Love in the Time of Quarantine

feel like when you're in jail? Because I couldn't even tell you what day it was. I was like, is it Tuesday or is it Saturday? Or is it Sunday? Didn't even matter? Does it even matter? I don't think so. But no, seriously, this is frustrating me. Anyways, um, really cool guests today. We have Tony dublani Um. Actually I should say it like the Dancing with the Stars up next, Tony dublani Um and his partner. Who did he dance with? Actually? Oh, I think Melissa Ryecroft. I think he won with Melissa,

but I might be not right about that. I'll have to look really was he on for you? Yes, he was before me. He wasn't my season. Yes, Oh yeah, I think I'm pretty sure he won with Melissa Ryecroft, but I can't remember if if I'm making that up or net Um, if they did a Dancing with the Stars all stars, would you do it? One like zillion million, trillion percent? Yes? Do you think if they did a couples Dancing with the Stars you'd want to do with me? Why I did win with Melissa Rycroft was right because

I totally remember watching that, Thank you Easton Um. Why because we already want to kill each other enough, so I don't think we need to add dancing to it. I don't think we would make it out of there. But also because like as much as I thought was like Glob, I couldn't imagine fighting with you about the dance moves and not doing it right. It would just be disaster like disaster. Like I was able to leave Glob at the end the day, I couldn't leave you.

I'd have to go home to you. So Nope. But Sean, it's funny Sean Johnson and I were talking about that because she did Dancing with Stars and then she also did in All Stars and yes she won. She didn't win All Stars, but she won I think her season. And she was saying how she would do a couple's one with Andrew. She's like, although I think it would be rough if that happened, you and Sean can just like get an apartment together for the time and me and Andrew just lived together for the time and our

kids would be aware. I don't know that, yeah, because I mean that was what was so stressful. I'll say the one stressful thing obviously with you were gone, but um, you know, Jolie was six months old, So I would dance ten hours of the day and then I'd go home and be a mom. It was exhausted by the end of the day. So it was so that's where I would say, no, I wouldn't do it because now we have two kids. But but knowing like you would be with them, then I would do it like one.

And I would like to go back and have you in the audience. I would love to support you through that. That would have been great. But yep, I'm not going to bring it up. Yeah, that was a tough time, but anyways, um, but yeah, so we have Tony Davelani coming on and then to talk about what he's doing with face mask, and then I don't want to talk about it anymore because I'm getting sick of talking about it. I even yelled at my walking girl group today because

they were just talking about it in hospitals. I was like, I get it. I can't talk about it anymore. It's stressing me out. I'm have anxiety deck. Yes, we're aware and we're doing what we have to do to stay home, but I don't want to talk. I can't talk about it today. So we need to have something else on. And you brought up two really cool guests that are going to be on today. We're going to talk really

not about the coronavirus, not at all. We're gonna talk about We're gonna talk to Bradley Boseman and his wife, Nikki. Bradley is going into a second year in the NFL. He's offensive guard for the Baltimore Ravens, and there's a story I read on him recently on espn UM that I'll touch on. But two amazing guests. They have an incredible message UM and what they're doing with their platform is is amazing and truly humbling, So we'll take a

break and then we'll dive in with them. I'm so excited, Tony. Hey, Tony, it's Mike and Janet. How are you doing. How you guys doing alright? Thank you so much for coming on the show. We really appreciate it. My pleasure, My pleasure. It's not like I'm doing a lot. Yeah, we're just trying to fill all that time that we're used to being busy with. But Tony, you are doing a lot though right now with your Can you tell us about

the million Mass Movement please and go fund me? Yeah, the we we started a billion Mass movement because as furtis the advanced studios advance as, we have a responsibility to always try to make a difference and use our platform to try to bring awareness to things that might be needed in our society. And in this articular moment, masks. Can you believe this, Masks, an actual mask is needed

more than ever before. Our medical workers are in desperate need of of masks to just protect themselves, let alone hand out to people to for them to be protected. I mean, we've all been quarantined, but our hospitals are overflowing with people that are sick and and they don't have protective masks. So we decided to do something about it. And uh Ebom industry has amazing dressmakers and amazing students that got together and decided that this could be something

that we can make a difference with. And we started a goal funding page, which if you go to my Instagram and go to my bio to go funding page tag is there. We were able to already raise closets and all of that money is going into making masks, and we already had quite a few shipments to different hospitals across the country and the response has been overwhelming.

You know, it's so satisfying to know that it's going to a good place and people are extremely grateful and and just do they feel like we really are making a difference. So it's been so satisfying in every which way. So, you know, while I'm and while a lot of my my friends the Fatestate Dance Studios organization have been home, we haven't been sitting in our tours for lack of a better example, We've been actually making a difference and

we feel really good about it. What did you did you pair with any of the other dancing with the stars Um Dancers. No, actually this was directly just with the Fates Stador Dance Studios and myself. Uh we I've basically I've been promoting it on Instagram. Some of them have retreeted, like for example, Leah Revenue at the retweeted my or the re instagrams. I think we post whatever it's called one of my things. But it's been it's

been really great so far. The response to me, it's it's every every single celebrity wants to feel like they're doing that. They want to do something to make a difference. I just happened to be very lucky to be a part of the Fetist organization where they actually have a company that is across the country, you know, very active, proactive when it comes to the community and making a difference.

And you know between two on the schools across the country that we have, it's you know, the students that really stepped up and made a difference. That's so awesome. You should and at the end of the day, you should, you know, be so proud of yourself and just like the community and how much they've just really rallied. I mean, that's that's incredible. When when you are able to give back in that in that way. Honestly, as Americans, we

owe it to each other in a sense. But I mean, we live in this incredible country and when things like this happened is where our character is made up. You know, we we we need to step up and make it, you know, do whatever it takes to beat this. You know, this is what we're supposed to van together with. Obviously with proximity because now that you're not supposed to be close to anybody. But we can do it through the

cyber world. In other words, you know, social media is a big tool for all of us, and why not. You know, you try to raise money for things that are actually absolutely needed, like, for example, ventilators. You know, all these big companies are starting to make them to ventilator that's awesome. And we as people, can we make masks affore? Of course, we we just needed to find out how. And you know when these dressmakers were like, listen, we're not making dresses, let's make mass right now, it

was like, oh my god. And then they are actually medically uh, you know, accurate as well, so it's not just making masks, it's actually medically accurate. So all the nurses and the doctors are getting proper masks delivered to them so that way they can protect themselves and others as well. Absolutely, and that's it's amazing toning, I think, you know, it's kind of to your point is you know, people might feel lost right now, is like how do I help? How do I help? Or can I even help?

And maybe people default too, well it's beyond my control. I can't do anything, when really that's not true, where it's one dollar affects something, you know, uh, or helping out in any kind of way helps, you know, within the limitations and boundaries and stuff. So I mean, it's

fantastic that you're doing what you're doing. And if people listening to this and people following you and following my wife on social media, it's like with all everyone's followers, it's like if one everyone puts in one dollar to the go fund me, you know, can you imagine like what that could do. So it's just I wish people had more of that mindset to be able to be like, Okay, all I can do is five dollars. Great, that's five

dollars more than you know a lot of other people collect. Well, that that's the thing is like, no donation is too small, no donations to things. And the other thing on top of this is what we try to do is like when you said we have to make a difference. You know, I know a lot of people at home. They don't have they don't have Jim's at home. They want to stay active, they want to do that us, as a Fedstate organization, we decided to do online lessons, which are

free lessons. So online lesson dot com. If you go there, you have free lessons. You could learn how to dance. You could stay active, because I mean, everybody makes this goal about working out. Truth is working out is boring, Okay, And besides, you get so sorry you can't even move the next day. Now, Tony, Tony, Tony. By learning how to dance, it's with your spouse, Red, it's with the broom brothers, with your kids. You can learn how to dance.

Why not, Tony. I did Dancing with the Stars, and let me tell you, I've never been more sore in my entire life dancing. I tore my inner costal muscles. I had bruises all for my body. I don't think I ever saw that. Gina sweat until I saw her dance exactly. So don't you say that dancing does not make you sore. I will totally smack you through this microphone. Yeah, I mean, but does the thing? It's like, dancing works on the firing muscles, the muscles we forget about as well.

So but that you know, it's funny because a lot of times people think that they have to be good dancers in order to take lessons. That's the whole point of it is, you don't have to be a good dancer. You can learn on the on the platform and you know, just move a little bit and dance to the music that you like to listen to and so on. It keeps you active, that's the thing. It's like. It's because I mean, one of my friends yesterday, because I did

a class. Immediately afterwards, they called me. They're like, I gotta tell you, I've been all I've been doing lately is listening to news and I I didn't realize I was thinking into this depression, and now that I took your class, I feel like, oh my god, I'm like back to being myself. So sometimes dancing does give you that escape that we all need, especially in this this this during these times that everything that you've turned onto

is negative. That I love that message right there, because it's so easy to get sucked into all of this stuff because every network, every channel, everything on social media, there's so much just negativity around this news. And to do something like that to get yourself back into being you is is an unbelievable message. Along with what you're doing with a Million Masks movement, go to the go fund me and give back and put a little salsa in your step, right Tony, Oh gosh, I'm getting trauma

just thinking of dancing with the stars. So Tony, you're the best. Thank you so much, and thank you guys so much for having me than we appreciate it. Alright, So we have these two guests on that I read a story about that. Don't say yeah, get them on the phone first, because I want them to hear this. Okay, So, as my wife just corrected me, no, no, no, no, because I think it's like it's cool for them to know to how I randomly instagram them. Okay, let's start over. No, No,

that's that's good. Okay, that's good stuff, she says. This is all gold right now, you guys all right, let's welcome Nikki and Bradley Bozeman to our show. Nikki Bradley, Hey, how are you guys? Hey guys, how are you doing good? Thanks for coming on our show with us. We appreciate it. Yeah, for sure, thanks for having us. So um, Mike was just about to tell the listeners how um about how

this came about, because this was three days ago. I think you came in to the room and said, yeah, I was telling Jana, you know, I was checking on the ESPN app and you know, they've just done a story about you guys about you know, living in an RV and and then traveling not just that, but the fact that you guys were traveling across the country and then going to different schools, you know, talking about anti

bowling and doing like an anti bullying campaign. And I came to Jane, I was like, this story's amazing, not just you know RV thing is novel is novel too, and people get you know, really attached to that. But I'm like the fact that you guys are taking time and you're busy offseason to go do this and talk to young kids about this anti bowling, which is such a sensitive subject. These days. You know, it really stood out to me and I you know, just commend you

guys for for doing that, committing to that. Thank yeah, thank you. It's been it's been such a good journey. And I mean, unfortunately guys gotta get cut a little short. But just you know the time that we did have was such amazing. Just the feedback we got was I mean unbelievable. I'm sure and what and sorrur listeners know to you know, Bradley, you're in your second year with the Ravens. Correct, Yes, just finished my second and then

going into my third. Okay, so Bradley's offensive lineman with the Baltimore Ravens going into his third year Alabama alumni and his wife Nikki. How long you'all been married? Uh, it'll be one year on Monday, guys. That same Yeah, we've been together with over six years. Six years both married one year. Good for you guys. Did you can both go to Alabama? We did? Yep? Okay, I love at college, sweethearts. So back to your whole like traveling

your your anti bowling campaign. What inspired you guys to kind of start that adventure? Yeah, so we kind of both realized we had a commonality growing up obviously by UM, because we were both very tall. I played center in college in basketball and he was the center on the football team, and that's kind of how we met. And then UM, but we realized that we both kind of obviously looked different because we're bigger, taller, UM and all that. So when we were growing up, you know, we were

picked on for that. So UM just kind of sharing our stories with each other. And then there was a girl that reached out when we were in college. She was getting heavily picked on UM because of her race, and so they asked us if we would like send her a message, just you know, to say hey, UM, and just you know, give some positivity to her. And we're like, oh, why don't we come to the school

and why don't we talk with her? And they were like, actually, why you're here when you talk to the whole school? And we were like, UM, sure, Like I have no idea what we're gonna say. Um, I don't know what you want us to talk about there, Like we don't really know, just you know, go for it. So we end up going up there with no speech, nothing prepared, nervouses all get out, and UM but it ended up you know, UM, we're just super blessed God put words

in our mouth and it worked out great. And then what we got in the car afterwards and we're like, all right, this is what we were meant to do. So it kind of started there and it's kind of climbed ever since. Have you had kids reach out to you and and that way, you guys can also feel the impact and too, you know, because I know when we go out on the road and people are like, oh my gosh, you'd helped me so much. It helped us fuel to keep going out to do you know

what we do on the podcast. So have you guys also is that helped you to continue this tour? Uh? Yeah. So we've had this is our third year UM having this foundation, and just on this tour alone, we had

hundreds of kids reach out to us. UM. We had custom trading cards built UM that have obviously broadly on the front of them, but it has everything about our foundation on the back, and it has UM a website where there's a dedicated email where kids can you know, email us with questions or anything like that, and those emails go directly to Bradley and I and we answer. We've probably answered a few hundred just in the four weeks of the tour, but we've probably answered, um, it's

hundreds in the matter of three years. So it's been amazing just hearing um kids just feel comfortable and sharing their stories and stuff like that. So that's, uh, that's kind of made it all worthwhile. Is there something as parents that we can do? For example, like our daughter, she's already off the charts on her height, and I've you know, as a parent, I also know that the like you said, the taller kids, taller girls especially have you know, would get picked on a lot um, and

so I've been always worried about that. Um And Mike, can you can attest that too, Like, I've just been kind of worried, you know, for Jolie because I want her to embrace her height and but you know, I get scared of the kids that do bullis. So is there anything that we can do to be proactive to help her if she continues on the chart growth? Um? Yeah,

you know it's hard. I mean because it's hard because I know boys are like self conscious about everything anyway, but then when a girl's taller than them, it's just like you know there, you know, I don't know, it was just for me. It was just all the guys that were super short and I was. I tell kids, I was probably UM five nine and like the sixth seventh grade, so I was really tall. UM really really early. So I would say um as a parent wise, and it kind of goes for what we talked about in

our speeches to UM. We talked about like finding your outlet or your passion or what you love to do. And we explain to the kids like if we woke you up at every morning at three am, what would you be so excited to do, Like doesn't matter every day, every other day, whatever, And that's kind of your passion

your outlet. And mine turned into basketball. I didn't really know that at the time, but I just looking back that every time I was happy or sad or going through something, I always found myself in the gym um. And then Bradley was was football. So we said, you know, it can be a musical instrument, it could be podcast, it could be UM YouTube videos on heritatorial, it could literally be anything. But it's just something that they love

to do and starting that early. So like right now, you know, we tell the kids, like, take time for yourself now, because you don't want to get to the point where, um we call it the mound of craps, but everything that's going on and the stressors of life and everything that's going on around you, when you get to the top of that mountain, you know, that's where the we go to talk to these kids because UM suicide is one of the leading killers and teams over

the past ten years, and it's like that's something that we're hoping can be preventable by things that we're going and talking about and preaching. So our message is to kind of start early, and you don't want to get to a place where you feel so bad that and you're like, Okay, I need something to do. You know, you want to start it early and figure out what

you love to do. UM. I love baking when I was younger, So I know, like just being able to do something every day that's constructive, UM, and just get that in a rhythm and in a habit, because then you'll find yourself Like if something is going wrong or as a child, like as I was getting picked on, I would always inherently go back to the gym. So that kind of started early with playing sports, but that's

where I always found myself. So I would say, maybe like practice something and see what they love to do, like and it can be anything. It just kind of get that like mental um training, I guess in early, so that like when they are sad, that is what they fall back on and it's constructive. Yeah, it's unbelievable.

And have you guys, you know Bradley, have you guys both started to reach out to maybe teammates or former teammates too, you know, help be advocates for for some of this because I know, you know, just being in that kind of situation when you're a professional athlete or collegiate athlete kids is naturally kind of hold onto what you say or what you've experienced a little bit more.

That's just the way society has kind of been. So you have this platform, which you guys are using incredibly, So have you considered like reaching out to other teammates that maybe I've gone through this when they were younger, to for them to come out and share their story. Yeah, for sure, we've done that in the past two and the Cyrus Jones came out with us to one school and talked and um, you know, told told his side of his story and it's been it's been really good.

Then we're gonna, you know, obviously in the future, we're going to continue to do that just whenever people because we don't like to feel people make people feel like they're inclined like they need to come out, they have to come out, but we want them to come up because they want to and they see the good that uh, we're trying to do. And it's just you know, it's been it's been such an amazing journey for us and just so um, you know, just I can't say anything

other than amazing. Uh, and just so glad we've we've gone down this path and taking this journey has just been been such a great journey so far, no question. And do you guys have do you have a endgame with this, a dream of this, like where you want to end up being. Is it something that you just can continue to tour in every offseason? It's something you want to have, you know, almost like your own Boys and Girls cloud for people to come to, Like what is it for y'all? Yeah, So we have a few

different things that we love going into the school. So we love like the hands on side of it, um, just to get to talk to the kids and like put a face of the name, and we just love that side of it. UM. We also, I feel like, um, we have a really really strong cyber bullying and anti bullying law in Maryland. It's called Gracie's Laws two point oh and it's like one of the strongest in the country. Um or it is the strongest in the country, and UM, I encourage people to kind of look that up and

it's it's just an amazing law. Um. It was a terrible situation that happened, but it's an amazing law that came out of it. UM. So our next goal is to hopefully take that um to states across the country, because you know, it's kind of like we feel like, you know, when you're preaching to someone and it's just kind of like a slap on the wrist. It doesn't really resonnate as much as when you say, okay, look like you could have to go before a judge like

this is serious, and we take this very seriously. UM. So we feel like that's another way to leave lasting change, is to be able to give these kids that are going through such awful times a way out, a way to say, you know, this is not okay and this person needs to be held accountable. Um, and so that's

another goal. So we're, um, when all this craziness gets done with the coronavirus and stuff, we're gonna try to sit down with some legislation here in Maryland to see if we can broaden that to other states for sure. Speaking of the cyber bullying again, like for parents, it's you know, it's I feel like when it comes to cell phones and being on social media, if you don't have the social media, then you're bullied because you don't

have it. But if you do have it, then you're torn down because you're not wearing the cute outfit or you're you weren't told you're pretty and you don't have enough a likes or so it's as a parents, like you kind of damned if you damned if your own or is it is it just the monitoring or I mean what do you what do you do? I guess Yeah, it's hard and there's no right answer, like it's always Um, we have so many kids that have like young kids right now. Um, and so it's kind of one of

those things where like when or a mom. You know you're gonna have all the other moms that tell you how you should be a mom, but you know it's you're the mom, you know what I mean, Like you're the parents. So it's hard, and I think every situation is so different. Um, but I do think it is, you know, having that open communication with your kids. I mean we sat down my my family and I sat down at least three times a week at a dinner table and eat dinner together and talked about our days.

And you know, as a parent, you can see when something's going on. You know they won't they might not say, hey, this this and this happened, but you can see when you know they're not looking at you the same way or something like that, and you know it's your kids and you'll be able to feel that. Um. But I just encouraged to take that time and you're like, you'll know your your instincts will come out. Um. But you know you just have to be you just have to

be alert. And we tell people, you know, you're gonna talk to your kids about alcohol, You're gonna talk to your kids about sex, You're gonna talk to your kids about drugs. You're gonna have to start talking to your kids about the Internet, And it's just one of those necessary evils that now we're living in, and so you have to be brief enough to talk to your kids

about it and you know everything that's going on. So making that part of an open conversation instead of trying to kick it under the rug, UM has been one of another one of our points is like throw it out there, put it in the open. Everything you know you talked about, you know, girls wise, what you should and shouldn't be doing, and how people should shouldn't be treating you. That same thing goes for online. So just stuff like that, UM is kind of the best advice

we have. Obviously we don't have kids yet, but our friends that have gone through it, and hundreds and hundreds of these kids we've mentored. It's funny because all their stories might not be exactly the same, but all the um, all the topics are similar. You know, we get like that self harm and that cyber bullying and all these topics that are similar, but that it's just every instance

is just a little bit different, for sure. And I'm sure there's the feelings that they're feeling are pretty universal. Across the board as well, with shame and the guilt and the sadness and the hurt whatever it is. And how how did you guys, you know, being recipients of bullying when you were younger, you know, did you both were you? Did you guys feel comfortable leaning leaning on your parents or was there somebody in your life that you kind of talked to about this? So that's, um,

we're opposite. So Bradley kind of really leaned on his family and was really able to open up to them and they were able to mentor him. And I could heavily know my family. I just didn't. And I was that like kind of that headstrong, just you know, I got it, I can figure it out myself type of person, and I just didn't. Obviously, when we started doing all this, my mom was not too happy with the person. She's like, why didn't you tell me this is going on? And

I'm like, I just didn't. I didn't want to, Like, that wasn't my thing. I wish I would have maybe back then, because it probably would have sat pretty quickly because my mom would have marched over there, you know. But but I just wasn't that type of person. So I think we differ in that way where I really leaned on you know, my what I didn't on the basketball court as like what I love to do and how I practice and how hard I practice and how often I practice, And that was just kind of my

thing that was valid. That's what made me feel better and I it kind of got me through it, you know. UM. But it just depends Bradley's messages more. You know, he leaned on his family and that was uh a that was able to help him. So it just kind of depends on the person. I do wish looking back, you know that I would have um opened up with maybe some people around me. But it's hard. I mean, it's hard when you're a kid and you feel like, you know,

you're the only one going through this. And that's something else that we get, you know, just kids in general, Like I didn't even know, you know, at the end of our speech, we leave about thirty minutes and kids open up and talk about, you know, their concerns or things that have happened with their friends or stuff like that, and that's in the most life changing It'll be the most life changing thirty minutes, UM you'll ever have, because

you have complete strangers. You know, we've had kids. You know, I tell us they've tried to commit suicide multiple times, and there's you know, everything on the whole gamut of it, um in that thirty minutes. So it's just kind of there's so many, um just there's so much going on, you know, And but for those kids to feel like they can share with us, that's really why we're trying to be their advocates, um and someone they can reach

out to. So whether that's in that thirty minutes or it's online through emails, UM, We've just try and tried to be that person when it's hard to open up to an adult. Yeah, and you know that's that's so amazing. And we can relate just in the sense of when we do our live shows and when we have this random couple in the room of hundreds of strangers and they're willing to be emotional and vulnerable about their relationship. When Jane and I do that, we're like, this is

the exact reason why we do that. So I can't even imagine that coming from children from a kid, it's from a kid, Like, how much more impactful that is? So you literally like so much respect and hats off to you guys for doing what you're doing and using you all this platform the way that you are in your stories, because you guys are changing kids lives, which

is incredible. Where's the website? What's the website that? Um, you know that the moms and the kids that are listening to hold that kids listen to this, but the moms that have kids that they can maybe like email in Um it's it's the name of its Brad b R A D Nikki and I k K I Bozeman b o z E m A N dot com and then tour dates and all that, so you've got when obviously when the COVID nineteen stuff is over, um, you'll go back out in the road before season or we

have to do it after season. Now, um, we'll probably have to do it after season just because I know, Um, they just got emails today or this week that all their training camps and stuff are getting pushed back. So um, we they're gonna be like, yeah, which is craziness, which who I don't even know said or not, but it's okay, um, but they're all getting pushed back, you know, for help for the COVID nineteen stuff, So I know once they start, it's going to be heavy hit until almost the season starts.

I don't know what that summer is gonna look like. I really don't think anyone knows. That's what the future looks like at this point. But um so yeah, so longest or long um we are going to probably go out next year. Um, and we have friends that are

in those states. We're gonna try to go back and you know, spend more time with them and go to the schools and really try to get back on that end route where we had to miss well, I mean on behalf of us and you know everyone else, parents and kids like, thank you for what you do because that's it's just that's just amazing that you guys are are doing what you guys do. And hopefully I see

books in the future, I see all of it. So um, yeah's entrepreneurial mind is going crazy right now what you guys. Of course, you guys are doing. And if you guys come through National at all, please let us know because we'd love to help out in any way that we can and help promote this and continue to you know, make it grow because this is amazing. Yeah, that would

be awesome. Thank you guys so much for having us on here and you know, taking the time to kind of share our message with um y'alls followers in really the world. Absolutely, you guys are awesome. Thanks again so much, you guys. Yeah, thanks NICKI and Brad appreciate it, guys, thanks for having I love them so much. Like I want to help. I want to I'm like, I want to go to the schools with them and help and

help these kids like kids. It's and that's the thing, just like I said, the comparison of you know what, we are able to experience a witness through the people that we help, but kids, well this thing too, because it's like you remember when you're third. I remember when my high school boyfriend broke up with me, and you know, it was also my birthday, and so I was upstairs in my room bawling my eyes at I mean bawling my eyes. My world is over. Matthew broke up with me.

It's awful. But I go downstairs. My entire family is down there, and I go down there. I put on a smile like I did not tell one person that I was upset. And that's what excues me about being kids because they don't feel like they can share it, and I think back, I'm like, well, why didn't I

want to share? I think I was embarrassed and that scares me because I'm like, I want Jolie to come down from that call that she gets when her boyfriend breaks up with her and be like, mom, like my heart's broken, you know, or this person was you know, really nasty to me on social media or this like like or I feel depressed or I feel sad or this this hurts, you know, but I fear that they're not going to And I had a great relationship with my parents, so it's like, why didn't I say something?

And that's when Nikki was talking about like how she was dealing with all of this. I related a lot to that because my parents, like especially my mom, was always inviting me to share things and wanting me to share things. But again, sometimes you just don't. But like why though, That's what I don't get, Like both of our parent moms were so great with that, right, And I think that's where it doesn't have anything to do

with our parents necessarily. I think there's definitely things parents can do to harm that relationship where you don't want to come to them. But I really don't think there is much of that, especially with my mom, of what harm me to want to come to her. I just think it is the embarrassment. I think it is still you know, that that people pleasing mentality you have as a kid. You want because you know how your parents are when you do something wrong, and you know how

they are when you do something right. So when you have that embarrassment, you have to bring something to them. It's hard because you don't want to see any disappointment maybe on your parents face, or any concern, and so I don't know. I just think it's something that individuals, you know, process in different ways and just depends on

who you are and then how you are. Yeah, and probably just or like not even knowing how to express the emotions that you know, I'm not really sure my thirteen fourteen year old self, you know, even before you know, pre high school boyfriend stuff, i'd even know how to express like when I started my period, or you know, when when Bobby made fun of my boobs being small, you know, and I got bullied for that, like damn you, Bobby for doing that. But I mean, it's just that thing.

That's like, did I go home and tell my mom that I got made fun of because my boobs are small? Or that I steps on a condom and Evan McComb laughed at me, Like no, but I was. I was so embarrassed. Why one in seventh grade stepping on a condom? Oh my god, he stepped at a dirty condom? And

the worst, the worst. You just cut out those two years of But like, I just love what Nicki and Bradley are doing because they're making middle school like they're letting kids have emotions and feelings and that is awesome. Like that when they just said they had like the thirty minutes afterwards where they get to share, like I got goose bumps. Oh my gosh. I just want to be in the room for that. And I hope they come to Tennessee next offseason because I want to witness that. Yeah,

I would love to too. Okay, well let's take a break and then let's do some emails. Hey Easton, Yes, do we have any emails? Yes? We do. Uh, let me let me pull them up here and get my reading voice ready. I assume you want me to read them. Um, here we go, all right? How about this one. This is from Mary Lou. Uh. This is Mary Lou speaking, not me. I'm turning forty two next week and I've been divorced for ten years. I'm still single and I've only had one relationship since the lasted ten months. Am

I going to be single forever? I've tried dating apps, meeting people when I'm out, and even flirted with my exterminator. I don't know what my issue is. I have a great career, I went to homes, I take fun vacations. I feel like I'm a great catch. But each birthday that passes and I don't have someone to share it with, I'm starting to lose hope. What advice can you give

me to find that special someone? So when I was going through the emails um and they run down last night, I read this and I automatically thought of my mom and I was just like, I can't wait to answer this email because I know at the time it seems hopeless and it seems like you're never going to find

the right person. My mom was single for she was married for twenty years and then single for for more than that, and I remember her just like crying and being so upset and she dated her tree man, and you know, she just was so desperate to kind of find that love. And I think when she really was comfortable in her own skin and I wasn't looking for it and just did her own thing, that's when she, you know, was fine. She finally was like, I think

I'm gonna be okay whether I'm single forever. And I didn't really believe her, but that's what she said, but I truly think she was. And then she finally met her person. So I feel like, just take you know, just keep doing you and don't try to be something that you're not, and keep doing all those fun adventures, and you're going to meet someone along the way. I promise. I mean, yeah, Will said, I didn't you know when Youson just read it, I didn't think think about your

mom in the moment. But that's a great point. That's a great comparison. So Janna has definitely seen this firsthand, and I've seen seen her data few people in the time we've been together. But from my perspective, um kind of to go off of what Jana saying is just enjoy this time that you have for yourself. Enjoy those vacations, enjoy what you're doing and find solace in it that you're providing for yourself and successful and you know, a

strong independent woman. And then, like Janna said, you'll find the right person. Brocom, don't rush it. That's good advice. Guys. Let's let that person come to you. I always think when when you open your heart to love, that love will usually walk in. Um wait ethan, can I jump in here? Because there was this guy that reached out to me on Instagram and I I saved it because I wanted to read it on the podcast. Please do

you mind if I read this one? Please do? Um? So. His name is Ben, he goes Hey, Janna, my name is Ben. I hope you and your family are doing well. Your podcast have been a godsend. Maybe you address this question in one. But my life has been in disarray ever since me and my girlfriend broke up for me cheating on her and not wanting to be honest with her about it. But what made you stay? Why did you want to try and make it work? When I finally came clean, she wasn't having any of it and

kicked me out. I want to try and work it out, but she was done. I have been getting help and I only have, um a fool's hope that we can work it out. Thank you for all you do. Keep up the good work. And when I went to his page, I mean it is like a dedication page for her. It's just like forgive me, like what I learned today. UM, I mean just like I'm and I'm sorry video like like the studio here in case you don't know, I'm

sorry for everything. UM, And you know I'll kind of answer like why I stayed was because you know, I I wanted to believe it might could be a better person, um and be the man that he said he was going to be. Now, obviously it takes a lot of time, and looking back, I'm like, it's been quite a journey. But um, it's kind of scary that she's already like kicked him out. And because I feel like there's two

different there's two kinds of women. There's the woman that's all right, that's it, get your crap and get out of here, and that's zero, zero tolerance, and hey, that's what I always said I was gonna be. Um, and then what happens to you sometimes that changes. And then there's a person that stays because they want to try

and work it out. So it does worry me a little bit then that she had that mentality, because usually when you have that first thought mentality, it's pretty much like Denzo and the person is like, no, But if she's giving you any signs of hope, like if she's still communicating with you, if she's still um you know, if she's still giving you something, then I would continue to try to keep asking for forgiveness and say that you're sorry, but at the same time start just being doing,

like being you and doing you and doing it for yourself not for anybody else, because I think that's when I've noticed the change is when like Mike wasn't doing it for me, he was doing it for himself, and that's the change that he finally made, you know, a couple of months ago. If you do it for for you and you're not doing it for me, and then over time you see the growth and the change in

that person. Yeah, and Jane has been able to acknowledge and honestly be able to lean more, be more attracted to me when I'm not so codependent and just rying to feed off her emotion or see how she's feeling engaged that on how I should feel. And so if you, just like Jane said, just be you and be the person that she fell in love with originally, be the person that she fell in love with originally, then I

think that's your best opportunity. And if she ends up, you know, if she's not giving you any sign of hope, then be the man that you want to be for the next relationship, because that one just wasn't worth it, and there is clearly there might have been a reason because you cheated on her. So I don't know who knows. Everyone's reasons can be different. Um, I mean, yeah, it's it's just tough because then people will be like, oh, well, if I wasn't the one for you, then you shouldn't

cheat it on me. So maybe I don't know that answer, but you know, she might just be done and you might just have to to say okay and be better for the next person, because nobody deserves to be cheated on. So, Eastern, do you have another one for us? You know? I do. I saw this one coming down the line, and I I'm really interested in your answer, so I'm picking this one. This is from Janet uh one of my favorite sayings

and I still use it to this day. Is I could totally eat the butt off a skunk right now? From the scene in went Trio and you were hired, hired to be the model for clothes over Bros. And you got into the limo and you were so hungry. As an actress, do you get to make up some of your own lines? Is that your ad libe Jane? That was not my ad lib. I even asked if I could change that. I was like a butt of a skunk, Like, who would want to eat a butt

of a skunk? And the directors like, well, that means we're really hungry that you would want to eat the butt of a skunk. And I was just like and they fought to keep that line in. They shirted Eastern Wow, there's a living proof on YouTube. I mean, you can sometimes make things up. Unfortunately, especially when you're working in TV. It's very hard because certain things have to pass um through network and you can't say certain things, so you

have to be really careful. Um. You can kind of move things around a little bit um with if you're saying the same thing, you can maybe work it to make it sound uh like you have roll off your tongue a little bit easier. Um, but pretty much you have to stay somewhat on book for certain things. Other things. I mean, I know some people that improv. There was just one movie there, like the improv most of the

whole movie. I can't remember what movie that was we were watching, but that was one of the trivia things is that they improved almost the entire movie. I feel like if I was an actor, that's that's how I would be. Just like, these are lines and I just kind of start going off on my own little tangent, so I'll be I'll be tough to reel in. What about you, Easton? I mean, I like, I'm not an actor. I don't if you guys know that, but I like a little calling me a little calling bu uh uh.

It just whenever I see those movies like The Curb Your Enthusiasms and stuff like that, where like the entire thing is improved, I just think it's so so impressive. Um. But but you know, taking words that are written for you and making them sound natural takes an incredible amount of skill. So yeah, alright, guys, Well this was a fun episode, and um let's just go have a great week. And keep that distance, y'all