¶ Love Yourself, Let Go of BS
For the women I work with and the women that follow me , and for you who are listening to this podcast , I want you to love yourself enough to let go of the bullshit . To love yourself enough to allow yourself to heal .
To love yourself enough to let go of the things that you're holding on to to keep you safe , like regret , fear , fear of judgment , fear of success , fear of failure , old crap that you no longer need . Love yourself enough to work through all of that bullshit so that you can step into who you came here to be .
Love yourself enough to step into a higher vibration , step into that next level . You , that next level . You that powerful . You , that millionaire . You in your jobs , the person who loves herself enough not to complain , not to gossip , not to stay in that stuck energy .
Be a person who loves herself enough to give herself grace when she has a negative thought and power or reprogram it quickly . Be the person who loves herself enough that she wants to let go of all of the bullshit that's held herself back so that it can propel her forward .
I listened to a podcast with Mel Robbins and Sarah J Roberts and Sarah said we cannot heal if we are still punishing ourselves and that resonated with me so much so because , if I have made an error in the past , a lot of times I would sit and judge myself and punish myself for way too long .
The moment that I decided that I was able to let it go was the moment I felt that healing . Did I bring it back every once in a while ? Was I triggered every once in a while ? Fuck , yes , of course , because I'm human , we all do this , but the whole goal is to get out of it as quickly as possible .
If I go down that rabbit hole , as my husband says , what I notice is the longer I spend going down , the harder it is for me to climb back up and the longer it takes me to get out of that hole . So sometimes , loving myself enough has been just me saying nope , not today , motherfucker , I am not going there .
I am not thinking of that , I am stopping my brain immediately before I start to tell a story that would be unhelpful . Sometimes we can't do that . Sometimes it's taken a hold on us and we've thought a little bit about In those situations .
I journal or I help my clients journal , meditate , reach out to a coach , me or someone else Not in a way that it would be to speak it through and talk it through and like , just analyze the fuck out of it , but in a way that we can process it and release it and work to reprogram it .
One of my very favorite things to do , and one of my very favorite things to tell my clients to do , is to just journal Dear universe , this is how I'm feeling now . Write it all out , all of the good , bad and the ugly . It doesn't matter what comes out of your pen or your fingers if you're typing . This isn't truth .
This is just emotions and our subconscious thoughts and our conscious thoughts . It's not truth , it's just fear , and this is something that our brain is going to do because it's going to keep us safe . You are not wrong for having shitty thoughts , but we can reprogram them a lot quicker if we do it quickly .
We don't want to sit for a week , two weeks , three weeks , a month , a year , two years , several years in this pit of despair . We want to do what we can to pick ourselves out of it as quickly as possible , and that means not judging ourselves for having the shitty thoughts in the first place . We all have them . Let's just get over it .
But we do not need to stay there . Let's just get over it , but we do not need to stay there . If you can imagine your next level self , your powerful self , the person that came through the other side , is sitting in this space looking back at the you who's got the shitty thoughts . What would the next level self suggest ?
Work through it and get to the other side . Do not roll in this big pile of dog shit . Right , that's my guess and that's what I would suggest . So it's not roll in the dog shit and then pretend you don't smell . So it's not roll in the dog shit and then pretend you don't smell .
It is do the thing to get up as quickly as humanly possible and do the work and let it go . Do the work to shower off , smell pretty , do your hair and feel great again . The more we spend feeling good , the more we attract the things that we desire , because we're emanating that energy , we're sending that energy out , and what we give out we get back .
So there's sort of three things that I think of when I talk about manifestation , talk about doing the dang thing or stepping into that next level self , and the first one is like reprogramming that subconscious mind , it is absolutely doing the work to reprogram it . And the other thing is believing in something outside of ourselves .
When I was sitting way , way , way into fear and I'd gone way down the rabbit hole , I had to and I would have a shitty thought I had to actively say give it to God and go to sleep . Give it to God and go to sleep , give it to God and go to sleep . Like I had to go from fear to faith in that way .
I have a big , huge sign over my , over our bed , huge , and it says give it to God and go to sleep . And I literally did that all day long , every day , just in a way to just stop my brain from telling a story that I didn't like , telling a story that I didn't
¶ Finding Faith, Taking Action
like . It was the way for me to get out of fear and into faith , because you cannot be in fear and faith at the same time . You have to have something that is outside of you that you can believe in , because if you can do that , it allows for magic .
So it might be crystals for you , it might be God and you pray , it might be tarot cards or incense or meditation , it might be feng shui . It might be energy . It might be Buddha . It might be feng shui . It might be energy . It might be Buddha . It might be the universe .
It might be Gabby Bernstein , something outside of you that you can just release , control and allow yourself to surrender . Surrender and release control , judgment , guilt , shame , punishment . Have faith in something greater than you . And then the third thing is do the dang thing , show up and take action in some way .
Somehow do something that flips you out of fear and into faith or that solidifies that you're out of fear and into faith . Do something that makes you feel good . Reach for the thing that makes you feel good , and that might be a workout . That might be coffee with a friend where you dream . That's not coffee with a friend where you complain , bitch and gossip .
It is coffee with a friend who inspires you . It's surrounding yourself with people who are pushing you to be a better version of yourself . You to be a better version of yourself .
When I was working for the federal government and I felt stretched beyond anything that I could ever have imagined , the thing that really was my safe space was I had a coaching business , was I had a coaching business , and so on my way to work . I listened to podcasts On my way home from work .
I listened to podcasts sometimes the same fucking podcast because I'd been at work for 10 hours and I forgot what I'd heard the first time . And sometimes at my coffee break .
I would either check in with my clients at my lunch break for sure I would but at my coffee break I would check in with my clients and I might even listen to a podcast , which is why I try to keep this podcast to 15 minutes .
I don't always , sometimes it's shorter , sometimes it's longer , but it's important to reach for the things , take action and reach for the things that make you feel good . The more often you reach for the things that make you feel good , the more you feel good . Now go kick some ass , because you love yourself enough to do it .