“No One Sees It” — The Pattern of Covert Abuse (And Why the System Misses It)
Episode description
“No one sees it. They just think he’s nice.”
If you are in a high-conflict divorce or co-parenting dynamic, you probably feel this in your bones.
One of the hardest parts of covert abuse is that the “nice” isn’t safe. The "helpfulness" isn’t genuine. It’s strategic.
When you are the only one seeing it and reacting to it, you start questioning yourself.
In this episode, I talk about what it’s like to live inside a pattern that other people can’t see. Courts, lawyers, evaluators — they are trained to look for a single shocking incident. They are looking for overt violence, clear evidence and one big moment.
They are not trained to see is cumulative harm, psychological pressure and the tone of a text that looks polite but isn’t.
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