Powerful Conversations ... you're not a rabid badger

I say random , crazy shit , which is why I called this podcast the way that I did , and I really hate long drawn out intros , so let's fucking go .

A lot of my coaching calls recently have been calls recently have been really about getting into a place of emotional intelligence in order to have some really difficult conversations , set some good boundaries , not with my clients , but for my clients , with people in their lives , whether it be their own clients or possibly family members , friends , that type of thing .

So it's a delicate balance , right , because when we get into situations that we are emotionally attached to , it's quite difficult sometimes to take a freaking step back and not attack in a moment like a rabid badger , but being able to take a breath , being able to step away and do some energy work so that you can just like take a deep breath before you open

your trap those times , that time that it takes for you to gain control over yourself and your emotions so that you can respond instead of react . That time is crucial . It is imperative , and there's a lot of things that we can do in order to set ourselves up to have a productive conversation and not one that is explosive and doesn't go anywhere .

My husband he has this saying that he says sometimes , every once in a while , if we are like on opposite sides of something , we have different opinions , he will just joke and he will say I choose happiness over being right . It's like it's such a kick in the teeth . It's like , oh damn , he wins .

He wins because he's choosing to get out of the conversation and he's just like , okay , I'm not going to fight about this , I'm just choosing happiness over being right . And what's amazing about this is the key component of it , though . It is really really good , because a lot of times , when we get into a discussion , we get into an argument what's the goal ?

We feel the goal is to win . The goal is actually not to win the goal , and so we know that what we want to do is understand the other person's opinion , understand our opinion , and come to this realization of where the other person is coming from , and then we can let it go .

We don't have to always agree at the end , but the goal is always emotional regulation . You will never have a productive conversation with understanding at the outcome if one or both of you are emotionally elevated . When emotions are high , intelligence is low . What can we do ? If we want to have a conversation it might be a difficult conversation with someone .

You might be wanting to set boundaries with this person . You might want to really talk to them in a way that they will hear what you have to say , without reacting and making it more of a bitey conversation . You want to have a good , calm , rational conversation where both of you are respected and no one feels judged and awful . So how do we do that ?

Here is one thing I have just learned from a medical intuitive that I was talking to , from a medical intuitive that I was talking to .

So she said before you have any type of crucial conversations now I have done this before before you have a crucial conversation , I have asked whether you ask God , whether you set the intention , whether you ask the spirits , the angels , the guides and , I don't know , the universe , whoever it happens to be , just set the intention and just say , okay , I thank

you for allowing me to speak my truth in a calm , respectful manner and for me to hear what the other person has to say . Going into a conversation like that is a game frigging changer . But what this medical ? I don't actually know what her title is , but I just call her a medical intuitive .

But what she said was before you go into any crucial conversation , such a key piece is to ask that you be placed in balance and harmony with yourself , the other person or people , be placed in balance and harmony with themselves , and that you both are placed in balance and harmony with one another .

When you can step into a conversation with that as the intention , I guarantee you are going to have this beautiful way of understanding one another that you might not have stepped into if you didn't do that actual pre-work . The other thing that she said was to ask that our ears are open so that everyone is hearing what is being said .

How beautiful is this Like ? It is just a beautiful , a beautiful intention to set before any difficult conversation , before any crucial conversation , before any like pivotal conversation in a relationship .

And you don't have to sit knee to knee and have this conversation out loud , just you take a moment , whether it's a moment to breathe and do that in your head , whether it's five moments to go calm yourself down and just relax a little bit . Take some deep breaths in deep breaths out , release all emotion .

Do not go into that conversation unless you are emotionally regulated . It is so important to be able to go in to any difficult conversation , any conversation at all . Difficult conversation , any conversation at all .

But any difficult conversation when you are calm , when you are grounded , when you are centered and you are not reacting , when you can respond , everything changes the quality of your discussions change , the quality of your relationships change and it's like this up level that changes the game . Thank you so much for listening .

I hope you've had some laughs , maybe some ideas , and that you've been inspired to take some type of action toward the life you've always dreamed of . If you feel so called , I would love it if you would share with your besties and leave a review down below . I look forward to bringing you along on this journey and I will see you in the next episode .