I'm so glad that you're here . You are listening to what the fuck did she just say with your host ? That's me , sandra Priestly . I'm all about living our best life and finding our zone of brilliance and then removing the resistance so that we can go all in .
I say random , crazy shit , which is why I called this podcast the way that I did , and I really hate long drawn out intros , so let's fucking go All right . I want to talk about self-sabotage a little bit , because I have literally been .
I think I've had three conversations just in the last two days where women were either coming to me saying I'm self-sabotaging and I need to stop . I don't know what to do here . Or I have this big , huge goal and I don't know why . But just as soon as I decide to take on this task , all of a sudden my life goes to shit .
I heard one time that self-sabotage was like an overprotective mom who won't let you go play outside because you might get hurt , and that kind of safety is like that's the biggest risk , right , because it keeps you from living the life that you want . The minute you try to step outside of your comfort zone , your brain throws up these red flags .
What if this doesn't work ? What if people think I'm ridiculous ? What if I go all in and I still fucking fail ? Then I'm a failure right . Then that means that I'm not good enough . What if I actually succeed and then I can't handle the success ? What happens if I start going all in and then I get burnt out ?
What happens if I start on this diet and then I miss out on life because I'm so strict on the diet that I can't continue ? All of a sudden , bam , you hesitate , you quit , you sabotage the whole fucking thing before you start . So this is what you do . You just catch yourself in the moment . It's not that easy .
Now here's the thing Self-sabotage is convincing , shows up like logical excuses . You believe your own self-sabotage . You believe it to your core . Now is not the right time . I should wait until I have more money . I'll start when I feel more confident . I'll run that course as soon as I learn more , get another certification .
In all of those scenarios , confidence comes from action . It doesn't come from the other way around . So it's like we're making up bullshit excuses why we don't start . If you keep waiting until you feel ready , you will be waiting forever . So you just got to go all in .
When you hear yourself making the excuse , you ask yourself is this a real reason or a comfortable lie ? And what about when you procrastinate ?
What about when , like me , with my stats exam and university , where I was failing this stats class before I went into the final , I had no idea what I was doing , like I did not get stats at all and I took university calculus Like it wasn't the math . I just did not get it for some reason . The prof and I did not get along in my brain .
I just couldn't understand the way he was explaining it to us . And so I was . I knew I was going to be frustrated , but bigger than that was . I felt like a failure and I felt really dumb because I couldn't get it and I thought everyone else was . So I procrastinated studying .
I mean , I could have put in so much work , I could have studied so much harder than I did , but I felt like I wasn't getting it . If I studied and studied and studied and still didn't get it and then failed the class I , that would have meant my full ass effort wasn't good enough . I wasn't good enough . I wasn't smart enough , right ?
So what did I do ? Self-sabotage . I waited until 2.30 in the morning . I mean I cleaned the toilets , I washed my bedding and I was living in an apartment at the time where I had to go two floors just to get to the laundry .
I mean I created so many ridiculous tasks that I needed to do in order to procrastinate that I started studying at 2.30 in the fucking morning for that exam 2.30 in the morning and I had to write the exam at 8.30 in the morning .
I think I studied from 2.30 to six and then I had a little bit of an app , got up , studied a little bit more , went , wrote the exam , somehow passed the class . Now , in retrospect I mean all those classes at the time they were on the bell curve . Likely everyone else was fucking failing the class too , and so it just boosted us all up .
That's my guess Cause I don't know how I answered those questions . I mean , but was it more motivation that I needed ? It wasn't . It was just awareness in that time . Every time you are procrastinating , just pause , notice it , call it out and then do the opposite of what your fear is telling you .
If your brain says , don't post that because someone might judge you , post it anyway . If your brain says don't start that business because you might fail . Start small , start anyway . If you're feeling like I should be studying but I'm not doing it , catch yourself in that awareness .
Catch yourself and recognize that you're just fearful of failing and what that number might mean to you . Your job isn't to be fearless , it's to act in spite of the fear and to go all in and know that as long as you try everything , as long as you try your best , as long as you do everything , doesn't matter what the result is .
But you've given it your all . You've set yourself up to do the very , very best that you can and doing the best that you can , giving the very best effort . That success , no matter what the mark is , no matter what the result is , no matter what happens .
So here's your homework catch yourself in the act , call you out your own BS and then do the thing anyway . Your dream life is on the other side .
Of every excuse you've ever made , every procrastination tactic you've ever had , any made up bullshit excuse that you have , that you think , well , I can't do this because X , y and Z , every single excuse you've ever made . When you move those away , success is on the other side . You've got better things to do than doubt yourself .
Now go do the fucking thing , and I'll see you tomorrow . Doubt yourself Now go do the fucking thing , and I'll see you tomorrow . Thank you so much for listening . I hope you've had some laughs , maybe some ideas , and that you've been inspired to take some type of action toward the life you've always dreamed of .
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