyone else, just to not attract attention. Lou Bortone, the "Godfather of Video Marketing," joins me with a candid talk about not having any F*CKS to give about hiding his badass self and how he stepped out of his comfort zone to do it. About Lou Lou Bortone is known as The Video Godfather. We’re not exac...
Nov 22, 2019•18 min•Ep 42•Transcript available on Metacast He said, she said. It's a part of life, and a part of this podcast as my sister - Jackie MacDougall - from another show - Forty Thrive - joins me in a true "He said, she said" moment. Well actually more than a few moments as we compare notes about what men and women say in response to various questions we posed to our listeners and communities. This is a rich, insightful, show that shows how similar we are as men and women, and yet also provides some insightful surprises along the way that teach...
Nov 19, 2019•46 min•Ep 41•Transcript available on Metacast He's a WHORE, for PREP. A wonderful human offering responsible education about the use of PREP to prevent transmission of the HIV virus. He's not afraid to talk about it, the use of it, nor to talk about why he uses it. He's owning his sexual truth, sexual practices, and why feels freedom to be a man, a gay man, taking his daily dose of PREP. Damon L. Jacobs makes no bones about why he believes everyone should no about PREP - pre-exposure prophylaxis - and the good it brings into the world for t...
Nov 15, 2019•27 min•Ep 40•Transcript available on Metacast Sometimes stuff just falls out of your mouth and they you think, "Boy that was some pretty profound shit I just said!" Ever felt that? Well I did, just the other day while coaching a client. I said "If your heart's not there, then your art's not there!" Without heart there is no art, and all of life is art, so that's why I decided to riff on this idea, hoping some of you guys will see that there is truly an art to getting your heart and art aligned. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who ke...
Nov 12, 2019•6 min•Ep 39•Transcript available on Metacast We're all emotional beings. Except as men we're told not to show our emotions and then we wonder why we lack connection. What a bunch of bullshit. When we bottle up our emotions we can not connect, we men suddenly become ticking time bombs and then like a spoiled, angry brat, we explode, splashing pent up crap all over everyone, making ourselves and our emotions the evil twins. Yet when we connect, deeply connect with ourselves, our emotions, and others, we find peace, harmony, and ways to be wi...
Nov 07, 2019•23 min•Ep 38•Transcript available on Metacast There's a phrase used in the gay community, "openly gay." It's always bugged me a little bit. Why should anyone have to be "openly" anything...except who they are. I'm exploring this thought on today's solo podcast of life would look like for a guy to be openly... Would you be happier? More successful? Less stressed? If you were just openly who you are, no hiding anything. Would love to hear your thoughts. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know th...
Nov 05, 2019•7 min•Ep 37•Transcript available on Metacast Aging isn't a disease it's a reality and if you don't feel it you can't heal it, or at least that's what therapist, actor, and podcast show host Matt Marr says. He's the one person who can tell it like it is better than I can and when we get together behind the microphones, the truth will be told...between our snide remarks and giggles. It's two queens up, which means two gay guys dishing it about aging with grace and dignity, while being a little bit disrespectful and trash talking all at the s...
Nov 01, 2019•28 min•Ep 36•Transcript available on Metacast Most of ust guys have a hard time keeping it real with ourselves, let alone others. We put on these costumes of manhood and pound our chests and that's supposedly our real self. We're calling bull shit and keeping it real with my buddy from down under, Shane Mallory, who's going to give us a prescription for keeping it real as men in today's world. About Shane Shane is an incredibly entertaining and engaging speaker, emcee, presenter and performer. With a strong record of achieving results – he ...
Oct 29, 2019•22 min•Ep 35•Transcript available on Metacast Imagine you own a business, or for that matter work in a business, and you are the oldest guy in the group. You try to figure out how to relate to the Gen Z's and Millennials but it is a constant struggle. And, while that's all happening, you want to learn from them and want them to learn from you, but man that generational gap can be really a challenge. So what's a guy to do? Startup founder of the HearMe.app, Adam Lippin works with a team of 19-25 yr old's where he feels challenged to check hi...
Oct 25, 2019•20 min•Ep 34•Transcript available on Metacast You're too fat. You're tired of being called stocky when what people are really saying under their breath is your fat. It's all about the extra weight you are carrying, but it's not just the physical weight, it's about everything else that is killing you as a man. The weight of stress, success, relationships, perfection, confidence, lack of confidence, money, debt...it's all excess fat and weight that needs to be slimmed down so you can live your exceptional weight-free life. David Conley a form...
Oct 22, 2019•25 min•Ep 33•Transcript available on Metacast I'm so happy. Everything is great. Nothing could be better. Really? Or, are you just blowing happiness smoke up your ass just to make yourself feel better and to make other believe that your life is filled with happiness, happiness, happiness. Don't get me wrong, if you're happy, you're happy. BRAVO. But, most men, in fact, most people stake their claim on false happiness and then wonder why they are miserable, stressed, dealing with chronic pain, and actin like an asshole. So let's break that h...
Oct 18, 2019•13 min•Ep 32•Transcript available on Metacast Did you know that only 30% of men ask for divorce? And when they do, it's like they've committed the ultimate sin. So what happens when you're a guy, who realizes it is just not working for you and it's time to say "I love you but, I can't be with you!" No infidelity, no money issues, you simply just aren't on the same page. Stephen Warley, founder of Life Skills That Matters , takes us on a very personal journey about his decision to ask for a divorce and to free him and his wife to be happier ...
Oct 15, 2019•26 min•Ep 31•Transcript available on Metacast Hey guys. Hate to say it but you need to come out of the closet. No, I'm not accusing you of being gay or bi-. Don't make that assumption. Nor am I saying that if you are gay or bi- that you aren't already out of the closet, even though some of you might still be hiding. What I'm saying is every one of us guys have multiple coming out journeys we get take in life. Hating your job - come out of that closet. Not happy in your relationship - come out of that closet. Aching to start your own busines...
Oct 11, 2019•9 min•Ep 30•Transcript available on Metacast Focus. Focus. Focus. You ever heard that or been told that? Of course you have. But sometimes us guys just don't want to listen to that advice. Yet, when we focus, especially on the ONE THING that we most desire, a majority of the time we get what we desire. Here's my take and some recommendations on how to get that ONE THING that you most want, right now, in life! Trust me, it works. It really does. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thin...
Oct 08, 2019•9 min•Ep 29•Transcript available on Metacast It all starts with that very first, "You're a dork," or "Be a man,' and from then on we as men question the image of who we are in our own minds. Struggling day-in and day-out to embrace and love ourselves, often doing more damage than good to our self-image. Yet, when we begin to accept ourselves just as we are and work on embracing our self-image, it becomes so much easier to become the man we strive to be. Everything from our physical form, to our soulful presence is rooted in our self-image....
Oct 04, 2019•23 min•Ep 28•Transcript available on Metacast We all have a lot on our shoulders. But what happens when you're the primary breadwinner? Does that weight eat at ya? Make you nervous? Or does it pump you up because, he that's what mean are supposed do is carry the load. Take the stress off and give yourself a guy break, no guilt necessary as my buddy Jim Kukral and I explore the other side of a guy needing a guy break and some guy time, and why it's hard for men to find that guy they can have intimate conversations with about the challenges o...
Oct 01, 2019•22 min•Ep 27•Transcript available on Metacast What happens when your life suddenly takes a detour, your career as a boutique fashion designer suddenly comes to a halt, and you wander into a fitness studio at the suggestion of the owner of the studio? Probably not what you thought, but then suddenly 30+ years later fitness is your life and we do mean your life. Jon Griswold, fitness consultant and international master instructor/trainer, talks about his life in the world of fitness where for many years he was a stand out, simply because he w...
Sep 27, 2019•32 min•Ep 26•Transcript available on Metacast What defines a man? Ever asked yourself, or been asked that question? The answers are as varied as there are men, yet when we step back, most of us guys have more in common in our definition than we have differences. Yet manhood becomes a whole different thing - at least in many peoples eyes - when a woman who was actually a man trapped in a woman's body, takes that brave step to be their authentic self - a man, or as most would say a transgender man. Ryan Sallans, an amazing transgender human, ...
Sep 24, 2019•25 min•Ep 25•Transcript available on Metacast Divorce isn't easy for anyone, but it doesn't mean if you can't hack it, that you need to become a deadbeat Dad. Yet, society sure likes to assume that a lot of Dads are deadbeat Dads, but that's not necessarily always the case. In fact, most Dads going through divorce would like to be as involved with their kids as possible. Steve Bates is one of those guys and he and I talk candidly about divorce, losing jobs, and making it through the times that we thought we would be able to during our divor...
Sep 20, 2019•20 min•Ep 24•Transcript available on Metacast We guys, most of us, sure love our penis and using it. Sex, getting off, or cutting loose with a good stream of pee just seem to be so manly. Yet, one of the things most men do is take their sexual health for granted. Sure we will use condoms...from time-to-time, or maybe we will begrudgingly get the old finger up the poop pipes once a year, but outside of that we tend to just think we are invincible when it comes to our sexual health. Dr. Dudley Danoff, author of The Ultimate Guide To Male Sexu...
Sep 17, 2019•28 min•Ep 23•Transcript available on Metacast If you’re hating on your mid-life, then no wonder you could be in a crisis. On the other hand, you could be writing and publishing your first book, finding your calling that was so far removed from what you thought, and then finding out that your second book was being made into a movie. Sound like a dream? Not for Salvatore Sapienza. This is his 40 Plus life and he’s relishing every bit of it because he’s allowing the surrendering to life to move him beyond the “Now what?” About Salvatore Salvat...
Sep 13, 2019•20 min•Ep 22•Transcript available on Metacast There are those moments in life, when you reach the crossroads. You stand there wondering which way to go, and you make your life choice. Then, you wonder, "What might have happened if you had chosen differently?" Even if you don't regret your choice, you may just be curious about what might have happened. Whether it's your choice of career, the mate you settle down with, or following passion, the wonder of what if is always an interesting way to go into some self introspection. Josh Packard, a ...
Sep 10, 2019•26 min•Ep 21•Transcript available on Metacast 
