We've all heard the term 'opposites attract' when talking about relationships. Does the same hold true when finding connections in the lifestyle? Do we search for people just like our partners or do we find ourselves attracted to those who are the opposite? Listen in as we discuss our preferences and what we're still learning about ourselves and each other as we continue to navigate this lifestyle. Mentioned: Casual Toys USA Transfers Everlywell STI Testing Double Date Nation Kasidie Desire Reso...
Mar 23, 2020•1 hr 29 min•Ep. 73
We are all guilty of creating false narratives and making up those stories in our heads as we consider approaching another couple in the lifestyle. Sometimes we don't even give the other couple a chance because we are certain we know the ending of the story! We convince ourselves that they are out of our league, or they won't find us attractive, or they will probably just reject us. We talk with our friends Andi and Dave from the lifestyle dating site Double Date Nation about how we can all reco...
Feb 17, 2020•1 hr 37 min•Ep. 72
In this episode we discuss the issue of 'Kissing and Telling' in the lifestyle. How do you feel about couples sharing personal details about a private play experience? Do you share details with others to include the names of your play partners? Is there ever a good reason to Kiss and Tell? Listen in as we discuss our opinions in the matter!
Jan 15, 2020•1 hr 29 min•Ep. 71
Listen in on our conversation with a resort full of imperfect but beautiful ladies! The ladies of Desire discuss what they've had to realize and overcome in order to enjoy and grow into the lifestyle. Along the way the are discovering real transformation both in themselves and in relationships with their partners.
Dec 16, 2019•1 hr 35 min•Ep. 70
We all agree consent is a bedrock principle in the lifestyle but most conversations around this topic focus on verbal consent. We'll talk about using our words but will also consider two additional dimensions: non-verbal consent (body language) and giving yourself consent.
Nov 12, 2019•1 hr 32 min•Ep. 69
Topic - Some people are either put off by the term "swinger" or have misperceptions of what it really means today. We've decided to use the term 'Social Sexy' to describe how we view and engage with others in the world of ethical non-monogamy. Mentioned: Our friend "Ess" is a boudoir photographer. Check him out on Instagram and read his recent blog post on our website!...
Oct 21, 2019•1 hr 36 min•Ep. 68
We discuss identifying red flags in other couples and how to respond when you see them. We also talk about red flags that pop up within your own relationship and how, if left unresolved can lead to you becoming a red flag to other couples. Listen in as we work through one of our own red flags!
Sep 23, 2019•1 hr 27 min•Ep. 67
When first considering reasons for entering the lifestyle making lifelong friends is not normally the goal. But after getting used to connecting with people and having some sexy playtimes we begin to realize how 'human' our lifestyle friends are and how these friendships are sometimes deeper, more meaningful and more real than any we've had before. We talk about our pathway to discovering our tribe in the lifestyle and just how special some of these friendships have become!
Aug 19, 2019•1 hr 33 min•Ep. 66
Discussion topic: We often focus on rules and guidelines "inside the bedroom" but in this episode we discuss what we consider to be the golden rules of the lifestyle outside of the bedroom. The importance of Confidentiality, Respect and Honesty with ourselves and others should seem evident but in a sex-charged environment they can be easily overlooked and forgotten.
Jul 22, 2019•1 hr 37 min•Ep. 65
Join our conversation with Bomber and The Belle from the Black & Kinky Podcast as we discuss the issue of race in the lifestyle today. As a black couple they share their perspective, experience, opinions and challenges around meeting and connecting with those of a different race.
Jun 17, 2019•1 hr 34 min•Ep. 64
In this episode we discuss what "chemistry" in the lifestyle means to us and how it's different from attraction. Is chemistry between others instantaneous? Can chemistry with others fade over time? How is chemistry with lifestyle friends different from the chemistry between me and my spouse or partner? Listen in for our answers to these questions and hear a couple of sexy snapshots from us and some listeners! Join our We Gotta Thing members only community Visit our website and learn more about o...
May 20, 2019•1 hr 23 min•Ep. 63
In this episode we talk with the creators of the brand new lifestyle website Double Date Nation , Dave and Andi. The four of us discuss our ideas and share our opinions on how best to create and optimize your lifestyle website profile to be most effective. We also interview them about their new site to find out how it's different from others and why they believe another lifestyle dating site is necessary. To try Double Date Nation free for three months sign up here and use promo code: WGTPC Watc...
Apr 22, 2019•1 hr 46 min•Ep. 62
George has been hosting elaborate and sexy lifestyle events all over the world for 15 years. Since we've attended several and get many questions about these 'mysterious' lifestyle gatherings we thought it best for you to hear directly from George! From Burning Man to Cuba to London, Mexico City, Manhattan Napa and even Washington, DC you're sure to find an event to pique your interest. Care to join us? Explore all of George's upcoming events here !...
Mar 28, 2019•1 hr 17 min•Ep. 61
Discussion Topic: In Part 2 of our judgment series we are joined by our "much younger friends" to talk about how age factors in to meeting, connecting and even playing with couples who are much older or younger. We also break down age related stereotypes in the lifestyle. Is age truly just a number? The New Monogamy - Redefining Your Relationship after Infidelity by Tammy Nelson Join our members only community!...
Mar 11, 2019•1 hr 36 min•Ep. 60
Discussion Topic: We all have experienced being judged. However, we don't often reflect on how we judge others or why so many people in the lifestyle still tend to judge. We discuss how we are wired and what influences in our lives may predispose us to our own personal bias when assessing and judging others. Try Double Date Nation free for three months! Use promo code WGTPC and join us as we help build a brand new lifestyle dating site. Listen to our friends Jay and Kay from That Couple Next Doo...
Feb 18, 2019•1 hr 13 min•Ep. 59
Discussion Topic: The swinging lifestyle is a place we go to grow our relationship. But to experience any kind of personal or relationship growth we must step out of and beyond our comfort zones. Listen as we discuss the topic ourselves and then hear similar thoughts from others in a session we recorded with Swinging Downunder on our latest trip to Desire Pearl Resort in Cancun, Mexico. Less than 10 rooms remain! Travel with us to Desire Pearl the week of November 16-23, 2019! Book your trip her...
Jan 15, 2019•1 hr 37 min•Ep. 58
Discussion Topic: Does being in the lifestyle mean a race to full-swap? Will we find ourselves always wanting more? Why does trying the lifestyle seem like a risk to our relationship? Will we become addicted and always want more? We discuss the importance of agreeing on "why" you are in the lifestyle and how critical it is to stay on the same page throughout your journey. Travel with us to Desire Pearl the week of November 16-23, 2019! Book your trip here. Join our Members Only community here!...
Dec 12, 2018•1 hr 21 min•Ep. 57
Discussion Topic: Using Stephen Covey's Seven Habits of Highly Effective People , we align how those same habits can make you successful as a couple in the swinging lifestyle. Travel with us to Desire Pearl the week of November 16-23, 2019! Book your trip here. Join our Members Only community here!...
Nov 05, 2018•1 hr 14 min•Ep. 56
Discussion topic: In this episode we catch you all up to date on what we've been going through since we were "outed" as lifestyle podcasters 18 months ago. Through all the turmoil we lost our "happy place" and share how we've grown and rediscovered each other. Each person and couple has the freedom to define and then find their happy place in the lifestyle. Our We Gotta Thing Desire Pearl trip next year we be the week of November 16-23, 2019. Click here to join us! Join our WGT Members Only Comm...
Oct 09, 2018•1 hr 29 min•Ep. 55
Discussion topic: Most agree we'd like to avoid any drama in a lifestyle experience. But is this a realistic expectation? Is drama such a bad thing? Do we know what drama really is and is not? How should we handled drama if we encounter it in ourselves or another couple? Catherine (from episode 41), a licensed professional counselor joins us again and provides answers, insights and tools to help answer these and other questions around drama in the lifestyle! You can reach Catherine via email at:...
Sep 17, 2018•1 hr 45 min•Ep. 54
Discussion topic: In this episode we discuss the tension between wanting to be discreet yet at the same time wanting to know as much as possible about others. Too much discretion and nobody knows you but being vulnerable is necessary to connect socially to make true friends (with benefits) in the lifestyle. Join us at our first WGT Regional Meet & Greet on Saturday, October 20 at 8pm in Providence, Rhode Island! Register at Choice Social Club and be sure to put "WGT2018" in the comments sect...
Aug 20, 2018•1 hr 21 min•Ep. 53
Discussion Topic: We share sexy stories from our trip to Desire Pearl and discuss the benefits and drawbacks of sexual play with newbies and veteran couples in the swinging lifestyle. Spoiler alert: we enjoy both! Mentioned this episode: Join our We Gotta Thing private members only group Listen to our podcast with the Spiritual Swingers Desire Pearl Resort in Cancun, Mexico...
Jul 15, 2018•1 hr 29 min•Ep. 52
Discussion Topic- Whether it's your very first play experience or you've been swinging for years awkward encounters will always be a part of your lifestyle journey. We share some awkward lifestyle moments, discuss why they occur, what (if anything) can be done to avoid them and how to work through them as a couple. Visit our website: https://wegottathing.com/ Join our private community: We Gotta Thing Members Only Join Kasidie Book your trip to Desire!...
Jun 19, 2018•1 hr 24 min•Ep. 51
Discussion Topic: In this episode we celebrate the milestone of reaching 50 episodes by reflecting on our lifestyle journey thus far. We are learning a lot and having a loads of fun but it's the people we meet and the growth in our relationship that are most valuable. Care to join us? Our new We Gotta Thing Members Only Subscription Our Navigating Your Lifestyle Journey online course Our new We Gotta Thing website Email: [email protected] Email: [email protected] Follow us on Twit...
May 21, 2018•1 hr 30 min•Ep. 50
Discussion Topic: Mrs Jones is joined live by "C" from the Swinging Downunder podcast to discuss what the two ladies believe men need to know and understand to be successful in the swinging lifestyle. Mentioned this Episode: The Swinging Downunder podcast Our brand new We Gotta Thing website Our new "Members Only" subscription Our online Lifestyle Course...
Apr 26, 2018•1 hr 17 min•Ep. 49
Discussion Topic In this episode we discuss the difference between being courageous and being confident as you enter and navigate the swinging lifestyle. Many people say "just be confident" and you'll be fine. But is that enough to be helpful? We offer tips to help you understand the difference and how being courageous leads to being a more confident person and couple in the swinging lifestyle. Confidence is sexy!
Apr 12, 2018•1 hr 30 min•Ep. 48
Discussion Topic- In this episode we discuss how we see the lifestyle bumping up against real life. Personally we are becoming more "out" as swingers, more and more mainstream media is reporting on swinging and the lifestyle community seems to be growing rapidly. What does this all mean? Listen in to find out! Mentioned in this episode: Our online lifestyle course- Navigating Your Lifestyle Journey The Joneses Interview- Leading Questions w/Calvin Moore Podcast Swinger Diaries Interview- The Tog...
Mar 12, 2018•1 hr 32 min•Ep. 47
Discussion Topic - Connecting with your play partner while trying to maintain a connection with your own partner is a balancing act many find difficult to achieve. This month we discuss the challenge of and some helpful tips for staying connected as a couple during playtime with others. Online Lifestyle Course Relaunch - we are excited to announce the following major changes and additions to our course products: Base price reduction on our Community and Premier level courses A new a la carte men...
Feb 12, 2018•1 hr 18 min•Ep. 46
Discussion Topic- Navigating this lifestyle can be awkward at times, especially when trying to transition from conversation to playtime. We discuss our experience in this area and share some tips to help couples take the leap to enjoying some sexy fun with others! Our New Online Lifestyle Course is Live! Our new online lifestyle course called Navigating Your Lifestyle Journey is now available! Purchase in the month of January 2018 to have a chance to win two free passes to Naughty in N'awlins 20...
Jan 09, 2018•1 hr 30 min•Ep. 45
Our New Online Lifestyle Course is Live! Our new online lifestyle course called Navigating Your Lifestyle Journey is now available! We've created 6 modules and over 40 lessons to help you move into the through the lifestyle while having fun, growing your relationship and avoiding the pitfalls and mistakes. For more information and to purchase visit our new course website or send us an email at [email protected]. Discussion Topic We contrast the sexy, fun, respectful, open and honest (for ...
Dec 10, 2017•1 hr 28 min•Ep. 44
