Stop doing THIS and watch what happens!

I say random , crazy shit , which is why I called this podcast the way that I did , and I really hate long drawn out intros , so let's fucking go . One of the things I share in the power of you and I have for the last few years was something that I found very pivotal . In this podcast .

You're going to hear all the things that I think changed everything for me , so they're going to be the best of the best , and this is one of them . I was watching an interview between Tom Billu and Trevor Moed .

Now Trevor Moed is the guy whose dad was a motivational speaker , very famous , and he was talking all about the power of positivity , and one of the things that Trevor Moed felt was like he said but what if there's nothing to be positive about ? What if you can't be positive ? And I think very often I really resonated with this because there are times .

There are times I know Oprah's gratitude journal focus on the things that you're most grateful of . But sometimes life is shitty and what do you do in those times when you can't flip from everything is terrible to everything is rainbows and lollipops and unicorns . How do you get there ? Abraham Hicks talks about the one second pivot .

But you can't go from like very way , way down on the negativity scale to one second pivoting , to gratitude and everything is fucking fantastic . Like it's impossible to flip that in one second . But it is possible to just feel a little bit better , to reach for the better feeling thought . What I found fascinating in Trevor Moed's work is that number one .

He worked with sports teams and I freaking love , I love leadership , I love sports teams , I love teams in general . I mean , I've won two leadership awards , national leadership awards . It's something I just find fascinating .

And I find it fascinating how teams work , particularly football teams , because I find on football teams everyone is needed but everyone has such different skill sets and size and everything about those positions is so different . I find it just fascinating . And my someplace , football . But so what I found interesting ? Trevor Moed .

He started working with college athletes , particularly football athletes , and specifically football athletes that were working on going to the drafts . He was helping them with their mindset and while he was sort of in this place of like , okay , you know , I know , I know my dad would be talking about positivity , but like there are things that suck .

If they're playing in Florida it's going to be freaking hot and the beds in the hotel might not be good and they might not be able to sleep very well and some of them might have sicknesses or something and they might be sore and the plane might be delayed and they can't sleep on the plane . I mean there are things that are not great .

So he started digging into the research . He started researching , like , what do you do if you can't be positive ? And what he found . If you're in the power of you , you're probably going to remember this part . What he found is he found that when we say things out loud it is 10 times more powerful than if we think it .

But a Harvard study that he found said the negativity is four to seven times more powerful than positivity . I mean we know this right , because if you have someone that comes in , let's say you're out for coffee with your girlfriends and all of you are relatively happy and one girl comes in and she's pissed right off at something pretty soon .

That's like a dopamine hit that you're massively attracted to , right . If someone comes in super happy , the tendency is to be excited for her . I would hope that you've got friends like this to be excited for her but not to feel as drawn to it . That's because negativity is four to seven times more powerful .

So what that suggested to Trevor Moet was that if you say something negative out loud , it is 40 to 70 times more likely to happen . That was huge .

He had a number of different examples of where this happened , one of which was he talked about Bill Buckner Now Bill Buckner , boston Red Sox player and in 1986 , they lost the World Series on a game-winning run that went between his legs . He missed it . Now he is this amazing fielder . He was fantastic , never missed .

What was interesting about this was that he was interviewed 12 days before the World , 19 days before the World Series , and he said that the goal or the dream , is to , of course , win the World Series , but the nightmare would be to lose the game with a game-winning run going through his legs , going between his legs , and that is exactly what happened .

He verbalized it in an interview . That then went crazy , of course , and so here's the thing Tom Billy asked Trevor Moet on this interview . So do you think that it was like you know ? He put it out to the universe and then it happened , which I do believe happens .

I think we have to be careful what we say out loud , because what we say , what we think about , we bring about . What we say is more powerful and we bring more of that . My son will always say don't put that out there , don't put that out there . And what if that doesn't resonate with you ?

What did resonate with Trevor Moet was he said what he thought that he did was do a subconscious plant . So he planted this fear , this thought in his mind and when that exact same scenario happened , his subconscious went whoa , here's the grounder , right between my legs . I know what's going to happen here Now .

I am not discounting the fact that it is probably not likely that a ball would go through his legs in a game , right Like it's probably not likely . So I kind of believe a little bit more in the universal use said it . It comes back to you .

But here's what was interesting After Trevor had done all of this research , what he did was he went to the team that he was working for him and they , they wanted you basically an experiment . And so what he said was what if we just got the players to not say stupid shit out loud ?

So what he did was he didn't say , you know , he didn't just go to them and say just don't say stupid shit out loud , because it could happen . What he did was he went to them and he said this is the research , this is what we are never . We are not going to vocalize stupid shit out loud . Now would it be the best if you verbalized positivity out loud ?

Yes , if you don't believe it , don't do it . Would it be better if you could think positively ? Yeah , of course that would be better than speaking negatively out loud . But sometimes situations are like sometimes it's well-trying hot and it doesn't feel good and no one wants to play football like that .

But when they were in this experiment , it was not just that we're going to be massively powerful , they only did this base of . We are never going to say stupid shit out loud . We are never going to voice negative stuff . We are never going to say buckets hot . We are never going to say that plane ride sucked .

We are never going to say wow , was that ever bumpy ride ? We are never going to say I can't stand my bed ? None of it . They were allowed to think it . They were not allowed to say it . What was massively interesting is that he did this in Fort College's , alabama , florida State and Georgia . Alabama won five national titles since that time .

Fsu has won one , georgia won another title and came a miracle pass away from winning the national title . And what he said was this stuff works . We make ourselves wrong for not being gracious enough or not having enough gratitude . We make ourselves wrong for being pissed off and bitchy and having negative thoughts .

But what if all we did was focus on never saying them out loud ? That might be the game changer . Now , what I choose to do , I love journaling . I didn't before . I used to hate it , but I knew that I had a lot of worry and a lot of negative thoughts . So we're running around in the back of my mind and I did not like them .

I wanted to clear them .

Matthew McConaughey is famous for saying I do not journal to remember . I journal to forget , and that is one of the things that I feel like my journaling does for me , because one of the things that I love to do is just say Dear universe , this is how I'm feeling now , write on all of my negative shit and then say I released this all .

Now I choose to believe . And then I move into the possible , the magic . I leave room for the magic and then I decide what will I do from that point forward , what action will I take ? And that kind of like solidifies it in .

If that doesn't resonate with you , if you are the type of person that's just like I'm just not going to think negative shit , I'm not going to think it , I'm not going to say it , I'm just going to be super positive , I'm going to like lean on , I'm just going to distract myself and I'm going to start to journal on all of the things that I want even

better , knowing who you are and knowing what works for you , trying all the things and then feeling into what works for you is powerful . But what I want you to do is try this experiment of just not saying stupid shit out loud and seeing what happens from there . Thank you so much for listening .

I hope you've had some laughs , maybe some ideas , and that you've been inspired to take some type of action to where the life you've always dreamed of . If you feel so called , I would love it if you would share with your besties and leave a review down below . I look forward to bringing you along with Bernie , and I will see you in the next episode .