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Were You Raised By Wolves?

Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnemawww.wereyouraisedbywolves.com

Editors’ Notes: “I want to give everybody the tools to solve their own etiquette problems,” says Nick Leighton, cohost and producer of Were You Raised by Wolves?, a weekly podcast in which he and cohost Leah Bonnema look into the many sticky social situations we all face. “With each of the questions that we get, from the bonkers to the ordinary, I always try to take a step back and ask, ‘What are the bigger principles here?’ I'm always looking for topics that help us make a larger point.” In each episode, Leighton, a two-time Emmy Award-winning journalist, and Bonnema, a comic/writer, share practical advice on how to navigate a wide range of situations, from the serious to the whimsical—whether they tackle interrupting excessive talkers, establishing healthy boundaries with coworkers, or the proper way to eat Cheetos.


When they developed the show in 2019, Leighton and Bonnema had one goal in mind: to have empathy for other people. Their informal conversations tackle a mix of personal topics, viewer questions, and the occasional historical fact with warmth and positivity and humor. Leighton views this approach as an antidote to a lot of the negativity he sees in the online world, while Bonnema thinks the show’s premise is a natural fit for her situational style of comedy. “A lot of my comedy is about events where I’m like, ‘What just happened here?’ or where I embarrass myself,” she says. “And, ironically, all of these fall under the guise of etiquette, where you either feel aggrieved or you feel like you committed some sort of social crime. I just loved the topic.”


Leighton and Bonnema credit the show’s ongoing success to their work ethic. They haven’t missed a single week since they launched the show, which recently hit a new milestone: 100 episodes. But what they value the most, above all else, is how they've built a community of listeners from all backgrounds. “We have conservative grandmothers in Tallahassee to nonbinary chefs in Seattle and everybody in between,” he says. “Because who among us has not experienced an etiquette crime? This is universal.”


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Etiquette, manners, and beyond! Join Emmy® Award-winning journalist Nick Leighton and acclaimed comedian Leah Bonnema ("Late Show with Stephen Colbert"), the perfect odd couple, as they try to make the world a nicer, more polite place and offer up practical advice to help you smoothly glide through any situation. Please listen and follow! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)


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Episodes

Interrupting Excessive Talkers, Proposing to Bridesmaids, Criticizing Soups, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about interrupting people who won't stop talking, proposing to bridesmaids, criticizing soups, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: When is it OK to interrupt? What do I do about a package I'm holding for my non-responsive neighbor? Should my fr...

Jul 05, 202124 minEp. 95

Reusing Napkins, Attending Movie Premiers, Hanging up on People, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle reusing napkins, attending movie premiers, hanging up on people, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Napkin rings A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Going to a movie premier QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I handle game nights when I keep winning and other players get disc...

Jun 28, 202137 minEp. 94

Building Fences, Following-up on Gifts, Running Out of Hot Water, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about building fences, following-up on gifts, running out of hot water, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do about my neighbor who won't stop talking negatively about our new fence? How can I ask if someone likes the Amazon Echo Dot...

Jun 21, 202128 minEp. 93

Attending Polo Matches, Inquiring About Missing Invitations, Receiving Outrageous Emails, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle attending polo matches, inquiring about missing invitations, receiving outrageous emails, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Polo A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Beach etiquette QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do if I received a text save-the-date but no follow-up? ...

Jun 14, 202132 minEp. 92

Commandeering Gym Saunas, Demanding Money From Grandchildren, Dressing Like Identical Twins, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about commandeering gym saunas, demanding money from grandchildren, dressing like identical twins, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude for someone to be doing yoga in my gym's sauna? What do I say to my grandma who is demanding money...

Jun 07, 202122 minEp. 91

Enjoying Peking Duck, Borrowing DVDs Without Returning Them, Flaunting Office Ice Cube Rules, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating Peking Duck, borrowing DVDs without returning them, flaunting office ice cube rules, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Peking Duck (Běijīng Kǎoyā - 北京烤鸭) A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Staying at hotels QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What to do about friends who bor...

May 31, 202141 minEp. 90

Eating Pop-Tarts, Boarding Airplanes, Returning Overdue Library Books, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about eating Pop-Tarts, boarding airplanes, returning overdue library books, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What is the correct way to eat Pop-Tarts? How do I let my bridal party know I'm not expecting any gifts? What do I do about my moth...

May 24, 202128 minEp. 89

Flying the Flag at Half-Staff, Being the Perfect House Sitter, Using Charity Return Address Stickers, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle flying the flag at half-staff on Memorial Day, being the perfect house sitter, using the free return address stickers from charities, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Flying the flag at half-staff on Memorial Day A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: House sitting QUESTIONS FROM...

May 17, 202131 minEp. 88

Inviting Yourself To Other People's Vacations, Handling Unwanted Art, Wearing White to Weddings, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about inviting yourself to other people's vacations, handling unwanted art, wearing white to weddings, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude for my husband's ex-wife to invite herself to our family vacation? What do we do about a frien...

May 10, 202122 minEp. 87

Vacuuming in Germany, Turning Friends Into Third Wheels, Giving Gift Receipts, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle vacuuming on Sundays in Germany, turning friends into third wheels without warning, including gift receipts with presents, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Sundays in Germany A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Buying a car QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do about alw...

May 03, 202131 minEp. 86

Adding Ice Cubes to Wine, Wiping Down Gym Equipment, Shouting in Supermarkets, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about adding ice cubes to wine, wiping down equipment at the gym, shouting at employees in supermarkets, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to ask people to buy me housewarming gifts even if there's no party? Is it rude to add ice cub...

Apr 26, 202125 minEp. 85

Being Late for Surprise Parties, Sending Provocative Selfies, Lighting Candles, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle being late for surprise parties, sending provocative selfies, lighting candles, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Blackening candle wicks A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Using Uber and Lyft QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What is the best way to handle being late for a surpr...

Apr 19, 202140 minEp. 84

Buying Engagement Rings, Eating Lunches on Zoom, Snapping at Waiters, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about spending three months' salary on engagement rings, eating lunches during Zoom meetings, snapping at waiters to get their attention, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do about a friend that doesn't want me to bring guacamole to...

Apr 12, 202122 minEp. 83

Asking About Botox, Reaching for the Right Glass, Stealing Packages, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle asking people if they've had Botox, reaching for the right glassware at dinner parties, stealing packages from mailboxes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Which water glass is yours A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Moving QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What to do about a fr...

Apr 05, 202136 minEp. 82

Strip Mining Tarte Tatins, Paying What You Think Is Fair, Eating Quail With Your Hands, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about strip mining Tarte Tatins, paying "whatever you think is fair," eating quail with your hands, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What is rude about my step-daughter eating just the apples out of my Tarte Tatin? How do I handle situations...

Mar 29, 202133 minEp. 81

Eating Kit Kat Bars, Wearing Perfumes, Forcing Cake Forks, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating Kit Kat bars, wearing perfumes and colognes, forcing guests to use cake forks, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Asparagus A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Wearing perfumes and colognes QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: I'm left handed...what should I do about a host who...

Mar 22, 202136 minEp. 80

Burdening Friends with Cake, Ousting Toxic Club Members, Tidying Up Messy Schools, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about burdening friends with chocolate cake, dealing with toxic club members, tidying up messy piano schools, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I tell my son's piano school they need to clean up? How do I avoid sending the Zillow link ...

Mar 15, 202122 minEp. 79

Enjoying Pho, Harassing Celebrities, Profiting Off Friends, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating Vietnamese soups, spotting celebrities in public, profiting off friends, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Phở A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Seeing celebrities in public QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What should I do about a friend who is profiting off of her frie...

Mar 08, 202130 minEp. 78

Trespassing Nomads, Getting Loud in Hot Tubs, Receiving Unwanted Gifts, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about sleeping in friends' houses without permission, enjoying hot tubs at night, thanking people for unwanted gifts, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do about a friend who stayed in my apartment without my permission? How to I han...

Mar 01, 202126 minEp. 77

Saving Water in Japan, Smoking on Gondolas, Using Treadmill Desks, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle saving water in Japanese bathrooms, behaving properly on the ski slopes, using treadmill desks while on Zoom, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Otohime (音姫) A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Skiing QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to be using a treadmill desk while on ...

Feb 22, 202139 minEp. 76

Screaming Out of Limousines, Loading Dishwashers Properly, Keeping Unwanted Photos, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about screaming out of limousine sunroofs, loading dishwashers the right way, keeping unwanted photos from friends, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to leave a note on a dishwasher about how to load it? What do I say to people who...

Feb 15, 202123 minEp. 75

Eating King Cakes, Hijacking Vacations, Finding Surprises in the Trash, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating king cakes, hijacking vacation plans, finding surprises left in the trash, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: King Cake A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Using other people's trashcans when cleaning up after your dog QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to be on spea...

Feb 08, 202135 minEp. 74

Eating Spaghetti, Avoiding Chatty Neighbors, Starving at Dinner Parties, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about eating spaghetti properly, avoiding chatty neighbors, attending dinner parties without enough food, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What's the proper way to eat spaghetti? What should I do about coworkers who said rude things during a...

Feb 01, 202124 minEp. 73

Showing Up Empty-Handed, Riding French Elevators, Having Nice Weekends, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle showing up at dinner parties empty-handed, riding elevators in France, being unapologetic about having nice weekends, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: What to say in a French elevator A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: What to bring to a dinner party QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDER...

Jan 25, 202134 minEp. 72

Wearing Sequins, Flirting Politely, Thanking Good Samaritans, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about wearing sequins during the day, commenting on appearances when flirting, thanking good Samaritans for their help, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to invite people to a party when you're not the host? Is it rude to wear sequ...

Jan 18, 202129 minEp. 71

Paying for Party Crashers, Sharing Pregnancy News, Drinking Cappuccinos in Italy, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle paying for people who crash your dinner parties, congratulating friends who are pregnant, drinking cappuccinos in Italy after 11am, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Drinking cappuccinos in Italy after 11am A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Reacting to news a friend is pregna...

Jan 11, 202138 minEp. 70

Stealing People's Spotlights, Tipping While Bartering, Leaving Negative Reviews, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about making major life announcements at other people's parties, tipping while bartering, leaving negative reviews, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to make a life announcement about yourself at someone else's party? In Sydney, ho...

Jan 04, 202123 minEp. 69

Eating Caviar, Imagining Etiquette of the Future, Hiding During Video Conferences, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating caviar, imaging what etiquette might look like in 300 years, turning your camera off during video conferences, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: How to eat caviar A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Etiquette in the future QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should you have y...

Dec 28, 202038 minEp. 68

Sharing Sonograms, Sending Company-wide Emails, Cleaning AirBNBs, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about declining to see people's sonograms, sending company-wide emails, cleaning AirBNBs before departure, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do you do if you don't want to see someone's ultrasound photos? How do you stop people from want...

Dec 21, 202023 minEp. 67

Flying on Private Planes, Forgetting To Take Gum Out, Blowing Leaves Blindly, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle traveling with VIPs on private planes, forgetting to take gum out at dinner parties, blowing leaves into neighbors' yards, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Flying on a private plane with a VIP person from the government A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: How to disagree QUEST...

Dec 14, 202037 minEp. 66
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