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The Wait Is Over

Feb 22, 202123 min
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Summary

Sweet T and Honeè open up about their individual experiences with 'the wait' – one's three-year celibacy for a meaningful connection, the other's four-month wait for her military partner. Both narratives converge on the bittersweet reality of their waits ending in disappointment. They discuss the frustration of unmet expectations, lack of communication, and feelings of betrayal, prompting a conversation about self-worth and genuine connection after investing so much.

Episode description

What happens when the wait is over!!!

Transcript

Sweet T: From Anticipation to Disappointment

Welcome back to Triple X Academy. This is. Sweet! What a little Hey, hey, hey. Yeah. Hey. We missed you guys. Yes the weight is up. It's all the wait is motherfucking over. What's up? What's up? Last time, you know, we all had a little situation. Honey here, you know, she was waiting for Brian to come back, mm, her partner to come back, and Miss Sweet T

I was yeah I know, yeah I had the kitty on lock for a few years. We gonna say almost three years, yeah. I had the kitty on lock for three years, had to go through changes, transformations, some healing and uh you know, teeth back, sweet teeth back. However, I gotta tell y'all what happened after this wait though. Mm Down here, girl. You want me to How? I gotta get my emotions together. I feel cute. So today we're gonna talk about our weights. Cause me and sweetie, I mean me and honey.

went through some waits but different situations, but it's just crazy how life worked and how it brought us to this p situation I mean, this conversation. So it so the wait is over. So like I said, I I was waiting For three years and the back of my mind of course I did want something serious. But I really wanted, you know, that good vibe connection with someone to before I took it to that level because of what I have been through.

So yeah, I went through like I said some transformations and some healing processes. So it really like people some people be like, Day, how you wait that long? Like Ain't colla, I gotta c I mean I did get some head in between, but as far as the day I really went almost three years without it. So And I said I wanna the next time I did it, I wanted I mean, got intimate with somebody. I wanted it to be with somebody I had a bad special bond with.

Yeah, I mean I I went d went through a few frogs still going through'em. AKA fuck boys. Like Period. Period. Excamation, excamation, ex... So yeah, I went through a few of them and still didn't give it up or whatever. Um glad I didn't'cause I so many situations. Just stay tuned. But for today, yeah, so I met this guy and what was crazy, I met him on

online dating and I was so against that before but I've been so pressured by family to want me to get with somebody. So I'm like, let me try this out. So I met this guy and it was just crazy how we had so much in common. We both worked out. We both didn't have any kids, both were on the same age. both spoil our nieces, like and then just like we both the center of our family as far as taking care of family and shit. So that off top was just like dang this a breath of fresh air, right?

Being he was consistent, consistently em emailing I mean inboxing me or whatever, then we exchange numbers, consistently texting, not calling A he did not call. He FaceTimes all the time. Like he like Nah, I got the FaceTime. I'm like, No, I only like FaceTammy when I'm cute. Like he like uh uh like I wanna FaceTime. So I just thought that was different. Like Like I mean, he was it made me feel comfortable, right? So

I'm like, Oh, he different, I like him. So my problem is when it is I do kinda move fast but I was trying to pump the brakes on. He was trying to see me soon. I still was like, nah, nah, nah, nah, but eventually I fell in. So We start kicking it or whatever. Like it was we was kicking it to the point this nigga was off. And oh it was a Martha King day. He was off the whole day.

And I had to work and I work from home, thank god. But uh He spent the whole day with me working, just chilling, just admiring me, work, just complimenting me throughout the work, like how I'm turning him on with my professionalism.

Hey you ready to rub my feet and some other things when I get off? Like all type of shit. So I'm like, Oh, I'm really feeling him like we just click like if ya ever been so comfortable with somebody like And it was just just crazy'cause it was so soon but we were very comfortable with each other. Type stuff while I'm working, he leaving going to give me lunch on my lunch break. We sit at the table, eat lunch on my like this just It was cute.

Alright, fast forward. So we ended up get getting into it. TC gave up the drone. Ha ha. And it was cool or whatever. I feel like it could have been better than I di I feel like it was Callin' here and there, Mr. to barely texting to no So left me in a sense of confusion. Then when you you know, bring the truth up to name. For the shit they say. Girl. Then they want to get mad. Like then they want to get in my ass. So it's just. I feel like I'm not sure. Okay. Do you regret it?

Bye. I don't regret. Moment please

Honey's Wait: Betrayal of Expectations

Okay, here comes my my weight. So just a refresher. My friend I didn't say where he was. He was in the reserve. Serves. Um he left in October. And the f beginning part is boot camp. So I didn't hear from him from maybe like once or twice or once a week or every two weeks I would hear from him. But when he got out of the reserves in like November, so like six weeks later after he It was after Thanksgiving. So after like literally like a couple days after

Um, he had told me that he was coming back. So y'all remember I was waiting, I wasn't having sex, I wasn't entertaining. Like this was in my head, he was more than a sexual partner. Like he was my man, like that was our connection. Sis'cause sis like this man, he took me out places. We spent every day together while he was here and then he just told me two weeks before he left that he was leaving for the four to five months.

So just to go back to the story, he finally c uh communicated with me every day w after he was out of boot camp when he got transferred over to the other base where he went to his technical school. So

He told me that he was come back home for Christmas. Y'all, I was like, Oh my god, what would you be? Who letting you what?'Cause my experience they could you know, they can't really travel and and it's COVID. So I'm like, He ain't gonna I ain't gonna be able to see him, I gotta wait two more months, like I can't It's like a nigga that's like.

Damn yes. And that was adjustment when he was like went from not texting him for like six weeks or whatever and then to text him every day and then it was like, Oh won't be home like oh shit like Oh, this ain't that bad. Like look we didn't o we're over that hardship. Like so he came back this Christm is the Monday before Christmas or Tuesday before Christmas. So we spend it every day together.

But I was like, His family's not from here. His family's from out of town. So I'm like, Oh, you come up for Christmas? That's chill, that's com come over for Christmas, whatever. He was like, Oh, thank you so much. I, you know, I'm a kicker with the boys. That's that's pretty much my family here. I'm like, all right, cool, bet. But I have children.

So I'm thinking like, nigga what the fuck? I'm waiting on you and you telling me you can't come over because you hanging out with your homies. It's it's something different. I Important. That's so weird. Or it was no effort say, Hey, I'm not comfortable to spend time with your family yet, but let's do something special for ourselves. That would have been better. I under like

There's no effort to be like, okay, she wants this. How can I compromise to give her once what I want, but also be stay in within my comfort zone. I think that's my biggest issue. So he came back every day. We having sex. We're there from sun up to sundown. I'm spending a night. I'm we've been o'clocking to work. Take a shower, work for a little bit, going right back to him. Like

I spent Christmas with him. I did spend Christmas night with him. So we didn't do anything. We just um I got some food. I came over there and that was it. We didn't do anything. Um oh we didn't like do anything special for Christmas. So we had sex, whatever, uh the whole entire time. So It was so the first night it was

I was nervous. I was so fucking nervous because my thing is I love sex but I feel like a man is a man. Man has needs. So like you fuck anybody while you was away. No, no, no. Yeah. Like it's like Well I feel like it's also stupid if you don't ask. Like you just oh, you just assume that I ain't fuck no you ain't asked no question like niggas be so quick to say that shit like So I'm like, Oh you ain't fuck nobody, right? He was like, No, but I was still like nervous

What if I ain't good? What if it's been a minute? Um all that shit. So the first night it was like just getting in the swing of the day. And I felt I'm so emotionally attached. I was all like nervous in my head that the sex was But as the weeks he he c the the days went by every day, it was getting better and better. So I was just like I'm emotional, like I really emotionally be a tie to people and I didn't think I was like that until he came along.

Because my pussy be dry if I don't like you. Like it just Like And then now that we hear this is uh what is twenty second, something like that. It's something February something. He's back full time. He's been back since the fifteenth. It snowed here.

So I didn't see him initially the first day he came back. And that's what I'm used to. I'm used to spending every day with him. I'm used to seeing it when he came back in town I it was eleven something at night. Hey, coming over staying at night, like it was just You already knew that I was coming. You already knew that I'm staying the whole fucking night while you here. So now right, now that he's back, nigga then s did a whole three sixty on me. I'm extra.

I'm extra I miss I miss my man, okay? I got the lingerie, it's Valent it's near Valentine's Day. I got the strawberries, I got the candlelit lingerie, the wine, all this extra shit. And I'm just feeling myself. I'm happy he back. I'm talking too much shit. I'm like, Well you you c back now. We going on dates now. You my man now. Like we I'm over here like I yeah, like we about to really do this shit. I didn't turn that. That nigga did a whole 360. You should be like girl, thank you.

um being there for me. Thank you for holding me down. Thank you for being loyal and thank you for this bomb ass fucking shit you got laid out for me. That nigga said he said thank you. Yes. And I'm more sexual than him. He calls me a sex addict. But it's like no nigga Yes. No, I'm sexually attracted to you. And guess what? I got a high-sex drive, and I want to have sex three, four times a day. Like I've never heard of it. You ain't got it, nigga.

Right. I never heard a man complain about a woman wanting to have sex. And I just felt like it was fucking weird. Like, okay. The next day didn't hear. i'm like okay how you okay how you doing Next I'm like, well let me make you some dinner, you know, you come over, I get some dessert, like some good dick and you shall dick me down. He like all right, bet, if it ain't snoring we comin', I'm coming. I'm like, Okay, got that shit ready. Text that nigga. Oh.

You met today, he hit me with you met that. You weren't playing no games. What the fuck are you talking about? Hell no, I ain't playing no games. Bitch, I ain't see you. What we doing? I'm trying to first of all Yes, I'm trying to spend time with you, catch up, hear the stores, and get some dick. Like what are we talking about? So um let's see that's Monday, Tuesday. Now we on uh he's been here for a week.

He went MIA on me on this weekend, y'all. Like I had to text him and everybody swarped down, don't text that man. He a whole man. Like don't text him. He ain't texting you. Don't text him. I broke down and text the man. The man said I was I threw him off for all the shit that I wanted and he couldn't fulfill my needs. So basically the wait was like it was a pointless. It was so fucking pointless. I'd rather have him say well he was in the uh military, hey I don't wanna do this no more.

But to come back for me to wait the four to five months and for you to come come back and be like, Oh yeah, I'm cool on you. Like what? And I ain't been on all day. He ain't take me out. We had sex, but it's just like

I feel like he should be here every day and he's not working, y'all. He should be here every day. He should be like, what can I do? Take you out. We about to have sex, we about to have sex, we about to have sex. Like shit, that's me, okay? That's cute. The dates and shit is cute, but like I've never heard no man not to be like wanting sex like like that. Like that's so fucking weird. So my way I feel like it was a waste. It was an absolute waste. So he told me he no longer wants to date me.

I still feel like maybe he found somebody or he got re um acquainted with someone because I I can't figure out if it's it can't be nobody back um back where he came from in the military because everybody went their separate ways. So I feel like, you know, when you post and stuff

maybe people like him. Yeah, he got somebody's attention by what his status now. He got his attention like damn, you got you in the military, he damn he got the motherfucking benefits, whatever we look for, whatever it is. I just feel like he's got really connected with But he no longer wants to date me. It was very, very, very, very, very emotional. Um, I low key feel like the issue could be resolved and I feel like he took me

Like it was no acknowledging besides oh thank you for holding me down. There was no showing acknowledgement. Like damn you didn't get your pussy away to nobody, you fine as fuck, and you stu you stuck there wait for me. Like let me go ahead and tear that up a couple times. Like I gotta I low key gotta be like, hey we having sex, right? Like like who has that?

Yeah. I got a look he be like, hey and I asked him his thing when we first met like this dick yours, this he said the dick ain't no longer mine. He said all this shit. He didn't did three whole fucking 60. Y'all, don't ever hold nobody down. Don't ever do it. If they going anywhere, don't do it.

Reflections: Wasted Waits and Self-Worth

No way. Don't fucking do it because people Well well I would say don't put your needs in front of somebody else's. Is that how you say it? And I think that's why Yeah, that's how I feel. It's like, bitch, I pray for you every day. Fuck the sex, like Bitch, I was praying for I was really there for you. I was really and not only was out there, I felt like he was there for me. I started my business.

I started all this stuff. Keep in mind. Stay tuned. The Yoni line. Um Yes. I started my own uh feminine care products. Help with our intimacy. I'm really big. And that's another thing I did. Girl, I was over here taking all my products. Cleaning myself up real quick, making sure my pussy was wet. Ready. Girl, like I was so into making sure he felt that I missed him. That he felt that.

Dick. He felt like it's just it was a whole package deal. I missed what we had. So to cut me off because I'm so oh I can't wait. I can't wait. I'm so excited and to be like, whoa, calm down. Yeah, why wouldn't you? You deserve to be appreci d appreciated. We are though. Yeah, the fuck I feel like damn you did that for me, but he he cut me off. Why? Switch up. Switch up like that. Y'all gotta do it. Yes, that's my thing.

Well what you mean I ain't text you you I I was busy no Nick, you text me at the end. Yes. Oh you met today, you wanna cook dinner today the bitch. No tomorrow. The shit on the stove. What are we talking about? It's six, seven o'clock, where you at? They didn't talk about oh you talk about today. So that switch up though, just be honest with people. Bye.

If you can't handle this pussy, say that. Shit. Say that. Say I'm doing too the fuck much'cause I got all the fucking toys. I'm over here talking about threesomes. And I think that's what turned them off too,'cause I was like, Why the fuck am I giving you a threesome? And you can't even fucking tell me where we stand. Wha what what am I doing? Like I really had to look at myself like what what the fuck am I doing? At all. Like he so stuck on himself.

I'm cold, y'all hear me? She we cold, okay? So I don't know who wanna be my man? And we gon' get well and we gon' I'ma wait. It's another way, y'all. I'ma hold I'm done. I might sit on his dick out, but That's probably good for anyway. That's what I'm saying, like how you gonna cut me off? Like you look, he was like, Hey, let's just be fuck buddies. This is something like you just wanna cut me off? So that's why I'm Sweet here. I was so tempted to do that, y'all.

I know I'm crazy. She I was so too. Step. I'm over here and my feelings like Oh my god, I'm about to come up there and fucking just do some crazy shit.'Cause that's just I don't you wait it for somebody. You waited to have sex and you they play you and they know this shit too though. That's what gets me too like That's that yep, that was m me and my situation. He knew my situation. Why?

Then got emotional because we had got on certain topics and all that, like uh my past and what I done been through They know. But they know, like they know that hey, I'm holding you know that I'm here every day holding you down. You know, and I was the whole

Sending sexy videos, sexy shit like I'm holding you down. Bitch, I could be sitting on a nigga dick. Fuck the fucking um videos and pictures and shit. Nigga, I can go sit up. It ain't hard to get no dick. But what happened to the genuine motherfucker?

What happened to that shit? Where y'all at? Because where's the genuine motherfuckers that's out there that real acknowledges a bad bitch? And I'm not saying the man gotta be with me. I'm not saying that shit, but just acknowledge me that hey, thank you for sticking it with me. You know, I my thoughts and my feelings have changed, but I do wanna show that I appreciate what you have done.

Uh that was the way. So I think I might I'm not. I was like I think I'm gonna wait to have sex, but I'm not'cause I'm gonna call them later. I'm gonna sit on that bed. But'cause I don't feel in A lot of I feel an emotional tie but I don't feel Yeah. I feel an emotional type, but I just I just need some I think'cause I went somewhere without it. Like damn, can I get Like I'm ready. And that's why I'm like why wouldn't he think you would be like you went this long without it?

Yes, and I think I'm so I had this fantasy like, oh, he's coming back, I'm about to do the sexy shit, about to have this laundry on, he about to fuck me three times, four times a day. And I'm just he he like, nah, I'm cool. The fuck? Like you need to make up for the fucking four months of me not having sex or whatever or however long it's been. Like you need to make that shit up and then you can talk about leaving me. Very. Wait a minute.

We ain't been Uh uh I need you to make uh uh I need you to take me out for every every like and you not doing That's my thing. Bitch, you sitting at home. So that's the way should I wait, y'all? This is the question. Should I wait? Should I just let him go?'Cause I I'm torn. I feel like letting him go. Well he said he no longer wanna date me and I was like, well just give it a

Let's give it a chance. That's the like bitch, I it's only been a week since you've been back. I might not like you either, but give me a second. Right. Let me adjust. Yeah, I mean it's that. So I really was like, Hold on, that's just waiting. He agreed to just waiting but overall I know he's done and I shouldn't beg somebody to want to be with me or beg them. So I might I don't know yeah. I'm torn. Should I should I uh sit on that dick or should I not?

Because I I was so content. I didn't pull down all the tricks for him. And it's just like I ain't about to pull that out for nobody else. I got used to that. And I I think there is a such thing. Yeah. get the sexual ties and my s my urges'cause I really do be having Boy it makes no sense.

I just don't get it. Like I have to have s like you don't have that sexual fush the build up like oh my god he coming he coming he coming he coming Oh my god he he about to be here next week and then Very important. all this excitement, all the sexual buildup, like okay a

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