All right. 3, 2, 1. Let's get it. Welcome to "What's Your Problem?" the podcast I'm your host Marsh Buice here on What's Your Problem? We're going to give you the necessary skills. To handle the adversity. Embrace uncertainty and never settle again. That's what's your problem? It's one at one of those things, adversity, uncertainty, or complacency. Today we're going to dive into a mindset that could shift the way that you approach your life. Your goals. And your growth and I call it,
"Remember the bad. But stack the good." And it's inspired by a quote. That I absolutely love. From Tolstoy, Tolstoy wrote, "Remember all the bad things you have done. And this will help you avoid doing more. But, and there's always a, but if you remember the good things you have done, Well, that will prevent you from doing anymore.". I love this. So think about that for a second. And let's unpack it. First let's talk about remembering the bad. And when I say, remember the bad. It sounds like.
I'm just putting you into this victim mindset. It's not about that at all. It's not about dwelling on your mistakes. It's not about kicking the can down the road, being yourself, up playing the victim. Woe is me. Why is this happening? It's not about that at all. Remembering the bad is what I call productively, remembering and productive remembrance. Is where you pay attention. Now I love that phrase. Pay. Attention you ever think about why we say pay attention?
Because when you pay for something. You're making an investment. You're taking deliberate action. Paying attention is the same. So you're investing your focus. And you're actively staying sharp. And refusing the coast. Because, let me tell you something. The only thing that you can coast. Is into failure. See when you stop paying attention, stop paying attention. This is when you relax into complacency. And this is where the erosion starts. And eventually.
Remember the timeline we're on eventually. And ultimately. Eventually. Things are gonna start perpetuating. And ultimately you're going to fail. Not because of the circumstances. It's not the circumstances, but because you stop making the adjustments, so you weren't paying attention. And so you choose to ignore. And be like, oh, I'll deal with that. You got complacent. And you thought it was just going to kind of handle itself., You lost your awareness. And then boom, and all cascaded.
See, all you had to do was keep the minors minor. They'll never become major. It's what I always say. So when you pay attention, You're adjusting. To those circumstances. In real time. That's why healthy fear of bad. Is important. I mean, think about all of the darkest places that you've been. Maybe you were overweight. Maybe you were drinking too much toxic relationships. Financial struggles. Bankrupt. Maxed out, whatever. Just think about fired.
Whatever it was that healthy fear of the bad things. Is what keeps you motivated? To never go back. In one of his books. I don't remember which one it was. I remember Ryan Serhant talking about this. He's a real estate mogul today in New York. But he wasn't always that way. So he said every single day, He works to distance himself from the place that he's been. His rock bottom was when he decided to change his life. Become a real estate broker in New York city. and 9/11 hit.
So he decides to take control over his life. He gets hired. To become a real estate broker. 911 hits. And he's so broke that when he swipes his credit card to buy some yogurt. His credit card won't even go through. That's how broke he was. And he was like, bro, this is the rock bottom. So see every single day now. He works the distance himself. From those moments. See, in distancing yourself. Is a good thing. It's that healthy fear, that healthy respect.
And so you're working to distance yourself, remembering the bad has two facets. If you remember the bad and do nothing. To distance yourself from those moments. Then you're just going to perpetually stay a victim. But if you remember the bad and you work every day, putting in the reps. Developing your skillset and know-how. To distance yourself from those moments. You remember them at all times.
So those days you don't feel like doing something the days you feel like laying up, you remember the bad. And you work to distance yourself from those moments. This is what will keep you growing. This will prevent you. From coasting. And falling asleep at the wheel sleepwalking through life. The reason why that happened. Is because you lost your awareness. Now let's talk about the second part of Tolstoy's quote. If you remember the good things that you've done.
That will prevent you from doing anymore. Let me repeat that. see the first part he said, if you remember all of the bad. You won't do it anymore. Because you're constantly remembering and you're working the distance yourself from that. But the second part is, if you remember all of the good, see, remember this, you can't hold two opposing thoughts at one time. Good bad. You can't hold them both at the same time. So if you're not remembering the bad.
And all you're doing is you're thinking about the good, this is what gives you that arrived mentality. This is where you think you're invincible. This is where you think you can't be stopped. See if you can be topped, you can be toppled. And so when you remember the good. You no longer do good anymore. You coast. And this is the trap that we all fall into. The solution is to have a short memory of the good. Celebrate it briefly. And then just move on. It's just part of it.
But have a long memory of the bad. Let it drive you to never go back. It's not about living in fear, man. It's staying sharp. It said healthy respect. And also it's the gratitude. The gratitude about it is you're grateful that you made it through those dark trying times the times that you didn't think you were going to last another day and somehow. You made it through. And so remembering the bad is practicing gratitude. Because I don't want to go back to those moments.
I could tell you this every time I've had to start over. Whether it's in fitness relationships, finances. or professionally. I got demoted, dude. I got demoted back down to the bottom rung where I first started. At the same place where I work today. I've had to re-rise through the ranks. So I get it. It was tough as best thing ever happened. I'm so grateful for it. It's what saved my life. It's funny, man. How some of the worst times in your life become some of the best platforms to stand on.
Every time I've had to start over it's because I remembered the good and thought I arrived. And the lost sight of the bad. I stopped doing. What got me there. And I ended up. Right back where I've started. Think about that. What got you here? It's not going to get you there. If you don't continue to work it. You can't get to here. You'll never going to get to a place in life where you just get to here and that's it. And just constantly, it's like a. Uh, motor that just continued.
No. No, it's not going to happen. You can't turn that motor off and you expect it to still run. No, because you lose that momentum. You lose your skillsets. You lose that mental edge. You get soft. You coast. you erode you fall. Dude, all hands raised on this, The bad is what keeps the fire burning. It's what reminds you. To keep growing to keep putting distance between you. and the version of yourself, you never want to be again. But this is where most people fail.
They remember the bad without taking action to move past it. The hover around it. They relive it. And you wonder why you're stuck. The solution is simple. It's not easy. But it is simple. You work every day. To distance yourself from the bad. You stack the good. But never settle into it. So here's your takeaway? Remember the bad productively. Use it to fuel your growth. Stack the good. Don't let it stop you. It's just next. There's always next. When you fail next.
When you win next, there's always next. Just keep going. Stack the good don't. Let us stop. You keep building. When you stop paying attention, man, this is where you coast into failure. But when you stay sharp, When you embrace a healthy fear of the bad. And remember it. You'll never have to start over again. And that's what we're all about. I want you a year from now. To be able to look and from today's date is so far you're so far past that. You're like.
Wow. It's because you never, you never forgot. Never forget. All right. Let's get outta here. . Thanks for being an member of what's your problem, the podcast. If I can help you with anything, you have direct access to me. Please send me a text. You can do it right there on the podcast app, or you can go to my website. marshbuice.com enjoy thousands of free content. Bottom right. Is a mic from you to me. If I can help you with something, please let me know and be glad to. Ah, to help you out.
All right. Keep it simple. Keep it moving. Never settle. Stay tough peace