Ep. 21 Paying it Forward

but Easton was there. Um. You were doing podcasts with Becca and Dean and all them, and so we were just kind of recapping about the bachelor's and Mike said that, did I I didn't come home with a big head. You came home feeling very good about yourself. Well, it's I think they were just trying to make me feel because you know, I'm pregnant. I'm seven months pregnant, I'm in Vegas, and you know they were like, wow, like you're an attractive pregnant person. I think they were just

trying to be nice. No, I think that's where you're selling yourself short, and especially when a group of boys like that get around a beautiful woman like woman like you you're like, oh my god, Like they're like, I can't handle how beautiful you really are and stunning. Oh. As a witness, the boys were drooling. Stop you know this. I was a witness. I would be in the green room and I'm like, Janna, never mind. The boys were just like I couldn't even get through to her. She

was such a hot commodity. But can I say she's most humble human being though, because all throughout the night, she would check in on everybody that was working the event, would ask how everyone's doing, would like literally ask me if I needed water, and I'm like, do you do you need water? You're the ones and heels like what's happening? That sounds like, well, I just well, let me just

say this. There were a lot of attitudes with from some of the celebrities that came to the festival, and I saw firsthand that some of them were not treating some of the I heart people. Were they that we're helping them, like Tori, And it was just I felt bad because I'm like, I don't care who you are. If you were Maria carry which by the way, she wasn't at all. I didn't meet I didn't get to meet Maria. But I mean, Paula Abduel was the nicest person the whole entire planet. Like I freaked out when

I met her. She likes amazing by the way amazing she was. She's fantastic, but she like she was so sweet, but there was people underneath her that we're being so rude and so nasty. I even stuck up for Tori, stood up for Tori because she was being so mean. I was just like, you're being rude and I didn't even care. I don't care who you are if you mean to the people that are helping you, Like, that's

just not nice. No, I don't like it. So that's I was like to need Mama Bear came out for but it was much appreciated because it's in like the most delicate and gentle way, and she just has a cute, litt pregnant belly where like anything goes very sweet. But I mean, we're obsessed. Well I just again, I think they were just trying to be nice. But I mean I still got every she I appreciate the compliment of them drooling all over you because you're my wife, my

pregnant wife with a second child. So ownership has written all over that. Did you get that? Guys? You guys want to come and talking abou podcast about it? We can. But I think what's funny is is Mike said something to me the other night that kind of like it was kind of a dig it? What did you say? So I went to Dancing with the Stars to support Bobby Bones. We might be on the show today, We're not sure yet, but um so I went to go support him, and I my old partner, was dancing with

Nicky Glazer, who's a comedian. She's really sweet. I've never met her before, so I wanted to kind of go talk to her. So I tapped her on the shoulder, you know, back in the red room, and I was like, hey, I just want you to know that I think you did a really great job. And I think you're so sweet. And you know, if Gleb's hard on you, like you know, that's just how he is. And he's very Russian and dada, and she was so nice, like so so so nice

cut too. I come home, bib and no, and Janna is telling me about this and her Nikki already texting and and I told Janna I was I'm a fan of Nikki's and I've listened to her Comedy Central show you Up on you know, serious ex Salm and stuff, and I've always liked her stuff. And Jane's just reading me some of their conversation back and forth, and just Nikki was just like, you're awesome, Like I'm blessed to

know you already. Janna like it's amazing, and yeah, it's super cute, but the and I was just like, what do all these people seeing you? But I didn't. I didn't mean it like that. I was like, what do people see in me? I was like, oh wow, I didn't mean it like that. My whole what did you mean? Point was she has this uncanny ability to meet people and in five minutes people love her and she's the best person in the world and people that's how I feel.

But it's just it's just she comes home and I'm like, how many new best friends do you have now? Because ten people fell in love with you tonight? Like job to keep us humble? But what do people see in? Like? What do people? And today, like, we're coming back from our ultrasound appointment and I was like, I'm going to bring up to because it kind of hurt my feelings, like what do people see in me? Like? What do not see in me? That I'm a nice person? But

what do people see in me? I see all those things. Honey, I phrased it the wrong way I meant. I meant to say. I meant to give you the explanation of you have this ability just for people to fall in love with you and a snap, but instead it's what

do people see in you? For the record, in sixty years, you're still going to be having this kind I just like to talk to people, and I like people to For example, this one girl and followed me on Instagram in the country world, and it really hurt my feelings because I was like, just why that the bad energy? Why do you follow me? Do not like me? And so I get really upset if someone doesn't like me. And so I I texted her and was like, Hey, all good. I just like, uh, I hope I didn't.

I never said anything bad about you. I hope that you like. So like she's like, oh my god, I'm so sorry. I just kind of like cleared through whatever, blah blah blah. It's fine, but I hate like bad

energy out there. So that's why I am always trying to be very nice to people, and I do understand why people do, because, especially in the kind of entertainment world and the world that Jan is in a lot, it is very refreshing to see someone so rigorously honest and someone who's so genuine as her and so people in that business, you know, probably don't see that a lot. So when someone sees such honesty and such you know, genuine attitude and just personality, people probably are drawn to that.

But then the question lies, what do people see? You know, I'm gonna be I'm gonna eat that one for a while for a minute. Um, hey, so I'm not on my period right now. But you love Lola. I love it. And we were actually just talking. I was talking to a friend. Um, oh no, it was Samantha Harris the

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percent off all subscriptions my Lola dot com and enter Janna. Hey, can can you You brought up something to me the other day that thought was kind of interesting. Oh yeah, you know, it was very random, but I thought about it. So I was getting a coffee in the morning out of Starbucks on the West Side and you know, this home with me and outside asked me very nicely, He's like, hey, man, you know, do you get a cup of coffee? And

I just kind of like looked down. I was like, not today, right, But I was like, man, he asked so nicely, and I was in there waiting in line I was kind of looking outside at him. I was like, you know what, he's very respectful and when I said no, he was like, oh, it's okay, thanks though, like you know, he wasn't didn't say anything else, like he's very nice and even was okay with me saying no. And so I got him one and handed it to him, and he was very grateful and you know, thank you so much.

You gotta bless you all that stuff. And so I got in the car and was driving to where I had to go, and but I started thinking. I was like, maybe this is too introspective, but it's like, did I do it to really help him or because you know, you feel good about yourself after you do something like that, or I was like, did I do it too for myself?

Is do I do it in a selfish way to make myself feel good about myself or is it a little bit of both or so I just thought it was interesting because you know, some people help out, some people don't, And what's the true motivation behind doing that? Jen, I think you only have the answer for that because was it because you were walking away feeling guilty and you wanted that feeling to go away? And you didn't want to think about it the rest of the day.

It was truly because he was very kind, He was very appreciative, he was very accepting of even when I said no then for him. Yeah, I like the fact that he actually asked you for what he wanted to save money, Like, hey, it wasn't like money. It was like I would like coffee, which surprises me. It's almost like the girl Scout that showed up at your door

at one time. I'll never forget that. You want to talk about that one because that just on a complete side note, when I was playing in Buffalo, so usually we'd have teammates kids or some of our trainers, some of this coach's staff, like basically their daughters would get hooked up because the girl Scout cookie thing would go around the locker room and I mean every a guy with this girl would clean up right, and she was

winning free summer camp out something. Yeah, get the whole Buffalo Bills football team to buy all of her cookies. So it was like the day I did that, Like I bought these cookies and I think I had just gotten them. And it was raining a gray, rainy day in Buffalo as it normally is, and this hear knock on my apartment door. I go to the door and it's this little girl standing out in the rain like her dad's kind of like ten feet behind her, staying there.

It's like, would you like to buy some girl scout cookies? And I was just like, uh no, And it started slowly closing. I was like I just like slowly closed the door and she's just standing there with guys. I'm like, no, sorry, sorry, and I just got something. They closed the door, and like two minutes later, I'm like, I'm the worst human being in the world that has haunted me to this day. I'm like, to this day, like exactly one box that

was just so busy I can buy one. It's just because I just bought like ten doesn't matter like rain. Her poor dad has to explain to her why I'm such a karma. Yeah, I wonder what I see in you. That's a great question. I'm opposite though. I buy like twelve packages because I look at like all these cheapos are just getting one box. Well for the twelve. When Rocco comes home with the sheet of something to self for school, I just buy the whole thing because I

just can't. It's just too much. Or I'll call my mom and say, oh, can you mau a hundred dollars worth of whatever? Po in a bind here, We've got to build a self esteem a little bit, yes, But to get back to the pay it forward stock and helping out. Have you ever paid for somebody's meal or anything like that? I love that. I do too. I love I love I love it. I love playing pain. Remember we paid for someone's drinks one time. Yeah, I like that, just being like, hey, don't tell them, but

we'd like to buy their drinks. You walk out feeling selfishly, selfishly do it? You walk up. But then I feel like that encourages people to do it, to do it forward. Even more so, when I get coffee in the morning about once or twice a week, I will give an extra ten and just say, however, Lily, however Lily wants to distribute it with coffee or a pastry or whatever, then she can do that straight Lily's pocket. No, we

should challenge people to do a pay it forward. So I think everyone should try and pay it forward this week and then let us know how it made you feel what you did, and email us at Janet Kramert I heart media dot com. It can be as small as filling someone's meter. Yeah, and all of us need to do it too, So let's all let's all challenge. I love it good. It's making me already feel good. All right, we'll come back next week and we'll all say what we did to pay for word like I

gave Oh my god, speaking of a bachelor person. Sorry, we're all over the place. Amanda Danton, did you guys see what she did on e or she beat she beat up her boyfriend, like domestic violence or whatever. And then she goes on record saying, because I take it very seriously, I'm going to donate three hundred dollars. Don't if you're only going to donate three dollars, don't say the amount. It's great that you're donating, but don't save you You your post alone is like five grand on Instagram.

You know what I mean? Don't that's offensive to someone that's been in a domestic abuse Thank thank you for your three Like when you're an actual like person that gets paid way more for social ads. So they with a kid, yeah, they I mean they flattered her, which

I mean again, if if you're not. I think it's great that she gave money, But at the same time, if you're going to just say, I'm going to donate money to domestic Violence Aware, you know, to awareness, not I'm giving three hundred dollars disclaimer disclaimer when you guys pay listeners pay for it this week, you know, no, but it's not No, I'm not about that because of her social media, because she, according to this article, she gets between five and fifteen thousand dollars per social post

thank you well, she could donate a social post. She could have said that, like even when we like, you know, I agree. I mean I didn't even say how much we won for family feud. It was thousand, but you know, regardless, like, wait, are you allowed to say that, yeah we won? It just aired, Yeah, I saw it was fun. But anyways, I just think if like again, it could be five dollars, you could buy someone's coffee. But it's the fact that she said that's how much she was donating. That was

I think that was super techy. Yeah, that's brutal. One more little fun since we're all over the place, I know, but I like, yeah, it's great. So Jane and I had another scenario come up in the car actually this morning, would you like, would you like to bring this up to me? Go ahead? Well, yeah, because I we kind of started getting into it and I was like, no, let's just table it for the podcast because I will

say this. Let me first off by saying this. Michael drives ninety five percent of time, nine percent of the time for his choice, because he's large, he's got a truck. He doesn't like fitting into my car. He doesn't like being the passenger in my car. So he likes to drive. And Janna doesn't drive on expressways. So we have done in combat. But whatever, it's not like we really have

to take the expressway a lot of places anyways. But irregardless and even know if that's a word, but regardless or irregardless, um he I always make sure that I am not on my phone the entire time that he is driving. If I go on, it's to be like, oh, I gotta I gotta text um Nick to see if you can play, or I gotta I gotta do that's really fast. But I am not on my phone a

lot of the times because I think it's rude. I just don't want to be like on my phone while he's driving, but when he is in my car and I drive. For example, this morning to our ultrasound appointment, he was on his phone the entire time, and I

was like, would you like some mints? I feel like you're uper driver, Like you know what I mean, Like I think it's I just feel like it's rude and he's and he's just and then what we'll go ahead, Tommy to feel because he started to get a little for me, I was like, first of all, she is on her phone quite a lot in the car. I understand that not all the time, and I do appreciate that. I acknowledge your side of that. But what's even worse for me is she'll get on phone calls, which that's

my number one thing. If your passenger gets on the phone call, if they're on the phone, okay, you can still talk to them. And many times so I get on the phone in the phone call. Not not many, okay, I always ask I get on the phone really quick, right, that's that's very nice. But so again I drive nine we'll call it percent the time. So Janna gets that time to whether she's on her phone a lot or not,

she's able to do. You're still on it at some point during every drive, so she's able to take care of emails or things or look at stuff about a minute. So she drives today and I'm like, man, this is great. I can like stuff. I wanted to catch up on stuff I want to do. Got a big fancy football week coming this week? Do I pick up Baker Mayfield? Is it worth it? I don't know, a lot of

people are streaming him. Put him on my bench and I kept the lancing over and you know, okay, and in my league with my buddies back home, there's it's a fourteen team league. All you fancy football ballers out there. No, that's a very hard league for switch sides. Because I thought you were catching up on work. Thank you. I was doing some of that too, some emails. But still this was my time to do it. So I didn't do it at the Ultra sound. So I'm sitting there.

Why can't you do it when you're on the when you spend your time, you spend ten minutes taking a crap on the toilet, do it then, or do you know, do it when Joel is napping? Why do you have to do it? Why do you have to look at the fantasy football the entire time I'm driving. It takes time, does in dedication and when you're undefeated like me, yeah, you have to put in the work. Okay, Well, I just felt like I was an uber driver and I just think it's I just I don't know, I for

some reason just rubs me wrong. I just feel like you should put the phone down. And even if we don't have a conversation, because we don't talk a lot in the car, we don't have to have a conversation, just be respectful that you're not just like like literally, I felt like I was like driving this daisy and I don't like it because I know that I make a conscious effort to not well now, I know in six months from now when drives again that I will do.

You guys have a rule while you're eating our phones away. Yes, yeah, no phone's away. But there is a real big one that I'm still stickler on with him when he has when Jolie is asking for for something and he's on his phone, it drives me. It's a trigger from my childhood.

I feel ignored and I'm like I do certain things and now in my adult life, because I was ignored as a kid and my dad was on his freaking computer and I asked him a question ten minutes later, one of those inclusion it's like no, Dad, like you know,

you know. So it's like when I see her being like like, uncle, put your phone around, like it's just like it burns me inside, which she will look over for the split second I have it, and it's every time I look, which we jan and I both know that me giving Jolie attention, there's no I give her way more. He's a great dad. He's a great dad.

It's just unfortunate whenever that I do look, it's always the times when she's like grabbing for him and he's like she just started grabbing for me, and she's like I found out. I'm like really I was that. I could be finishing email or finished typing something, and I'm like, she can hang on for two seconds. I also don't want to be like, oh, what do you need? What do you need? What do you I mean, like Kaddy's doing something right. So it's it's a healthy balance too.

Where As she gets older, it's like I'm finishing something, Jolie, let Daddy finish this and then I'm all yours. But I think it's the phone that bothers me because in this day and age, I think it's always going to be Well, it could be we're doing dishes, Can you please wait while mommy finishes doing dishes and daddy's on

the phone. Well, I always say, I always say, Rocco, I need ten seconds to finish this email, right like I have to finish my thoughts, and then I immediately put it down and then I'm right back at him. Do you ever feel like you're not being good enough parents? Though at times always got the worst mom on the planet, You're the best mom in the world. Why do you feel like, well, you know you can never be perfect? You know, sure you can. I am no kidding people

seeing me a bachelor's nicky glazier Jane is perfect. Well you know what. I'm sorry, No, no, um, stop it now. I'm really excited because we have Rachel. Do you want do you want to just because you're obsessed? Rachel's my dream? We have rachel'szo on and I have been watching her show. I watched her show for years. She actually has not and um she has an actual brick and mortar store opening there's uh these velvet suits I've been eyeing on

her website. Didn't that I'm about to What does that mean? Like? Does it literally mean a brick and mortar store? Like I don't even know brick and mortar me because everything that's like a brick building, like a Baltimore building, Well, it just means, um, she's not going to be online anymore. Store a store up, whatever materials it's made of, it is irrelevant. That's I mean, that's online story, brick and mortar. Okay, yeah,

what's din? What's her face? Maker? Famous from not Paris Hilton, where I think I know it is also my spirit animals. So I feel like one time I saw Nicole Rich and I ran a red leg cause I was like, it's still Rich And I was like I just ran a red light because I was so star starting. I was like, would do that? Yeah, it's like simple life, Well you do that now? Okay? Do we have so? Um? Nicole has the House of Parlow jewelry. I love. Then

Rachel Zoe is the fashion queen. I mean she has styled the wide range of celebrities on and off the red carpet, including Jennifer Lawrence Kiera Knightley, and Kate Hudson. I wonder if she did she do guys, I don't know. Well, you know what, I'll check her Instagram because I follow her and we'll see what she's doing. Oh so I really like this one. It's talk Space, Um we Are. Today's show is sponsored by talk Space. It's the online therapy company that lets them that lets you message a

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You can be helping people and making money. I mean, what a win win. Okay, here's here's the one and only Rachel's Oh I can't wait. Rachel. Hi, Oh my goodness, thank you so much for calling in, because my husband just started talking about fantasy football and I was about to lose my mind. I was like, fashion, please, not football. I'm totally with you. Does your husband do all that too? He does the fantasy football and everything? Yeah, he does all of that. I mean he only started caring about

the sports when he started betting on the sports. Right motivation, Where are you at right now? I hear sorry, right, I'm absolutely in my very peaceful and serene office that is currently not peaceful in serene because there is a protest going on outside my office, not because of anything in my office. It's like a stag protest. Oh are you in l A. Yeah, I'm in l A on my roads and say it's crazy. It literally sounds like a parade. Um, it's insane. Are testing. I don't know xactly,

but sad. Something to do with sag right, actors rights, commercial rights? Interesting? Yeah, go go us, go go sack. Rachel who is the very first celebrity you ever styled? Um? The very first celebrity I ever styled? UM was a hole? No, no, no, um no it was It was pop stars. So well, okay, let me rephrase that. I had one job in my life before I went freelance when I was twenty five, and I worked at YAM magazine UM and I styled

a lot of celebrities while I was there. But in my career as a stylist UM, my first celebrity client was UM Factory Boys, Brittain Spears, then UM all kind of at the same time, and then I shifted into doing actors UM in about two thousand and to two thousand three at my first big red carpet moment in Hollywood with Jennifer Garner and then Cameron Diaz and kid husband and talmahiok and Turn Nightly and and all these

other amazing women. Who's the biggest diva? And I'm kidding And you can't tell I know, you can't tell me that. I really wish you good, but I have to kill you. No. I know, well, because I am my style every time, I like, I always try to get stuff out of her, and you know she can't. But it's like, you know, she's kind of giving me like a look and I'm like, okay, okay, but I mean that's gonna be hard to like such big personalities and you, you know, you just but you

you're obviously like so confident in what you do. And I think it's great because obviously you're like, I know, I'm the best of the best. No, I actually never had that kind of confidence. I think you just I no, I mean no, I just not really built that way.

I think you just I always felt like I could do better and be better, and I think when I was with my clients, I just always approach it though it was a service I was providing because it is really a service business, and you know, really trying to crack the code on you know, what my client wanted and sort of how they can absolutely look and feel their best and have that moment you know, every time they go out there in the public. Is there one disaster that you can like it was a total disaster.

I mean I've had a few. Really, I would say, well, there are more technical difficulties, meaning you know, a closure on a picture down, you know, busted right as you got in the car to go to the Ascars after the dress was made. Course of two months and like ten fittings, and then another one someone was performing on stage in put some leather pants uh at not a Sin Square Garden and they ripped right down the middle. Um, you know things like that. Lots lots of those moments.

That's fantastic. Rachel, your son's always look I follow you on Instagram and I'm always on your Instagram watching. I love your clothes, but your sons are always dressed so cute. Thank you. And I have a six year old son and I buy him the cutest clothes and all he wants to wear our basketball shorts in tight eye t shirts and I cannot get him into anything else. How

do you do it? Um? You know it's interesting. Um, A friend of mine taught me when my when my first son was born, and see a great sape and style. And you know, I had all these beautiful clothes for first guy, and I said, God, I feel like as soon as you too, free's gonna want to start taking on his own instead of what am I gonna do when he starts putting on all these like nylon shorts blah blah blah. And my girlfriend was like, do you know what your soil? If you only get good things,

they don't have to be expensive. But if you only find like things you love that you're happy that you wear it and not what he picked from. And I was like, God, that seems so simple but true. It seems so obvious, but it's so true. So that's kind what it did. And then I think, you know, once guy started like kindergarten and first grade, he obviously started some more of an opinion, and um, now we kind of do trade out like as long as it's comfortable,

keep happy, Okay, you know what I mean? And it would happened was there was a moment where he was like, Mom, I just want to wear like, you know, sports shorts, and you know, he was like. I was like, first of all, you don't have to dress like everyone else. You're your own person. And then I said and and second I was like, honey, mom, you've built her whole career and was paid to actually tell people decide what

to wear. So I know that's confusing, but but let's plea just try and text me on this a little bit. You know, if what I would give to have that freestyling. Well, I was funny because then at that point, people like he would put on these co opsits and everywhere we went strangers and be like cool outfit, dude, Oh you look so good. And I think he started to really like the feedback, so now he doesn't really question it too much. That's really cute. Cool, That's kind of what

I'm afraid of. Yeah, that's really good. It's almost like because our daughter, she every single morning, before she even says good morning to us, she's about to be three, she says dress, dress, dress, and sometimes like we I love putting her in dresses, but sometimes, you know, like she has to wear pants to school and like, I mean, it is. It is like tackling an alligator to put on leggings. It's it's so I'm like, do I just take all the dresses out so she doesn't even see them? Well,

do you want me to make you feel better? Yeah? I have a friend that he a daughter at that age would only go to school in a bathing suit. And thank you. Actually in Manhattan, so had to wear a coat and a bathing suit. But I feel better, I mean I do feel better because I mean, it's it's to the point where I mean, she is. I mean I had to have my father in law helped me hold her down to put because she will just

I mean scream bloody murder. Yeah, this morning, this morning, I even put her in like a skirt, like a cute golf outfit that I just shot. It's great, but it was. It was a skirt and like a little collared shirt and that's not the one she wanted to wear. But I had to hold her down and yeah, let her have it. Well, and now I'm afraid of because we're we have a boy on the way. We're seven months pregnant, and oh my god, congratulated, thank you and I'm so excited because boy clothes are so cute. I've

got something drop crotches and stuff. And Michael is like, honey, he's just gonna want to wear like the basketball shorts. I'm like, no, like not happening. Like he's going to be styled to the team. But it's just not number three. No to to Oh, I thought you said you had a boy and a girl. No, we have just a girl and then we have a boy on the way. Oh got it? Good for you, that's like the dream. Congratulate, thank you? Yeah? Are you going to try again for

a girl? I would dream every dream I could ever dream of a girl. I'm not just thought my boys won't so badly they do. They don't want to boy. They only want a baby sister, So maybe a third then maybe. I mean, you never know what will happen. I mean I would, I would. I mean look at Kate Hudson. You know your client. I mean, and I bonded, we've bonded over, we've known each other forever. But she

um the fact that she sent me a girl. I literally cried, Oh I did too, and I don't even know where, but I was like, it's just you know, like the relationship she has with her mom and like she needs a girl. You know, I know it's amazing often that gold do you choose some must us the human? Wow? Do you style men? I started my career styling men for the very beginning. For many years I sailed men. And it's not that I don't, it's that it's just not as interesting. Mike's like, thanks, what I mean is

what I mean? It's like, yes, I do, and I love doing it. But after a while you're like you're a little creatively, you know, he's a kind of the same thing over and over again and jeans bla blah blah. Okay, So you have a new story that just opened in the Pacific Palisades in Los Angeles. Yeah, I do. Can you tell me as please? It's so exciting. It's um at the new Palace Sates village, you know, the new career. So I cannot tell you. How have you done yet? Yeah?

It's stunning, Like it's so beautiful. Yes, oh my god, it's like everything you ever wanted all in one village. It's so beautiful. Um. I will be there over the next level days quite a lot. But I'm like a Dick that I can't stop going, and um, my store is there, and it's just it's a footer down from Jennifer Meyer and right across from the movie theater and

all the restaurants. It's honestly this magic. I mean I created this store to kind of feel like, you know, the customers sort of coming in to get staled and have that great stop the experience, and also feel like they were sort of walking into my living room a little bit. You know that they could be very kind of comfortable and lounge you but still feel like they're in this sort of easy, glamorous kind of place. I love that. I feel like that makes it like very

you know, just really fatable. And yeah, you got to make easy for people that and people who aren't listening or who don't live in Los Angeles. Um, you can always go on her website, which we should louch will plug and you can buy listen your fall line. I always buy suits every year from here. You have the best suits every season, and this these velvet suits this season. I'm going to own all of them. And there's a sequen one. My god, if it doesn't stretch, I can't

wear it yet. But next year I'm going to have a whole like wardrobe. I told you that, Michael, remember said, I'm getting I did show much online shopping when I was pregnanty so like I but in vomnia and I was like, and as I have this baby, I'm jumping right back into these clothes. Yeah, I'm gonna because I've had some of my clothes for for years and years, and so I'm gonna just I'm gonna have I told my lesson after this baby, I'm getting my body back.

I'm going to just I'm going to buy finally clothes that are you know, not just the things that one I'm like, I want to buy nice clothes that are gonna last me and that I compare with other things and totally you know, because I'm a leg But that's why I love to more of them separate together during dual. And you really have the bus cuts so much. That makes me so happy. Think, Hey, what is um screen responsibly dot com? So I mean, listen, I think all

of us. I think admittedly, we all sit on our screens, whether it's our phone or wrap bo iPad um way too many hours. I mean one and three adults say they they screens more than ten hours a day, and when you even ten hours a day. Yeah, but there's the thing. I was like, oh my god, crazy. And then I think about it and I'm like, okay, I

got up. It took the clocome morning. You know, I'm honest screen by right, and then I get home and then I'm back online again, like even like after I got the kids down, and after I'm honest screen all day at work, and all day work I am, and then I wanted again to return on the emails at night. And then I'm like, okay, you are on way more

than you think you are. Um. And I think sort of changing your behavior a little bit by doing these like very little changes in your life, like just literally taking times to look away from the screen for periods of time to give your eyes a little break, um, or even something like keeping your laptop or your screen inches away from you actually makes a huge difference. And then something that seems obvious but isn't. It's geeming your

screens um, geeming the brightness. Because that changed my life. When I did that, that was like, oh my god, how have I been staring at it like this for so long? You know, It's funny it's all makes fun of me. He's like, you had your screen is so dark, and I'm like, your screen is so bright. Yeah, I just it's just how I guess we view things differently.

I just didn't find down. Yeah, but no, I think that's like, so, well, what made you you just was it you just realized you were on your phone too much? Or um? No? I just you know, I have really sensitiviz and they think doing these things just it was such they were still life changing and they were so

easy to do. And then you know, I just really think that it's important that people kind of learn and understand more about screening screening responsibly, quite honestly, because I think it's really important because we live on our screens, Our kids live on their screens. You know. I try and limit my kids time too. You know, they say two hours or less. Um, Obviously I think those words changed on travel days. Um, travel days. I have no idea how long my kids on I don't even want

to know, um. But you know, I'm constantly moving the iPad further away from them, you know, because if you think about it, you know, it's just we're older, so we kind of are more aware and more sensitive to. But younger kids don't know, you know, right, it could be too great, or could be too close or just you know. So I just think it's important to understand, um, you know what you can do to sort of help you your eyes and just sort of scream more responsively. Honestly,

our daughter likes to. She challenges us all right already and wants to put her face right next to her iPad fust entire time, in which we rarely give it to her. But if we're having dinner whatever, she'll she'll like push it forward and with no push it back, like it's I mean, it's a constant battle. It's so frustrating. I mean, you're really just taken over. I'm a huge fan. Jen's a huge fan. Michael Will will be a huge fan. Once I start buying your clothes, I'm going to have

to actually, I don't know, you probably won't. I'm going to have to get married again just to be involved in the new Bridle collection. I know money, you want to get married in? Um where can my listeners find you out? Um? Stop rates? But well, uh, Instagram is at rachels though shopping a stop rail dot com And then of course my store Policade Village. Um. And then of course if you want box the Style, you go

to boxing style dot com. Okay, well, one day when I all work, well, I love you, thank you for coming on the show. We appreci I'm gonna I'm gonna go to that screen responsibly dot Com because I think that's kind of I think that's awesome. I'm gonna take a quiz then you realize, so yeah, thank you. Thanks. Hi. Hey, honey, your hair is looking pretty good today. Thanks babe. Do you know why why? Um, because I'm taking sugar Bear hair. Yes, I love it. It's um, it's a gummy, It's really tasty.

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while we wait for our surprise visitors, a surprise. You haven't said his name yet, and his name I said he might come on the show. Oh yeah, you did, Bobby Bones might come on the show. But already said it in the beginning of the show. All right, this is an anonymous emailer. She needs some advice. One of her mom's friends a lawyer in February of legal questions, so she asked about them. Similar you know anonymous as a banker, people come to her for a financing questions,

the same sort of idea. Well, she had an attorney, but when with somebody else because she didn't feel like it was appropriate to hire a family friend to be her attorney. She felt like it could be a conflict of interest. Well, she ran into this woman in court, and that lawyer is very upset that she did not hire her. What she called me out, She blocked me from everything, didn't give the mom group is included from

mom group chats. And now I feel like everyone's knowing my business and I'm being punished for trying to keep private. What did I do wrong? Did I do anything wrong? I can't stand confrontation between things. She did nothing wrong. We talked about this. I think that you have strong ethics. I think it's actually unethical you work in the capacity with a friend in that manner. Absolutely, And I was telling Michael this too. I had a court case situation

and the defendant had the lawyer. You know, some sometimes it's okay if it's the friend. But I just think that's some cases courts won't even allow that. It's too close to the person of interest. Even when you're a therapist, it's unethical to work with someone that you're even an acquaintance with. It's you just can't do it. It's wrong. The boundaries are too muddy. It's just so muddy. The only thing, the only thing, just to play Devil's advocate

is I don't know, I know you love that. I don't know how she handled the situation where she could have gone to her and been like, look, I would love to hire you as my attorney. But here's my feeling around it is that we're just too close of friends. Would just be uncomfortable for me, and so I would just I just want to let you know that I'm

probably gonna go with somebody else. It's nothing personal. It's just I don't want it to get in the way of our friendship or it just seems to also the privacy issue when you're dealing with something in the court, there could be some serious private legal what this whole

situation is about. And you don't want your friend to be that right, But if she didn't handle it the right way, you're absolutely right we would be like, whoa, you didn't even like you asked me, you asked me for advice, and now all of a sudden, you show up the courthouse with someone else. It's like I could see why the lady's like, wait what, And maybe she probably didn't because she says she doesn't like confrontations, so I doubt that she actually didn't tell her friend, which

you know which too. If you want to unmuddy it, I would just be like, you know what, I'm so sorry. I just I'm really bad. I should have done this and I didn't. So if I hurt your feelings, I really do truly apologize to I think you can try to make it right again. But she does have a slight point, if you if if she didn't handle it first, yeah, but if she asked, it's almost like, for example, we

have a friend, Nick Wotter. He's our um, he's our realtor, and you know my um her his wife is my best friend, and also I work with her as well, and so um if we were to ask Nick a question about a home, but then we didn't use him as a realtor when we've used him before, he would be and she would too, rightfully, so be upset to be like you didn't even like you've you asked us, and now then you just didn't use us, but then you use somebody else. I could see why they do

not true. You know, I feel like the attorney should have just said, I'm going to give you this advice. But I you know, it's an ethical for me to work with you since we're in a mom group together, we're friends. Were this were that, I suggest that you find an attorney that you feel comfortable working with. That's that's asking a lot. That just seems too conscious of the whole professional and you have to be when you're

profession that kind of profession. I agree, I agree. I think you have to look at it from a work perspective as opposed to a friend person. That's like, if an e R doctor someone in his family comes in to the e R, he shouldn't be working on that person, right, And I've asked my and my my cousin Rachel is a doctor, and so I asked her. I'm like, oh, if anything ever happens, you can do my surgery. Right.

She's like, no, I'm not allowed to m HM, which is like a total bummer because if she went into plastics, I'm like, hey, can you hook a sister up? Well, that might be different, right, No, No, it's the same thing, can't We could do it, yeah, but same thing, you can't do it. So yeah, ethics, this is a bigger question. We might have to come back to it if Mr Bones shows up here. Alicia has a quick question. It's two sentences sex postpartum. Do some woman want to do

it right away? Are they disgusted by the thought of it for a while? That is the extent of her email. Um, well, uh, professionally, not professionally. What's the medically you're not allowed to do it? Six weeks? Is oh? I think if it's vaginal, if you have vaginal birth, you can't do it six weeks. I don't know. You all can google it. Because I'm not a doctor. I think it's but then it's less for a se section. Maybe I think it was six even for after Joey. Yeah, I mean I would want

to do it. I mean again, I want to do it a lot, but I would I would want to do it like a couple of weeks after. I don't know, as a as a man, are you grossed up? Because now I wouldn't have my belly anymore. It's like when she just want to get back to it because now it's like we got a bump in the way. Yeah, I mean, you guys, you're having it. I can't wait to take you home right now, honey. No, but since you're having a C section, I mean, I don't think

it affects. I don't know. I think your recovery time with the c section. It's if you feel more well. That's the thing I would be more afraid to, like hurt because you I mean, you hit, you're open, you have to heal major major j. Yeah, we're gonna chill off. We should we tell them what we're doing though, What are we doing? Remember that thing that you said you're gonna get me for Christmas? Oh my God, to help work on intimacy? Mm? Do I tell? Well? Now, you

guys have to so through. Buddy came up with this idea, which I think is really sweet. And since intimacy is something that I'm trying to work on and get better at, thank you. I appreciate that you even are wanting to try and perfect timing Ladies and gentlemen. Bobby Buddy Podcast, What's up. Okay, so you texted me this morning. Hi, who you texted me this morning saying that you hurt your rotator cuff. I did not say that the publicly. I don't want to be the guy in the show

that's injured. I was injured the second week. Yeah, but I don't want to be that guy. Okay, fine, so you're not that guy. But do you know why Michael goes? Probably because he was the russ celebrating. Yeah, I think it's part of it him. Yeah, I mean, and then did you see did you watch Bobby on the show and then his after apart, like with his celebrating the celebratory dance. I mean I think you, I mean, you literally pumped your arms so much that you probably tore

your arm out. Well, I don't know about my arm out. It's still a real arm. But my thing is, and I think as an athlete, Mike you'll know this, because I'm not not that I'm an athlete, but you you probably do the same thing, is that you don't want to always be injured because then when you're really injured, they're going, oh, come on, you're the injured guy. So I had a tooth knock loosen practice, and now I have a slight, a little we'll just call it a

little gibil rotator cove. And I don't want them. I don't want him to know that because I can't be the guy that's hurt, because if I do hurt myself, then it's oh, Bobby's hurt again. So and I and I went to the doctor, and I can manage this because it's not something that I just do some pain, pain work and then it's over. I'll get it fixed. Much like a football season, there are things that you don't have to fix it at the end of the season.

Because I'm comparing me to the NFL player right now, because anyone wanted will I will say, after winning sing what Janna went through? What two years ago in the schedule. I have a new found respect for dancers in general, and you guys on that show. So don't shortside yourself because I've done one episode. Mike, it's not well, that's the thing. He's You've been practicing for about three weeks how many hours a day? A lot of hours? Yeah, I mean all of a sudden. I mean because that's

like when I tore my intercostal muscles. The second week, you're not. You're doing moves your body doesn't even know, like how to move this way and that way, and all of a sudden you're being thrust into being a professional dancer. Yeah, it's not like jazzer sides where they're slowly going side to side. It's like, okay, welcome to it. Go Yeah. And so yeah, he's partner Sharna, and so she's like, now, go go go, and she's she's hard right Yeah. Day one she actually pulled my score them

completely off. So it's a whole I know. Yeah, it's tough. It's a tough, tough life of a dancer. But I believe they're all scrow them us. I'm just the group. Now. Just what happens. Yeah, then a blister just goes over all of a sudden, it's there's a new scrowed them perfect. Yeah, it's all just one. I mean, wow, we really do have two athletes in this room right now. We have one athlete and one that tried. But do you have to say to the athlete, I mean, like, because you

saw that. Because when I came home, Michael was his father in law wasn't town, so he didn't come to show with me, but I went to support Bobby, even a friend for a long time, and I'm very appreciative who came to the trailers that hello, you and your friend. It's awesome really because nobody can see. Yeah, I really appreciate that. Yeah, well, I just I'm I felt like I was a proud mom. I mean, I was just so excited and he yes, no, I'm sorry, this is sorry.

I'm doing how we do on our show. That doesn't mean stop. What happens on our show is when someone's talking and someone has something they want to say, they just go a hand, come over to me. Neck. I do mean to interrupt you, but that's what that mail like, I have something to say when you're done, okay. I just like, I'm just like the proudest mom ever. And I was so excited. So when I came home, I was like, honey, you have to see Bobby's dance. And I was like, and wait for the end. It's the

best part. And you were like like, so like wow, oh I was impressed. Yeah, I was thoroughly impressed. First, I wonder you're watching, and I knew that you had done the show, so to you, it's still kind of cool. To go back, and then you're there because you know me, and I'm very supportive. I'm very happy that you were supportive of me. Were you nervous before I went on? Because one it was me and two you had been

in that situation. I was nervous because I knew you were nervous, and I was nervous because I remember the nerves, So yes, it was. It was definitely both of those things. But I was more nervous because you were my friend. So I've never been nervous like that watching anybody else person I was personally nervous for someone else. I was like, I, please don't fall, Please don't fall, Bobby, Please, they don't don't mess up because I'm like, because I wanted you

to feel how you fell at the end. That's where it was like that proud moment where I was like I got tearyot, I was like, yes, like there's because I genuinely care about you and I wanted it was like really rooting for someone and being like, God, you can do this. And then when you had that moment at the end, that's exact moment that I wanted you to have. Was that excitement and that that thrill. It's like you just did the coolest freaking thing in your life.

And like you said, you you grew up in a town of seven people, like you don't get to do these people get to get to do this. I feel like I'm there, and I feel like that my whole career, Like I'm representing people that were never told they could do things. We were never told we couldn't do things. But it just wasn't in our dna that you could leave the small town or the mill. You know, that's what everybody did. And so now no one said how you can't, but it was just never a thing that

you could do. So, you know, with kids and people in high school and college, it's like, man, if I can do it, like I grew up a food stamp kid and seven people. If I can do it, anybody can do it. Because my only talent is showing up like that's but that is a talent. And I don't say that as someone who's like, oh what was me? Like that's really a big thing to show up consistently. And when lou was tide draw hurt, you know, as

long as I'm not injured, I'm there. And so it was really cool for me to finish that dance, because but I think people felt that though that's that's there's a lot of hate. But but what would people say, Hey, it was too much, and it's fair because it was too much. But I'm okay being always too much because that means at least you're a blip into the radar of everything's trying to matter at once. And if you can matter in any way, as long as I'm hurting a kid or animal, put put me in the news.

And I'm trying to be seen on this show, right, So I think it's people. People might hate on you and say it was too much or you're you know, overacting or something like that, but no one knows how they would feel, like with your backstory, like you're just talking about how they would feel on that national stage, being able to do something that your body has never physically done ever in its life, and you did it and you finished, well, it wasn't seamless, but everyone else

you didn't miss a beat. I didn't. I didn't see a missbeat at all. But you also know, if you do it, you realize all the beats you missed, all the small I'm like, I've never did a perfect between ever, but there was no overacting because that was all legitimate because I fell down like if I were really controlled. And also she was bent over. I started celebrating one step too early and so she was still bent over

backward the whole thing. By the way, there's like a gift going around that's fantastic at her face, being like whoa. And this week I have to really keep it together to show that I'm not just I am an idiot, but I'm not just the idiot. And that's kind of what it is. It's the people that said it's too much if you did it again like that, and then they would be like, yeah, maybe that's a little like even again, it's that pure excitement, but you can't do that,

and that's a high energy dance. My next dance is like it's called the fox hoop or something. Yeah, it's They asked me, they said, hey, what's your favorite style of dance? And I said, this is before one on the show. I said I prefer line. I said, yeah, we don't we do that on this show. I was like, oh, well, so I'm doing the fox trot. Yeah, that's very like happy. You're never like smooth yeah, smooth and happy. So it's

like the Fredish Stair Jeane Kelly type stuff. And and I know you look at me and go, man, Bobby's so smooth all the time. It's not true dorky, tall, goofy dude. And so you know, I think for me, it's just going to be a struggle every week. And I've now accepted that, now that I know it's always a struggle. And what I strive for in my life period, not just in this because this is going to come and go in a matter of weeks, but what I strive for in my life all the time. It's consistency.

I think that's currency. If you can get consistency from anyone like that's valuable. Because even with my training partner, and I'll use that as a metaphor for for life and for the session, she's consistently hard on me. So I know that you know what to expect, and I know that if she says I'm doing something right, I can believe her. And I know if she sayn't doing something wrong, which is most of the time because I am doing something wrong, I believe her. But she's consistent

with it. And people said, what do you want to partner that would cadd on you, sure if they caught on me consistently. And I really know because again in relationships, in professional really, if you can get consistency from someone, that is so valuable because there becomes a point where you have too somewhat uh not let the good or the bad influence how you feel, but the data that you take in and if you can get to that point with someone else, there's real value in that relationship,

whatever it is. And so I have that relationship now. I have that relationship with my co host on my radio show. I have that relationsip in my book editor where it was just like, just be for real with me. Whatever you're for real is, but if you're the same for real with me, and when you go one way or the other, I know that you mean that good or bad. And so that's what I strive for in life. That's what I strive for on this show, and I'm getting it now. That's kind of for both of you guys.

How do you feel like and how did you feel every week knowing that you did the previous week? Okay, hey I made it through. I did. Yeah, it wasn't perfect, but I did a good job. Were you more confident and Bobby, do you feel more confident going to the foxtrot? Or is it because it's completely different dance. It's like from square one all over again. For me personally, it was square one. I sucked every every new dance that

I learned. I was like, I suck, this sucks. And it wasn't until you know, and as some of them did suck. But and that's the thing, Like some dances, like the jive, he had the drive lot. I was terrible at the Drive, but the next week I had something that was better. But I mean, you start from square one learning a dance that you don't even you don't know, like he doesn't, we don't even know the name of it, how Viennese waltz or it's like the

moves that you don't know. So it's literally starting from scratch, is what I think. But yeah, I think it's the comparison that I would make is let's say I took Rosetta Stone and I learned Spanish and trying to learn Spanish, and I'm like, wow, the Spanish sucks, and I'm trying to learn it, and I kind of get enough to get by because I did learn Spanish Rotta Stone anyway, so um, I was, Yeah, I learned Spanish, and then it would be okay, well, now I'm gonna try to

learn Mandarin. Now I just went through the process of learning Kanish, but now I'm going to try to learn a different language. I remember the struggle of Spanish, so it doesn't feel so foreign to struggle, but there's still an intense struggle there. So the struggle is the same. But you know you could do one. Maybe you're like, Okay, maybe I can do this too, because I was able to learn Spanish. Yeah, And maybe it's the the not

succeeding doesn't feel so unfamiliar. It's kind of the if you fail and you keep trying and you fail again, that failure doesn't hurt so much because you've already done it, and eventually it gets a little more comfortable failing, to the point where you're so comfortable that you can kind of get it. At least that's what I hope. I'm not there yet, but I'm failing miserably this week training.

But I'm not as down on myself because I trust the process that happened last the last So but we had two and a half weeks to learn the first dance though, and we have five days learned two other days. How do you feel right now? How do you feel about like where you are with those two dances? Well, we have something called it um quick Step that this week. I haven't even started on it, so I don't know what's gonna happen there and so I don't know. I don't know about that one. So I guess you step

in a quick way. I don't know, um And that's next week. The fox thought. It's tough because my whole life I've been a sloucher from my shoulders and your posture, especially as the dude, it has to stay perfect through all of these front backside moves um and and it's a struggle. But I and it's harder to me than Jib, but you have Len on your side. I trust the process. I do. Once the process proves that it can be done in any situation, then I trust the process very

on side of you. Yeah, yeah, no. Do you have any regrets though, I mean from all the conversations we've had about should I do the show, should I not do the show? Because we we went back and forth a lot. But I'm not really a regret guy for anything ever, um, just because I feel like even the things that screw up I learned a lot from and as long as I'm taking something from it, I don't

think there's a reason to regret it. Because let's say I would have taken it, I got offered another show at the same time, right, and I would say about taking that show. It could be something as sense less as what if I was driving to that show I get hit by a car, Like, I don't know what's gonna happen. We don't know the minor situational things that

happened around the bigger situational things or um. And so when I commit to something that's it, I try to do the best in that situation, and I can always look back at it and go ahead. I wonder what would happened here and there, but we can wonder about everything. What do you do with the comments. I have a job where I'm constantly critiqued on everything that I do, so at times I just it's it's water off a duck's back. However, I've never danced before, so this is

new to me. It would be like you're reading comments about your podcast when you started um, so you're used to be slammed. In other places, they slam because people in the just slam, and I don't mean that in a bad way. But what happens with well but what but why they do it is I believe And and this is the part of our culture that makes me kind of sad and I wish we could help improve.

Is that people don't have a voice, so when they finally do have one, they feel like they have to have one that is so strong that it gets noticed. And the only way to get noticed is to not even be super positive about something, is to be super negative about something. So I don't even feel they I don't even think they really feel what they're writing. But people, including myself, not in comments, but in other ways, we

want to be noticed. You know, we have this we're striving for love in some way, and when we're not getting it, we're trying to find it in other places. And so I feel like that's why people go to Facebook or or pigeon carriers watch Game of Thrones. However, they're sending things around and that's why they're sending those messages. And so dancing was new to me, and I wanted to see really what they thought. And I looked and

there was a lot of a lot of hate. I'd been down that before, but it was new, So yeah, I read it. It sucked. It never doesn't suck. It never doesn't suck. By the way, Yeah, if anyone tells you with the comments, and it never we're human beings, well, and we we I know I can't speak for everyone, but I know Michael and I and Bobby and we all we we feel like we're not good enough. And so when we read those things, even though we say, oh, they're just the people at home behind their computers, but

it still gets to you. There's still words. The words still hurts, and unless you not feel good enough, less and less. Yeah, but there's never a time where I read them all and go great, freaking love that even feel better about yourself coming out. But I you know, I appreciate all the early advice that you gave me because I don't know that I would be here without it. And I love it like I love it well. It shows, it shows that you're having fun. And I want everybody,

all my listeners to vote for Bobby. Dancing with the Stars may be kicked off. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, you just you just keep being you and you keep you know, being fantastic and humble and screw the haters. And I'm super proud of you. So and um, he's got also a podcast art radio called Bobby Cast. There's a there's one January hour and I lost my voice before I laryngitis. I think we taught myself in laryngitis on that show. You know, it totally is. But Bobby Bones,

thank you for coming. And I know you've got to leave. Actually I'm going to dance practice right now. Yeah. Oh, I just love Bobby. He is the sweetest. I spent some time with him in the green rooms room at festival. He's great, he was just great. I'm just really proud of him because he's he's really come a long way. Um, Michael and I did his podcast like he he actually went to on site to that place that we talked about a lot about, you know, therapy and living centered

kind of self healing. Yeah. Uh, and he's you know, he's he's had a really hard life and upbringing and he but he's ready for love and he's ready to be loved. And so I'm just like sweet, it's just been really nice to see him kind of evolve into this, you know, very aware, self aware of person, and I just I'm so happy that he did dancing. And yeah, I mean his reaction where I can see where people

are like, oh, it's over the top. At the same time, man, he like well, he felt like he was proud of himself, and he should have been proud of himself, you know. And they don't know his background, they don't know where he was in his head when he completed that. It was authentic. Yeah, I loved it. Do we finish or do we leave him hanging him INTI missy thing? Can you guys just finish? Like that was like the Fox music?

Perfect timing. I know this, Mike's trying to be more intimate and and so I got this idea from a buddy of mine because we can't have sex after baby for a couple of weeks, so the pressure is kind of off and kiss on him. That's when he feels pressure. He has a problem with intimacy when he feels pressured to have sex. Okay, so continue, So basically for Christmas, I told her ahead of time, this is one of those like you can't start have an argument about something.

The president to be like, well, I've been working on this to fix this back about it. Yeah, So I kind of told her. I was like, well, I'm gonna set up appointment with this like Tantra therapist, and we're gonna go in for a couple of sessions and kind of do that whole gig. And I don't know what all it entails, but it's gonna be very uncomfortable what but um, hopefully it'll kind of break down something. I don't know much about tantra, but I'm excited to learn.

But I'm also I'm also scared because I don't I don't want us to because I feel like you can you can easily laugh when you're staring at each other. But it's like I want to be I want to take it serious. But I also in the back of mind, I'm like, is he just going to be so uncomfortable that he's not even present? Do you do things to each other in front of the coach therapist person? No, it doesn't. It doesn't get to like sexual. It's not

sexually just learning. It's learning to just know like still touch a lot of breathing, yeah, non sexual touch, but touch and just like breathing in each other's souls and whatever all that stuff, which is the most uncomfortable thing for you, which in my back of my mind, I'm like, how am I going to be present? Stay present when I know that this is You're gonna say, look at my husband trying to really work on things that he has character defects, and you're gonna work on being in

the moment. M Jen is going to be there being like stay in the moment, the moment moment. I think it's cool, it's proactive, and it's I have a friend who is she's a touch with specialist and she is incredible, um and she helps people immensely, and it is it is uncomfortable, but it'll take two seconds for you guys to snap out of your heads and get into the moment because of the breathwork. Yeah, it's going to be fun.

I'm looking forward to And again there's not the pressure of having sex afterwards, so hopefully that during that time you can really like do like hardcore intimacy work. You know what sucks. We talked about all this stuff about you want to have sex more and he's got any issues. I'm like, we have sex. People like, but it's you know, we want to be more intimate on a more frequent basis. Yes, yes, we'll keep working at that. All right, Well, thank you

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It's not about how much you spend. I know I made that one comment earlier, but it's it could be a simple gesture of a smile or a wave or something like that. So just something to pay it forward, all right. Can't wait to wind down next week. Ye Bye, that was fun. Good job,