I'm so glad that you're here . You are listening to what the fuck did she just say with your host ? That's me , sandra Priestly . I'm all about living our best life and finding our zone of brilliance and then removing the resistance so that we can go all in .
I say random , crazy shit , which is why I called this podcast the way that I did , and I really hate long drawn out intros . So let's fucking go . Years ago , one of my coaches , I okay back up the bus . I always believe that you need a coach . I think coaches help find your blind spots , help you to up level faster than you thought possible .
I think that we can sit in a space of I don't know like comfort , but it's a place that we don't really wanna be , and I think that coaches are an exceptional way of just getting your crap together , helping you see what , what's possible , and showing you the path to get there , holding you to the path to get there , showing you the path to get there ,
holding you to the path to get there . And so I always have a coach . I think that I have always . I've learned so much from so many of them , even if I hired a coach , and I think shit , that was a swing and a miss .
I'm always going to feel like there was something there that was pivotal Otherwise , like pivotal for me , life-changing for me , because otherwise I would not have been led there and I would not have been led to pay for that service , like I just believe so strongly that if I am led to them , there is a reason .
So I worked in this one , um , this one coach that I worked with . Her name was Carissa Johnson , and Carissa had her master's in counseling psychology and at the time I was going through I was , I was working through a significant trauma that I had experienced I felt like she was the best fit . I felt like she was a perfect fit .
I really , really , um , liked her vibe . I liked that she was at the time that she had this alter ego that she called the sassy savage , and she was like more rock than I was , but there was something about her that I just her , her energy , that I loved , and I love that she had the counseling background .
So one of the things that we really worked on was the wording that I was using , the wording that I was speaking , and then also followed that with the things that I was thinking , and so I would get on a phone call with her . We would meet every two weeks , I believe it was and I would get on a phone call with her and she'd say how are you doing ?
And I would say , well , I'm really struggling with . And she would go what , what , what , what , shit , struggling , not an empowering word , word . Now here's the thing , even though I learned so much from her and it made me so hyper aware of what I was thinking and saying , but I needed it in this moment .
I needed her to stop me in my tracks and say whoa , whoa , whoa , whoa , whoa . You said what ? One of the times I will never forget I was telling her this story , my husband and I were talking our kids .
Our kids were a little bit younger and they had phones and we , they were always on Snapchat and Instagram , and so we called it snap crap and Insta shit . So I'm telling her this story and she says , pardon me , you said what , you call it what ? And I'm thinking it's hilarious . And I'm saying snap crap and Insta shit .
Right , because the kids were always on it . And she's like you do your business on Instagram . If you are talking about Instagram in a negative connotation , you're going to get back what you give out Like damn it , damn it . So it was really really good for her to point that out to me , and I really needed it .
This was probably five , six years ago , and so we played this game we . She gave me this task , and so we played this game . She gave me this task . If I said something that would be negative , had a negative connotation to it , I had to stop , drop and roll and say three things I was grateful for .
Now , this is similar to say something negative and now drop down and give me 10 , except for I was too lazy for that and thankfully she didn't think about that I would have massive arms though I mean it would . They would be very nice and they would not be flabby . But at the same time , it was really good because it really made me do a number of things .
Number one was I was very much aware of the negative things I was saying . It also flipped the energy from negative to positive when I had to go out of my way to find three things that I was grateful for . Like I mean , if I said , well , I'm really struggling , oh , shit , okay , I'm really struggling , shit , okay , I'm grateful I can work from home .
I'm grateful that I am able to travel to watch myself play football . I am grateful that my daughter is doing so well in school Like okay . And then I'd start talking again and I would say something negative , like and use a negative term .
And I'm'd start talking again and I would say something negative , like , use a negative term , and I'm like shit , okay , I'm grateful that I am in an environment where I can see Northern lights . I'm grateful for all of the clients that I have that fill my cup .
I'm grateful for all the friends that I have that I can speak to on this deep level , philosophical level . And I ended up just getting annoyed with myself for saying negative crap because I was never getting anywhere in a conversation , because I always had to stop and say three things that I was grateful for .
It became a good way to reprogram myself to gratitude , abundance , receiving and also I was annoyed at myself for saying something negative in the first fucking place because I didn't . It was like punishment saying things that I was grateful for and it reprogrammed me to really be aware and not even go there .
It reprogrammed me so that I was very much more aware of what I was saying . And then we went to what I was thinking . And now , even though I don't use this method per se , now if I was in a spot where I was very worried , where I was very negative , where I was surrounding myself with people who are very negative , I would .
I have so many of these ways to reprogram , to sit in awareness and reprogram . This is just one of them . If I felt like this would be the best for me , I definitely go back to it . So , if you're just starting out , if you're noticing , holy shit , I'm really negative . I have been in a negative space . I'm constantly gossiping .
I'm constantly I'm constantly gossiping . I'm constantly complaining . I'm constantly attracting people that complain all the time . Or I'm sitting and I'm in a good mood and I sit around them and they're complaining . So then I start complaining . I mean , just sit in awareness of it and then figure out what is it that I need to do ?
And maybe try this technique of say a negative word . Stop immediately and say three things that you're grateful of or grateful for . Also , send this podcast episode to your bestie , because I'm telling you if the two of you are sitting there going . Oh my gosh , I'm so . I need to lose weight . I am so fat . I am this .
I am that we need to stop complaining about our husbands or our kids or school or blah , blah , blah , whatever it is . Share this episode with your bestie . Commit right now and catch each other . Catch each other Like she caught me . Hire a coach and tell the coach okay , I am focused on reprogramming my negative crap . Let's go .
Thank you so much for listening . I hope you've had some laughs , maybe some ideas , and that you've been inspired to take some type of action toward the life you've always dreamed of . If you feel so called , I would love it if you would share with your besties and leave a review down below .
I look forward to bringing you along on this journey and I will see you in the next episode .