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We Met At Acme

Dear Media, Lindsey Metselaarart19.com

We Met At Acme is the OG dating podcast and a lifestyle tool for the next generation of adults. In each episode, you'll learn about attachment styles, rules and guidelines to follow when dating, red flags, the importance of therapy, and more. With host Lindsey Metselaar you’ll hear from dating experts, licensed professionals, celebrities, and influencers all sharing their dating experiences or dating insights. Most importantly, you'll improve your confidence, self-worth, and overall outlook towards dating - you'll laugh a little along the way and learn not to take yourself too seriously.

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Episodes

The Best Way To Slide Into A Guy’s DMs ft. Case Kenny

On today’s episode, I sit down with Case Kenny, mindfulness expert and host of New Mindset, Who Dis podcast. We discuss breaking our own rules, letting other people's opinions influence our relationship, how Case went from not ready for a relationship to ready, why men remember compliments, the best way to slide into a guy's DMs, Karpman's drama triangle, why we need to tell our partner what we want, how to not take rejection personally and more. This episode starts with a solo where I discuss h...

Oct 02, 20221 hr 13 minEp. 268

Skills You Need For Happy And Lasting Relationships ft. Dr. Annabelle Seife, Ph.D.

On today’s episode, I sit down with Dr. Annabelle Seife, Ph.D., Couples Therapist + Founder of ‘Before the Leap’. We discuss how much fighting is healthy vs. ideal, how to properly deal with your in-laws, skills you need to take into your marriage, avoiding spiraling once a fight starts, how to know what pace to go at, interfaith relationships, getting in depth about parenting styles, all the topics that need to be discussed before the leap, and more. This episode starts with a solo where I disc...

Sep 25, 20221 hr 16 minEp. 267

The Slippery Slope Of A Work Wife ft. Rod Thill

On today’s episode, I sit down with TikTok sensation Rod Thill (aka JustMeRod). We discuss toxic work culture, why we have sex dreams about coworkers, his religious upbringing, the stigma of therapy, crazy messages he's gotten, a prank his boss played on him, don't worry darling drama, his worst date from a dating app, and more. This episode starts with a solo where I discuss how to get over being jealous of SO's ex, if there is an alpha in every relationship, dating mistakes I regret vs. dating...

Sep 18, 20221 hr 5 minEp. 266

How To Be Someone People Want To Take Seriously ft. Lion

On today’s episode, I sat down with dating coach Lion. We discuss how to be someone that people want to take seriously, showing up differently in relationships, how we all ultimately want the same things, the time it takes to figure out if you like someone, the talking phase, the dating phase, the relationship phase, how to give what you want to receive, the 3 pillars of compatibility, how to set boundaries with your actions, and why the more casual the date, the better. This episode starts with...

Sep 11, 20221 hr 7 minEp. 264

What We Wish We Knew In Our 20’s ft. LadyGang

On today’s episode, I sit down with the beautiful women from LadyGang. We discuss their relationship status, how they met their partners, their best relationship tips, their advice for girls in their late 20s, which one one of them is Kim, Kourtney, and Khloe, how they feel about dating rules, if they ever dealt with personal or professional jealousy, and more. This episode starts with a solo where I discuss We Met At Camp! Purchase their book Lady Secrets: https://theladygang.com/books Sponsors...

Sep 04, 202248 minEp. 263

In Relationships, You Need To Be The Crazy One ft. Nicole Pellegrino

On today’s episode, I sit down with Nicole Pellegrino, the host of Betches Brides podcast. We discuss fighting with our husbands, why you want to be the “crazy one,” how she got involved with Betches, the absurd stories she has heard on Betches Brides, pre-marital counseling, her advice for content creators, a fight I had on my wedding day, and more. This episode starts with a solo where I discuss being in a date to marry mindset, how no one is ever “ready” for a next step, what comes out of you...

Aug 28, 20221 hr 2 minEp. 262

Why I Don’t Have A Prenup ft. Divorce Lawyers Vikki and Brian

On today’s episode, I sit down with Vikki Zeigler and Bryan Krauss, divroce lawyers and hosts of Naked Encore Podcast. We discuss the pros and cons to having a prenup, why I don't have a prenup, all the things you need to consider before getting married, why you need to keep your own bank account, the most common professions that get divorce, and our thoughts on Brooklyn Beckham and Nicola Peltz’s prenup. This episode starts with a solo where I discuss why you don’t need to love yourself before ...

Aug 21, 20221 hr 11 minEp. 261

Stop Telling People What They Want To Hear ft. Whitney Goodman

On today’s episode, I sit down with Whitney Goodman, licensed marriage & family therapist, and author of Toxic Positivity. We discuss toxic positivity and why we're all guilty of it, why we need to stop thinking about what "could have been,” best ways to move on, differentiating loneliness and regret, how to be happy for an ex when you've moved on, dealing with a low sex drive in a relationship, how to handle with a partner with depression, switching up the day to day conversation with your ...

Aug 14, 20221 hr 2 minEp. 259

On Thursday’s We Have Sex ft. Jennifer Fisher

On today’s episode, I sit down with Jennifer Fisher. Jennifer is a jewelry designer, a clean eater, a mom, a wife, and a major boss. We discuss dating Matt LeBlanc, how she went from TV wardrobe stylist to jewelry designer extraordinaire, keeping it interesting in the bedroom when you’re married, surviving a tumor (that she still has!), raising kids in NYC, eating clean but never restricting, grieving, and so much more! The episode starts with a solo where I discuss reasons it never worked out w...

Aug 07, 20221 hr 15 minEp. 258

Manifesting Everything We Want ft. Haley Hoffman Smith

On today’s episode, I sit down with manifesting coach Haley Hoffman Smith. We discuss manifesting and why she swears by it, what she has manifested for her own life, how to change your vibrations to attract better people into your life, how to know if better things are coming for you, attracting (and keeping) great people, and more! This episode starts with a solo where I discuss running into an ex, live shows, getting attacked by a past guest in my DM’s, engagement pressure, the first time I we...

Jul 31, 20221 hr 3 minEp. 257

Why We’re So Afraid Of Sober Dating ft. Amanda White

On today’s episode, I sit down with Amanda White, a licensed therapist and the author of Not Drinking Tonight. We discuss - why she got sober, social anxiety when drinking, what to say on a date if you're not drinking, our relationships with alcohol, alternative date ideas without alcohol, how to be sober at your wedding, times we were f***ed up and regret it, and more. This episode starts with a solo where I discuss feeling lost in your late 20s, boosting confidence when you have acne, making n...

Jul 24, 202259 minEp. 256

I Found The Best Dating Advice On TikTok So You Don’t Have To

On today’s bonus episode, I have scoured the internet for all of the best TikTok dating advice. I discuss what to say when someone asks what you’re looking for, the one word that means a guy isn’t interested, why you should NEVER end a conversation, how to have attractive energy when dating, why you need to date someone who disagrees with you, and more! Sponsors: Saje.com code ACME20 for 20% off Talkspace.com code ACME for $100 off your first month Wealthfront.com/acme to get a bonus $50 when yo...

Jul 21, 202246 minEp. 255

How To Approach Someone IRL ft. Ruben

On today’s episode, I sit down with Ruben, founder of the YouTube channel Social Animal. Ruben and I discuss people’s biggest fears when approaching others in person, what to say when you go up to someone, the reason we don’t meet IRL anymore, why we connect with some people and don’t connect with others, and so much more! This episode starts with a solo where I discuss friendship insecurity, the problem with the chill girl, how to get a player to simp for you, and more. Sponsors: Sakara.com/acm...

Jul 17, 202258 minEp. 254

Insight Into The Male Mind When Newly Dating ft. Dan Perlman

On today’s episode, I sit down with comedian, writer, and star of Flatbush Misdemeanors. Dan and I discuss how first dates are not a good representation of someone, why it’s important to see someone in their element, the level of stalking a guy does when newly seeing a girl, what makes a guy have an emotional block , telling someone they smell, why waiting to respond to someone is pointless, and so much more! This episode starts with a solo where I discuss my grandpa’s near death experience, Ste...

Jul 10, 202259 minEp. 253

Stop Dating Like You’re Single ft. Corporate Natalie

On today’s episode, I sit down with the one and only Corporate Natalie. Natalie and I discuss getting dumped because of your passion, dating in SF and how it’s different, why you should act like you have a boyfriend when dating, making new friends later on, how her boss feels about her tiktok, why the gym community came for her, and so much more! This episode starts with a solo where I discuss my thoughts on Roe vs. Wade, the pressure to have summer plans, more birth control woes, and how to get...

Jul 03, 202253 minEp. 252

How Women Are Ruining Their Relationships ft. Andre Paradis

On today’s episode, I sit down with relationship coach Andre Paradis. Andre and I discuss feminine energy, how to lean into your feminine side, why equality is not sexy, what men need from women in order for the relationship to work, how to communicate your needs without nagging, and so much more! This episode starts with a solo where I discuss adjusting from the sparks of early dating, advice for couples newly living together, how to become friends with SO’s friends, handling conflict on a grou...

Jun 26, 202257 minEp. 251

Stable Relationships Are Not Sexy ft. Therapy Jeff

On today’s episode, I sit down with therapist Jeff Guenther aka Therapy Jeff. Jeff and I discuss why stability isn’t sexy, his take on the 90/10 rule, how to know if you should work through something in therapy vs. break up, how to suggest therapy to your friend or partner, tips to break out of a bickering cycle, why we stalk our exes on social media, knowing your partner is the one, and so much more! This episode starts with a solo where I discuss my reaction to Sunday’s episode, when a couple ...

Jun 23, 20221 hr 9 minEp. 250

According To This Theory, All Men Cheat ft. Ask Nelly

On today’s episode, I sit down with dating coach Ask Nelly (@ask.nelly on Tiktok and Instagram). Nelly and I discuss her theory that all men cheat. This episode starts with a solo where I discuss my weekend in Boston, going off birth control, my in the wood phase, my hair journey, dating with herpes, getting into a random person’s car, and more. Sponsors: Athleticgreens.com/acme for a free 1 year supply of vitamin D and 5 free travel packs Hungryroot.com/acme for 30% off and a free gift Issuu.co...

Jun 19, 20221 hr 14 minEp. 249

What Makes Dating In Your 30’s Different ft. Lauren Abney and Stephanie Biegel

On today’s episode, I sat down with Lauren Abney and Stephanie Biegel, hosts of Well Behaved Podcast. Lauren, Stephanie, and I discuss the differences between dating in your 20s and 30s, why it’s important to date someone who doesn’t “check off your boxes,” questioning if motherhood is right for you, how the right person may affect if you want kids or not, why Lauren’s marriage ended, why a colonic is never going to work in my favor, talking about going to the bathroom with a partner, and more. ...

Jun 12, 20221 hr 4 minEp. 248

So I Almost Got Divorced 2 Weeks Ago

We are getting real on this episode. Almost too real. I’m talking about a fight Steven and I got in, why I can’t STAND the term mini moon, a not so great experience I had at the gyno, the four horsemen and why they lead to the end of a relationship, and more! Sponsors: Issuu.com/podcast promo code ACME for a free account or 50% off your premium account Sakara.com/acme code ACME for 20% off your first order Produced by Dear Media. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Pri...

Jun 05, 202247 minEp. 247

Should We Date One Person At A Time? ft. Kevin Nahai

Today’s episode features speaker and coach Kevin Nahai. Kevin and I discuss dating intentionally, why he thinks you shouldn’t date more than one person at a time, his version of a 3 date rule, how to be deserving of a partner, and more. The episode starts with a solo where I discuss how to successfully have a FWB and find one, what women settle for and what men settle for, and things you should talk about on dates 1-5 and by the time you’re official. Sponsors: Dipseastories.com/acme for an exten...

May 29, 20221 hrEp. 246

Investing In The Right Person ft. Jason Tartick

Today’s episode features Jason Tartick, host of Trading Secrets podcast. Jason and I discuss why he went on the Bachelorette, how he met his fiance Kaitlyn, overcoming his panic attacks and mental health struggles, why he proposed on a podcast episode, how to keep a relationship fun, the secrets to being a good investor, why you should branch out in your career, and more. The episode starts with a solo where I discuss self love, icks I’ve had in the past when dating, prepping your partner for a ...

May 22, 20221 hrEp. 245

There Is No One Size Fits All In Dating ft. Hunter and Michaela McGrady

Today’s episode features Hunter and Micaela McGrady, sisters and hosts of the Model Citizen podcast. Hunter, Michaela, and I discuss how they met their partners, how to feel confident dating while plus sized, learning self acceptance, how to know your "resting weight", why we need to talk to ourselves like a big sister would, not hiding how you look on dating apps, and more. The episode starts with a solo where I discuss if it’s a bad sign if you and SO have nothing to talk about, how long after...

May 19, 202253 minEp. 244

Trigger Warning: Signs Your Relationship May Be Abusive ft. Lauren Tetenbaum, LMSW

Today’s episode features Lauren A. Tetenbaum, LMSW, JD, PMH-C. Lauren is an amazing therapist and advocate for women who also happens to have found herself in an abusive relationship when she was in college. Lauren and I discuss the signs to look out for, different types of abuse in a relationship, the Johnny Depp/Amber Heard trial, what constitutes abuse vs. is just not a match, if certain people bring up different sides of us, and more. The episode starts with a solo where I discuss self aware...

May 15, 202258 minEp. 243

How To Overcome Anxious Attachment ft. Chris Rackliffe

Today’s episode features Chris Rackliffe, an anxious attachment coach. Chris and I discuss how people develop an anxious attachment style, ways to transform it into secure attachment, Taylor Swift’s attachment style throughout the years, if avoidant = narcissist, how to be confident in a relationship even if you are anxious, and more. The episode starts with a solo where I discuss Anatomy of a Scandal and how to make conversations light and fun. Sponsors: Dagnedover.com code ACME for 10% off Rit...

May 08, 20221 hr 6 minEp. 242

Why I Don’t Believe In Ending Friendships

Today’s solo episode is all about FRIENDSHIP. Insecurity in friendships, not being close with one person in your group, strengthening friendships, feeling like you’re losing friends as you get older, how often to hang with your friends VS. your partner, friend jealousy, how much effort a friendship should take, and what I’ve learned in my friendships overall. Sponsors: Functionofbeauty.com/ACME for 25% off your first order Build your registry at VisibleSinglesRegistry.com Talkspace.com code ACME...

May 01, 202254 minEp. 241

Is There Such Thing As Spending Too Much Time With Your Partner? ft. Olivia and Kyle from The Clear Cut

In today’s episode, I sit down Olivia and Kyle, founders of The Clear Cut. We discuss what it’s like living together and working together, who made the first move, how they got into the jewelry business, ways to make an engagement ring unique, what ring they both don’t like, where they stand on having kids, what happens with jewelry during a divorce or broken off engagement, and so much more. This episode starts with a solo where I discuss my date evolution with Steven - types of dates, sleepove...

Apr 24, 20221 hr 16 minEp. 240

Why Conflict Is Crucial For Any Relationship ft. Jayson Gaddis

In today’s bonus episode, I sit down with Jayson Gaddis, dating expert and author of Getting to Zero: How to Work Through Conflict in Your High-Stakes Relation- ships. We discuss how conflict saves your relationship, distinguishing between love bombing and something real, why men always come back, how to know when couples counseling is necessary for your relationship, dealing with a partner who shuts down during fights, dating when emotionally unavailable, and so much more. This episode starts w...

Apr 21, 202254 minEp. 239

The Rules: Wedding Edition

In today’s full solo episode, I break down any and all wedding related etiquette. We will discuss how much to spend on your friend’s wedding, why the bride needs to start paying for her portion of the bachelorette, what you should pay for as a +1, why you should NEVER bring a friend, what not to wear as a wedding guest, how to meet someone when you’re single at a wedding, and so much more! Sponsors: Build your registry at VisibleSinglesRegistry.com Thirdlove.com/acme for 20% off Article.com/acme...

Apr 17, 202249 minEp. 238

Why It Was Time To Let Go ft. Katie Maloney

In today’s episode, I sit down with Katie Maloney, Vanderpump Rules star and host of You’re Gonna Love Me podcast. Katie and I discuss what led to her divorce, when she knew it was over, if there were red flags she ignored, the final straw, why her and Tom are still living together, if they can stay friends, what she is looking for in a partner now, and more! This episode starts with a solo where I discuss my live show, how far into my relationship I stopped seeing others, how to ask someone abo...

Apr 10, 20221 hr 1 minEp. 237
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