What happens when a man realizes he's the guy women don't want to date and completely transforms himself? In this raw conversation, dating and embodiment coach Tyler shares his journey from being disconnected and sabotaging intimacy to helping high-value women date differently. EPISODE TIMELINE: 00:00 - Introduction: When men realize they're the problem 04:15 - Tyler's transformation story: From feminine to masculine energy 09:30 - Macro vs micro perspective in dating 14:20 - The three pillars: ...
Jul 22, 2025•46 min•Season 1Ep. 19
Are you calling everything a red flag in dating? Dating coach and therapist Michelle O'Connell joins host Madden to decode the difference between red flags, yellow flags, and green flags in modern dating. Learn why your nervous system might confuse healthy partners for boring ones, how past trauma affects your ability to recognize good partners, and the subtle patterns that show up months into dating - not on date three. This episode reveals why we're quick to label behaviors as red flags when t...
Jul 15, 2025•45 min•Season 1Ep. 18
Transform your dating life through the ancient art of Tantra. In this episode, sex and relationship therapist Julie shares how tantric principles can help you break toxic dating patterns and create deeper, more authentic connections. EPISODE TIMELINE: 04:22 - Welcome & Julie's Introduction 07:34 - Julie's Unique Journey: From Yoga Pioneer to Sex Therapist 13:07 - Working with Gopher Football & The Marsh Wellness Center 16:52 - The Energy Healing School That Changed Everything 19:42 - Wha...
Jul 08, 2025•1 hr 4 min•Season 1Ep. 17
In this raw and intimate conversation, real couple Allison and Anthony share their 7-year journey from a casual Tinder meetup in a Costco parking lot to building a conscious, choice-based relationship. They open up about the difference between falling in love and choosing love daily, how they've navigated living in 5 different states together, and what it really takes to grow individually while building a partnership rooted in friendship and mutual respect. This isn't your typical relationship a...
Jul 01, 2025•46 min•Season 1Ep. 16
Have you ever considered that dating could be a form of meditation? In this transformative episode, KC Baker (founder of WomanSpeak and creator of Velvet Flow) shares her groundbreaking approach to conscious dating that will change how you truly think about relationships. EPISODE TIMELINE: 00:00 - 02:30 - Introduction & Episode Setup 02:30 - 07:15 - Guest Introduction & Background 07:15 - 12:45 - KC's Dating Pattern Story 12:45 - 18:30 - Dating as Meditation Concept 18:30 - 23:00 - Pract...
Jun 24, 2025•51 min•Season 1Ep. 15
Dating coach Joe Stroud pulls back the curtain on the male experience in modern dating. From why men seem emotionally checked out to the real dynamics shaping attraction, this conversation explores what happens when both men and women drop the performance and connect from truth. If you've ever wondered why dating feels so disconnected, this episode reveals the patterns keeping us all stuck. EPISODE TIMELINE: 00:00-05:00 - Introduction: Why This Episode Might Ruffle Feathers 05:00-12:00 - Meet Jo...
Jun 17, 2025•58 min•Season 1Ep. 14
Divorce is the second most painful life experience after losing a loved one - yet men's emotional journey through this grief is rarely discussed. In this raw, honest conversation, divorce coach Addison breaks down the silent struggle that men face after relationship loss and why traditional masculinity makes healing so much harder. EPISODE TIMELINE: 00:00 Intro: Why everyone needs to hear this 02:30 Meet Addison & his divorce story 08:15 The patterns: grief, anger, shame 15:20 Why men don't ...
Jun 10, 2025•48 min•Season 1Ep. 13
Tired of dating the same type of guys over and over? Your mindset might be the problem. In this episode, we dive deep into how the law of attraction shapes your dating life and explore the 4 toxic beliefs that keep you stuck in negative dating patterns. EPISODE TIMELINE: 00:00 - Intro: Why We Keep Dating the Same Guy 01:45 - The Law of Attraction SparkNotes: Like Attracts Like 03:30 - The Infinity Loop: How to Manifest Without Obsessing 06:00 - The Helicopter Parent Analogy: Why Control Kills Ma...
Jun 03, 2025•24 min•Season 1Ep. 12
Why do you keep attracting the same type of partner? Why do you get triggered by things that shouldn't logically bother you? Why can you understand your patterns cognitively but still repeat them? In this deeply transformative conversation, trauma-informed coach Jakob reveals why your body holds the answers that your mind can't access. This isn't just another therapy approach - it's a complete paradigm shift in how we heal relationship patterns. EPISODE TIMELINE: 00:00 - Why we repeat the same r...
May 27, 2025•49 min•Season 1Ep. 11
This powerful episode with Dr. Linnea Swanson, MFT and brain spotting trainer, explores how trauma becomes encoded in our nervous system and unconsciously guides our relationship choices. Learn why that "spark" might actually be a warning sign, how generational trauma impacts dating patterns, and practical strategies to rewire your brain for healthier relationships. Essential listening for anyone wondering why they keep attracting the same type of partner despite wanting something different. EPI...
May 20, 2025•34 min•Season 1Ep. 10
Madden is joined by Kelly Chase who was on Season 1 of Love Is Blind. While her dating life played out in front of the world, what most people don’t realize is the massive transformation and evolution Kelly has gone through since the show aired. She’s built her own brand as a business and mindset coach, podcast host, and influencer— helping people find love, success, and money in a whole new way. In this conversation, Kelly gets real honest about her journey — from dating on reality TV to dealin...
May 13, 2025•50 min•Season 1Ep. 9
In this powerful solo episode, host Madden Zappa explores the complex emotions of being single, particularly in the aftermath of a breakup. She shares her personal journey of loving solitude while simultaneously experiencing post-breakup loneliness, highlighting the sometimes contradictory nature of singlehood. Madden challenges society's view that singlehood is merely a waiting period or a problem to be solved, especially as we age. Instead, she reframes it as a purposeful opportunity to create...
May 06, 2025•22 min•Season 1Ep. 8
This episode explores the powerful and often misunderstood art of receiving. Receiving isn't passive but an active, intentional energy that can transform not just your dating life but every area of your existence. EPISODE TIMELINE: 00:00 - Introduction and welcome 01:23 - Introducing Erin Nicole Porter and her expertise 03:48 - Defining the concept of receiving and self-abandonment 08:33 - How to start receiving from yourself 11:15 - Continuing self-to-self receiving even in relationships 12:05 ...
Apr 29, 2025•30 min•Season 1Ep. 7
This episode is an invitation to think outside of normative relationships and even potentially lead you to question what we've been taught about love, commitment, connection, and relationships Polyamory and kink are often misunderstood or even stigmatized, but here’s the truth: the more we understand the spectrum of human desire, the more permission we give ourselves to date — and love — more authentically. EPISODE TIMELINE 00:45 - Intro & expanding relationship perspectives 03:30 - Eric's b...
Apr 22, 2025•1 hr 4 min•Season 1Ep. 6
What truly is the difference between anxious masculine energy and grounded masculine energy? And how do they both appear in relationships while dating: Madden sits down with Jen Briggs to explore the crucial differences between anxious and grounded masculine energy in dating. One type feels magnetic, intense, and immediate, while the other feels steady, intentional, and secure. They discuss how to spot the difference between these energies, what your attraction to each reveals about your own pat...
Apr 15, 2025•47 min•Season 1Ep. 5
What happens when ambitious, driven, independent women meet modern dating culture? In this episode Madden sits down with Caprisha, a breakthrough advisor for purpose-driven women, to discuss the unique challenges high-achieving women face in dating and relationships. They explore what it really looks like to soften without shrinking, to receive without lowering your standards, and how powerful, independent women can rewrite the rules of love and partnership. EPISODE TIMELINE 00:00 - Introduction...
Apr 08, 2025•35 min•Season 1Ep. 4
If you’re tired of dating on repeat and wondering why you keep attracting the same type of partners, this episode is for you! Attachment styles play a major role in how we show up in relationships—how we connect, how we handle conflict, and even why we push people away (or cling too tightly). Today, I’m joined by Tori McCabe, LMFT , a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in attachment and relational trauma. Together, we’re unpacking how your attachment style shapes your dating lif...
Apr 01, 2025•41 min•Season 1Ep. 3
Ever been ghosted? Left in the dark with no explanation? Waiting for answers that never come? You’re not alone. In this episode of We’re Dating the Same Guy , we’re diving deep into the painful reality of not getting closure—and how to move forward anyway. 💔 Why we crave closure and whether it actually helps us heal 💡 The hard truth: Why some people will NEVER give you the answers you want 🛑 How waiting for closure keeps you stuck in the past ✨ The mindset shifts that help you create your own...
Apr 01, 2025•21 min
Welcome to the very first episode of We’re Dating the Same Guy —the podcast that dives deep into what’s really driving your love life. If you've ever wondered why you keep attracting the same type of men, facing the same relationship frustrations, and repeating the same cycles—this is the podcast for you. WHAT TO EXPECT IN EPISODE 1: 🩷My personal wake-up call that made me realize I was dating the same guy over and over again 🩷The two biggest patterns I kept falling into (and maybe you’ll be ab...
Mar 31, 2025•25 min•Season 1Ep. 1
Welcome to We’re Dating the Same Guy —the podcast that dives deep into what’s really driving your love life. If you've ever wondered why you keep dating the same guy... over... and over... and over again... then this is for you. We begin APRIL 1. Hit FOLLOW so you don’t miss our very first episodes. It’s time to date differently. Stay connected with our host, Madden Zappa
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