Mrs Claus is Comin’ to Town

and start start going. After Christmas is usually kind of crazy. But yeah, what about you? Um, what I'm most looking forward to? Um? What am I most looking forward to? Well, again, it's weird and it's hard, and I'm trying to stay positive and a few days before Christmas, but I think just um, you know, actually, I'm gonna be totally honest, you know what. So, and I was talking to Pamelin about this. Um, I'm I'm so worried about next year

that I'm not almost enjoying this year. Oh wow, Okay, because next year I'm like, holy, I won't have them for Christmas. Eve. Yeah, let's not think about I don't get to wake up with them Christmas morning? What do I do? But then like what Pamela and saying She's like, what's so special about Christmas Eve? And I'm like, okay

for me, Like, what's so special about Christmas Eve? Is like you know, you talk him in then in the morning they get the excitement of sand and she's like, well, you can still have the excitement when they come over to your house at noon on Christmas Day, I think, and I'm like, but you miss them walking down the steps, and like, I understand that. I get that, Um, but I think you're going to have to make your own new excitement at a different time. But I understand that's hard.

But I also feel like maybe we should focus on this year well, because you do have them this year. Yes, god, I know. And Pamela and said she wrote me this message, and she goes, right, I oh, this is what I said. And then I was like, well, I go, what if I just have because he had asked to come over Christmas Eve and spend the night and wake up with the kids in the morning, and I'm like I and I said, I originally was like, let me think about it, and then I said no because I was like, I

want my own memories, my own traditions. So I guess I have a little bit oficult. Um like my own traditions, my own thing. I don't want that energy around because you know, kids will pick up on it. But then in my mind, I was like, but next year, I will want the same thing. But we also don't know

what's going to be next year. Well, I mean we'd probably both be in relationships, and like, then how do you go spend the night at your ex husband's house if you're in a new relationship, Like yeah, like my my my boyfriend spend the night at like my with like you know. So it's like that just won't work, right. I mean I don't I appreciate the you know, trying to figure it out. I just I don't know, I don't know how that would work. Well, this is what Pam said. Um, she was right. I get it. But

you cannot do family with him. You just can't. You have you will have your own memories and traditions. For example, I would choose to pick them up from his house next year. You're in control of how your kids walk into the door, bring a cute treat that Santa left for them, in the car, write the letter he wrote them. They read it on the way home and build up the anticipation. Um have them stand at the front door and count to ten and run like hell into the

house and see all the presents. Things like that, take control of the situation to make it awesome. Put foot Santa's footsteps outside of the sidewalk, like do things that like, and I'm like, okay, okay, okay, okay, Like I think you're right, and because like that would be weird, and that would be weird, like to like if my the guy that I'm dating, was like would be like, hey, let's go spend the night at my ex wife's house.

I don't know. I think it just becomes a little bit and you're setting the precedent and then it's like, okay, so what happens then the next year when Mike's like, all right, me and my girlfriend are coming to Horsmal and I had at your house. Like, I don't know, I agree, doing the family thing is just too complicated. I mean, I think you make your own thing. I

think Pam is right. I think you can make that so big and so special and at the end of the day, like they get too Christmas is they're going to be excited about that. I was mean the other day though to him. He was like, why are you being I was just like because I was like, you ruined everything. And I was just like and I had to talk to my therapist and own that, like I was being a bit and was like I was being

so mean to him. Not mean, but I was just like, he's like, why aren't you like communicating because I've I've been very kind and like very nice and like very um even when like you know, it wasn't reciprocated. I'm just like, all right, but I just was like, I don't know what it was, but I was just like because I don't want to talk to you. I don't

like you. You ruined everything, you know, And I was just for the first time like I got like, you know, I was like, I've been so nice and now it's the holidays and you ruined everything, and now I have to not be with my kids and I hate you. Get out of my face, take the kids, go by, see you later. And I was just like, now I have to apologize for being bitchy because I haven't, like

I've been very nice. Nonpopular opinion I think it's okay. Well, my therapist is like, you need to give yourself radical grace. She's like, you've been very kind and like you have a lot of like still anger and hatred inside of you, so like unfortunately it's showing right now because of like

the holiday season. She's like, and you can be happy and your friendships and your relationships and other things, but like the reality is you still harbor you know, anger and frustration and and this is hard, Like you didn't want this for your kids. So it's like and I'm like, I know, but that doesn't mean that I can like be nasty and mean. She's like, well you didn't. She's like, you're just you know, you're finally being like how a divorced wife would be. Yeah. Well, and honestly, like I

get it. This holiday is your thing, Christmas has always been. I mean it would be for you know a lot of people. But it's going to be hard. And I think I think you posted something the other day, Oh yeah, because my tree I was dying, and I feel bad because someone was at the house with me and I snapped at this person because I was looking at all my comments and they're like, yep, I agree with that one. Yep, I agree. It's for sure dead. I go, I get it,

it's dead. And then I just started crying. And the person was like, oh wait, this is not about the tree. I was like, of course, it's not about the tree. It's about then, like the fact that Christmas is dead and perfect I was dying and everything's dead and my family's like you know. So it was just like a yeah, well, I think even when you posted that, it reminded me.

You know, I think even as your friends were always trying to pep you up, keep you happy, you know, all those things which we will continue to do, but it's a reminder to me that, like, it's okay for you to be sad. You're going to be sad, and that's just part of it. I think that you choose and you will find the joy and your new things and you know what you're doing with your kids, but you're going to be sad, and I think that's okay. I think you have to give yourself Chrice for yeah,

And I said that in the comment. I was like, you know what, and that's okay, Like it's it is okay. I think be sad. I think people have a hard time around the holidays. You know, it's some people who have lost someone or you know, a dog, a parent, a friend or whatever. And you know a relationship and it might not look the way that you want to look, but you have to still find um ways to um have peace. And my therapist actually made me write it

down the other day. She um. She goes, when you get into a hard spot for the holidays, whether it's Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, she was eight tips for caring for your mind, body and spirit. Um. The eight tips was breathe, go for a walk, feel the wind on your skin. Move run So however, like you want to, like like move your body because I'm in for me, Like whenever I work out or I run, I feel better.

UM touch um, you know, get your shoulder and treat yourself, like get your shoulders massaged or your neck or whatever. You know, sit in a bath. I don't know. UM sing sometimes singing using your voice to heal, like put on And she's like, and you might be crying through it, And then she goes, sweat tears can be purifying for the heart and the body, and so can sweat. UM dance, cleanse, take a moment and then rest like when you when your body feels tired, take a nap and then just

practice radical grace. So um, I like that radical grace. Yeah, because she was like we were talking about it, and um, I was like, Amy, I was like, why can't I just I'm like, why can't I just get over it? We're divorced, like, you know, like why do I like care? Why do I you know, why can't I just be like okay, you know, have a nice day by And she's like, you are not giving yourself and she's like, you need to give yourself a radical grace. And I

was just like, oh, I like that. Yeah, you're really hard on yourself. Well yeah, and it's it's okay to still anyways, UM, trying to keep it joyful. Sorry, we're going to turn it around joyful because um, but I will say, what I'm looking most forward to for the holiday season is, um, the new memories and the new traditions that you know, I'm I have created this week with my kids and that Um, you know, I just want them to be happy. So I'm going to give

him a great Christmas. And then when they leave Christmas Day at noon, the tree is going down Christmas is over. That's fair. I'm taking everything down because I will not be sad. There you go, what's the point. Whatever you gotta do. Yeah, I will take everything like because my

tree is already dead, so I'm like, it's not going anywhere. Okay, I'm sorry, I mean Christmas and okay, um, we're gonna take a break and then, um, I gotta I gotta check on Mrs Claws because you know, it's a it's a crazy year for her husband, so I just want to make sure that she's she's she's doing an okay, Uh, she's okay during this time because I know what it's like. You know, actually I don't, but when your husband to work. Anyways, let's stay right. Hi, Fame is Claus. Hi? How are

you good? How are you? I'm a little I've got the heater on full blast now it's too hot. Why are you so pretty? Because Santa knows how to get the good one. I don't judge man by their looks. I judge them by their character. Trust me and their beard. Their beard tells a lot. I like your beard. I love him a little round, you know, right, Yeah, skinny, I want to hold on to them and feel like they got me. So it's nice. I mean, there is something to be said about a man that is just like,

you know, just like right, a little something something. Um, So, how long have you and Sama had been married for? Because this is a relationship podcast, So I just really want to get in the ends of you and Samah. I don't want to talk, you know sometimes, you know, I think when you you have a good attitude and you're happy or you're joyful, you know, your looks can stay forever. I'm just gonna say that. So we've been

married a long time. Um, when I met him in my twenties, I didn't grow up in the snow, and I went on a trip with somebody with a family, and I just he was just a happy guy. And sometimes an infectious happy attitude is enough to pull a woman in. And you know what, I like a manly man. He's very giving, very kind. I've learned to respect his quiet side because you know, I'm a bit of a chatter. You know, I'm a girl. I love the eld I hang out with the Alps. I love Rudolph. Rudolph is

actually one of the girls, by the way. I mean, he is out So you guys know that right way. Oh he's fine the red nose. You didn't. I did not know that. I mean, I'm here for it. He's a hundred percent fine with it. So I'm not saying anything that's out of blind But so we are like besties at this point. And and and might have a little nicky I call nicky sometimes. Um, he loves that I have plenty of elves to talk to. Oh it sounds risque. You know, he's litt alone, and he's busy

a lot. He's busy. So does that ever cause any tension between you and Santa because he's so busy. Um. In the beginning, I felt, you know, I was a little bit more immature, and I felt like it was all about me. And then I realized his spirit is about giving, and there's something really attractive and respectful about someone who actually is altruistic and he has that something about him. So I started realizing that how lucky am I to have somebody that thinks about someone else other

than himself and it's not all about him. Does Santa give up? Ye? Does Santa give you presents? Or is it like is he like presented out by the time he gets home? Oh no, we get little stuff I I get to send on my list. I don't always get what I want. But you know, I mean, I gotta be like everybody else I cannot. You know, the naughty or nice, The naughty or nice is not necessarily what we think. Nay, are nice? Do you mean naughty or nice? Is? Are you nice to everybody in the world?

Are you kind of people if you give smiles? Naughty is when you don't, and he charges people more. But your actions of how you are with other people then if you know, because we always think, oh my god, even naughty, did you like do something sexual or you I'm just I'm being a little out there, but or did you do something that was like mean? Or it's more of did you not give your heart? So he judges people by the heart. By the way, just in

case anymoy moore that so interesting? Does he have a book? Because I would like to ask a few if any of my exes are going to get cold or if they're going to give presents this here, where's this? Less? Well, you know he doesn't give cold. He just doesn't give as much. Yeah, you just don't, you know, just don't get as much. And sometimes you don't get like the desires of your heart because you remember, he's judging it by your heart, not your by your actions. So so

he doesn't actually give cold to anyone. He's kind of a deep guy without even be indeed you kind of he's interesting. I thought it was all the show, and because he was like Mr Present, I thought I was like, wow, oh my god, we're gonna do everything. And then I realized I got everything in here. So that's why he's the greatest guy ever. M I'm lucky here. I thought that people actually got cool. No, they did, they did back in the day. But you know, we don't even

we don't even mind for call anymore. Like where do you get cold? Like home depot now they have it. I'm like, I think Kentucky still have an outlet that he just doesn't even have. We don't even have a card to that anymore. We have used to have like a home depault card. It was a Kentucky coal card, but we don't even it's lapsed and he doesn't even use it anymore. He's just it. Yeah, it's kind of there's a lot of things that you know, kind of old school that's kind of been hipped up. So what that?

What is your favorite Christmas tradition that you in Santa do together? Well, we he and I we go and we chopped on our own tree. It's pretty is yours alive? Because mine's dead? So um, I don't mind chopping it down. Yours is dead. You have a plastic one? No, no, I have a real one, but it died. Yeah, I still I'm I'm also we chopped them down. We chopped them down, but that's the romance with it. But then we mulched up and we put it back in the earth.

So it's a single So if you can mulch it and put it back in the ground, it's almost as if you're doing in the whole whole circle. But some people, you know, we end up throwing it away in the trash and it's not trash. It's just it's just happiness is changing. It's cool, Okay, I like that. I have a question for this. Well, because I'm going to pretend to be a skeptic right now. I believe in Santa, obviously,

how can Santa visit every single house in one night? Well, you know this is where my my nerdy side kicks in. We do have time travel fyi. Okay, okay, and we do have parallel lives, f y I. And he is a nerdy guy and he can go from place to place just like that in a thought. That's how powerful we all are. But he's got it down to a science. So he just pops in all over the place. And what do you say to the kids that don't believe in Santa? Oh, you believe in other things. You believe

in the cartoons, right, they make you feel good? I mean Santa. You know, it's like believing that you're going to have a really good day to day. It makes you feel good, and then what ends up happening is you have a good day. So if you can go well, maybe there is a Santa. Maybe? Does that make you feel good thinking there's a possibility of a good there is a Santa? And by thinking that it becomes so try shifting your thoughts to believe it instead of trying

to get it first. Why don't you just go to it? But what about the kids that are maybe bullying other kids because they're like, oh, you still believe in Santa? You're stupid? Yeah, there are some there's those kids. Those are the ones that don't get as much f ya. They're not getting switches and you know we don't give them call remember no cold, but they don't really get

the desires of their hearts. But you know, one of the things that you know Santa does try to do is when those kids end up saying there is no Santa, you'll do something that maybe they asked for a couple of years prior. It ends up showing up without even asking, So it puts the wonder back in her mind. But what I say to those little kids that don't that are bullying and you know, sometimes we do things when we don't feel good and someone's bullying them at home.

So we got to look at the whole picture here, right. Yeah, you know, maybe mom and dad have stopped believing in things, and maybe mom and dad have given up on a lot of stuff. So it's all about letting everybody know that when you reach for something that makes you happy, you bring in a lot of happy. So this time of year is not necessarily about am I going to get? It's how can I kind of give to my brothers and my sisters and even the guy driving down the road,

Like even if someone pulls in front of you. What if you just say, oh, go ahead, have a great day, you bring in more wonderful full things and you feel good. It's so true. So what we end up doing is when you do things that are nice, you feel nice. So I would suggest to the bullies, let's practice doing one nice thing for someone and not tell them radical niceness. There. Yeah, totally, that's that naughty or nice kind of thing. So I remember I was driving one time Eastern You're ready for

the edit button. But like I have a thing when like people like when I let someone in and they don't wave thank you, I'm like, well, Mary, Christmas to you two. Yeah, it feels better when you just like, oh god, bless you have the best day ever. I don't know why. It's like we're friends on the road, be nice, right right right, But we you know what's funny is when we do that, it's almost like we become infectious. When we wait and smile, that person the

next time is gonna do it. We pay it forward. Well, I don't know, I don't know what's up. But favorite favorite Christmas song, least favorite Christmas song in the in the Santa House, Oh my gosh, my favorite. Um I think My favorite Christmas song is probably jingle Bells. It's just fun. It's just fun. You can just all ingle and every kid say yeah all day long. I could do that all day long. And I think my least is no, Well, because I knew her, Oh is she is?

She saying it's my least favorite? Was that a little bit of a little to Santa? Like whatever, It's okay. People have lives before me. I am here for this. The drama down at is just really well, you know, I'm come on, you know, it's a festive world. I mean, I'm I am just yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, I mean it happens right, um, But I don't want to talk about that. I want to just be nice. But I'm never going to be able to listen to that song now,

ho ho ho. I just know there's this straight man, this is how So what do you do the night when Santa's gone? Like? Is that your time to take a bath and be like? Man, that three and sixty something days is oh gosh, what do I do when he's gone? It is kind of like a who it's my time? You know, I do a lot of catch up, you know, I I I don't I'm like I was saying, my know, I don't get to talk on the phone much. I have the worst reception up there. So I do

I have we haven't you know? I do participate on this well app and I get to put the word out to all my friends and kids and what have you and let you know what if you're getting your gifts, you're not getting your gifts. So there's an interactive UM that I get to do UM and I encourage anybody right now to send in your topics. I can talk to and put it into a year. But where can like, can can people talk to you? And all I do

you have a platform? Like are you on Instagram? Or are you like what what are how are you keeping up on the times? This class? Are you know what? Keeping up on the times? And I'm kind of a little techy. I'm the ELPs teach me so much it's incredible, Like they're quick, they're really quick. Um uh so whenever I get a little oopsie on my phone apps, they they keep me up. But I love I do do Instagram. I have to. I I scroll through it. Are you Mrs Clause on Instagram? No? I do a fictitious no.

And I do also on Posh Mark. I do. I check out the fashions because it's always nice to see what I want Santa to like give things that are appropriate, and because sometimes he comes up with these horrible sweaters and I'm just like, what you think you honey, Well, that's why they say ugly sweaters. I mean Santa was Santa was the queen of them or right. I don't buy them. I don't think you know, there's some things

I just let him stop for his own stuff. But when we go out, you know, I love his outfit. I make I sew it. I don't it as much as possible. He's yeah, but I'm honest. Well, app if you guys would like to talk to me and ask me questions, I love getting it's like because my phone doesn't work that much, like said, but sure of the app. And I have been posting every other day and what's happening this month during December, and I think I might

go throughout the year. So if anybody has some stuff they want to, you know, put in the word for later. But I get to keep in contact with all the old elves who've retired. I get to contact, you know, some of the people that have received gifts that they thought they never received, so it's it's a really Usually I will leave a message and then you will leave. You can respond to my what I had said, or my information or my updates, and you can even privately message.

Maybe you have to keep it appropriate ha ha ha. We'll see about that one. Mrs Cluzz, thank you so much for coming on wind down. I appreciate it. I know you've got a lot to do. Couple more days until Christmas, um raping and packing, and you're doing it all well, you are, you are beautiful and tell Sana thank you in advance, and I will What do you guys want? I just want, well, I mean like a present because I'm like, I don't really like I'm like,

I don't need it. I just want my kids to be happy, So I just want them to, Oh, tell them you're happy, You're happy to know that's sweet. Um. I want gifts. Katherine's love languages gifts, so she just got a really send me a private I got you. I'll see what I can do. Thank you. Mrs Blaus. Have a good one. You guys have the best day ever. In Mary Chris, I mean, wasn't she just the prettiest thing ever. I feel like we've got some gossip too, right, Like I need to know more about Noel. Is it

on the food Noel? Isn't that Noel? So? Or is there a Noelanna? And I found out Noel? I think that is. I feel like that's I mean, that's the only Noel song right now. But apparently she's been hooking up with Santa. I don't know that. I don't know any more information on that song. I feel like this might not be the right one. Well, don't worry, we'll do some digging. Catherine's like, my uh my, my tech FBI agent if you ever need anything. Katherine's like, She's like,

on it you, She's so good. She's like, yep, Nope, that's a lie. That's a lie because here's the web address. That's what I was saying. I don't think and I need to do more digging. But I'm pretty sure it's not a person. Well I know, but it's the symbol behind like maybe her name is Noel, like obviously Noel is. I'm like, no ills not a person. The first this is hilarious. Um bothered, So we have um, we have what two days until Christmas? And uh, are you done

shopping or you like the last minute shopper. I'm done, You're done, done, done, She's done, she's done two days before. That's good. I'm done too. I've been done since October, of course you have. UM. We just wanted to give you, guys a little bonus wind down and say Merry Christmas from Catherine and I and we hope you have an amazing day and um, however, your holiday looks that you find moments to um have gratitude and love and joy and light, so you're gonna have a great Christmas. I'm

excited for you. Merry Christmas, guys, Merry Christmas.