Holding Space vs. Solving Problems: The Marriage Skill Every Couple Needs
Episode description
In this episode of the Weaponized Marriage podcast, Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt dive deep into a concept that is often misunderstood but crucial for building intimacy and trust—holding space. Most couples think they know what it means to listen, but are they truly creating a safe, judgment-free environment where their partner can be fully seen and heard?
Dr. Ryan and Kendra explore how men and women process emotions differently—why men tend to problem-solve while women seek to be understood. They break down why reacting defensively can kill emotional intimacy and how learning to hold space can dramatically improve communication, connection, and even physical intimacy in a marriage.
Through raw, honest conversation and real-life examples, they discuss:
• What it actually means to hold space for your spouse (and what it doesn’t mean)
• The #1 mistake most men make when their wife shares something vulnerable
• How emotional constipation is sabotaging relationships and how to unblock it
• The surprising connection between fighting fair and holding space
• Practical ways to listen without fixing, judging, or getting defensive
If you’ve ever struggled with communication, felt like your partner “just doesn’t get it,” or want to create deeper emotional intimacy in your marriage, this episode is for you.
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“Men want to fix; women want to be understood. The secret is learning when to do which.”
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