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Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

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Love and dating can be messy—so let’s talk about it! On this multi-award-winning podcast, comedian Nicole Byer explores romantic highs, lows, and all the juicy stuff in between, alongside comedians, experts, and sometimes an ex or two. New episodes every Friday!

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Episodes

Farting in Bed with your Lover (w/ Sudi Green)

Comedian and writer Sudi Green ( SNL, I Love That For You ) joins Nicole to discuss their awkward encounters with celebrities, having baby fever, and farting in bed with your lover. Sudi shares a horrible hookup story where her partner was into "intense sex", but failed to preform. Nicole realizes she's horny for magic. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken...

Jun 03, 20221 hr 5 minEp. 241

Quit your Job (w/ Kornbread "The Snack" Jeté)

Drag queen and reigning Miss Congeniality Kornbread "The Snack" Jeté ( RuPaul's Drag Race S14 ) joins Nicole for a live episode, where they discuss her favorite kind of dick, the bad jobs she had before drag, and the men in prison who are contacting Nicole. Then, they answer audience questions about their favorite sex toys, the weirdest compliment they've gotten on a date, and blowjob tips. For more drag queen interviews, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag Black Lives Ma...

May 27, 20221 hr 9 minEp. 240

Keeping Relationships Off Social Media (w/ Raja Gemini)

Drag queen icon Raja Gemini (winner of Drag Race S3) joins Nicole to discuss the stress of competing in the first all-winners season of RuPaul's Drag Race All Stars , why she keep her relationship off social media, and shares all of her firsts - first kiss, handjob, and relationship. Plus, the story of why they got fired from MAC cosmetics, and how meeting RuPaul lead them to a job working on America's Next Top Model . Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different thin...

May 20, 20221 hr 1 minEp. 239

Coping With Anxiety (w/ Taylor Tomlinson)

Comedian Taylor Tomlinson chats with Nicole about using Instagram to document her panic attacks, coping with anxiety, and the time she was accused for being a catfish. Meanwhile, Nicole slept with a man who thought Black people were aliens. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's b...

May 13, 202256 minEp. 238

Married, but Living Apart (w/ Judy Gold)

The hilarious Judy Gold joins Nicole to chat about the challenges of dating a therapist, her experience being selected as one of Time Out New York's Most Eligible Singles , the ethics of writing jokes about your partner, and the benefits of being married but living apart. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer New ...

May 06, 20221 hr 9 minEp. 237

Do Men Not Like Funny Women? (w/ Drew Lynch)

Comedian and friend Drew Lynch ( America's Got Talent S10 ) chats with Nicole about a harrowing bee incident they had together on tour, managing high levels of anxiety, and why female comics have such a hard time attracting men. Plus, Nicole's horny for emo Batman, and explains why she loves giving blowjobs so much. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twi...

Apr 29, 20221 hr 15 minEp. 236

Left for my Best Friend (w/ Tika Sumpter)

Actress Tika Sumpter ( Sonic The Hedgehog 1 & 2 ) recounts the times that boys have left her for her best friend, losing her expensive engagement ring, and meeting her partner on a Tyler Perry set. Nicole realizes she has abandonment issues, and campaigns to be cast in Sonic the Hedgehog 3. We're running low on dirty messages! Write Nicole something nasty and send it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list o...

Apr 22, 20221 hr 2 minEp. 235

Bisexual Erasure (w/ Stephanie Beatriz)

Actress Stephanie Beatriz ( Encanto, Brooklyn Nine-Nine ) chats with Nicole about leaving a 9 year relationship, dealing with bisexual erasure, and explains the scam behind the cult-like Twin Flames dating platform. Nicole recounts her wild experience hosting the Critics' Choice awards. Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Want to leave Nicole a dirty message? Submit it all to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated ...

Apr 15, 20221 hr 8 minEp. 234

How to have a WAP (w/ Donnell Rawlings)

Comedian Donnell Rawlings ( Chappelle's Show, Winning Time: The Rise of the Lakers Dynasty ) chats with Nicole about the powers of having a WAP, why successful Black women have the hardest time in relationships, being a throat goat, and hottest locations to meet new people. Meanwhile, Nicole gets her tiddy caught in a car window. Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Want to leave Nicole a dirty message? Submit it all to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Bl...

Apr 08, 20221 hr 4 minEp. 233

The System is Broken (w/ Lilly Singh)

Comedian, actress and YouTuber star Lilly Singh ( A Little Late with Lilly Singh, Dollface ) chats with Nicole about April Fools' Day pranks, setting up a vision board in her shower, her experience hosting a late night talk show, and offers her tip for getting dates on Raya. Meanwhile, Nicole tries to apply to the Soho house. Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Want to leave Nicole a dirty message? Submit it all to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Black ...

Apr 01, 202256 minEp. 232

Nicole gets a special delivery of hot gossip

If there’s anyone who loves mindless gossip more than Nicole, it’s her good pal Solomon Georgio. In fact, it’s the subject of his brand new podcast from Team Coco, The Juice ! On The Juice, Solomon sources only the finest gossip stories about regular folks doing crazy s**t — no celeb headlines here! Each week he’s joined by hilarious guests such as Conan, Ira Madison III, Atsuko Okatsuka, and yes, Nicole herself! Just listen as she and Solomon dig into the wild stories that fans send in on the d...

Mar 31, 20229 minEp. 231

Mistaken Identity (w/ Raven Goodwin)

Actress Raven Goodwin ( Single Black Female, SMILF ) shares her worst first dates, the adorable story behind her picnic proposal, what she planned for her bachelorette party, and how dating long distance helped strengthen the love in her relationship. Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Want to leave Nicole a dirty message? Submit it all to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can suppo...

Mar 25, 202258 minEp. 230

Twin Divorce (w/ Darcey and Stacey Silva)

Oh my god, it’s happening. Twins Darcey and Stacy Silva (TLC's 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days, Darcey & Stacey ) are here! They chat with Nicole about how they were separately cast on the reality tv show, getting divorced on the same day, their plastic surgery journey, and TOM! Darcey also announces her split with Georgi, and Stacey shares details about the model who snuck into her husband's DMs in order to get onto the show. Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Want to leave Nicole a ...

Mar 18, 202259 minEp. 229

Granny Chaser (w/ Tenderoni)

Drag king Tenderoni (Winner of The Drag Queen of the Year Pageant 2021) chats with Nicole about why they love older women, the challenges of performing as a drag king on your period, the scandalous story behind how they met their 12-year partner, and shares tips on how to be a flirt. Plus, Nicole reads some cringey dating app pick-up lines she's received. Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Want to leave Nicole a dirty message? Submit it all to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance ...

Mar 11, 20221 hrEp. 228

Married in a Hospital (w/ Danielle Pinnock)

Danielle Pinnock ( Young Sheldon, Ghosts ) and Nicole get mistaken for each other... a lot. The comedian and writer chats with Nicole about the different actors they get confused for, the grueling process of booking an acting job, and the very strange story behind how Danielle's wedding ended up taking place in a hospital ICU. Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Want to leave Nicole a dirty message? Submit it all to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Black...

Mar 04, 20221 hr 5 minEp. 227

Sensitive Boys (w/ Jackie Fabulous)

Comedian and motivational speaker Jackie Fabulous joins Nicole to chat about negotiating prenups, how to gently give direction during sex, finding the funny in your flaws, and how to appear more desirable by looking less horny. Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your stories, questions, or dirty pick-up lines to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ...

Feb 25, 202254 minEp. 226

Love Exhibited (w/ Moses Storm)

Comedian Moses Storm lived in an art exhibit where he would sleep, shit, and had sex in front of an audience. He navigates trying to find love while exhibiting, and being raided by Operation Fashion Police. Moses and Nicole also talk about shooting sex scenes for TV, preparing bits for dates, and the hookup culture on Birthright. Check out Moses's new comedy special, Trash White now on HBO Max! Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your stories, qu...

Feb 18, 20221 hr 13 minEp. 225

Dick Tricks (w/ Shalita Grant)

Actress Shalita Grant ( You , NCIS: New Orleans ) talks to Nicole about her life dating an MMA fighter, her straight sex phrase, the moment she realized she was a natural at lesbian sex, and how her interest in polygamous relationships lead to her love of pole dancing. Nicole shares her blowjob trick that works every time. Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your stories, questions, or dirty pick-up lines to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for ...

Feb 11, 20221 hr 12 minEp. 224

Lesbianity (w/ Gina Yashere)

Comedian Gina Yashere ( The Daily Show, Bob Hearts Abishola ) chats with Nicole about the adorable meet-cute story behind meeting her girlfriend at a women's festival. She also discusses the process behind working with Chuck Lorre to co-create the sitcom Bob Hearts Abishola, her non-confrontation approach to hiring a diverse writers' room, and how Different Strokes inspired her dream to come to America. Plus, Gina explains why her birthmark is a sign that she's a reincarnation of her grandmother...

Feb 04, 202257 minEp. 223

Cumbucha (w/ Lamorne Morris)

Actor and comedian Lamorne Morris ( New Girl, Woke) is here! Lamorne teaches Nicole about the importance of playing hard to get, and how to act unavailable to attract a man. They read a listener's story about a date who ditched them at the bar to go buy wet wipes and take a shit. Plus, is TikTok now the hottest new app to find a relationship? Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your stories, questions, or dirty pick-up lines to whywontyoudatemepo...

Jan 28, 20221 hr 2 minEp. 222

How to Make a Man Commit (w/ Abbi Jacobson)

Comedian and actress Abbi Jacobson ( Broad City, The Mitchells vs the Machines ) and Nicole go over a list of ways to make a man commit - is the advice solid or is it all just mind games? Plus, Abbi shares how she met her co-star Ilana Glazer, and their combined failure trying to ask out men over Facebook. She also shares her Raya success story, and her empowering message she sends when asking someone out. Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your...

Jan 21, 20221 hr 9 minEp. 221

Throwing Shade (w/ Bianca Del Rio)

Drag queen icon Bianca Del Rio (winner of Drag Race S6 ) joins Nicole to chat about the challenges of finding a partner who fits with your lifestyle, the smart system behind her meet-and-greets, getting reported on Grindr, shares secrets behind her impeccable wig lines, and throws lots of shade in between. It's a real good time - get into it! For more drag queen interviews, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag Check out our best episodes of 2021! Listen at teamcoco.com/dat...

Jan 14, 20221 hr 1 minEp. 220

Hot Singles In Your Area (w/ Chelsea Peretti)

Comedian and actress Chelsea Peretti ( Brooklyn Nine-Nine, Sing 2 ) chats with Nicole about the best places you can go to meet singles, strong pick-up lines, and how she met husband Jordan Peele through a DM. Check out our best episodes of 2021! Listen at teamcoco.com/dateme2021 Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer New Merch Store! podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://...

Jan 07, 20221 hr 10 minEp. 219

Relationship Deal Breakers (w/ Nina West)

Drag queen Nina West ( Drag Race S11, Hairspray ) is just as tragically single as Nicole. They commiserate over the single life, talk about how Nina’s life drastically changed after Drag Race , the most annoying responses to get on dating apps, and absolute deal breakers in a relationship. Originally recorded May 25th, 2021. Our Best of 2021 list is here! Listen to top episodes you voted for at teamcoco.com/dateme2021 Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can s...

Dec 31, 20211 hr 19 minEp. 218

Naming Your Body Parts (w/ Heidi N Closet)

Drag queen Heidi N Closet ( RuPaul's Drag Race S12 ) chats with Nicole about how her dating life changed after Drag Race, the kinky things she's introduced in the bedroom, the various names she's given all of her body parts, and lady glory holes. Plus, they answer all of your questions about Valentine's day - the best food to eat, their worst Valentine's day, and their dream hookup. Originally recorded February 12th, 2021. Our Best of 2021 list is here! Listen to top episodes you voted for at te...

Dec 24, 20211 hr 7 minEp. 217

Raw, Unadulterated Fun (w/ D'Arcy Carden)

Friend, actress, and comedian D’Arcy Carden ( The Good Place , Barry ) joins Nicole live for some raw, unadulterated fun! They check in on how they've been handling the pandemie, the adorable details behind D'Arcy's 15 year relationship, microdosing on shrooms, and oh boy really so much more. We had a big teeheehee. Originally recorded January 6th, 2021. Today is the last day to vote for our Fan Favs list! Vote for your favorite pod episodes at teamcoco.com/datemevote Watch Nicole's new Netflix ...

Dec 17, 20211 hr 22 minEp. 216

The Nicest Dick I've Ever Seen (w/ Naomi Smalls)

The holidays are here! As a gift, we're releasing the livestreamed episodes from behind the paywall! On today's episode, drag queen Naomi Smalls ( RuPaul's Drag Race S8, All-Stars S4 ) joins Nicole to talk about her experience being a sheep farmer, how she navigated backlash from the Drag Race fandom, and the nicest dicks they've ever seen. Plus, Naomi and Nicole answer your questions about the best food to eat before and after sex, their most awkward hookup stories, and the weirdest place they'...

Dec 10, 20211 hr 30 minEp. 215

My Dominatrix Roommate (w/ Joyelle Nicole Johnson)

Comedian Joyelle Nicole Johnson lived with a dominatrix. She talks about the type of clients that would visit her apartment, and the kinky 'services' she was offered. Plus, she shares how she met her husband at a funeral, making a 'dessert room' for a wedding, and the importance of couples therapy in any relationship. Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your stories, questions, or dirty pick-up lines to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a cha...

Dec 03, 202159 minEp. 214

Best Relationship Ever! (w/ Jimmy O. Yang)

Comedian and actor Jimmy O. Yang ( Silicon Valley, Love Hard ) joins Nicole to tell the story of how he met his girlfriend, discusses at what point does a relationship become serious, and suggests Nicole change the name of the podcast in order to better manifest a partner. Jimmy gives acting tips and shares what he would teach in his 'practical acting' course, and Nicole's excited to have started watching The Office. Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. ...

Nov 26, 202156 minEp. 213

Kidnapped and On the Run (w/ Aida Rodriguez)

Comedian Aida Rodriguez was kidnapped twice as a child. She describes her time on the run with a murderer, and how she uses her stand-up comedy to process her traumas. They also discuss dating red flags to look out for, Nicole's love for a serial killer, plus a story from a listener who dated a sock-sniffing Trump supporter. Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your stories or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it ...

Nov 19, 202159 minEp. 212
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