I'm so glad that you're here . You are listening to what the fuck did she just say with your host ? That's me , sandra Priestly . I'm all about living our best life and finding our zone of brilliance and then removing the resistance so that we can go all in .
I say random , crazy shit , which is why I called this podcast the way that I did , and I really hate long drawn out intros . So let's fucking go . I was triggered by a conversation I had this morning and I recognized in myself that I wasn't handling it very well .
You know what happens when you're triggered and then , all of a sudden , you're like inner five-year-old , start to throw a fucking temper tantrum . This is literally how I started my day , but there's something that I do that really , really helps me . So what I choose to do is I sit in awareness of how I feel and I sit in awareness of what I'm thinking .
We get to tell a different story . What I mostly find is it's not actually the situation that that is the biggest problem . The biggest problem that we create for ourselves is the story that we keep telling . We keep going back and creating a narrative around the situation that happened . When there's truly an emotion only lasts for 90 seconds .
True emotion only lasts for 90 seconds . The thing that elevates it past those 90 seconds is the thoughts and the things that we tell ourselves . What I love to do this is the best thing for me is sit and feel the fucking feelings .
As soon as I have another thought that comes in , as soon as I start to tell a story about the feelings that I'm having , or tell a story about the situation that I'm having , or I start to relive and imagine .
I start to relive what happened , I start to add narrative to it , I start to add a little bit of color on it , and then I start to imagine what could happen in the future and I start to create all of the different scenarios that are possible . Once I get there , we're in trouble . I have to realize in the moment , this is how I'm feeling .
These are thoughts that I'm telling myself . These are bullshit thoughts , because my goal is to feel better . So my goal is always going to be to reach for the better feeling thought . A lot of times we spend so much time just building momentum and talking it through and I mean we'll talk about the same situation with our girlfriends for three weeks .
That's not helping us move through it . What helps us move through it is to sit in the feeling of it for 90 seconds as soon as a thought comes in . As soon as a thought comes in , I want you to think not today , motherfucker , and let the thought go . Just feel the feeling .
Eventually , what ends up happening is we feel the feeling without feeding it those thoughts . We feel the feeling of what happened without telling a story about it , without being the narrator in our heads about it , and , all of a sudden , it's like I just kind of get sick and tired of feeling it .
I get sick and tired of being mad , I get sick and tired of being sad , I get sick and tired of being triggered , and then I just decide okay , that's enough of this , and I just move on .
The key , though , is to observe your own thoughts , observe what you're saying to yourself , observe what you're thinking about , and then intentionally choose do I want to feel like that or what do I want to feel ? Do I want to feel better ? This is the work .
It's work to feel better , because our default , our negativity bias , is strong , our default is negativity and our default is worry . Our default is here , sandra , let's play safe , but if what we can do is sit in our shit just for 90 seconds and stop allowing the storytelling , stop allowing that narrator in the back of your mind .
As soon as you start to tell a story , I want you to just go . Nope , I'm not doing it . When you can get really good at that , it is wonderfully powerful Because all of a sudden you're creating the life you want .
It feels really good to talk about it , to think about it , to tell all of your friends , but it is not helping you move through like feeling it and releasing it would and then choosing the better feeling thought . I hope that helps . Have an amazing day . Thank you so much for listening .
I hope you've had some laughs , maybe some ideas , and that you've been inspired to take some type of action toward the life you've always dreamed of . If you feel so called , I would love it if you would share with your besties . If you feel so called , I would love it if you would share with your besties and leave a review down below .
I look forward to bringing you along on this journey and I will see you in the next episode .