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Were You Raised By Wolves?

Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnemawww.wereyouraisedbywolves.com

Editors’ Notes: “I want to give everybody the tools to solve their own etiquette problems,” says Nick Leighton, cohost and producer of Were You Raised by Wolves?, a weekly podcast in which he and cohost Leah Bonnema look into the many sticky social situations we all face. “With each of the questions that we get, from the bonkers to the ordinary, I always try to take a step back and ask, ‘What are the bigger principles here?’ I'm always looking for topics that help us make a larger point.” In each episode, Leighton, a two-time Emmy Award-winning journalist, and Bonnema, a comic/writer, share practical advice on how to navigate a wide range of situations, from the serious to the whimsical—whether they tackle interrupting excessive talkers, establishing healthy boundaries with coworkers, or the proper way to eat Cheetos.


When they developed the show in 2019, Leighton and Bonnema had one goal in mind: to have empathy for other people. Their informal conversations tackle a mix of personal topics, viewer questions, and the occasional historical fact with warmth and positivity and humor. Leighton views this approach as an antidote to a lot of the negativity he sees in the online world, while Bonnema thinks the show’s premise is a natural fit for her situational style of comedy. “A lot of my comedy is about events where I’m like, ‘What just happened here?’ or where I embarrass myself,” she says. “And, ironically, all of these fall under the guise of etiquette, where you either feel aggrieved or you feel like you committed some sort of social crime. I just loved the topic.”


Leighton and Bonnema credit the show’s ongoing success to their work ethic. They haven’t missed a single week since they launched the show, which recently hit a new milestone: 100 episodes. But what they value the most, above all else, is how they've built a community of listeners from all backgrounds. “We have conservative grandmothers in Tallahassee to nonbinary chefs in Seattle and everybody in between,” he says. “Because who among us has not experienced an etiquette crime? This is universal.”


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Etiquette, manners, and beyond! Join Emmy® Award-winning journalist Nick Leighton and acclaimed comedian Leah Bonnema ("Late Show with Stephen Colbert"), the perfect odd couple, as they try to make the world a nicer, more polite place and offer up practical advice to help you smoothly glide through any situation. Please listen and follow! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)


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Episodes

Abandoning Dinner Guests, Running Into Former Students, Singing Happy Birthday, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about abandoning dinner guests, running into former students, singing happy birthday, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠ ask.wyrbw.com ⁠⁠⁠⁠ QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How would you react if a friend invites you to stay for dinner, but then has you eat in the kitchen while she goes to ...

Jun 30, 202531 minEp. 271

Responding to Invitations, Enjoying Tennis, Dipping French Fries, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle responding to invitations formally, watching and playing tennis, dipping french fries, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠ ask.wyrbw.com ⁠⁠⁠⁠ EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Formally responding to invitations A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Tennis QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What's the most polite way to cut cook...

Jun 23, 202547 minEp. 270

Brushing Teeth in Airports, Taking Dessert from Buffets, Handling Unwanted Vacation Guests, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about brushing your teeth in airport bathrooms, taking desserts from buffets, handling unwanted vacation guests, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠ ask.wyrbw.com ⁠⁠⁠ QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to brush your teeth in an airport bathroom? When dessert is offered on a buffet, is ...

Jun 16, 202532 minEp. 269

Flipping Over Cutlery, Making Friends in Kindergarten, Choosing Cup Holders, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle flipping over cutlery, making friends in kindergarten, choosing cup holders at sporting events, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠ ask.wyrbw.com ⁠⁠⁠ EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Reversing cutlery on the table A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Making friends in kindergarten QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How should ...

Jun 09, 202541 minEp. 268

Mowing Lawns Without Asking, Coordinating Invitation Responses, Dressing for Theme Weddings, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about mowing laws without asking, coordinating invitation responses, dressing for theme weddings, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠ ask.wyrbw.com ⁠⁠ QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do we do about our neighbor who mowed half of our lawn without our permission? Should couples coordinate ...

Jun 02, 202540 minEp. 267

Second Helpings: Crashing White House Weddings, Stealing Flowers From Neighbors, Charging Phones In Public, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle crashing White House weddings, stealing flowers from neighbors, charging phones in public, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠ ask.wyrbw.com...

May 26, 202544 min

Playing Duck Duck Goose, Sending Out-of-Office Emails, Taking Free Food Samples, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle playing Duck Duck Goose in Minnesota, sending out-of-office emails, taking free food samples, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠ ask.wyrbw.com ⁠⁠ EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Duck Duck Grey Duck A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Out of Office Emails QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How many and what type of items are ...

May 19, 202543 minEp. 266

Pulling Out Chairs, Sharing Photos with AI, Making Unreasonable Demands, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about pulling out chairs for others, sharing photos with AI, making unreasonable demands, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠ ask.wyrbw.com ⁠ QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do you do when a gentleman pulls out your chair? What is the etiquette around sharing images of people to AI? How c...

May 12, 202533 minEp. 265

Seating Dinner Party Guests, Getting Spray Tans, Using Fake Addresses, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle seating dinner party guests, getting spray tans, using fake return addresses, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠ ask.wyrbw.com ⁠ EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Dinner party seating A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Getting a spray tan QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: If a gift requires assembly, should you give it assemb...

May 05, 202538 minEp. 264

Scheduling Times With "Ish," Chewing Food on Calls, Socializing at Galas, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about scheduling appointments with "ish," chewing food while on the telephone, socializing at galas, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What does "ish" mean when scheduling meetings? What can I say to people who chew food in my ear while we're talki...

Apr 28, 202526 minEp. 263

Handling Hot Potatoes, Claiming Seats at Buffets, Talking During Musicals, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle handling hot potatoes, claiming seats at buffets, talking during musicals, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Baked Potatoes A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Host gifts that are not wine QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What's the correct way to claim a seat at a buffet? What t...

Apr 21, 202545 minEp. 262

Second Helpings: Objecting to Marriages, Watching Strangers' Luggage, Asking for More Chairs, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they answer listener questions about objecting to marriages, watching strangers' luggage, asking for more chairs, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask....

Apr 14, 202528 min

Second Helpings: Sending Signals With Cutlery, Partying in Art Galleries, Flushing Without Permission, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back soon with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle sending signals in restaurants with cutlery, going to art gallery openings, flushing dog poop down toilets, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask...

Apr 07, 202539 min

Waving Back by Mistake, Handling Bad Haircuts, Separating Groceries on Belts, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about waiving back to someone by mistake, handling bad haircuts, separating your groceries on supermarket checkout belts, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do you do if you think someone is waving at you and you wave back but they were actuall...

Mar 31, 202527 minEp. 261

Vacationing at All-Inclusive Resorts, Demanding Cash at Weddings, Using Other People's Waterpiks, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle vacationing at all-inclusive resorts, demanding cash donations at weddings, using other people's Waterpiks, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Broadway's Legacy Robe A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: All-inclusive Resorts QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What does "voluntary cas...

Mar 24, 202546 minEp. 260

Bailing on Bad Accommodations, Attending Virtual Housewarmings, Moving Meetings "Up," and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about bailing on bad accommodations, attending virtual housewarming parties, moving meetings "up," and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What is the proper etiquette when your deli order is more than you wanted? How do I bail as a houseguest when the a...

Mar 17, 202527 minEp. 259

Naming Dogs in France, Going to Open Houses, Reading Books in Bathrooms, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle naming dogs in France, going to real estate open houses, reading books in bathrooms, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Dog names in France A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Real estate open houses QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should you provide reading material in your gues...

Mar 10, 202533 minEp. 258

Accepting Unwanted Packages, Eating Duplicate Salads, Celebrating Letter Openers, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about accepting unwanted packages, eating duplicate salads, celebrating letter openers, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: At what point can I stop holding mail and packages for my home's previous owners? Was it odd that a restaurant chef wanted me ...

Mar 03, 202527 minEp. 257

Complaining in Restaurants, Backing Out of Weddings, Taking People's Airline Seats, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle complaining in restaurants, backing out of weddings, taking people's airline seats, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Gifting knives A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Complaining in restaurants QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Getting out of a wedding, Choosing the right soap f...

Feb 24, 202548 minEp. 256

Second Helpings: Dining Late in Spain, Taking Care of Pets, Using Toilet Bowl Brushes, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle dining late in Spain, taking care of pets, using toilet bowl brushes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE...

Feb 17, 202540 min

Bringing Ice to Parties, Ignoring Dungeon Masters’ Quests, Texting at the Movies, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about bringing ice to parties unprompted, ignoring Dungeon Masters' quests, texting at the movies, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to bring ice to a party without asking the hosts first? How do I respond to an acquaintance's texts accusi...

Feb 10, 202527 minEp. 255

Making Introductions, Attending Super Bowl Parties, Avoiding Bad Salad Dressings, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle making introductions property, attending Super Bowl parties, avoiding bad salad dressings, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Making introductions A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Super Bowl parties QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Can we talk about the perils of the double che...

Feb 03, 202547 minEp. 254

Ignoring Spouses on Airplanes, Sipping From Cocktail Straws, Using Napkins Outdoors, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about ignoring spouses on airplanes, sipping from cocktail straws, using napkins outdoors, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it bonkers to not sit with your partner on an airplane and to not acknowledge each other for an entire flight? Is a cock...

Jan 27, 202525 minEp. 253

Ordering Espresso in Italy, Asking for a Raise, Deflecting Rude Questions, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle ordering espresso in Italy, asking for a raise politely, deflecting rude questions, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Ordering espresso in Italy A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: How to ask for a raise QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What's the best way to respond to rude inqu...

Jan 20, 202539 minEp. 252

Remembering Wedding Anniversaries, Throwing Yourself Parties, Examining Other People's Zippers, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about remembering wedding anniversaries, throwing yourself housewarming parties, examining other people's zippers, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude for my boss to take home the leftovers from the office lunch he provides? Should you rem...

Jan 13, 202528 minEp. 251

Second Helpings: Eating Cake With Ice Cream, Behaving in Movie Theaters, Cutting Nails in Public, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle eating cake with ice cream, behaving in movie theaters, cutting nails in public, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CON...

Jan 06, 202536 min

Second Helpings: Buttering Bread Properly, Going on First Dates, Ringing Bells for Service, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back soon with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle buttering bread properly, going on first dates, ringing bells for service, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE...

Dec 30, 202443 min

Second Helpings: Blasting Holiday Lights, Announcing Weddings in Holiday Cards, Reciprocating Expensive Gifts, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back soon with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they answer listener questions about blasting holiday lights, announcing weddings in holiday cards, reciprocating expensive gifts, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW o...

Dec 23, 202428 min

Celebrating Christmas With Fried Chicken, Tipping in Coffee Shops, Showing Gratitude for Gifts, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle celebrating Christmas in Japan with fried chicken, tipping in coffee shops, showing gratitude for gifts, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: KFC for Christmas in Japan A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Tipping screens in coffee shops QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: When should y...

Dec 16, 202439 minEp. 250

Gifting Frozen Vegetables, Enjoying Public Restrooms, Obsessing Over Necklaces, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about gifting frozen vegetables, enjoying public restrooms, obsessing over necklaces, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Our neighbors gave us a bag of frozen vegetables as a holiday present...how should we respond? What's the proper etiquette when ...

Dec 09, 202428 minEp. 249
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