Comedian Patti Harrison ( Shrill , Search Party ) joins Nicole to chat about 90 Day Fiancé, issues with casting in today's media, and advocates for the well-being of child actors. Plus, they discuss their love for the Fast & Furious franchise, Patti shares the details of her childhood Vin Diesel sex dream, and Nicole shepherds Patti into trash television. Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co . Follow Nicole Bye...
Nov 06, 2020•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 158
Comedian Mitra Jouhari ( Big Mouth , Three Busy Debras, host of Urgent Care ) joins Nicole to discuss missing malls, the horrors of dating in high school, awkward Zoom auditions, and reminisce about their improv days in NY. Plus, Mitra talks about how she's providing hygiene kits to the unhoused, and how you can support your local community help organizations. Donate to Resisterhood LA here . Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesma...
Oct 30, 2020•55 min•Ep. 157
Dating coach Damona Hoffman (A&E Network's #BlackLove , A Question of Love ) is here to dish some professional advice. She shares tips for video-dating, setting up your dating app profile, how to stay sane with your partner in lockdown, and so much more! Plus, a conversation on racial bias in dating, navigating interracial relationships, and the struggle of in-person communication. Check out Damona's dating podcast: Dates & Mates Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources ...
Oct 23, 2020•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 156
Writer and podcaster Nichole Perkins ( Thirst Aid Kit ) joins Nicole to discuss setting boundaries in your casual relationships, dealing with thirsty groupies, and, can you get COVID from your pussy? Plus Nicole writes a letter to her dream man, and is shopping for a $600 sex machine. Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co . Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Facebook: w...
Oct 16, 2020•51 min•Ep. 155
Comedian and actress Sydnee Washington ( Broad City, Gayme Show ) joins Nicole to discuss feel-good foods to eat when you're sad, their lowest points in life, finding love on Instagram, and setting boundaries with toxic family members. Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co . Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Facebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedy Buy Merch: ...
Oct 09, 2020•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 154
It's our longest episode ever! Comedian Yassir Lester ( Black Monday, Duncanville ) joins Nicole to discuss sex protocol for a COVID era, reconnecting with old flings, body modifications, Yassir's Jersey Mike's tweet , and a list of signs that a man is into you. Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co . Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Facebook: www.facebook.com/nicoleb...
Oct 02, 2020•1 hr 41 min•Ep. 153
The incredibly funny Yamaneika Saunders (Broad City, Inside Amy Schumer) joins Nicole to discuss comedy, following her mom's love for stand-up, her defense for humor about people with disabilities, and the depths of racism in our society. After the break, Yamaneika discusses breaking up in the pandemic, and her plan to freeze her eggs. Trigger Warning : My guest misgenders a person in a retelling of a story and I didn't correct them and I’m sorry to those who listened and were offended. Support ...
Sep 25, 2020•1 hr 9 min•Ep. 152
Drag queen Latrice Royale ( RuPaul's Drag Race, RuPaul's Drag Race All Stars) joins Nicole for a good teeheehee. She discusses getting into drag on a dare, writing on AJ and the Queen , meeting their husband Chris at a meet & greet, and the story behind their Chicago pride festival proposal. Check out Latrice's podcast: The Chop . Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co . Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicole...
Sep 18, 2020•1 hr•Ep. 151
Comedian and writer Dewayne Perkins (Brooklyn Nine-Nine, The Break with Michelle Wolf) joins Nicole to talk about getting back together with his ex, the importance of checking in with your partner, and how America has failed everyone. They also get into the systemic racism present in writers' rooms, and how to turn the thought of death into something positive. Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co . Follow Nicole By...
Sep 11, 2020•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 150
Comedian Sam Jay (writer at SNL) discusses how she met her girlfriend, the influence of wealth in a relationship, and the difference between flirting with men and women. Sam teaches Nicole about bad bitch energy, and how she developed her "lady game". Plus, why aren't interviewers asking White people about #BLM? Check out Sam Jay's special on Netflix: netflix.com/title/81078802 Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co ...
Sep 04, 2020•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 149
Ziwe (writer for Desus & Mero) and Nicole chat about being horn'd up, what they've been crying over, and are trying to learn to love what they see in the mirror. Nicole's back on the apps, where it seems like performative activism is the growing trend in dating bios. On the plus side, Nicole's been getting treated better on dating apps since the #BLM protests. Oh boy, life is wild and there's lots to unpack in this one. Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to he...
Aug 28, 2020•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 148
Writer and actress Amber Ruffin (Late Night with Seth Meyers, A Black Lady Sketch Show) chats with Nicole about the weight of having to discuss politics on Late Night , how they can make racism funny, and what the upcoming Zoom Emmy awards will be like. Plus, Amber helps write some Hinge messages, and Nicole challenges white people to come up with a good slave joke. Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co . Follow Nic...
Aug 21, 2020•56 min•Ep. 147
Gabby Sidibe ( Precious, American Horror Story, Empire ) joins Nicole to discuss the problematic expectation to have to code switch at work, why Black women are often dealbreakers for Black men, and the crazy story behind dating a gay man for 3 years. Plus, they chat about watching 90 Day Fiancé in quarantine, and how they get mistaken for each other all the time. Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co . Follow Nicol...
Aug 14, 2020•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 146
Oh boy this is a juicy one. Author Roxane Gay ( Bad Feminist, Hunger ) joins Nicole to discuss their experiences with institutional racism, dealing with fatphobia in interviews, and how she treated school like a videogame. Then, Roxane shares the story behind eloping, how quarantine is testing the strength of relationships everywhere, and how her wife woo'd her through podcasting. Be an active ally. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co . Foll...
Aug 07, 2020•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 145
'Do you want to be an active ally, or do you just want to say that out loud? ' Jeffrey Bowyer-Chapman (Judge/host on Canada's Drag Race, Unreal ) joins Nicole to unpack racial traumas from childhood, discuss the systematic racism in society, and rise in performative allies instead of active ones. After the break, Nicole shares her experience finding love at a Lassens. Be an active ally. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co . Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter:&...
Jul 31, 2020•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 144
Actress/comedian Ele Woods (The Good Place, CollegeHumor) shares her experiences being White-passing, and how she's using it for good. Her and Nicole discuss rollerblading and sewing in quarantine, and argue why 2020 is actually a good year. Plus, Nicole attends a virtual strip show, and teaches a 12 year old it's OK to pole dance. Support Black Lives Matter . For a list of resources and places to donate check here: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/ Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: ...
Jul 24, 2020•57 min•Ep. 143
Drag queen The Vixen ( Rupaul's Drag Race S10, host of Black Girl Magic ) chats about calling out microaggressions on Drag Race, the type of hate mail they receive, and how appearing on the show lead to an amicable break in their relationship. Plus, they share the secret to flirting (which they learned working at Olive Garden), the fun of having a 'Weekend Boyfriend', and sleeping with someone just for the story. Also, Nicole needs to know the CDC's guidelines on doggy style. What's the safest w...
Jul 17, 2020•51 min•Ep. 142
"I was just looking for butthole. And then wrapped around the butthole was a really nice, young, Jewish man." Bob the Drag Queen (winner of RuPaul's Drag Race S8 ) chats about systematic racism, his two partners, and the confusing social construct of dating, and so much more. Plus, Bob shares some wildly embarrassing hookup stories involving race chasers, and offers Nicole a very interesting dating proposition. For more drag queens on Why Won't You Date Me, check out our episode playlist on Spot...
Jul 10, 2020•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 141
Actress and comedian Santina Muha (One Day at a Time, Curb Your Enthusiasm) answers the worst questions to ask someone in a wheelchair, shares some of the aggressive messages she's received on dating apps, and asks to include disability in today's conversation about diversity. Plus, Nicole recaps her experience 'Facetime dating' in quarantine. Support BLM. For a list of resources and places to donate click here: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/ Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: nico...
Jul 03, 2020•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 140
Actress Kirby Howell-Baptiste (The Good Place, Barry, Why Women Kill) discusses the rise in "Karens", managing life after death, and the reality of the Black experience. Plus, they share personal stories of racial bias, the importance of seeing representation in media, and how to raise a new generation of active allies. Check out @black.owned.everything on Instagram or officialblackwallstreet.com for a list of Black-owned businesses near you. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: nicolebyerwasta...
Jun 26, 2020•1 hr 9 min•Ep. 139
Rapper and former drag queen AJA ( RuPaul's Drag Race S9, All Stars S3 ) catches up with Nicole on the #BlackLivesMatter protests, discussing Black history erasure and how people can be a good ally in the movement. AJA dishes on Drag Race, admitting they were extremely high on edibles during the filming. Plus, they share how they met their biological parents this year, and provides advice on the foundational layers every successful relationship needs. For more drag queens on Why Won't ...
Jun 19, 2020•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 138
"Sex is always better when you can be yourself during it" Jinkx Monsoon (Winner of Rupaul's Drag Race S5) dishes about fulfilling race chaser fantasies, heteronormative roleplay, how their Grindr use has changed since being on Drag Race, and so much more. Also, Nicole shares the only appropriate time to yell 'NAILED IT' at her. For more drag queens on Why Won't You Date Me, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3fg8Epu Support Black Lives Matter . For a list of resources an...
Jun 12, 2020•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 137
Drag queen Monét X Change ( RuPaul's Drag Race, winner of RuPaul's Drag Race All Stars S4 ) shares the story about how they got their first STD from a race chaser, breaking up with their partner on Thanksgiving, and offers tips how to ease into butt stuff. Support Black Lives Matter . For a list of resources and places to donate click here: https://linktr.ee/dragher For more drag queens on Why Won't You Date Me, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3fg8Epu Follow Nicole By...
Jun 05, 2020•57 min•Ep. 136
The wonderful comedian Michelle Buteau ( Always Be My Maybe , host of The Circle ) discusses owning her sexuality, raising twins, being denied the ability to adopt kids, and so much more. Nicole and Michelle share their worst moments getting drunk on a plane, how the public keeps mistaking them for one another, and if having big tiddies makes it easier or harder to date For more Nicole Byer, check out her other podcast - Newcomers ! Her and Lauren Lapkus are watching and reviewing Star War...
May 29, 2020•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 135
BenDeLaCreme ( RuPaul's Drag Race, RPDR All Stars ) chats about how he deals with other people's traumas, getting gaslight by their therapist, and whats it's like to move in with a new boyfriend right before the pandemic. Plus, he explains his initial excitement to attain Race Chasers, and what made him so angry before his proposal. For more drag queens on Why Won't You Date Me, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3fg8Epu Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: nicolebyerwa...
May 22, 2020•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 134
Oh boy, this episode is a juicy one. Comedian/actress Giulia Rozzi (Girl Code) speaks to Nicole about the struggles of being pregnant in quarantine, if she has any worries about raising a bi-racial child, and learning to not feel guilty about your privilege. Plus, Giulia teaches Nicole the best way to reach out to an old fling, and how to remain friends with an ex-husband. For more Nicole Byer, check out her other podcast - Newcomers ! Her and Lauren Lapkus are watching and reviewing Star ...
May 15, 2020•57 min•Ep. 133
Comedian Tawny Newsome (Space Force) chats with Nicole about learning how to do your own hair in quarantine, their crazy fashion phases, and the current state of "Zoom dating" along with the crazy logistics behind it. For more Nicole Byer, check out her new podcast - Newcomers ! Her and Lauren Lapkus are watching and reviewing Star Wars films for the very first time. Subscribe today so you don't miss an episode . Rate Why Won't You Date Me 5-stars on Apple Podcasts and le...
May 08, 2020•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 132
"On what date do you reveal you're a merperson?" Comedian and TV writer Jamie Loftus ( Robot Chicken , host of The Bechdel Cast ) theorizes what it must be like being broken up but quarantined together, shares her fascination with balloon fetishists, and how 'Zoom-dating' has been working for people. Plus, Nicole's so dang horny, she's asking her roommate to sleep with her. For more Nicole Byer, check out her new podcast - Newcomers ! Her and Lauren Lapkus are watching and reviewing Star W...
May 01, 2020•38 min•Ep. 131
Ira Madison III (TV writer, host of Keep It ) chats about how he's staying sane while quarantine alone, his guest appearance on You , and how he's having sex over Instagram. For more Nicole Byer, check out her new podcast - Newcomers ! Her and Lauren Lapkus are watching and reviewing Star Wars films for the very first time. Subscribe today so you don't miss an episode . Rate Why Won't You Date Me 5-stars on Apple Podcasts and leave a dirty comment for a chance to have it ...
Apr 24, 2020•53 min•Ep. 130
"Marriage should be a lease with an option to renew" Tommy Lenk ( Buffy the Vampire Slayer , host of Trashcast ) shares his ideas to modernize marriage, points out the archaic rules of straight dating, and talks about his experience living in quarantine with his ex-bf's new bf. We've hit peak horny!! Nicole is having a full blown meltdown. Stay inside and stay safe everyone! For more Nicole Byer, check out her new podcast - Newcomers ! Her and Lauren Lapkus are watching and reviewing Star ...
Apr 17, 2020•55 min•Ep. 129
