Exploring Healthy Selfishness | Mindset Manifesto w/ Martin

When is it okay to prioritize yourselves ? Number one self-care and mental health . Guys , it's not just okay to be selfish when it comes to your self-care and mental health , it's a must , it's essential . Taking time for self-care whether it's through meditation , exercise , simply having some quiet alone time is crucial for maintaining mental and emotional well-being .

You can't pour from an empty cup , so prioritize yourself to be there for others . Many years ago , I got together with my wife when we were 17 and 18 years old . We had our first kid at 18 years old and understand that our kids grew up with us .

My wife and I grew up together and I had this mindset of I still have the mindset of as a man of my house , I'm supposed to provide and protect for my family . But that also meant in my head , that also meant that I was supposed to give of myself in all aspects to please and provide and protect my wife and my kids .

We got married at the age of 26 , and let me tell you something , guys I paid up .

I have the price for that , and it wasn't until I got older that I realized that in order for me to be a good husband , in order for me to be a good father , in order for me to be a good brother , a good son , a good friend , a good business owner , a good leader , I had to first be good myself .

So you have to be very selfish with finding time to take care of yourself . One thing that I have found that works for me and you can try it for yourself there's a great book out there by Hal Elrod the Miracle Morning . On your morning , you own your day .

I have a great morning routine that I use that includes meditation , prayer , exercising , journaling and writing my goals out and reading my goals every morning . That's just my morning routine , something of that nature . I would highly recommend picking up the book from Hal Elrod amazing book that helped me craft my morning ritual . Number two setting boundaries .

Guys , setting boundaries is a form of healthy selfishness . It's about defining what you will and won't tolerate in relationships and in life . Boundaries protect you emotionally and physically , ensuring you're not constantly giving at the expense of your own needs . Take care of yourself first . Number three pursuing personal goals and dream .

Your dreams and aspirations matter , guys . If you want to be a manager , if you want to buy your first home , if you want to buy your first investment , if you want to be married , if you want to have a child , your dreams and aspirations matter and they are important .

Pursuing your goals can require some time , effort and resources , which may seem selfish to some , but it's essential for your personal growth and fulfillment . Remember , you're not only benefiting yourself , but by becoming better , you're becoming a more empowered person for those around you as well . So keep that in mind . Number four taking time for reflection .

I do this almost daily in my journaling . For me , this has been game changing for me because it has allowed me to focus on my goals . Which is the one before that how am I going to be a good husband to my wife today ? How am I going to improve my health today ? How am I going to be a good boss to my employees ? How am I going to lead ?

What are my dreams ? What am I doing today to lead , to get me closer to my goals . What are my goals ? What are the things I want ? I want this other house . I want to do this other thing . I want to take this other vacation . What am I doing ?

Take time for self-reflection , to look at what you want out of life and how you can become the best version of yourself . Self-reflection is a valuable practice that often requires solitude and introspection . It's during these moments of self-discovery that you gain insight .

I can't tell you how many times , because of this , I have made better decisions , because I'm sitting and looking at the landscape , as you say , and seeing the lay of the land and seeing what direction is best for me and my family and the decisions I'm making .

Self-reflection helps you become a more authentic and fulfilled individual , because you're following what's important to you and what matters to you , not what's important to someone else or someone else's goal . You're not sacrificing you for others . Number five healing and recovering .

Whether you're recovering from an illness , a traumatic experience , or simply need time to heal emotionally , it's absolutely okay to be selfish and prioritizing your recovery . Your well-being should always come first during these periods . Hey , remember last time you were on a plane ? If you've never been on an airplane , when there's a safata lady , that's the stewardess .

I said it in Spanish . But when the safata talks to you , she says and she's not talking to you , but she's giving the whole , all of the passengers , instruction of what happens in case of an emergency . The first thing she says is , when the mask comes down , put your oxygen mask first before helping your neighbor . You must always take care of yourself first .

I know this sounds selfish , guys , you cannot be the best version of yourself in any relationship , in a job , in a business , in a marriage , in a friendship , in anything , if you're not taking care . Number one , primero , first and foremost . Number six , when you overextended yourself . Sometimes we say yes to too many commitments and we find ourselves overextended .

End these situations is perfectly acceptable to be selfish by scaling back and focusing on your own well-being and regaining Balance in your life . This was one I've learned the hard way . 45 years old , I'm an achiever . I have an achievers mindset .

I like to win , I like to do , and For many years I would say yes , yes , yes to this , yes to that , yes to this . And what happens with that ? It starts to tax on your time and the things that are really important to you .

To me , one of things are really important to me , and spending time with my family , with my wife , hanging out with her and Doing things with my kids vacations these are things that are important to me . And the more I say yes to other people's three quest , the less time I have for my things that are important to me my goals .

So know your boundaries and Be okay with saying no . What I found is that the more successful people are in my circle , the more they say no to things . And number seven , the final one , is an emergency situations , an emergency Situations your well-being be your top priority . It's not okay , but necessary , to prioritize yourself when facing crisis . It's a must .

Once you're safe and secure , you can better assist others . You know it's like that thing . I believe that every human beings personal responsibility this is just my belief , guys every human beings personal responsibility is to figure out this money thing . Think you have a responsibility . I have a responsibility .

Figure out how to become financially free where I'm not trading dollars for hours , right where I don't have necessarily a job , and not put pulling on those that have jobs . I believe , as one of my values is that we need to all figure out how to become financially free so that we have freedom with our time if , and only when , you're financially free .

The way I see it is only when I reach financial freedom is when I can help others financially . I can't go buy bread for my neighbor's house and give my neighbor money to buy bread when my kids are starving . Make sense , right ? I can't go and give out .

That might be great you have a great heart that used to be me , by the way yet I'm struggling because my credit cards do my . I got 24% interest rate on this credit card . I can't pay it , but yet here I am giving to this place or this charity or or this person , yet my house isn't on fire .

For this is maybe controversial and feel controversial to some of you , but the first place you have to take care of is yourself and your home First , before you go and give food and help others . Thank you , guys for joining me and Mindset manifesto and remember there are times when it's not only acceptable but Essential to be selfish .

My hopes is that this episode and what you heard here today Is exactly what you needed in your life . Appreciate you , god bless you . Thanks for listening , peace out .