Didology coach podcast and just like that recap. Hello, Sarah. Hi, Krista. Hi, All right. So people really aren't liking this new season at all. They're not. And while I obviously I'm going to say it's, it's obviously it's not what it was, but I don't expect it to be. Yeah, yeah. I didn't expect it to be what it was. I'm finding what I like is I'm finding sort of the through ways and the threads. I love the the symbols and the analogies and the metaphors.
True. That's that's what I like. And this episode, I think had had a big one. So the episode starts off with Carrie meeting Lissette, her downstairs neighbor from her old apartment. And they're meeting for now, we all know between Lisette's style and her very drama fueled dating life, we all know Lisette is supposed to be a younger Carrie. Yeah, there's this great. I did a, my I did a recap on TikTok.
And I have this photo and it's a shot from season one or two, I think, where Carrie is down in the lobby of the building and she's at the staircase. And she's looking in the mirror of the staircase. And in the reflection is Lizette poking her head out from her door. So there's Carrie looking in the mirror, and she's seeing Lizette. I just liked it.
I love stuff like that. So they meet for drinks, and Lizette, who is a jewelry designer, gives Carrie this really beautiful necklace she designed that had the numbers to her old building on it. And Carrie loves it, of course. And Lizette is talking about modern dating and how terrible it is. And she's the only relationship she has with her phone is with her phone. Yeah. And she's saying things like, you must be so glad that you and Aidan met each other before all
this, right? So then Carrie goes home and she goes back to this, this, this apartment that's very old, right? And she is out in the garden, sort of idyllic looking garden, and out of nowhere, a bunch of rats come out from under a Bush. She freaks out and she has them come in and tear up everything from the garden. They have to do it all over again.
So we we see her in the in the episode, she's texting Aiden and she or she's thinking of texting him and she writes out this long text and then she's like, no, I'm not going to send this. I'm not going to do this. So because she wanted to tell him about the rats and she stops texting him, I think because she doesn't know if she's supposed to be doing this or not. She does. The boundaries really aren't clear, right? So somehow I don't know. She turns around. Aiden's there, Yeah.
I hated that. I hated the explanation too. Like oh I just slipped in while one of the while the workers was leaving. What? Right. That's scary. That's scary, Right. Right. So she's so thrilled. You know, whatever they hook up, he stays overnight. Wow, a whole night. And in the morning, they're in the kitchen and she's at her table and she's reading a newspaper, which I thought was really interesting. I thought it was great, sort of. Again, it's I think it was a symbol of something.
Maybe meant to demonstrate growth in her character because otherwise there there isn't any right other otherwise she's just lucky. I think it has to. I think it was there to be like, oh, she's not writing anymore because she's not just thinking about men anymore. Well, she is writing. I mean, she does sort of resume writing, Yeah. I didn't think anything could give me the ick more than the phone sex, but Carrie Bradshaw Historical fiction, it turns out.
Yeah, it's pretty bad. It's pretty bad. This was such a throwback to the Suffern episode too. It sort of. Was right, It sort of was, but I think. It's just a rat with a cuter. Outfit, right? I think what I interpreted the newspaper, right. So you've got her going, meeting, meeting Lizette, who is the younger version of her, and she has the necklace with her old apartment building on it. And she's texting Aiden or not texting Aiden and thinking twice
about it, doubting herself. And then she's in the kitchen. She's reading a newspaper. And what I see this as is this is Carrie very much struggling with letting go of the past of moving or transitioning into this. Not so much in every other aspect of her life, by the way. But let me I'm going to give you another example. So she hires this gardener who's looks like Tom Hardy, Hot as fuck, please. I guess he's coming back this
season, hopefully. And they're talking about the garden and what she's looking for. And he says, Carrie, I have one question that I ask all my clients. What is your vision for this garden? And she says, you know, I don't know. I liked it the way. I liked it the way it was before. Yeah, she's not just talking about the garden, she's talking about her and Aiden. Right, right. Well, and I think to some extent her her old apt.
I picked up a couple of instances this episode where it seemed like she was feeling nostalgic for her old place. Right. Yeah. She, I think, really is longing for her old life, not broke Carrie. She wants all the money, but she wants her old life. She wants her apartment, but more than anything she wants to date the Aiden from 20 years ago. Well. Yeah, he's obviously better. Right. And when they first got back together, they were, they were dating as though 20 years hadn't passed.
They were just picking up where things left off. And as we saw, Aiden pretty much forgot that he had three kids until one of them nearly died. And he had. What happened? I don't know. It just sounded like he was in. He was like 14. He got drunk, he was doing drugs and he crashed the truck. Yeah, he almost died. It was. It was bad. Oh, that he almost died. Well, he said he had a. Truck without almost died into a. Tree. Whatever, it doesn't matter. That's.
It doesn't matter. It doesn't matter. So Aiden gets that wake up call and he's thinking, OK, I've got to stay focused on my kids. And he can so effortlessly say, so wait for me for five years, right? Carrie wants to wants the Aiden who didn't have kids and who made her the priority. We all do. Right. But she's right. And she also doesn't like that she writes this, this kind of heartfelt text about why she wants this new table. You know, I'm thinking of looking at this table for our
house or our place. I don't know how she phrased it. And she sent you know, and it's you know, it's this and it's that. And this reminds me of you and this reminds me of me and this reminds me of us. And she sends him a picture of it. And when he replies, he just replies with a thumb down, thumbs down table, right? So this now that this is how their relationship and how they're communicating, she's like, wait, I want the aid and that wanted to talk about
everything, right? He doesn't want to do that anymore, right, because you're not his priority anymore because his life, both of your lives are at least his significantly changed. And I'm thinking, but carries didn't, right? Carries didn't. No, right? She just has more money. She just has more money. That's it carries. Life is still very, very much the same. Carrie is still very, very much the same. So I, I don't know, I liked the symbol and the symbol isn't
there. And I liked the analogy of the rats underneath, you know, in the garden where you think everything's look, this is this is so great, this is so amazing. But when you look underneath, it's not that great. There are rats, right? It's the same thing as her relationship with Aiden. On the surface, it looks, especially to outsiders, it looks like things are so great, but what's going on underneath isn't great. Like there really is trouble brewing.
Even know if it looks good to outsiders, right? I feel like Anthony, it was sort of like the, you know, the collective voice of the audience in the last episode, right? And her friends are pretty much just humoring her at this point. You know, they're in their mid 50s. Miranda just doesn't have the energy anymore to be like this is delulu. Get a grip. But also, now that we're moving to Miranda, I don't feel that Miranda. I think Miranda feels too out of
sorts. That's the other thing she probably feels like she doesn't have a right to. She doesn't. Have a right to have to be able to say wake up Carrie. Yeah, you know. He is bad for you. He is bad for you right after. Listen, one word, Che. That's it. That's all we have to say to Miranda to shut her the fuck up. So I don't think she's in this place where Miranda can dish out that kind of criticism. Her and Charlotte both, I think they both know this relation. This is not good.
And it could be Seema, but she's not doing it either. Yeah, Seema's too new is the problem. Right seem as too new. But it it really should be her. She's she's in a place to be the voice of reason. Now, in this episode, Miranda yet again shows that she's way more comfortable with people who are below her station, right? Because of the waiter. The waiter, Steve, was the bartender. Che was a comic.
It was interesting the age gap with the the server because that server was like, I don't know, clearly at least 20 years younger. And it kind of gave me the ick because if I saw a man hitting on a woman 20 years younger, that would give me the ick. Yeah. I care for it. Yeah. And I think the reason for that is they they needed someone relatively young in the role to play a wait, you know, a wait staff person. Well, I'm glad nothing came of it because. Right, but this is.
Yeah. But when she meets this, this BBC journalist, of course, she's all these excuses why? No, no, no, no, no, I can't, you know, work and this and that because she cannot be with someone on her level. She can't, Miranda. I think I think this I so a criticism that I've been seeing that people don't like of this season is that people feel like Miranda has gotten lost. Like basically Miranda got rewritten as Cynthia Nixon, which should I think it's just she kind of did.
So there's there's some truth to that critique for sure, but I think it does make sense for her character, you know, coming out in midlife, like right how how would she know how to be a lesbian? And not only, not only that, so coming out and exploring her sexual identity interface, changing jobs, changing careers, going back to school, going through a divorce, that's a lot it is.
People are really under underplaying this is this is just a whirlwind for her and she's hanging on for dear life. Right. I think that's coming through in the. In the I think so too. But people, because they're so attached to the Ridge characters, they're not allowing these characters to change. True, they're not. They want them all to be.
And I and I do. I feel like you know those friends that when you start being really happy and successful, whatever they try to, they try to drag you back down. I'm not familiar with that. I've never been happy or successful but. Whatever. You know what I mean. When right like they don't want you to be happy because they need you to be miserable like them, They don't or. Whatever. Or it's a competition. Or you know, right? Yeah, they don't want to see
these women happy at all. They don't. They don't. No, I, I saw, I don't remember if it was a video or something I read because I've, I've been, you know, partaking of various media and other people's review of the show. But somewhere I encountered the idea that, oh, Carrie just needs to be a cougar. She needs to go after a young guy and just have fun. And I was like that. I don't think that's it. I don't, I don't think that's the way either.
I don't think Aiden's it. I don't think Cougar's it. I think Carrie has kind of been written into a corner. She has. She has. Simply because we had to kill off big. Well, they didn't have what they chose to at first because the allegations came out afterwards. Yeah, but we we had to kill off big. Right. He said he wasn't going to do it. He wasn't going to do the show. He had to.
They had to kill him off. He'd do with the the premiere, but that was it. They want Carrie to be the single Carrie who was dating, right? And I think this is the other thing. Yeah, it was fun watching Carrie date, but it was more interesting. I think we learned more about her when she was in relationships. For sure, we learned a lot. Well, and most of the time she was dating, she was still preoccupied with Meg anyway. Right, right. And I just feel as though they,
I don't, I don't know. I don't know. Because part of me wonders if Samantha was was part of this series, right? Yeah. Would you still hate it? I don't think they would. I don't. It's so hard to tell because Seema obviously was brought in to bring a similar energy and I really do enjoy her character. I love her character. But at the same time, she's too new to the friend group to be
the voice of reason, right? To tell Carrie she's being delulu, Like she can't reign anybody in like Samantha would have been able to. Right. And I the other thing Samantha would have brought is she was a little bit older and I think that would have been great. To see, I think so too, To see a really vibrant woman in her sick. Yeah, especially I think it was well, yeah, it must have been last season. I think it was the first episode last season.
It was basically the acknowledgement of 20 years passing episode, right? Where Miranda, Miranda was like critiquing. Sorry. Charlotte was like, oh, Miranda, why, you know, why don't you go back to red? And Miranda was like, I'm just trying to age gracefully, you know. Do you remember that conversation? Terry was like. Episode. Yeah. Yeah, but I'm doing it right. Right. That one. I just feel like Samantha would have brought so much to that
conversation. But anyway, anyway, it's yeah, it's hard to know what what we'd be talking about if Samantha was here. I do miss her though. I do, and I also wish that they would do more scenes with one or both of the new cast members. Right. We're not like we're not using them at all. But they're they're, they're having their own storylines, which is great. But I want to see them together. I want to see we're missing that too. We're missing that. Right.
Well, it's the whole initial critique, right, that there were, there was no diversity in the show. There still isn't because the show aren't interacting. Right. Well, except for Charlotte and Lisa True and Carrie and Seema. But there's something very odd about how these women of color are not being incorporated into this, Yeah, this, this clique. They don't go to the branches right? Right.
And I, I wish they would. But now that we're talking about Sema again, loved this storyline because so. Odd. I don't think it was. OK, I was totally thrown off by Sid, because remember, Sid was the surprise lesbian that went to the baseball game with Miranda in season 1. Mm hmm. Sid. Not Sidney. Sid. I don't, I think they used Sid and Sidney interchangeably, OK, in that episode. OK. In any case, it was the same
name. And so when Sidney popped up in this episode, I was like, is this supposed to be that Sidney, or did the writers really not like they didn't have a Jordan or a Taylor? They've never heard another name that could have been mistaken. It was a crazy choice.
I didn't to go with Sid again. Sydney and Sid because I think they referred to her as Sid. But again, in any case, I loved this storyline or the subplot because I think it resonated with a lot of single women, especially single women over 40, where it's a woman very confident, knows what she wants, has high standards, and everybody around her sees that as sees her as the problem. Yeah, well, I think we all knew that guy wasn't coming back from the bathroom, right?
Right, right. That was that was obvious. And when she first meets the matchmaker, the matchmaker tells her you have to change your your presentation. You know, these metallics, they're cold and the animal prints make you look predatory and things like that. But when the matchmaker does to Seema what Seema had just done to all the men on her date, which is read them, and she reads her so well, Seema kind of goes, maybe I maybe I should.
Maybe this woman does know me. Maybe this woman, this stranger that I've known for 3 1/2 minutes, knows me better than I know me. Love that character. The matchmaker, yeah, I did too. I did too. I'd love to see her come back with Mary. I don't care. Bring all these people back, please, because. And, and I think that's what's so weird is the day players, the guest stars, yeah, are a lot more interesting than the right the main character. Kristen Schaal was in this episode.
She was great. Kristen Schaal. The college admissions counselor. Yes, who? Where is she from? She's in everything. She's she's in everything. She's in the Last man on Earth. She's the voice of Louise and Bob's Burgers. She's been a whole bunch of stuff. So Seema agrees to make these changes and wear pastels and straighten her hair. If I see that again, I'll tell you again. Really, I can't stand when they straighten woman's hair to try to make them seem more approachable or less sema
already. Has like pretty straight hair, like it's got some bend to it, but it's like it doesn't have curly hair. It's very. Body. No. It's a lot of body too, right? They made everything about her smaller, including her hair. That's how I look at it. They wanted her to shrink, They really did. She looked basically the same but in. I don't think she looked the same at all.
Not the same, not at all. And so she shows up to this date where this guy is, you know, he's he's really enjoying Seema. And so Seema decides to tell him, well, this isn't really me. I'm a lot more this and that. And he excuses himself to go to the bathroom after he orders dessert. And in comes the matchmaker, because she was watching. Yeah. And she's saying, Seema, your date, he he's gone, he left, he's not coming back.
And again, the matchmaker is trying to make Seema feel as though see, you know you lost a good one because basically, you were you. When women hear enough times, maybe you're too picky. It's near impossible not to start wondering. Well, maybe I am. It's near impossible not to start second guessing yourself. For. Sure, right, and. There's a, there's an inclination toward humility, I think, right in most decent people, right? Most of us don't come out of the womb like I'm flawless, right?
We all kind of realize like we're a work in progress. So I think it's good to be open to hearing areas of potential improvement. So I I get why she was open to it. Right. In theory. In theory. Until she met the guy and then obviously it wasn't, you know? But what the reason why women are told they're too picky is it's again, this is being told to women who typically have their shit together and are independent and confident and
don't need male validation. And So what does society have to do? But they have to take her down a peg and they have to blame her because that's what we're responsible for, everything. Well, that and doesn't Miranda say in episode one season 1 like they don't know what to do with us? Right. Well, she's saying that about married women. OK, they don't know what to do. Whatever, I think the matchmaker probably was married, right? Team marriage, anyway.
Right, they don't. They don't know what to do with us. Yeah, they don't know. Yeah, they don't know what to do with us, whether they should feel sorry for us, envious, like whether we're just there for their entertainment. Correct. Yeah, Seema, of course, tells the the matchmaker to go fuck herself. And she goes off and she, you know, remains herself. She goes back to her old who she was. She remembers who she was because for a second she allowed this dipshit to tell her who she
was. Right. So we love. We love. AI, which I think we all would have, we all would have done right. We all would have been like, I'll try something new. Right, right. Tried it and she didn't like it. That's it. Simple. So and then we come to Charlotte. I'm so bored by Charlotte's whole life. I'm so she is your stereotypical Upper East Side mother. What's happening with rock? Are they as rock? Is the rock like not transitioning anymore? Is Rocky transitioning?
I feel. Like I don't think, I don't know that rock was ever transitioning. Rock was just non binary. OK, Rock was not. Trans OK. Rock just went. It was such a it was such a central part of Charlotte's story. Right. And I thought it was an interesting part of the story. It was. I like when they throw things at Charlotte that throw her off. Kilter. So I guess this, yeah, I guess this time the thing that's trying to throw her off Kilter is supposed to be like Lily's
future prospects, I guess. Maybe I don't, I don't know. This whole thing with the college counselor, first of all, first of all, it's so unlike Charlotte and Lisa not to already have that woman's phone number, right? Have their children working with her. I'm to believe that Charlotte and Lisa were both like, we'll be nonchalant about this, it'll be fine. Absolutely. You wouldn't. Neither of them would. Correct, correct.
They've been planning for this since their kids were in preschool, not even kindergarten. Right. So that whole storyline, I can't, dude. I can't. These are accomplished, educated women, and when it comes to being parents, they become absolute buffoons. That's what I can't stand. It's Buffoon. I just think it, it was an unbelievable plot point to be like, Oh yeah, suddenly they're very hardcore. It's just not true to their characters, right?
They're both very intense all the time, especially about their children. Yeah, yeah, it didn't make sense. And how about the fact that she was perfectly OK with the daughter making out with the ballet dancer? Yeah. Are we going to address that age gap? I. Think he's only 18? Maybe. I think he's only 18, but it's going to turn. Out yeah, she would, but she would be fine with the making out right because last season she bought Lily condoms to yeah, pretty.
Yeah, maybe, I don't know, maybe in the wake. Of you said people don't like the season, it's it's pretty, I don't know, I'm pretty nonplussed about it. Like, it definitely could be worse. Obviously it could be better. But can we all just count our blessings and just be thankful we haven't seen Brady yet? Thank God. Or Steve, and I love that character, but they made them in so I mean, they just made the
men so useless. You know what, I would bet that we're going to see Steve this season, but it's it's going to be like we saw Steve the last time he and Miranda broke up when he was dating that woman from Long Island. The Tacky 1. Debbie. Yeah, yeah, yeah. He's going to be with somebody tacky for sure. Right. And had so happy. I hope so. Yeah. I hope so because I I feel for him. I really do.
Yeah, so to to sort of close off Charlotte and Lisa's story, it was just a dumb storyline and I can't stand. And The thing is, didn't didn't she return to work? Thank you. We did this whole thing about getting Charlotte a job, right? And this whole bit about like, oh, we got to get over eats because mom's not around for dinner. Like, why aren't you ever at work then? Right. And when you are. Look at this bakery. What day is it? Go to work.
When you are at work, why are you looking up this college fucking recruitment or whatever she does? Why aren't you, you know, working, right? Because you're a very smart person and you're very accomplished and this was your dream job and you're excellent at it. So do it right. Why even at your job? Why are you being mom? I mean, it's the same with Lisa, right? I love Lisa do. I do. But I also love that when she's working, she's working. Fuck. Y'all go find your own lacrosse
stick. You go find your own tie. I've got stuff to do. You plan your own goddamn fundraiser? I have stuff to do. But I have to assume that all of these interjections, right? All of the ways that life breaks in, I have to assume we're saying that with Charlotte and Lisa and their kids, because that is what happens to mothers who work. They're, they're always kind of like 1 foot in one foot out, you know? Yeah, yeah. OK. That's fair. That's fair. I just wish we could see
Charlotte work. I just who? Otherwise, what was the point? Just show me more, show me more than her just being a mother. And here's the thing, if that's what she wanted right? Remember the cup with mug with trays name on it, which I have figured out years later. The fact that that it was Trey's name on the mug and not hers was how she has lost her identity and her identity became Trey at this marriage. I didn't pick up on that when I when I when that first aired many years ago.
But she chose, we know that she wanted to be a mother. She wanted to raise these kids, which was great if that's. What she chooses. Phenomenal, right? Right, I choose my choice. I choose my choice. I choose my choice. You choose your choice again. Oh wait, hold on. What about the scene when they're at the restaurant because Miranda wants to ask the the waitress out and and Carrie kind of goes, wait a minute, you should have what? What does she say?
It's something that alludes to the bullshit bagels. It did. Yes, it. Really. Did it? Really. Did and for Miranda not to call back. I was pretty disappointed. Right, right. We see there's so many opportunities here, but Charlotte going back to work or not working, whatever, it's great that that's what she chose. But we saw her last year say, hey, I don't want to be just this anymore. This was fine for a while, but I'm not happy being just this
anymore. Play it about Charlotte and Harry both in this reboot is like they're just not giving them any story. They're not. They're like this. I swear to God, if the only conflict in Charlotte's life is Lily doesn't get into her first choice Ivy, I'm not watching this show anymore. Correct, correct. One of them has to experience a problem, right? Or there is no show. I'm sure they will in later episodes, but that is the end of this episode. You know what would have been
what would have been great? Actually A Lily abortion episode with Brady. Jesus Christ. Brady's Oh my God. Listen, writers, get to it. Come on, get on it. That's a freebie. You're welcome. Right, that's a freebie. You're welcome. Get all right, Get to yeah, Lily and Brady back together, as much as I hate Brady. Right. So make sure you're subscribing to our Patreon at patreon.com/datology Coach to get all of the behind the scenes content.
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