If you don't like gay marriage, then don't marry someone who's gay. If you don't approve of abortion, then don't have one. And, if you don't want an open relationship, then don't be in one, and stop throwing shade on those who do. What a couple does in their relationship is what works for them and today we are having a very candid and fun conversation about the in's and out's, the good and bad, and the honesty it takes to be in an open relationship. Join me and fellow podcast host, and actor Can...
Sep 24, 2021•43 min•Ep 139•Transcript available on Metacast We're coming into the home stretch of this three part series that explores 12 manifestos that I have uncovered for gay man that truly inspire them to live and be who they are in the world - no excuses, no fears, no apologies. Here's the final four manifestos for living life on your terms. Download The Manifesto Click Here Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it...
Sep 17, 2021•12 min•Ep 138•Transcript available on Metacast I can't believe I'm saying this, but we've made it work, last, thrive, and sometimes even survive. Yup, me and my guy - George Solis - are celebrating 20 years of being with and loving each other. Here's some of my best tips for making this relationship stand the test of time, and gassy farts in bed! Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real an...
Sep 16, 2021•12 min•Transcript available on Metacast As a gay man, have you ever struggled? Felt exhausted by trying to do the right things for your life? Felt like everything was in vain and just wanted to give up? Maybe it's time for a Manifesto, one that inspires you each and everyday to life your life on your terms. This three part series explores 12 manifestos that I have uncovered for gay man that truly inspire them to live and be who they are in the world - no excuses, no fears, no apologies. Let's dive into manifestos 5 - 8. Download The M...
Sep 10, 2021•11 min•Ep 137•Transcript available on Metacast As a gay man, have you ever struggled? Felt exhausted by trying to do the right things for your life? Felt like everything was in vain and just wanted to give up? Maybe it's time for a Manifesto, one that inspires you each and everyday to life your life on your terms. This three part series explores 12 manifestos that I have uncovered for gay man that truly inspire them to live and be who they are in the world - no excuses, no fears, no apologies. Let's get started with the first four manifestos...
Sep 03, 2021•10 min•Ep 136•Transcript available on Metacast Friendships. Gay Friendships. You either have them or they are completely absent from your life. This is what I hear over, and over, and over from gay men. They can't seem to maintain friendships, and it has nothing to do with hooking up. So why is that and what do you do about it? Let's explore that dilemma! Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to ge...
Aug 27, 2021•10 min•Ep 135•Transcript available on Metacast If your dating expectations constantly leave you disappointed, and the only compatibility you can find is hooking up on Scruff or Grindr, it's time for you to do some introspection and turn your dating habits around. Start connecting with compatibility, connection, and getting up-close and personal and get off the apps. Ok, keep the apps for the occasional, let's just get naked moments, but let your hormone sharing do the work for you by meeting in person, now that we can again, and start dating...
Aug 20, 2021•42 min•Ep 134•Transcript available on Metacast Most gay men enjoy sex. Doesn't matter what that looks like. Whether it is simple intimacy, to dolled up in Leather, or playing in an orgy. We gay men love sex...well for that matter...we men love sex. So how do you tip to through the penises when the sex is no longer so great with your boyfriend, husband, partner, or in your polyamorous relationship? Here's 10 tips to help you ask for and to have powerful communication about having better sex. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps s...
Aug 13, 2021•12 min•Ep 133•Transcript available on Metacast Dating is a pain in the ass...and not in a good way. For most gay men, the dating and pursuit of Prince Charming, is a frustrating, just give up scenario, that leaves most little energy for even a hookup. Or, you aren't really serious about dating and say you are, but haven't found the right way to start the dating adventure and make it worth your time. How about instead, trying a new way of connecting with intention and having a real conversation on that first encounter rather than depending on...
Aug 06, 2021•38 min•Ep 132•Transcript available on Metacast Money, money, money. Never enough, always wanting more, and being judged for having to much or too little, and we haven't even started on the vicious judgements from other gay men if you don't have money, money, money. So what's a guy to do? Hookup with money in a powerful way, and dump the rest of that trash talking money gremlin that is eating you alive. Today we're exploring money, the truth about it and the how to make the heart space for it in our lives as gay men with Martin Cowart, founde...
Jul 30, 2021•36 min•Ep 131•Transcript available on Metacast You're a liar. You're a cheat. You've broken trust. You're wrong by being gay and not worth knowing. To many of us as gay men have been told how - WRONG, WRONG, WRONG - we are. From coming out, to living our truth, so many people want to tell us how wrong we are and how we've done them wrong. If this is how you are feeling then listen to the podcast to break free from the "You've done me wrong," chains that bind. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You ...
Jul 23, 2021•10 min•Ep 130•Transcript available on Metacast Sex, Drugs, Food, Video Games. We all have addictions, but we may not OPENLY admit to them. Another possibility, is we don't seem them as addictions, because we have become so used to hiding them that we just don't even realize they are an addiction. As gay men we've become victims, or numb to the gay guilt, the gay shame, that to often we can't even see our addictions for the trees in our lives. Here's a few kicks in the pants to get you off the hidden addictions merry-go-round. Hey Guys, Check...
Jul 16, 2021•11 min•Ep 129•Transcript available on Metacast We all complain. We all want more. We all wish it was easy. Check, check, check. But WTF happens when all you do is complain and never step up to the plate go get that home run you so desperately desire? You've got to stop the bitching and take the action. Grab your self by your man parts and hold on tight as we explore 6 ways to kick yourself in the ass and get moving towards WTF you really want out of life. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know...
Jul 09, 2021•12 min•Ep 128•Transcript available on Metacast Look at me. See me. Love me. Want me. Hell just notice me. This seems to be the quest for most gay men, but it's also the quest that kicks us in the ass. Instead of posting on social media with your shirt off, or your ass half exposed, why not ask yourself this one question "Why do you need that validation?" Noting wrong with wanting to be seen and loved, but how is that helping your confidence and self-esteem in the long run? That's what we're exploring today, so buckle up and learn how to vali...
Jul 02, 2021•10 min•Ep 127•Transcript available on Metacast Give me those abs, pecs, guns to hang on and that bubble butt to salivate over. Sound like a pipe dream? Or is it more of a nightmare because you just can't lose weight? Diet, diet, diet. Workout, workout, workout. Yet nothing works and it gets worse as you get older. Well, what if it wasn't that hard and it was more about losing the fat than losing the weight? Dr. Jack Kunkel, swears it's more about fat loss than weight loss, and that's why I decided to ask this straight-handsome hunk (sorry bo...
Jun 25, 2021•37 min•Ep 126•Transcript available on Metacast You're hot for him, or you're hot about the thought of love with him, or both, or are you just confused? If you're confused, welcome to finding love. No one, literally no one, simply waves their gay magic wand and finds the perfect balance of love, sex, and infatuation. It takes work, and that work will pay off...if you allow yourself to do the work to define what love, infatuation, and sex mean to you and only you so you know what you are looking for. Let's get clear on what you really want and...
Jun 18, 2021•10 min•Ep 125•Transcript available on Metacast Even though there are Federal and State Guidelines and laws prohibiting discrimination at work because you are a gay man, doesn't mean every gay guy gets a hard on and excited about being out at work. And, if you're pushing someone to be out at work, otherwise you're just not gay enough, then you need to sashay away and shut your trap. Everyone deserves to be gay their way, even in the workplace. Here's some tips on how to do that. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to ...
Jun 11, 2021•10 min•Ep 124•Transcript available on Metacast I want a man. I want a better job. I want to lose weight. I want, I want, I want. Yes, yes, yes, and yes. Gay men want a lot but for some silly reason they are commitment phobic with a capital "C" and a capital "P." Listen up guys, "You can't have it both ways." You have to commit to get! Here's why you are where you are and what to do about it. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to d...
Jun 04, 2021•11 min•Ep 123•Transcript available on Metacast Confidence doesn't come easy, or so they say. But confidence for the gay guy can really be an uphill climb unless you have some guidance. Slaying the confidence saboteurs is Yannick Picard's mission, as he works with individuals to build up their self-worth to be confident in their world, in their own way, as themselves. Don't miss this wisdom filled chat about being your confident self. About Yannick Yannick Picard was only 16 years old when he was bitten by the coaching “bug”. He was watching ...
May 28, 2021•42 min•Ep 122•Transcript available on Metacast About Mike Mike mi-KAL-o-wits is the author of Profit First, Clockwork, Surge, The Pumpkin Plan, and his newest release Fix This Next. By his 35th birthday, Mike had founded and sold two companies - one to private equity and another to a Fortune 500. Today he is running his third multi-million dollar venture, Profit First Professionals. Mike is a former small business columnist for The Wall Street Journal and the former business makeover specialist on MSNBC. Over the years, Mike has traveled the...
May 21, 2021•8 min•Ep 121•Transcript available on Metacast The struggle is real. From managing a multinational relationship, to raising a child, and doing your career. May sound like no big deal, but when you are a gay guy over 40 dealing with the complexities of juggling the challenges of getting older in a world where laws about being gay shift from one country's border to the next, plus being a father and a husband, life is a little crazy. I hook back up with my friend Hans M Hirschi for the candid talk about, parenting, aging, writing, romance, and ...
May 13, 2021•37 min•Ep 120•Transcript available on Metacast He's not so into sex. He must be cheating. That BJ you were so fond of, he's no longer interested in giving it to you. He must think you are ugly. These and other thoughts run rampant in our minds when suddenly, "Sex is no longer important," or at least not as important. Well, that just means it's time to put some effort into your relationship, or your sexual escapades and figure out what is really going on your dangling parts or at least the thoughts about sex in your head - both of them. Take ...
May 07, 2021•12 min•Ep 119•Transcript available on Metacast He's in his late 50's. He's a trailblazer. He's done porn, and he's a man. A transman, and he's got something to say about being a man of a certain age in the LGBTQ community. Never one to walk away from a fight or a belief system, Buck Angel is coming out swinging as a man in his 50's letting everyone know that TRANPA is in the house. But what is TRANPA? An elder TRANSMAN who is not going to be told, " Go sit down TRANPA and let us younger TRANSMEN take the lead now!" All Buck is asking for is ...
Apr 30, 2021•38 min•Ep 118•Transcript available on Metacast Who doesn't like an awesome circle jerk? Ok, maybe not everyone, but most gay men do, but sometimes they love a circle jerk so much the end up jerking themselves into oblivion. Is that you? Are you jerking yourself off for all the wrong reasons? If so, this podcast is for you and how you can stroke yourself into the right place in your life. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, b...
Apr 23, 2021•7 min•Ep 117•Transcript available on Metacast Are you out? Really out? Let's rephrase that question. Are you out in your work life, and really out in a way that represents you, the whole you that you want to bring to work? If not, why not? As a guy in your 40+ life you have lot to bring to the table, and we're not just talking about your work experience. You bring your life experience of coming out of the closet - resilience, determination, getting past your imposter syndrome and so much more. In this candid interview with my friend Jeff Na...
Apr 16, 2021•41 min•Ep 116•Transcript available on Metacast Break ups are inevitable. Don't believe it ? Watch any episode or Queer as Folk, The "L"Word, or Pose and the truth will show you it's real. Of course, what would be a smashing break up without the almighty "pining and swooning after your Ex?" Right? Well stop that crap and get over them already. Here's a handful of magic, and I'm not talking about what's in some man's crotch, to help you get over your ex. Well maybe a man's crotch is part of the solution, but there's better ways to move beyond ...
Apr 09, 2021•12 min•Ep 115•Transcript available on Metacast About Steve Mike mi-KAL-o-wits is the author of Profit First, Clockwork, Surge, The Pumpkin Plan, and his newest release Fix This Next. By his 35th birthday, Mike had founded and sold two companies - one to private equity and another to a Fortune 500. Today he is running his third multi-million dollar venture, Profit First Professionals. Mike is a former small business columnist for The Wall Street Journal and the former business makeover specialist on MSNBC. Over the years, Mike has traveled th...
Mar 26, 2021•12 min•Ep 113•Transcript available on Metacast "Don't you be looking at my man!" Sigh. Guys we don't own the market on men looking at our men. Unless you reign that jealousy and insecurity in, you are going to be one messed up gay guy. Today we explore ways to manage your jealousy and insecurity in every aspect of your life. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join...
Mar 19, 2021•12 min•Ep 112•Transcript available on Metacast Gay men can't commit. Really? Maybe some can't but most can and will if given the chance. The truth is most have to give themselves the chance to commit and they don't. In this episode we take a deep look at the commitment struggle gay men have in their relationships and in life. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Joi...
Mar 12, 2021•11 min•Ep 111•Transcript available on Metacast Whether you're 40+ or 2o something, or sliding into your golden years, someone is going to throw you some shade by telling you, "This is how you do gay!" To that I say, "Sashay away and tell them to stuff it!" If you are stuck in a closet of doing gay because someone told you this is the way to do it, then grow some balls and own your truth and be gay your way. Here's some tips on just how to do that! Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thi...
Mar 05, 2021•11 min•Ep 110•Transcript available on Metacast 
