Episode 2:20 - Resolving Conflict in Marriage

In this episode, Darren & Paige discuss how to resolve conflict in marriage. Sometimes things work, and sometimes they don't. Not every resolution results in a WIN-WIN solution, sometimes it is just good enough to push the answer until later. Find out how we navigate this part of our marriage.

Finding Solutions to Differences of Opinion

• Express Views - These are not concerns, just views. What is your position
• Explore concerns - Why do you have the idea you do? And what is behind it?
• Select Mutually Satisfying Solutions 
  • Win-Win - 
  • Win-Lose - 
  • Lose-Lose - No one is satisfied
  • putting on the shelf for another time. Agree to set it aside.

Rules for Discussing Problems

• Decide on a time and place to talk
• Stay on topic - don't bring up other things.
• Seek to understand instead of arguing - What I hear you saying? Paige gets quiet.
• Let your spouse talk - Paige lets me talk.
• Speak softly - Ha Ha
• Take a break, if necessary - Paige typically calls for the break. While I clean the closest.
• Be kind - 
• Use appropriate language - no name-calling
• Discuss current issues - No past issues.
• Do not use violence - 
• Do not threaten divorce or separation - 
• Seek spiritual help
• Rest and try again
• Find measurable solutions - No general statements, must be observable
• Plan the implementation of the solution
• Agree on Reminders - Nagging or a reminder
• Reevaluate and revise -

Lemonade Moment of the Week

Paige gets to go to  Dollywood with her Mom. A life long dream for her Mom.