Content/Trigger Warnings: domestic abuse, domestic violence, alcoholism, and graphic violence. This is part one of a two-part narrative. What you hear on this WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast episode was created by artificial intelligence. It is not a real person's voice. The words spoken are a composite of beliefs and concepts expressed by dating and domestic abusers found within notes and interviews. They have been collected over nearly two decades. They have been combined to form complete ideas and ...
Nov 23, 2023•26 min
The WHEN DATING HURTS podcast has covered many facets of the domestic violence issue. But this one is new. Abusers often have patterns of violence towards all members of a household including children and pets. It’s difficult enough for the abused to find shelter for themselves. For that reason, many survivors stay in abusive homes for fear of subjecting their pets to continued abuse if left behind. And sometimes, it’s not only abuse, it’s torture or death. RedRover, established in 1987, sought ...
Nov 21, 2023•35 min•Season 2Ep. 38
Brenda's story has many twists and turns. You will hear the insidious ways her abuser would not give up when she expressed no further interest in him. He was going to maintain control over her no matter what. Wrestling control over her life was all but impossible. This WHEN DATING HURTS episode will hold your attention while you learn the ways to break free from the iron grip of domestic violence. Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com NOTE: I...
Nov 20, 2023•1 hr 6 min•Season 2Ep. 17
Sebastian Soul has been a sought-after international dating coach for over a decade. He is also the host of two very different podcasts: the “Get Him Keep Him” podcast and the “Get Over Him” podcast. In our two-part conversation, Sebastian and I took turns interviewing each other. The expectation was our final edited interview would appear on my podcast and one of his. I found Sebastian to be deeply knowledgeable and a font of insightful information about what’s really going on when two people a...
Nov 16, 2023•47 min•Season 3Ep. 64
Sebastian Soul has been a sought-after international dating coach for over a decade. He is also the host of two very different podcasts: the “Get Him Keep Him” podcast and the “Get Over Him” podcast. In our two-part conversation, Sebastian and I took turns interviewing each other. The expectation was our final edited interview would appear on my podcast and his. I found Sebastian to be deeply knowledgeable and a font of insightful information about what’s really going on when two people are dati...
Nov 14, 2023•42 min•Season 3Ep. 63
From time to time, I was interviewed on someone else's podcast. This is one of those occasions. "I Need Blue", hosted by Jen Lee, shares real-life stories of people who have experienced traumatic situations. It's a podcast that supports survivors of violent crimes. It also gives thanks to law enforcement professionals who were there to save the day. Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story...
Nov 04, 2023•54 min•Season 1Ep. 28
Susan Saurman and I met in early 2021 when we traded emails soon after she read my book, WHEN DATING HURTS (Amazon). She told me about her upbringing—how it was in a home made terrifying by domestic violence perpetrated by her cruel tyrannical father. In this WHEN DATING HURTS episode, hear Susan describe her life of abuse and tragedy. She describes her abusive upbringing, the paralyzing fear she suffered, and the events leading up to the murder of her mother when Susan was 14. Somehow, Susan ma...
Oct 29, 2023•1 hr 23 min•Season 2Ep. 36
Dear Listeners, I was fortunate get time with Dr. Colleen Lelli. In this interview, she talks about her book, "Trauma Sensitive Schools - The Importance of Instilling Grit, Determination, and Resilience", which explains what can actually be going on within a student's mind caused by ongoing disruptions away from school. You will find Dr. Lelli's observations eye-opening. You will see what I mean. Dr. Lelli has over 25 years of experience in the education field. Her research interests include: de...
Oct 27, 2023•59 min•Season 3Ep. 58
Emily McCoy facilitates the Financial Empowerment Program at Laurel House, the largest domestic violence agency in Montgomery County, PA. Laurel House serves individuals, families, and communities. Financial Abuse does not get enough attention. It is found in 99% of domestic violence cases. This interview with Emily covers the most common facets of financial abuse. She will discuss ways to prevent this from happening, and how to regain financial independence. Ideas and insights into how to assis...
Oct 24, 2023•59 min
This is part two of two parts with Alexandra. Her story follows along the path of many dating abuse victims. There were ample warning signs presented, but she didn't recognize them for what they were. And she stayed on a path that could have been her destruction. Taylor took advantage of Alexandra with every opportunity he created. When listening to this episode of the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, see how many red flags you can spot. It is good practice so you never fall prey to the various ways T...
Oct 20, 2023•55 min•Season 3Ep. 56
This is part one of two parts with Alexandra. Her story follows along the path of many dating abuse victims. There were ample warning signs presented, but she didn't recognize them for what they were. And she stayed on a path that could have been her destruction. Taylor took advantage of Alexandra with every opportunity he created. When listening to this episode of the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, see how many red flags you can spot. It is good practice so you never fall prey to the various ways T...
Oct 18, 2023•55 min•Season 3Ep. 55
This is part three of three parts with Sarah. Sarah lives in Melbourne, Australia and yet her story could have emanated from anywhere. You will recognize the patterns. Nice woman meets guy and falls for him. He seems like what she was looking for but begins to show signs of potential trouble. She ignores signs and stays with him. It gets worse, but she works around the rough spots. We have heard it before, but it is good to hear it from someone we would not expect to be swallowed up in it. There...
Oct 16, 2023•52 min•Season 3Ep. 54
This is part two of three parts with Sarah. Sarah lives in Melbourne, Australia and yet her story could have emanated from anywhere. You will recognize the patterns. Nice woman meets guy and falls for him. He seems like what she was looking for but begins to show signs of potential trouble. She ignores signs and stays with him. It gets worse, but she works around the rough spots. We have heard it before, but it is good to hear it from someone we would not expect to be swallowed up in it. There i...
Oct 12, 2023•52 min•Season 3Ep. 53
Sarah lives in Melbourne, Australia and yet her story could have emanated from anywhere. You will recognize the patterns. Nice woman meets guy and falls for him. He seems like what she was looking for but begins to show signs of potential trouble. She ignores signs and stays with him. It gets worse, but she works around the rough spots. We have heard it before, but it is good to hear it from someone we would not expect to be swallowed up in it. There is much to be studied in this three-part narr...
Oct 11, 2023•42 min•Season 3Ep. 52
Former Deputy Sheriff, Joy Farrow, and Technologist and Domestic Violence Survivor, Laura Frombach, have authored the new book entitled, "Street Smart Safety for Women: Your Guide to Defensive Living”. It is available for purchase now. This book was written to help women learn how to defend themselves and give them the tools to continue pursuing their interests and upkeep their physical and mental well-being. It includes modern strategies for women to develop safety intuition and practice defens...
Oct 09, 2023•1 hr 33 min•Season 3Ep. 51
Dave Thomas is focused on projects pertaining to the National Law Enforcement Leadership Initiative on Violence Against Women—which is funded by the United States Office on Violence Against Women. During his law enforcement career with Maryland’s Montgomery County Police Department, Dave taught at the Police Training Academy, served on the S.W.A.T. team, was a Hostage Negotiator, and a member of the Domestic Violence Unit. In addition to helping create the Domestic Violence Unit, he was responsi...
Oct 07, 2023•1 hr 10 min•Season 1Ep. 12
This is part two of a two-part story of abuse during high school. Think of it as “Dating Violence 101”. Rebecca takes us back to her high school years. As a sophomore, she met a guy and thought she was in love with him. He took full advantage of her. This story is a narrative all parents should hear and share. Yes, it happened a few years back, but it could have been the same as a relationship taking place right now. There is plenty to be learned as Rebecca walks us through this classic dating v...
Oct 04, 2023•37 min•Season 3Ep. 49
This is part one of a two-part story of abuse during high school. Think of it as “Dating Violence 101”. Rebecca takes us back to her high school years. As a sophomore, she met a guy and thought she was in love with him. He took full advantage of her. This story is a narrative all parents should hear and share. Yes, it happened a few years back, but it could have been the same as a relationship taking place right now. There is plenty to be learned as Rebecca walks us through this classic dating v...
Oct 02, 2023•36 min•Season 3Ep. 48
On this informative episode of the WHEN DATING HURTS podcast series, we had the honor of speaking with Rosie Santulli. Rosie has been involved with the Women’s Center of Montgomery County for over ten years. The Women’s Center of Montgomery County is a domestic violence service near Philadelphia. After a long career as a research scientist in both academia and with Johnson & Johnson, Rosie felt it was time to rediscover herself. She had read a book entitled Half Time by Bob Buford. It focuse...
Sep 30, 2023•1 hr 8 min•Season 1Ep. 14
We were fortunate to catch up with Angela Hayde and hear her dating violence story. In captivating detail, she tells what it was like to be dating a young man who was abusive to her when she was in high school and in college. In this "on again/off again" relationship, Angela gave it her best. You will hear how it began and how it deteriorated. You might ask why she stayed in this. She explain in this gripping example of modern-day dating abuse. You will hear how social media played a role in mak...
Sep 25, 2023•1 hr 1 min•Season 1Ep. 22
Lt. Heather Glogolich and I met during an all-day conference on domestic violence (DV) in October 2020. We were so impressed with each other’s presentations we knew we needed to do something together. This podcast episode is that solid start. DV Can Happen to Anyone: On October 16th, 2008, Heather's life changed forever when she became the victim of intense emotional and physical abuse at the hands of her husband. What made it more incredible? He also was a police officer. Instead of succumbing ...
Sep 11, 2023•1 hr 1 min•Season 1Ep. 8
This is part two of two parts focused on dating abuse. Jessica had her life going in the right direction until she met up with Jeff. She accommodated him way too much, and he took full advantage of her generosity. Jessica's innocence shines through in this WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast interview. She admits she was naive with her handling of Jeff. She trusted him and received no respect in return. For parents, you will probably see one or more of your children in Jessica's story. For teens and twent...
Sep 08, 2023•49 min•Season 3Ep. 44
This is part one of two parts focused on dating abuse. Jessica had her life going in the right direction until she met up with Jeff. She accommodated him way too much, and he took full advantage of her generosity. Jessica's innocence shines through in this WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast interview. She admits she was naive with her handling of Jeff. She trusted him and received no respect in return. For parents, you will probably see one or more of your children in Jessica's story. For teens and twent...
Sep 04, 2023•40 min•Season 3Ep. 43
Has it ended? Not yet. Not in the mind of Marcus. Jill began dating Marcus when she was 16. He was a few years older but seemed to be everything she wanted. Unfortunately, he brought plenty of trouble with him. Listen to Jill, who lives in Canada, as she takes us through falling in love with a guy who used all the classic tactics seen in unhealthy relationships. No matter what she faced with him, she continued to think he was "the one", and she stayed with him nine long years. You will witness h...
Aug 28, 2023•1 hr 16 min•Season 3Ep. 42
Becca was coming out of a marriage that had lost all of its energy. She then thought she had found a guy who provided all she was missing. For a while, he seemed to be "that guy", but when he showed his real self, he was more than she could handle. She never anticipated the trouble she was in for, and when things started to break loose, it was a turbulent storm. Hang in there throughout this two-part story with Becca. You will witness the warning signs she ignored on her way to a relationship th...
Aug 23, 2023•41 min•Season 3Ep. 41
Becca was coming out of a marriage that had lost all of its energy. She then thought she had found a guy who provided all she was missing. For a while, he seemed to be "that guy", but when he showed his real self, he was more than she could handle. She never anticipated the trouble she was in for, and when things started to break loose, it was a turbulent storm. Hang in there throughout this two-part story with Becca. You will witness the warning signs she ignored on her way to a relationship th...
Aug 21, 2023•50 min•Season 3Ep. 40
Patrisha McLean was married to a world-renowned singer for 29 years. It started as a fairytale relationship but devolved into a 24/7 nightmare. For 29 years! Like many survivors, it took Patrisha a long time before she recognized this as classic domestic violence. Getting out almost cost her life. This episode teaches what can happen to anyone who doesn't know the warning signs. It also informs you on what to do when these red flags are detected. Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS ...
Aug 18, 2023•1 hr 6 min•Season 1Ep. 6
WARNING: The descriptions of events in this episode can be triggering. I was contacted by Detective Kristine Holt (Texas) who is a loyal fan of the WHEN DATING HURTS podcast. In fact, she uses it for training. Besides a wealth of knowledge about handling "domestic" cases, she wanted to speak with us about a case she will never forget. The domestic violence abuse suffered for years by Lisa Waldon is straight out of a horror story. It is ghastly. For that reason, this episode comes with a warning ...
Aug 07, 2023•1 hr 1 min•Season 3Ep. 37
This is part two of a two-part narrative with Ashley. Ashley's story covers many of the classic warning signs of an abusive dating relationship. She went head over heels for a guy (Mark) and that led her to overlook clues that indicated this relationship was headed for trouble. Praise goes to Ashley for hanging with Mark for so long. She gave her best to get him on the right track. The more she gave, the more he took. As so often happens, victims like Ashley do all they can to make things right....
Aug 03, 2023•54 min•Season 3Ep. 36
This is part one of a two-part narrative with Ashley. Ashley's story covers many of the classic warning signs of an abusive dating relationship. She went head over heels for a guy (Mark) and that led her to overlook clues that indicated this relationship was headed for trouble. Praise goes to Ashley for hanging with Mark for so long. She gave her best to get him on the right track. The more she gave, the more he took. As so often happens, victims like Ashley do all they can to make things right....
Aug 01, 2023•45 min•Season 3Ep. 35
