How to reach a goal in 26 days: lessons learned from a recent challenge I took on

I say random , crazy shit , which is why I called this podcast the way that I did , and I really hate long drawn out intros , so let's fucking go . Today , I want to talk to you about a challenge that I recently took on .

For those of you who have heard a few other episodes , we started a renovation of our entire upper floor in a little bit more in the beginning of July , and you know how I believe that our space affects us . Well , I mean , it's not that I believe it , it fucking is . So I'm used to things being in their spots . Now , I am by no means perfectly like .

Not everything is perfectly placed in my home . I don't look like I live in a fucking magazine . We live here , we don't just look at it , but I do love . I feel so much better when things are in their places , and so when we started doing renovations , there was stuff everywhere .

I still am , in fact , looking for a fabulous gift that I bought a client of mine at the end of June intending to send it to her , and I actually don't know where it is . So I mean , heads up to anyone that lives in this house or is in this house . I am looking for a package that actually was ready to go to the post office several months ago .

Anyway , everything was in disarray , we had to quickly get everything out of the bedrooms and so things were just tossed , placed in boxes . I'm still looking for the boxes and that kind of set me off in this nasty space of like feeling too disoriented .

Feeling too disoriented to show up , feeling too not focused , like I couldn't focus because what was my brain focusing on ? All of the piles of shit that was everywhere . So now that our home is almost done and things are getting to be back to where they like back to their original spots or new spots or amazing spots it's starting to feel beautiful .

I'm starting to feel inspired again . But I knew that I had gotten out of the habit of showing the fuck up like I was . I wasn't showing up consistent . I haven't been showing up consistently on this podcast . If everyone is sitting here wondering why I'm shooting the bed on it , this is why I'm back , though .

You're going to see weekly podcasts again , and if you haven't noticed , then just disregard what I just said , like I'm going to use the men in black thing on you . You didn't hear it Anyway . No , I want you to hear it because you know what Businesses that we run . They're not perfect . We're not perfect . We learn as we go , anyway .

So I knew that I needed , I had gotten out of the habit . A lot of this is just habit posting all the time doing live videos , it's habit and so I knew I had gotten out of the habit and I knew that I needed to get my shit back together in a big way . So I took on this challenge .

The challenge happens to be about social media and showing up , but while you're listening to this , I want you to think in terms of your own goal . How can you take the lessons that I learned , the process that I learned , and apply it to your own goal ? So your goal might be to change anything .

I mean , if we want to see change in our lives , we have to change something . It's the same as that saying right , like if you want to do something different , you have to . What is it you want to , if you want to do something different , or if you want to live something different or see something different , you got to do something different .

No , I don't even know what that stupid quote is , but it's a good one , I just can't remember . But if you want to change your life , you're going to have to make fucking changes , and I knew that what I wanted to do was I wanted to get back to posting regularly , showing up , live regularly and really serving my community in a big way .

So I took on this challenge . So this it doesn't matter whatever goal is , I feel like the lessons are the same , the process is the same . Whether it's weight loss , whether it's getting your ass to the gym , it doesn't really matter .

So the goal was all we had to do choose a social media platform and know how many times you were going to show up on that platform every single day , and we had to log in every single day and just send a screenshot of proof yes , I showed up , or you know don't .

So here was the thing I learned so many lessons and was reminded of so many lessons , so I chose . Well , first off was I had to have skin in the game . I knew I did . I paid 50 bucks to US to do this challenge , and could I have done it if it was free ? Yeah , I think that I would have put in the effort if it wasn't .

That's not the only thing , though , that we need to focus on , because lots of people I mean I did this too I paid gym memberships that I didn't show up for , right . So money isn't the only thing , but I knew for me that it was . I think it's important that I know me well enough that if it was a free challenge , I probably wouldn't show up .

So , because it was $50 , I knew that it was enough , that it wasn't too much , because she wasn't giving us anything really , but it was enough skin in the game for me to be able to push myself to come through . Ok , so that was number one . I committed , I was ready . I was a little nervous , like , am I going to be able to do this ?

I don't know , but I was ready and I committed to myself , and integrity is important to me . So I really decided that me taking on this challenge . There was zero way I was going to let myself down . I wasn't going to do it . So that $50 represented more than just like here , I'm going to pay for something that $50 represented .

Here I'm betting on myself and I'm going to commit , I'm going to respect myself enough to follow through and I'm going to have integrity because I'm going to do the thing that I said that I'm going to do . Ok , so that was the first thing that I did . The second thing that I did was I decided . So we had to decide . We had to choose our platform .

At how many times ? So I decided that I was going to choose my Facebook business page , which PS is called the Funch , my Chick . Please go and follow me , share my stuff , love it , do the wow . The likes don't really help my algorithm , but everything else does . So shares are great , page likes are great . This is a thirsty attempt at getting new page likes .

I realize that , however , I say some amazing shit on there . So I really , really , really want people to fucking read it , you know , because it's going to help you . That's why I read it Anyway . So I chose the Facebook , or the platform that I chose was my Facebook business page , and I decided I was going to post four times a day . Now , that is a lot .

I realize A lot of people . Well , I mean years ago , when I started with Beachbody , they were telling , like eight times a day , eight to 10 times a day , you had to post like start , good morning Facebook . Like what kind of nasty shit is that ? I don't want to . I don't want to ever post stuff that is just benign and boring like that .

Right , sometimes I post my coffee cup , but A it's amazing . And B there's always that thought that comes with it , Anyway . So I knew that four times was a lot . However , I knew that I also needed to choose something that would challenge me , but not something that would be debilitating to me .

Imagine your goal is going to the gym or getting some exercise every single day and you have been sitting on the couch and really like just not doing anything . You could decide okay , I'm going to get up on the couch , off of the couch , and I'm going to run 20 kilometers every single day .

I used to run 20 kilometers when I was in high school , so I'm going to run 20 kilometers every day . How do you think that's going to fucking go ? It's not . But could you commit to something ? I'm going to walk every day and I'm going to walk X amount of kilometers or X number of minutes when you choose something that you're already doing .

That's not a challenge , that's not stretching yourself , that's not doing something different , but what you could just choose , something that you knew was a bit of a stretch but not debilitating . That's what I did .

Posting four times a day on my business page was not fucking easy , because I wasn't posting four times a week on my business page up until this point . So I knew it was a challenge , but I knew I could do it and that , I think , is the sweet spot of when you're choosing something to do . So that was the first .

That was kind of like the way I got into this challenge . Now , once I started to get going , I realized actually it's very like first day . Initially it was like I am going to take on this challenge and see how many page lights I can get . On the first day I completed all four of my posts and thought , fuck , that's a lot . Why did I do this ?

But I managed it . After the first day I had to come to Jesus moment with myself and I thought you're going to get your shit together and you're going to do this for you . You're going to do this to prove that you can .

You're going to do this to show the fuck up , and you're not going to worry about page lights , we're not going to worry about the end result , because that could come now , that could come three months from now , we don't fucking know . I could get , I could lose likes , I could show up as myself and people could go who the hell is this crazy bitch ?

I don't want to follow her and unfollow me . This could have happened If I focused on the result that I wanted when I wanted it . I would have absolutely pulled

myself back . So after day one , I decided I'm just going to focus on the process , I'm going to focus on doing the dang thing , that's it , and I'm going to make success not be the result but be the commitment to myself . It was success every single day . When I showed up four times a day , I met success .

I achieved what I wanted to achieve and I respected myself and I had integrity . I was impeccable with my word , and so I started to fall in love with the process of just like every single day , I was four times feel success Post . Four times feel success . I , in fact , not only did I not assume that there would be a result , I didn't even think of it .

I just thought I'm going to commit to this process . I'm going to commit to me . I'm going to respect me . I'm going to be an integrity . That's it . That's it . And every single day I felt great about myself . Isn't that the fucking goal ?

I mean really , whether it is just showing up and going to the gym every day because that's what you decided , that's what you said you were going to do . You're going to come through for yourself how incredible that makes you feel . Our goal is to always just feel fucking better . So that's how it started .

What I quickly realized was shit , this is a lot and I need a fucking plan . I just started and then realized I need a posting strategy , some sort of posting strategies that I'm panicking going . Oh my gosh , I've got nothing brilliant to say today . As I started posting , I started realizing wait a minute , I'm the Feng Shui chick . It's not all I do .

I do the majority of what I do is mindset , business , life coaching , but there's always that bit of , there's that bit of Feng Shui in every single course that I do , in every single thing that I do , in every single aspect of who we are . When I am sitting in this house and I'm deciding where our pictures are going to go .

I decide where our pictures are going to go based on the area of the Bagua map that I want to put them in or that there is an empty wall that I need to fill .

When we chose the entrance color of our big , huge , 20 foot wall , when we chose that color , I chose it Because not because it looked good , I knew what would look good , because it's in my journey , career life path area and I know dark colors look good there , because they just feel right . Energetically they feel right .

So I knew that if I chose a really dark color , it was going to kick ass and it does . Let me tell you , it is the most amazing wall in the history of walls . It really is .

But what was interesting was I realized , wait a minute , I'm saying all this stuff and the stuff that I'm saying is really good , and sometimes it's on mindset and sometimes it's like a random post that I am really struggling to figure out what the fuck I'm going to say .

Then I realized , wait a minute , I'm the Feng Shui chicken and I'm not selling anything about Feng Shui . What in the actual fuck have I been doing ? So I started doing Feng Shui tip of the day Because there are a lot of tips that I can share . So it's Feng Shui tip of the day . I thought this is brilliant . One because it's going to help people .

Two because that knocks down one of my four every day . So I started realizing this is going to be helpful . One Feng Shui tip , one mindset tip , and we'll figure the other two out . One advertisement , something that I want to sell . Now , if you're thinking that's disgusting , you should be doing this for free . That's awful .

That you would have to sell to me every single day . Yes , what ? This is a business . So we're just going to get over that . I have to . When I was a Beachbody coach , I really struggled with having to show up and sell to people . I always thought people are going to think that I am awful , that all I want is their money .

So it took me a long time to get over that crap , but at the end of the day , I know I can help so many frigging people in so many ways . It is actually a disservice not to sell your stuff when you know it's really good . Yes , I have a course that I'm in love with called the Power of you , starting in January . It is awesome , by the way .

It'll change your damn life . I really believe it , anyway . See how much easy that is , anyway . So I realized , okay , I can do this , get a Feng Shui tip , get a mindset tip , sell some shit . This is awesome . I'll figure the fourth one out . You know , we need some room for just .

I don't know the ebbs and flows of the day , and once I did that , I realized the more I wrote , the more ideas I had , and the bigger thing was I could have sat all day long and started thinking about how , what am I going to say ? I don't know what I'm going to say . I'm not sure what I'm going to say .

The strategy helped me have a framework of what to say and how to say it , but the action created the inspiration and the momentum and more action .

The action got me out of overthinking and also the action that I was taking , the fact that I was just like focusing on the next post and the next post and the next post allowed me to not worry about if I fucked up the first one . You know , post it and let it go , post it and let it go , post it and let it go , because I got another one coming .

It allowed me to get out of that perfectionism , that need to ensure that it was perfect , and allow me to just be free . Just be free to who I am , free to be me . And what was happening behind the scenes was this I wasn't paying attention to likes at all . My page likes it all , or shares , or comments . I was paying none of it .

I was only thinking I got to do four posts a day one's Feng Shui , one's mindset , one's an ad . What the fuck am I going to say next ? That's it . That's all that I started to pay attention to .

And then I started to get really like ballsy , almost like hmm , I'm going to post on my personal page and I'm going to tell people that I'm doing Feng Shui tip of the day , because you know what People on my personal page probably would want them , and I like to post on my personal page .

So I'm going to do a post on my personal page , share some of my Feng Shui tips , and I'm going to then share it to my business page and maybe people who really are interested in what I have to say will follow . I did that and I got a few more page likes , some comments , some shares .

I talked to a friend who said I think you should do an ad to your page , boost your page or like , do a Facebook ad to your page . And I didn't want to do that because it takes a long time and I know that boosted posts don't really work . But I really like that post that I did on my personal page that just shared a lot of my Feng Shui tips .

So I boosted that post . I got a lot of likes and loves on that post . I got some likes and loves on the actual , the pictures within the post and I got two page likes . That was it . But remember , I wasn't really focusing .

I mean I was now paying attention , I had gotten a few likes but I wasn't really focusing on what I was doing and getting an end result . I was just like enjoying the fucking process . Hmm , having boosted a post in a long time since I was a Beachbody coach , that's interesting , let's see what's new .

Hmm , rarely post on my personal page and before I would have been really scared to , and now I just don't give a fuck because it's , you know , this next energy that I think is powerful . Do something next , do something next , don't worry about it . So I did that and then magic happened .

All of a sudden , in week three of this challenge , people started liking my page at rapid speed . When I would be posting in the evenings I was seeing four , five , six , seven new page likes . I almost doubled my Facebook business page in about a two week period . My boosted post was a long since gone .

I only boosted it for five days and I can see in my back end that I only ever got two page likes off of that boosted post . All of these new page likes were ones that were coming to me because of shares from someone else . They were organic things that were happening . They weren't paid for page likes . I wasn't paying for a page like .

I was paying for a boosted post just so that people would see what I was doing . I doubled my page without intending to do it . Sometimes we take on a goal and we focus so much on the end result and the end result that we think that we want to have . That's my point .

But we focus so much on it that we start to do the thing , we start to take action and when we don't see results in the first three days , we give up . This isn't working . I'm not going to do this . It must be the wrong method . I'm going to stop . I'm going to do something else . But what if we worked it until it worked ?

What if , instead of focusing on the result , we focused on the process ? We focused on success being every single day , when we show up for ourselves , like we said that we were going to , what happens when we work it till it works , without focusing on what the end result is , we find joy in the process .

And when we find joy , ease and flow in the process , that's when the results come .

No matter what goal you want to do , no matter what changes you want to make , no matter what you want to do in your life , if you focus on the process and the success in the process and even if you screw up , one day I want you to get back and go OK , but today I'm going to have success in the process .

Do that like next in energy OK , fucked up today Next and success being showing up for yourself , because I truly , truly believe that as long as you show up for yourself , the universe will show up for you . You will end up getting all and more or better than you ever imagined what you need to take action and stop thinking about making sure it's perfect .

Take action , do something now and just learn as you go , shift as you go and love the process while you're doing it . Thank you so much for listening . I hope you've had some laughs , maybe some ideas , and that you've been inspired to take some type of action toward the life you've always dreamed of .

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