39. other people's opinions

how often do you consider what someone else will think when making a decision? when sharing your art? when speaking your truth?

other people's opinions drive a lot of decisions and its just the least effective and efficient way to make good decisions. but what's the alternative? i'm sharing the mindset and the practicality of choosing to have your own back first, instead. listen in to stop caring what people think while still caring about those people.

listen in to hear:

• why we consider other people's opinions
• why that's already not working the way you think
• whether people are telling the truth or not and why it doesn't matter
• mentioned episode of hidden brain: useful delusions
• showing you how you already are choosing the truth, but how to do that more powerfully + intentionally and in a way that serves you
• the case for assuming everyone likes you and how to do that
• why compliments feel good (not what you think)
• what to do with other people's opinions
• you can choose right now to feel good, why that's true and how to do that
• seeking other people's opinions are deciding someone else knows the truth over us
• when someone you love disagrees with you and feels bad about it
• how to start naturally choosing your own opinion over other people's
• why having your own back over listening to other people's opinions can actually strengthen your relationship
• a different perspective for those of us with a history of replaying conversations over and over to determine where we went wrong when nothing actually went wrong
• better questions to ask than "did they like it?" "do they like me?"

what's next?:

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