If it makes you feel like crap ... it's a lie

I say random , crazy shit , which is why I called this podcast the way that I did , and I really hate long drawn out intros . So let's fucking go . Welcome back to another episode of what the fuck did she just say . This one's going to be a fun one , because I am obsessed with the title . If it makes you feel like crap , it's a lie .

We all have those thoughts from time to time . That makes us feel like shit , you know . And the bigger problem is if we don't stop it as soon or as quickly as they come in . If we don't stop those thoughts , we start to go down the rabbit hole to nowhere . And here's why Our minds are hardwired to find evidence that we're right .

So if we have a really good thought , if we have a belief of I am a success , I am a success , I am a success . We will find evidence to prove we're right . Our ego wants to be right , but if we have a thought that makes us feel like crap .

If we have a thought that we believe to be true , that makes us feel awful , we're also seeking out evidence to suggest that we're right . So we want to stop those things in the moment . I'll give you an example . Let's say you're in the Tim Hortons drive-thru . Your BFF is in the car in front of you . You see her . You wave to her .

She's looking in the rearview mirror . You can see her looking in the rear view mirror . You believe she sees you . You're waving . She doesn't wave back . She doesn't acknowledge you . She drives off . She grabs her double double and off she goes . All of a sudden you're like she's got to be mad at me . She's mad at me . I know what did I do ?

What did I do ? And your brain starts to seek all of the things . Could it be something on social media ? Did I say something to offend her ? What the fuck Like ? Did someone say something to her ? What could it be ? And you start to go down this rabbit hole . Now you're seeking reasons that that might be true and then you start to go elsewhere .

Wait a minute . She hasn't called me for the last week . She hasn't texted me all day . We normally text all the time what's happening . Why isn't she ? She's got to be mad , yep , she . She's got to be mad , yep , yep , she's got to be mad . When I noticed that she didn't wave at me and I thought that she was mad at me , it's got to be true .

And now you notice on Facebook wait a minute . I posted this and she didn't like my post . I know she's on Facebook all the time . She must've seen it . What the fuck ? We create this story .

And the more time we stay in that feeling , the more time we stay in that thought that makes us feel like shit , the more evidence we gather to make sure that we're right . Our ego wants to be right . The way deeper down this rabbit hole we go , and the longer we stay there , the harder it is .

Abraham Hicks will say if it is a thought that makes you feel bad , it's not from source , of course not right , because source is love . Source wouldn't want you to feel like shit . And so it's almost like . Abraham Hicks will say your intuition , source energy , messages from above , they make you feel good . There . They , they feel solid , grounded .

It's like a knowing . It's a knowing that it's truth , even if it can be a little bit uncomfortable Sometimes for me . Let's , for example , I am going to be doing the 12 days of Christmas . I did not plan on saying this today , but I'm going to . So I'm going to be doing the 12 days of Christmas , starting December the 1st .

I'm going to be doing these 12 days of Christmas . They're all going to be feng shui . I'm going to be doing them on this podcast . And then I started thinking should I do them on Instagram and Facebook stories ? Should I do them live on my page ? Where else should I go ?

And I started thinking about all of the ways that I can promote this 12 days of Christmas . Then , do I put this on my website , which , ps , I love my website ? So , yeah , of course I should .

And I instantly thought in one of these situations um , for Instagram stories , I never do lives on Instagram stories and I don't do lives on my personal Facebook page and I thought do I do this , yes or no ? Now , here's the thing it didn't make me feel like shit , but it didn't make me excited . I felt that like discomfort , but a little bit of excitement .

That's different , that's a totally different thing . That didn't make me feel like shit . That made me feel slightly stretchy . It's like stretching what would make me comfortable , but it doesn't make me feel like shit , but thinking , my God , my friend saw me and she didn't wave . She must be mad at me . That makes me feel like shit Now .

Alternatively , if she was mad at me , I would feel this oh , I think she's mad , and it would feel like a knowingness . There's a difference . Now . Here's the thing that I really want you to lean in on . If you have a thought that feels like shit , there's a couple things that could be going on .

Number one it could be a leftover story that you don't need anymore . If it's not a knowingness and it's a fear base , if it's like it just makes you feel absolutely awful , almost to the point of panic , even it's a leftover story you could be triggered from something in the past and the situation feels somewhat similar . This is just leftover bullshit .

One of the things I used to say to my coach was , every time I would feel triggered with regards to my business or whatever , I would say to her that's just old shit , let's move . Like literally , that's just old shit , let's move . One time actually , when I was working with her , I had a five-day course plan .

It was five days of feng shui , I believe , and I all set out , I was all excited to go . On day one , my , my son , ended up in the hospital , and so he was there in the hospital for the entire five days , admitted into the hospital , and I remember thinking , oh okay , this is not ideal .

I had so many people saying to me , just cancel , just postpone your program , you don't need to do this , sandra . And I remember thinking it's a 30 minute or an hour long session . I mean , he's an adult , he probably doesn't want me sitting there staring at him . Anyway , I can do this . This is just old shit . Let's move .

And I do that still to this day with thoughts . If I don't catch it , though , I go down the rabbit hole , and I don't want to go down the rabbit hole on it . I just want to stop those thoughts . And here's another thing . Number two is that most of these thoughts , they're not even ours to begin with . They're not even our own experiences .

They're shit that we picked up from the past , from someone else , from other situations . If you read the book , okay , I talk about Don Miguel Ruiz all the time , but if you read the four agreements , they're just agreements that we made . They're beliefs that we have based on shit that's happened . Someone , someone else has said . But here's the thing .

This is like I want you to imagine walking down the most amazing beach . It's white powder sand . Every once in a while there's a beautiful shell there and it just feels so peaceful and you can hear the waves and everything just is beautiful and there's like this salty air and you can smell it just .

Oh , it's so lovely and you can feel the sand between your toes and it's warm . And there's garbage all over this beach . You see the garbage . You can pick up one piece of trash and there's a garbage can right there . But negative thoughts , especially negative thoughts of other people's , other ideas and things that have been placed on you .

This is like picking trash up at the beach but you didn't drop it there and if you're not careful , you'll end up carrying it . And who wants to carry other people's garbage ? Like that's not your fucking job , right , it's not your fucking job to carry someone else's shit . This is also the same as sometimes you'll be with someone else .

Imagine you go out for coffee and you're sitting with your girlfriend and she's complaining and bitching and maybe in fear , and what happens is you pick up her stuff . If you're listening to this podcast , you're probably empathic and so you feel people's energy . All of a sudden , you pick up someone else's stuff . Same thing .

You're walking along their beach , you're picking up the garbage that they dropped and then you're carrying it , you're putting it in your backpack and you're putting it in your purse and wondering why it's so heavy . This is not your job . Your job is to recognize it's there and put it in the garbage . Do not carry it . So I want you to think .

The next time you have a shitty thought , the first thing that I want you to do is be aware that it's a shitty thought . Be aware . How does this make me feel ? Pause , pay attention to the thought that you've got , pause and then go . Does this feel empowering or does this feel limiting ? If this makes you feel like shit , don't carry it .

Put it in the garbage , let it go . So that's that first , like awareness , that gut check . Okay . The next one is the truth test . Truth never makes you feel like shit . It feels like clarity , even if it's tough and even if it's a tough situation .

It gives you this sense of knowingness and also a sense of possibility and problem solving and you can take some type of action if it's truth , but if it makes you feel like shit , it's not truth and you're going to just start to roll in it , and we don't want you to roll in it .

If you listen to yesterday's podcast , we're not rolling in dog shit and then finally flip it . If you have a thought of I'm never going to succeed , can you flip it and decide ? What if the opposite is true ? What if this is a lie ? If you go back to the Tim Hortons lineup , maybe she was looking at herself in the mirror .

Maybe she didn't have her glasses on , which , for me , is the case . Maybe she was just she was , you know , looking to see if there was something in her eye . I don't know . Maybe she didn't see you at all . Maybe you used a hashtag that made you shadow banned and she didn't see that post of yours at all . Maybe she hasn't been on Facebook .

Maybe she's taking a Facebook break .

There are so many other reasons to suggest that what your negative thought is is not true . Choose the better feeling thought , the one that is more in line with your higher self . Your job is really to just sit in awareness , know that your mind will do some fucked up things and if it feels like crap , it's not yours , let it go .

It feels like crap , it's a piece of garbage . Do you want to carry it or do you just want to release it ? If you have a thought that makes you feel small , stuck or like shit , just ask is it true or is it just trash I've been carrying and then you choose better . The truth feels good , so go chase that instead . Thank you so much for listening .

I hope you've had some laughs , maybe some ideas , and that you've been inspired to take some type of action toward the life you've always dreamed of . If you feel so called , I would love it if you would share with your besties . Leave a review down below . I look forward to bringing you along on this journey and I will see you in the next episode .