97 | I Didn't Tell My Friends I Was Visiting Home, Now They're Mad

What Are You Doing in Denmark?

May 13, 2025•24 min

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Episode description

When you live abroad, visiting your home country can be a whirlwind—especially when you only have a few days. In this episode, we answer a real listener dilemma: Danielle, who lives in Odense, went back to Toronto for a short trip and chose to spend all her time with family. She didn’t tell her friends she was in town, and now… they’re upset.

Derek and Conrad offer advice along with guests Dharshika Christopher and Abby Wambaugh to unpack the emotional politics of going home, how to navigate expectations from friends and family, and why you can’t be everything to everyone. If you’ve ever wrestled with guilt, time pressure, or hurt feelings when visiting home, this episode is for you.

Plus: tips for setting boundaries, avoiding drama, and keeping your friendships intact—even from across an ocean. And listen to Episodes 27 and 28 for deeper discussions on making friends in Denmark and why it may be different.

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Don’t forget to share this podcast with any friends who have made the move to Denmark.

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