The Magic of WHAT IF ...

I say random , crazy shit , which is why I called this podcast the way that I did , and I really hate long drawn out intros . So let's fucking go . I painted the wall on my in my entrance , black . It is a huge , huge , 20 foot wall that stands the lower , the lower level and the upper level of our house . I don't know why I can't say level today .

Anyway , we've placed big squares on it and it's absolutely beautiful and a statement piece . I mean , I never want to leave this house because I love the fucking wall . But there was a moment where I was deciding what color to paint that wall . I knew I wanted to paint it dark because of where it's located .

In in our home is Journey , our career , life path , feng shui . If you follow it , it was in that gua , and the colors that naturally go there are black and deep dark colors . So I knew that it would just energetically feel right . But it's a big step to paint a 20 foot wall black , and it's nothing that I've ever done before .

In fact , I've never painted anything black . I've never painted any walls black , I've never painted doors black , even though I really , really love it , and so this was a big step for me . I knew I kept thinking I want that wall black , but there was always this thing in the back of my mind but what if it looks fucking stupid ? But what if I hate it ?

But what if my husband hates it ? But what if I have to repaint it ? How am I going to repaint from black to something else ? What if I waste a bunch of money on a bunch of paint and waste a bunch of money on some , like the labor for the person who's going to paint it ? Because , hey , I'm scared of heights , I'm not going up 20 feet .

What if it's the dumbest thing I ever did ? Now , at the end of the day , this is just paint and it's just a little bit of labor .

But I think that every single time , every single time we go through to make any decisions or we decide that we want to try something new , do something new , be something new , have a new business , do a new workout , join a new gym , cry on a new outfit that you've never worn .

Every single time we go to do something new , our minds , our brain , is going to seek out this . What if it is wrong ? What if I fuck this up ? What if I fail ? That's what it's going to do . I want you to right now think about the last time you decided that you were going to do something new . I'll guarantee you you went through that .

But what if I can't ? But what if I fail ? But what if this is a dumb idea ? But what if people judge me ? Well , what if people say that I was stupid to do that ? How many times do you let that stop you ? So often we do this and we let it stop us .

But when we know that our minds are going to seek safety , they're going to seek and search for certainty . We look to the past . What have we done in the past ? You know how easy it would have been for me to paint that wall cream like the rest of my fucking walls . Super easy . I know what the cream looks like on my wall .

It's all on the rest of them . I know what it'll look like . I can envision it . It's not daring , it's perfectly fine . I love the cream . The cream is beautiful , so I know I'm going to love the cream . That's certainty . I know I've sought out certainty . I see what it looks like . I know what it looks like . I've done this before , I got this .

I know the result and we're seeking out certainty by going through all of the things that we've done before , all the things that we've seen other people do . We're just like rolling through our minds for experiences that confirm that this is the right thing and this is safe . Accuracy equals safety . Certainty also is going to equal .

Stuck , it's going to tend to pull us back so that we don't take that risk . If we need to be certain that something's going to work for us before we take that risk , we're never going to do it . The businesses that are the fucking best businesses ever . They don't fit any mold . People that do something different , that say something different .

I remember when I wanted to do feng shui . I started out as a feng shui practitioner , like everyone else Called myself a practitioner and I still do . I mean , that's my certification . But I wanted to call myself a feng shui coach and I swear like a motherfucker and I wanted to do things differently .

I didn't want to do the typical feng shui stuff , which is sometimes can be very superstitious . I just wanted people to know that their environments have an energy to them . And if you go into the environment and it feels good , you're going to feel fucking good . And if you go into the environment and it doesn't feel good , you're not going to feel good .

And a story and the idea if you listen to Abraham Hicks , you're going to know the whole goal is to feel good Every day , to feel good . And as I was thinking , as I was going through this , I know I'm searching for certainty , this idea of like . But what if the black doesn't look good ?

Let me go on Pinterest and find all the fucking black walls in the world . See if I like those , see if they support me in this idea that this black wall that I'm going to love , with the squares on it , is going to be certain . I'm going to have certainty that it's going to look beautiful . I asked my daughter , ask my husband what do you think ?

I'm going to have certainty ? I'm going to have certainty , I'm going to have certainty . And then I realized that for every single time that I said but what if it doesn't work ? What if this is going to look stupid . What if it ? I had the equal opportunity to say what if it fucking rocks ? What if this is amazing ?

What if this is the best wall in the history of walls ? What if you are going to love this damn wall so much you're never going to leave ? What if your house becomes the house to go to because of the wall ? What if every single person that comes into the house goes holy shit , that wall is amazing . How did you take the risk on that ?

That is unbelievable . I love your house Because , at the end of the day , both sets of those what if ? They're possible . When we go to the what if of the negative , we keep ourselves stuck . But what if to the positive is just as likely . And between those two choices is fear and faith .

When we sit in fear and we sit in certainty and we sit in safety , we stay stuck and we play it small , we play it safe , we paint the fucking walls cream . But I love my house so damn much because of that wall . And what would I be missing out on if I had a 20 foot cream wall that no one even noticed ?

I wouldn't be able to look at it and just love it if I stayed in safety . So instead I played the what if ? Game of what if it all works out ? What if this is amazing . Faith is the way through that . We can just decide . This feels right in my body . I feel like this is the right thing to do .

I feel like I'm going to love it and I'm going to be OK if I don't . The key in this is two things . Number one recognize that every single time you take a new challenge on , you do something different . Every single time you're going to have the , you're going to go to the . What if this doesn't work ?

Every time and we're not going to judge ourselves for it . It's just the way that our fucking brains work . Every single time we're going to go to the . What if it doesn't ? And every single time I want you to know that it is equally likely that it will work out . What if it does ? And we begin to train our brain . Train our brain to flip the switch .

Train it to go . When you say , when you say to yourself , what if it doesn't work out ?

What if this is dumb ? What if I look stupid ? What if they judge me ? I want you to flip the switch . Flip what your talk track is pay attention to what you're saying to yourself , flip your talk track and decide to step into faith . But what if it does ? What if it does work out ? Every single time we do that .

Every single time we switch from what if it doesn't to what if it does work out . We create new synapses in our I don't actually know if that's fucking true . I think I heard it somewhere . So you know I'm not a neuroscientist here . Just go with it .

But every single time we start to just create this muscle memory in our minds to shift to more positive , to shift what we think so that it becomes an automatic . But what if it does ? I want you to not only do this for yourself , but when your friend says , but what if it doesn't work ? I want you to say but what if it ? What if it does ?

What if this is the thing ? What if this is your breakthrough ? What if this is the best thing ever ? What if you love it ? What if everyone loves that entrance wall that you pay ? What if it works ? And what if this one technique changes your fucking life ? What if it does ? Thank you so much for listening .

I hope you've had some laughs , maybe some ideas , and that you've been inspired to take some type of action to where the life you've always dreamed of . If you feel so called . I would love it if you would share with your besties and leave a review down below . I look forward to bringing you along with Bernie , and I will see you in the next episode .