Are you Co-Parenting with a Narcissist? The yellow rock method is a spin on the gray rock method . This episode unpacks and explains Tina Swithin's Yellow Rock Method which is designed to diffuse conflict while setting boundaries with your ex. If you listened to my episode on Parallel Parenting, this one is really important to listen to 2nd. Support the show Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoachi...
Jan 12, 2023•10 min•Ep 59•Transcript available on Metacast I define parallel parenting as a method of parenting that allows each parent to use a separate approach to when they have the kids. Their parenting does not intersect, as each parent is independent (versus more of a team approach). It’s mostly used when co-parents want little to no contact with each other. Parents rarely attend the same functions, appointments, or child-related events. If they do, they do not sit together and are not expected to communicate. This is contrary to co-parenting whic...
Jan 11, 2023•21 min•Ep 58•Transcript available on Metacast Most people don’t even realize they are getting into a relationship with a Narcissist. They are skillfully manipulative - which allows them to come off as charming and loving. But Narcissistic relationships are always emotionally abusive - which includes put-downs, accusations, criticism, gaslighting and threats. The end goal is always to keep their Narcissistic supply of constant attention and admiration. I am a completely different person than I was when I was with my ex - and while I do not w...
Jan 04, 2023•11 min•Ep 57•Transcript available on Metacast Is it toxicity? Is it abuse? Are you "too sensitive?" Do you "attract difficult people?" In this episode, I describe three tools I used to identify when I was in an abusive relationship. I also discuss how hard the New Year can be for many of us trying to break out of an abusive relationship. This is the link to the MEAN workbook: https://theoverwhelmedbrain.gumroad.com/l/jkSo Support the show Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com Instagram: @emo...
Dec 29, 2022•10 min•Ep 56•Transcript available on Metacast The Holiday Season with a Narcissist can be incredibly challenging and dizzying. On the one hand, they may promote the "most wonderful time of the year" while tearing you down and making the entire season miserable for you. In this episode, I share three stories of Narcissistic abuse before going through 5 reasons why Narcissists ruin the holidays. Support the show Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach Email: jessica@jessica...
Dec 21, 2022•24 min•Ep 55•Transcript available on Metacast This is a question asks; did they love me? I offer two answers to this question that are short but gives some perspective to the topic. I plan to do a longer, in depth, episode on this. Send questions to me on Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach Support the show Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com {Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist {Course} Iden...
Dec 18, 2022•3 min•Ep 54•Transcript available on Metacast Questions and answers on Emotional Abuse and Narcissism 1. Is calling names, pointing fingers and degrading me during a fight when things go wrong abuse? Why do they pretend all is well during the calm cycle? How does one get out? 2. I love the Relationship Recovery Course. Did you always want to be a Life Coach? 3. Is it normal that I'm suddenly obsessed with learning more about Narcissism since I see these traits in my husband? 4. He's trying to hoover me back after I went no contact...
Dec 14, 2022•30 min•Ep 53•Transcript available on Metacast This is a rant. The rules of the game are not the same. The abuse is real. This page is called Emotional Abuse Coach so if this content is not for you, please go elsewhere, like Not Emotional Abuse Coach, and comment there. You are showing how un-empathetic you are to those who are going through Narcissistic Abuse. This has been happening since I created the page and I do not wish to argue, or even reply, to the comments, but I will not act like they aren't part of the problem because they ...
Dec 09, 2022•5 min•Ep 52•Transcript available on Metacast A listener asked me this question: how do I leave an abusive relationship? It is different for everyone. This is an introductory episode on how to leave and what you should think about. I named it Part 1 because there could be endless episodes on this topic. I would love if you send any follow-up questions to me at jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com or DM me on Instagram @emotionalabusecoach If you are wondering if you are in an abusive relationship, I highly recommend signing up for my Relations...
Dec 07, 2022•20 min•Ep 51•Transcript available on Metacast A lot of my clients will ask, what is a healthy relationship? What is a safe relationship? It can feel impossible to know after you've suffered from Narcissistic or Emotional abuse. This podcast covers 5 qualities of a safe relationship. If this podcast is triggering to you, I invite you to unpack it further by joining my Relationship Recovery program. https://emotionalabusecoach.com/relationship-recovery-course/ Support the show Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoachi...
Dec 02, 2022•7 min•Ep 50•Transcript available on Metacast The phrase "don't rock the boat," is toxic. People say it all the time, and you think they're being supportive, but it actually can be another way abuse is enabled. Support the show Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com {Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist {Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal {Free Resource} Can...
Nov 30, 2022•7 min•Ep 49•Transcript available on Metacast You have more control over your thoughts than you think. Even though it's hard, it is important for us to take responsibility for our thoughts. This episode unpacks why that is important and how you can start having more control. Support the show Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com {Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist {Course} Identify Si...
Nov 23, 2022•4 min•Ep 48•Transcript available on Metacast It can be very hard to connect to your wants, needs and feelings when you are in an Emotionally Abusive or Narcissistic Relationship. This 8 minute meditation is intended to help you begin connect to you again. Support the show Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com {Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist {Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin t...
Nov 20, 2022•8 min•Ep 47•Transcript available on Metacast "When reminding my partner that he needs to take responsibility for his emotions, and that I can't be blamed for his anger, he responded that it should be the same for me and that he shouldn't be held responsible for my feeling abused, and that I should be responsible for those feelings." This was a question that came in through my Instagram . I answer this question in the episode. Here are the resources I mention in the episode: Free PDF - Lundy Bancroft, "Why Does He D...
Nov 18, 2022•7 min•Ep 46•Transcript available on Metacast When you're in a Trauma Bond it feels impossible to break. It feels like love. When we are in it, we don't really know that we want to break a trauma bond. We just know that we want to stop feeling the way we're feeling, but we can't leave. Lisa Sonni is an expert on Trauma Bonds. We explore trauma bonds and why they’re so hard to break, how you feel when you are trauma bonded, and what impedes healing. As a survivor of domestic assault and narcissistic abuse, Lisa's exp...
Nov 16, 2022•45 min•Ep 45•Transcript available on Metacast Matt's behavior on Love is Blind is the text book definition emotional abuse. Their interactions triggered me all season long, and after seeing Colleen visibly scared on the reunion, I wanted to record a podcast breaking down the behavior and looking at their interactions through the lens of Emotional Abuse. Netflix should add a trigger warning to the episodes and provide resources for victims of abuse. Cycle of Abuse: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1916632/10300770 Netflix "Love is a Roll...
Nov 10, 2022•17 min•Ep 44•Transcript available on Metacast Tina Swithin, the founder of One Moms Battle and Advocate in the Family Court System, discusses her story, post-separation abuse, strategies a safe parent can employ to cope, and some of the current issues in the Family Court System. Tina survived a “Category Five Divorce Hurricane” while acting as her own attorney in a high-conflict custody battle that turned her family’s life upside down for over a decade. While divorces are never easy, Tina quickly learned that divorcing a narcissist or anoth...
Nov 09, 2022•46 min•Ep 43•Transcript available on Metacast A Narcissist projects their feeling onto you. Projection is sometimes an unconscious way of dealing with the presence of something inside of yourself, yet it gets externalized because it is so uncomfortable to be within yourself. A healthy person will notice they do this (or accept it when they are called out). A Narcissist continues to use it as a tool and project it onto you. This episode unpacks this concept and offers tools to help you see it for what it is. Support the show Website: Emotion...
Nov 04, 2022•7 min•Ep 42•Transcript available on Metacast Gaslighting affects your memory, your perception, your sanity, and your reality. To gaslight someone is to plant seeds of doubt in their mind, and make them question their own sense of reality, their perception, and their feelings. Since gaslighters lack self-awareness and empathy, they may not even realize that they're being manipulative. But when you don't know that you're being gaslit, you defend yourself endlessly. And the problem arises when they realize it (whether or not yo...
Nov 02, 2022•16 min•Ep 41•Transcript available on Metacast A conversation with a Narcissist can be extremely frustrating and dizzying. The communication tools you'd engage with a healthy person do not work. Promises are not kept. Words are not aligned with actions. In this episode, I discuss how hard a conversation with a Narcissist can be, and why you continue to try. Support the show Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com {Substack} Blog About Re...
Oct 28, 2022•4 min•Ep 40•Transcript available on Metacast How did you end up in an abusive relationship? You are likely trauma bonded. When you're in one it feels impossible to break - and it feels like love. When we are in it, we don't really know that we want to break a trauma bond. We just know that we want to stop feeling the way we're feeling. This episode will give you some insights on how to identify a Trauma Bond. Support the show Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach ...
Oct 26, 2022•11 min•Ep 39•Transcript available on Metacast This episode explores the difference between a therapist and a life coach. A life coach helps you look at the present and the future. We help you identify patterns in your past behavior so you can work towards a healthy future. We work on specific goals and actions to keep you motivated in your journey and unpack things when you get stuck. Most times, the work is tailored to you, and will help you work through limited beliefs and unhealthy patterns. You can sign up for a Clarity Call here to see...
Oct 21, 2022•5 min•Ep 38•Transcript available on Metacast Emotional Abuse is not easily understood by those who haven't been through it. Some common signs include: you may feel insecure and have a low self-esteem. You might be depressed or anxious (or both). You may feel you need to justify everything you say. You may withdraw from people even when you're around them. You might no longer go out and socialize. In this episode, I discuss signs of verbal, psychological and emotional abuse, and how it feels to be in it. You can also share this ep...
Oct 19, 2022•9 min•Ep 37•Transcript available on Metacast What does it take for an Emotional Abusive person to change? What do they have to do to change? How did Paul know he had to change? Paul is a Relationship Coach and founder of The Overwhelmed Brain and the Love and Abuse podcasts. He created the MEAN workbook, a 200 point assessment to identify manipulative behavior. We talk through these questions in depth and I give real examples from my story of going through, and healing from, an emotionally abusive relationship. Where you can find Paul: Lov...
Oct 12, 2022•1 hr 7 min•Ep 36•Transcript available on Metacast While the title may infer you are healing your relationship with your partner…that is actually not the intent of this course that I talk about in todays Podcast. This course is to help you heal your relationship with yourself if you're in a toxic relationship. In this episode, I break down what I offer in the Relationship Recovery course. Understand the level of emotional abuse in the relationship. Identify your needs and where you have compromised. Identify if you are Trauma Bonded. Unders...
Oct 06, 2022•5 min•Ep 35•Transcript available on Metacast Abuse is not just physical. There are many types of abuse within domestic partnerships that have been normalized in our society. This episode breaks down emotional, verbal, financial, sexual and post separation abuse. If you feel you may be in an abusive relationship, you can reach out to me at jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com or use the resources below to get support. Website: http://www.emotionalabusecoach.com Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/emotionalabusecoach ----- Emotional Abuse is Ab...
Oct 05, 2022•23 min•Ep 34•Transcript available on Metacast A quick season break update :) If you need support: Website: emotionalabusecoach.com Email: jessica@emotionalabusecoach.com Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3 I will email them to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails. Support the show Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoachin...
Sep 05, 2022•17 min•Ep 33•Transcript available on Metacast 30 episodes and 1000+ downloads later and Season 1 is complete! I didn't intend to have a "season" but I am feeling a need (and want) to refocus the podcast, work on my episodes, and plan out what I will talk about next season. This has been a really great learning process for me. I totally ripped off the bandaid and just started doing it. I leaned on the information I've learned, what I've gone through, and trusted that if I keep showing up, everything will align. Seaso...
Aug 26, 2022•3 min•Ep 32•Transcript available on Metacast Narcissistic Abuse feels like living in a purgatory. This podcast explores what that feels like, hoping to validate your experiences. I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3 They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails. Support the show Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com Instagram: @e...
Aug 10, 2022•7 min•Ep 31•Transcript available on Metacast You are likely an empathetic person. You have compassion when you hurt someone. You have feelings and don't want to hurt people. This is exactly what the Narcissist takes advantage of. This episode will help you learn how to see the whole picture so you can protect yourself. If you need support: Website: emotionalabusecoach.com Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can ge...
Aug 03, 2022•10 min•Ep 30•Transcript available on Metacast 
